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writes:I was with my boyfriend and we were talking,in the course of that i talked about my girlfriend and asked him if we look alike,he said yes that i and my girlfriend look alike but its just that she is a bit more beautiful than i am....is it okay that he said this?,does he really love me? because he do tell me am beautiful Reply to this Question
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (22 May 2013):
It's okay, it's just insensitive. If that's okay with you, so be it. Really, he was just being honest and it made you feel insecure. It's not the end of the world and has nothing to do with love.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (22 May 2013):
 No... it was NOT OK for him to say this to you.
HOWEVER, if it is an isolated incident... and not at all in keeping with how you and he usually get on.... I suggest you give him a "Pass" for his momentary stupidity..
With any luck... in the future, you and he will laugh about this incident... and you will brag to people that you feel like his "Avis" girlfriend... and that you have to try harder bacause you're "Number 2"....
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2013): No. In no planet or 4th dimension is the appropriate.
And, the bigger question is: Why would he say that? It a way to make you feel less than and put you down. I would keep your eyes and ears open from now on.
There a lot of things I think about my b-friend but would never say it. Why? Because I would not want to hurt him. Because I want my partner to feel good about himself. Him saying this to you was not only insensitive, but also hostile.
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reader, Got Issues  +, writes (22 May 2013):
 It's OK to think it, as I'm sure you also see guys that you think are more handsome than your boyfriend, but saying it is very tactless and hurtful. There are some cases where total honesty is not the best policy. By the sounds of it, what he said was unnecessary.
He may just lack tact and not realise that what he said was mean, so if it happens again, tell him that he hurt your feelings.
If he tells you normally that you are beautiful, that is a good thing. Don't ask him to compare you with other women. It might come across as you fishing for compliments.
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