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*illubakra
writes:Hi,I am 24 years old and I now its 3 years to my marriage and there was always problem my husband spent more time with friends thn me.....but I managed as I love him so much,but now one of my husband's friend his name is suraj and he is married and had 2 kids..verbally harassed me infront of other friends too....but husband was not aware as he was over drunk...n I told him afterwards...then he asked other friends that what I was saying true or not...everybody said ,'yes this has happened and he is not good guy'.but now I am in another country for few months and I came to know that my husband still go around with him...when I asked he said that his friend told him and cleared that he hasn't said anything wrong and now my hubbby don't believe me an rather believed his friend and also shouted at me badly...what should I do....that person has ruined my life
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2013): i had the same situation and i am sorry to hear this happened to you, but i understand cultures are different. and you may feel trapped but try to fix it the best way, give him time, and he will realize this is not good and he will come back.
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reader, billubakra +, writes (28 July 2013):
billubakra is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut..he doesn't want to talk regarding this matter....as I already tried....he said 'if u want to discuss this matter...better we should not talk'.....now a days he just ignored my calls....and always asks me to call afterwards
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reader, Mint93  +, writes (28 July 2013):
It is obvious that you still love him.
You need to think, can you forgive him?
Try to call him or Skype him and try to forgive and forget.
You know what happened and deep down so does he but you really love him so maybe it's for the best to resolve this before your families get involved.
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reader, billubakra +, writes (27 July 2013):
billubakra is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut,sir...I love him a lot....that person will ruin his lyf too...whenever I tried talking to my hubby about this matter he shouts at me and now he use to switch off his phone...I can't tell my parents as they were against my marriage and I even cannot divorce him as my parents will be badly hurt as my marriage was love marriage and was against their wish....now..is thr any thing I can dobto bring my hubby back
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (27 July 2013):
 Well..... it "looks" to me like you've seen just how the "good old boy" network of India works.....
Your hubby thinks that YOU are chattel (look it up!)... AND that his "friends" will tell him the truth about you - and/or anything else - regardless of whether or not what they say is true.....
I hope you will take this as an opportunity to see just what a fool your hubby is... and you will make a well-informed decision to get away from him... get away from wherever he his... and get to someplace in the civilized world where the likes of what you described are a little less likely to happen.....
Good luck....
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