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writes:I have been split up with my ex for 3 weeks now. We were living together and he said he wanted a break. We have argued constantly over the 2 years it seems he wants me of a weekday then of a weekend he just wants his mates. I can admit I have been to soft with my ex boyfriend so no wonder he does what he wants because he knows he can get away with it. When my boyfriend said he wanted a break i booked a holiday a few days later with my friend. We are going to stay with one of my friends which is a boy. I told my ex boyfriend i was staying with a girl friend as i knew how he would react. My boyfriend then found out i was lying. I know i have done wrong by lying and i have also apologized to him. I booked this holiday because i felt like i needed to get away. It feels like i have literally had enough. My ex boyfriend said if i go he will never get back with me! We havent spoke for a week now as I think he is waiting to see if i go or not. I need to think do i not go and carry on with my unhappy life because he will never change because he knows i will always be there or do i go and show him i am not putting up with him no more and take the chance he wont get back with me and try and move on. Help me!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (23 May 2013):
 Cripes!!! You break up with the guy... then, STILL LET HIM CONTROL YOU AND MAKE YOUR LIFE MISERABLE!!! How difficult is it to see that YOU have a serious decision to make. That is: Do YOU live your life, as YOU wish?????
OR, do you live the life that this "ex-" tells you to live, as HE decides..... "Sounds" like a no-brainer, to me.... Have fun on your holiday.... and I hope you find a sensible "B/F" either then, or when you return.....
Good luck....
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (23 May 2013):
 "Do I not go and carry on with my unhappy life?" - go on the holiday! While on holiday, take a little time to think about this two year relationship and whether it's what you really want. Think of the pros and cons of getting back with this guy. Take some control back. Good luck x
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (23 May 2013):
 Hi, sounds like you want him back hence you are asking the question. If he is your ex, its your business what you do! He dumps you and then dictates what you do. You should have moved out and moved on. What makes you think if you dont go on this trip things will change? I suggest you go on the trip if you have the courage to say this relationship is over!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (23 May 2013):
 Excuse me, but haven't you answered your question yourself ?
IF he wants you back,which atm is not even certain, all the prize you win is a selfish guy that does what he wants -( because you've always let him ),with whom you have been arguing for the last 2 years ,and who made you unhappy and will keep doing so because he never changes.
If you go, a)you get some leverage in your " negotiations " and some respect from him because you show him that he is done walking all over you or else b ) he gets mad and breaks up for good-which, from the way you describe him, would actually be a blessing in disguise and
an excelent motivation to find yourself another relationship in which you are happy and respected.
What are you doing still there , aren't you gone yet ?:)
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