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writes:I met this girl a few months ago love at first site on both sides. She is still married and has a kid with this Guy.He lives in another state so I'm not worries but they saw each other a few weeks ago at their daughter's birthday party and she been acting different every since. I've been told by mom and my gf that she is just stressed and depressed over not have a job yet and there divorce. She got better a few days ago. Things where starting to be good again then they had a video chat last night and now she is acting funny again. I don't know what to think or do. Any ideas on this situation.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (30 November 2012):
 Yes. My "ides" is for you to go to the sidelines and wait until "something" happens in her life, such that she is available to you....
Short of that, stay away from her....
Good luck...
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 November 2012):
 you need to let her sort out her marriage before you court her.
How long have they been separated. was it her choice or his?
was it due to things he can correct (drinking or drugging) and if so maybe she will give him a second chance.
IF there is still that much contact with him, she's not done emotionally even if she's truly divorcing him...
they have a child they will always have contact and if she's uncertain of her actions or his at this point it's not a healthy idea for you to be in the middle.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (30 November 2012):
After I read "still married with a kid" I stopped reading.
You cannot have concurrent mutually exclusive major life events. Cannot happen. She needs to get divorced before you even think of starting or continuing a relationship with her.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (30 November 2012):
 Hon, from what you have written, it does sound like she is having second thoughts.
Maybe her seeing her stbx has brought back memories of the good times they had together and now she is wondering if she is doing the right thing.
Perhaps you need to give her time and space to make up her mind that a divorce is what she really wants.
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