I think my boyfriend is cheating on me!

A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I am concerned my boyfriend is cheating on me. I have had suspicions before as in our first year of University I heard him talking, drunkenly, to one of his other flat mates about how he would love to sleep with this other girl he lived with and also acts flirty around other girls when he is drunk, even when I am there. Recently he has been acting strange, whenever he goes to work on a weekend he always stays on after finishing and gets drunk with his boss (or so he tells me) and comes home early hours of the morning absolutely wasted and starts an argument with me. One of these nights, when he was out the room some girl kept trying to phone him. I didn't answer it, but it obviously looked suspicious so I checked his call log- and he had been receiving and making calls to her for the past few weeks and also they had been sending flirty texts quite often such as him asking her to go out for drinks, them both teasing each other about the other having to leave work drinks early because they were too drunk (which obviously counteracts what he told me about staying to get drunk with his boss), and a rather odd conversation where my boyfriend told the girl that he 'wouldn't tell anyone because he's not a gossip, and he is always there when she wants him'. I know that there are many different possibilities as to what this could mean, but lately he has been going off me. He never wants to have sex with me, doesn't really want to spend time with me and just makes me feel rubbish about myself in general through comments about my weight, or what I'm wearing. I am concerned as I have been around as much as what I usually am because of work commitments and such. I need advice as to whether he is cheating, or whether I am just being paranoid?

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