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writes:I have been talking to this guy for a while now. We were once best friends but we have decided to take our relationship a little further. (we're not officially together though). He likes to go drinking with his friends but he's not a heavy drinker; he doesn't drink until he can't talk/walk things like that. The thing is when he drinks he tells me how much he loves me, and I'm the girl for him and that he never felt this way. he wants to do things right with me and that he doesn't want to rush sex but when he's sober He never remembers saying anything to me. When he's sober he tells me he loves me, but he's not the type that expresses his feelings. When he drinks, he tells me he wants to make things official, he wants to be able to call me his gf but when he's sober he says he likes how things are now, as long as I'm happy... I don't know whether to believe the things he tells me when he drinks or if its just the liquor talking. What do you think ?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (28 July 2013):
 Believe just 1/2 of what he sez when he's sober, and not a single thing that he sez when he's drunk alcohol....
Good luck...
P.S. This advice also will apply to all the rest of the guys you will ever meet!!!!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (28 July 2013):
 Personally I think it's the liquor talking, I have seen too many affectionate drunks to not believe that. Some people, when they drink, become mean or aggressive, some others become instead emotonal and effusive : " I love ya man... you are my best friend... you are a great person, I'd give my life for you "... Just go to any bar on a late Friday night and eavesdrop for a while on the customers near you, - chances are that you'll be able to see what I mean.
But, suppose that I am wrong and that the truth is that of when he's drunk - what difference does it make ? You still anyway have to go by what he says and does when sober. You can't keep him soaked in spirits 24/7 to keep him committed, nor you can him pissed drunk and then drag him to a Justice of Peace to get married. You'd still have to deal with him when sober ( which hopefully is the vast majority of his time ! ) and with his mindset and attitudes of when he is sober. So, judge and make your decisions according to the statements of when he has a clear, not substance- altered, mind.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 July 2013):
 When you drink you lose your inhibition. Hes telking you the truth when under the influence, however his feelings at the time when he is drunk could be exaggerated, and appear stronger than when he is sober. When I am drunk I want to marry...When I am sober I remember that I might not be ready... Do you understand? Tell him how you feel, sounds like you want it to be official?
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