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writes:Has anyone else ever had this?At 21 I was really good looking, then at 23 I noticed my face changing, not aging like wrinkles just started to look like another family member (one I didn't want to look like) I was still fairly good looking then. At 25, 3 months before my 26th birthday my face had more or less completely changed looking more like this other family member. How is that possible? My eyes have gone less defined, before I looked young and pretty now I look young and plain. Men don't look at me anymore when they used to look at me all the time. My looks were the only thing I had. My ex said I was an ordinary person and this was before this horrible transformation. Is it possible for someone to just become ugly I'm only 26! How do people cope with being plain?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2013): Its funny how I just asked my husband if I aged a lot during the last year, as people were telling me just a year ago that they thought I was in my thirties, and this year people have told me things that make me think I look a bit older. But then again I remember how different people were telling me all kind of things previous years ,mi just didn't seem to care, but now when I am in my late 40s became more sensitive about it I guess. My daughter who is 26, also told me few weeks ago that guys don't look at her as much as when she was in her teens or twenties. I think they do, every time we are out, they do, but of course it's her observation that is more true. My explanation to this is this. When you are in your teens or in your early twenties you glow with youth. Girls are breathtaking with gorgeous thin bodies and flawless skin. When you climb toward 30s, this glow of an early youth start to dissapear. Also consider the age of guys who were looking at you when you were 20. They were all younger. When yu get a bit older guys in their very early 20s kind of think that you are an older woman, and they keep looking at girls their age. So, this age group is behind you. 26 is still every very young in y eyes to start talking about age changes. Yes, you are a young adult now,but still you are still very young. You will keep changing through life, and I'd you will keep yourself healthy and fit, at certain stages of life you will get more attention.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (29 July 2013):
Your face changing as you get older, very possible! At 29, I can tell mine has changed and I actually look a lot like my aunt now (my grandma even noticed the same thing), whereas when I was younger, I looked hardly related to her!
I doubt your looks were the only thing you had/have going for you. As another posted, a lot of it is how you present yourself. I get far more attention when my hair is done, I'm wearing makeup, and dressed nicely. When I go run out to the store in borderline PJ's or in gym clothes with no makeup on...I'm pretty sure I don't get too many looks. That's why they invented makeup and flat irons, gotta fake it to make it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2013): when I dress up for work men notice me because I have make up on and my hair is fixed and I wear somewhat nice clothes, when I go out to the supermarket unless I'm wearing something tight I don't get noticed at all, because I just hide my face with big glasses, almost no make up, do a top knot and look like I don't give a f. Am I plain looking? in all honesty yes, I am, the difference is that I make an effort to go to work/socialize whereas to work out, do grocery shopping I don't make an effort, that being said what I'm trying to tell you is, unless you're really ugly which you aren't, then you still can look pretty attractive even as you become older , specially so, because you're more confident, have more money to spend in good clothes and expensive make up, because that does make a difference, of course i'm only talking of outer appearance. To look different try a new haircut and color, if you're pale get a tan, you're orange, go easy on the tan, get some false eyelashes if you can afford, do your eyebrows professionally! they really change your face if they're correctly done, and work out, makes you feel and look better. That's how I cope with being plain, I try to be less so, and of course I try to cultivate an interesting personality so that hopefully my relationships were not only based on looks.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (28 July 2013):
 I survived being downright ugly by developing a terrific PERSONALITY!!!!!
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2013): This is the OP. Thanks it hurts though that my prime went on some horrible men :,(
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reader, SilverVintage +, writes (28 July 2013):
 Your post made me laugh in a good way! Anyway, sometimes our features mature as we get older, as its been stated by these aunt's and uncles. Its a gradual change that everyone goes through. At 26, you are not going to look the same as you did at say 5 ,16, 18 or 20. We are supposed to change and mature in every way as time rolls on. Maybe you're not as "ugly" or "plain" looking as you think, it could be that you've gotten used to the way you look and you have gotten bored with the mirror(not assuming you are vain). We all have got genes from different family members that play out as our faces mature due to genetics. Maybe you've always looked like this particular family member,you've just didn't notice. As it was suggested before, if you don't like something, change it. Try a different hair color, dark or lighter could make you look how you want to look. Get your eyebrows done or try different color lipstick. Make up is one of those miracle works but it only takes a bit to spruce up up a little. If you wear glasses, try out contacts regular or colored and see how you like it. The only think I don't recommend is wearing contacts and your eyesight is fine. I say this because there are a lot of health concerns with wearing contacts when your eyesight is completely fine, they could damage something. I would say head to the optometrist for that if you want to wear them to try out a new eye color. If you don't want to do that, try changing your eyeliner and eye shadow. There are plenty different looks and techniques to try. All in all,I think you're okay. I highly doubt your face drastically changed over a year and a few weeks. The only way would have happened it if drugs are heavily involved. I am NOT insinuating you are on drugs, that is just an example of how the changes are sped up in our health. P.S. Stress is the #1 drainer for youth and health. Try not get upset at the small things or freak out as much. This will contribute to looking older than usual and loss of elasticity. Drink plenty of water, eat healthy, exercise and smile a lot. Exfoliate at least twice a week and wear sunscreen and wide brim hate to avoid sun spots and wrinkles. I hope I've helped you and gave you some clarification, :)!Be blessed!
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (28 July 2013):
 You have to learn to deal with it sooner or later, i say sooner rather than later. "Plain" doesn't =ugly. Looks only matter to shallow people. Regardless of how you look the right people will love you just the way you are so stop worrying. Accept yourself as "plain" looking and focus on the more important things in life because looks can only get you so far and no further anyway.
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reader, R1 +, writes (28 July 2013):
 I imagine the changes are probably more subtle than you think they are. We are all really conscious about how we look, but when people look at us they are often able to see the beauty that we can't see.
Most likely you are getting older. I feel the same, I walk in a room and I don't get the looks I used to when I was in my early 20's!! But that's life and as you get older most people become more comfortable with themselves and have more life experience. Those qualities are great!
Get your hair done, but a new dress and embrace your new looks :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2013): Yes, I've had this happen. I'm constantly changing. One day I'll look absolutely stunning, then the next I'll look like someone beat me with the ugly stick over night. My face looks completely different. I swear to God my nose changes sizes lol. I have a bump on it from where I broke it as a kid, and some days it's very noticeable and makes my nose look huge, other days you can barely tell. Go figure, huh? I don't wear makeup either so I can't figure out why my nose look so different sometimes. I also have days where I look my age (24), and other days I'll look much younger like I'm in my teens. It messes with my head lol. I guess the best way to deal with it is fix what you don't like. Wear eye makeup to make your eyes look more like they used to. Or get colored contacts like highmaintainance suggested. Wear clothes that flatter your figure. And who knows, maybe when you turn 30, you'll change again for the better. You just never know...
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2013): Im 23 and i get these days almost all the tome when i think im uglu then i once was and i use to get attention alot now I doubt I noticed it is because we use to take pride in how we look and now we dont we beco
Try a new look something different you neee a change to make you feel confident and good again our looks are always changing.Even the most beautiful women is insecure or gets cheated on look at all these celebreties they all look after their apperance like high maintance below said i agree you need to just learn to love yourself accept how your looks changed & work with it girl :) goodluck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2013): Hi there!
Our appearance changes from time to time.
Most especially when your depressed or stress.
So, what your going through is only normal.
I also had those ugly moments myself where in I hate the way I look. Instead of agonizing over it. Work for it.
Did you know that those celebrities work hard for their looks?
I mean its not an instant to have that perfect face and body.
You need to work hard for it.
How? Change the cream your using. Maybe its no longer good.
Your eyes look different now?
How bout adding eye lashes?
Wear a different color lenses?
Your hair, change the color of your hair.
Make up? This is funny, there's this brand that I really don't like. But one time, i just tried to buy one because one of a fellow fashion blogger sez try it. Its nice.
So i did. Voila, it was the best make up I've ever tried.
Its even much cheaper.
All you need to do is just to experiment.
I'm in my early thirties, but most times, people mistaken me a decade younger than my age.
I work hard for it.
So, maybe you try what I tried, it might change how you look. Most of all, Try to live without stress.
whatever stress you may have, totally remove it, into your life. because it will just make you look and feel ugly.
Its the best beauty advice of all time. Say no to stress.
Good luck!
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