Am I crazy to want a partner who desires me and finds me attractive?
Q. I have been married 16 years and have been bothered by something that may seem trivial to some people. I am aware that all people will notice other attractive people but my husband seems to have a real issue with this and I have talked to him about ...
A. 29 June 2014: "... seem trivial.." Hell, NO!!! It's HUMUNGOUS!!!! .... and if this creep hasn't (and can't, or won't) figure it out.... then you are well rid of him.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hides couples photos of us on facebook but the ones with his ex girlfriend are there for all to see!
Q. Hi there, nothing major. just a quick question. My boyfriend keeps hiding photos of us together from his facebook timeline thing. This is going to sound very petty, but I'm just a bit worried that he's embarrassed about me or somethin...
A. 29 June 2014: "nothing major..." MY ASS!!!! You have a "boyfriend" who put, and keeps, YOU in the shadows!!!!!
Stop trying to fool yourself... and confront the a-hole... with: "Hunchy-bunchy, I see that you don't have any pics of you and me, together... (read in full...)
Just discovered my boyfriend lied about having a child
Q. I APOLOGIZE THIS IS LONG BUT I'M BEGGING FOR INPUT ON THE SITUATION My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months and he is an ex army militant. In our early days I noticed he had a tattoo with a female name followed by a date which whe...
A. 28 June 2014: If'n you were my Sister... I'd recommend that you dump this guy and find one who didn't fib.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Why couldn't we look away from each other?
Q. This is just a quick question. What does holding a gaze mean? I don't need an explanation of that but why could i not look away when someone was looking at me and held my gaze for around 8-10 seconds, no words just gazing. I couldn't have lo...
A. 28 June 2014: Women ogle me - for protracted periods of time - because I'M SO DARNED HANDSOME!!!!
Perhaps if you and I were in the same place... we'd do the same. (I'm assuming that YOU are pretty darned cute, yourself!!!!!).....
Keep on staring!!!......... (read in full...)
His lack of ambition and drive bug me, but only when I'm hormonal
Q. This probably will sound crazy but I need advice. My boyfriend and I have been together close to 5 years now. We are very similar in many ways. However, he is very, very lazy. He doesn't do anything all day when I'm not with him (we don't live ...
A. 27 June 2014: May I "prepoligize"??? (that's "apologize" in advance, because I'm going to say (write) something that is worthy of an apology ... I know it.....)
It sure sounds to me like your pussy (and its hormones) is in total control of most/any... (read in full...)
The people who find me attractive aren't the ones I'm interested in
Q. Hi this one is mainly for the women out there. Do you tend to get alot of unwanted attention but never any wanted attention? Will my luck change? I can't figure it out I'm fairly good looking from what people say. The people who find me ...
A. 27 June 2014: Here's a guy's point of view.... in a question:
Where are you going, such that you are getting UNWANTED attention?... and not WANTED attention????? Perhaps the answer to that question will help guide you to an "answer."
Have a nice day........ (read in full...)
He wants a baby but doesn't want to get married
Q. I've been with my bf for two and half years. I'm 23 and he is 40. He was married and it ended with a nasty divorce (before we met). I honestly see him as the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with but there is a huge problem. He doesn't want ...
A. 27 June 2014: Copngratulations for having the sequence correct:
1. Get, or be, married,
2. THEN (and only then), have children...
If HE doesn't "buy" in to your sequence (which is the preferred one),... then you have to let him go....
Your alter... (read in full...)
Don't give me a lecture because I am only in it for the money!
Q. We dated for two years and he was a lovely person we separated because of me...i was not reliable. However his back, wants back... I dont really mind him being around because he is good to me. And doing financially badly, i wouldnt min...
A. 27 June 2014: No lecture form this quarter.... Just a request: Please give us this guy's name, address and telephone number, so we can contact him and let him know what you are up to. He's entitled to that....
Have a nice day....... (read in full...)
This married woman thinks she is a beauty queen!
Q. I would like to have your opinions on this woman. She is married but because she is unhappy in her couple, she feels she can cheat her husband. Well, she thinks that she is a beauty queen even though she is not. She says that she can have any man ...
A. 27 June 2014: I can't help but ask: What difference does this woman.... her appearance... her bahaviour... have to do with you?
Have a nice day...... (read in full...)
My mother seems to undermine me ....
Q. I am finding that every time I have a telephone conversation or see my Mother I am left either slightly bewildered or depressed and down. This situation has gone on for years and I have tried lots of different approaches. She lives with my Dad ...
A. 27 June 2014: The behaviour and interactions between you and your Mother are "textbook." I'm sure that oodles of Daughters (and Sons, too) could have written this...
My assessment is that you Mother is older (than you, of course) and isn't likely to change, ... (read in full...)
He brought an 18 year old home and wanted a 3some. What to do to cope with my bad feelings over this?.
Q. I am dating a guy that I am crazy about, I am not what you would call a woman that has had the greatest track record with men, two divorces and several lost relationship problems in between with men and woman. Needless to say, been single for a wh...
A. 26 June 2014: You write: "I am not what you would call a woman that has had the greatest track record with men...." Then, you proceeded to detail one GOOD reason WHY "I am not what you would call a woman that has had the greatest track record with men...."
... (read in full...)
I'm worried that my on/off boyfriend is leading a double life
Q. It's been about 10 months of a on again-off again relationship on his part. He comes up with reasons to break it off. I have yet to be invited to his home. He swears that he's just a private person that does not let every girl he meets into his life ...
A. 25 June 2014: You know that "check engine" light on your car's instrument panel? If you are like many others, if/when it comes on, you sort-of ignore it... then, next time you have your oil changed, you ask the mechanic to look at it and find out why it's on. ... (read in full...)
He went away without me and I feel like I need to even the score
Q. My BF of a year and a half is away for a month. Visiting family in South America. I am not going because I have no $$. He knows this and still went for a month without me. I am hurt and jealous and annoyed. It comes after several rocky months of him ...
A. 25 June 2014: Yes, it's stupid. Right.
Remember that old saying "... and eye for an eye?" Over the long run, all that results is that many people won't have eyes to see.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How can I trust my boyfriend when he promises he won't cheat on me again?
Q. I want to be able to trust my boyfriend, I really do but at times I can't help but doubt what he says when I know he has cheated and lied to me before. We have been together on and off for four years, nearly five. He cheated on me after about a ye...
A. 25 June 2014: I like this: "He was honest about it all so I felt like he deserved a little bit of my trust..." Sheeesh....
Is it that easy to get you to compromise yourself? ... and set yourself up for yet ANOTHER fall??????
Really.... you've got to re... (read in full...)
Could my ex-teacher want more?
Q. so.. here I go again about it...i know that to many of you it will sound stupid...but it's just smth i have to do or I'll always wonder what if.. So..4 yrs ago i met him, he was my teacher for 3 yrs, he was hot charming and inteligent and he knew ...
A. 24 June 2014: Your submittal is a "textbook" case of a young, inexperienced girl believing that she has a chance to lasso a much-older, much-more-experienced man (who, incidentally, is behaving inappropriately) in to being HER man. The ending of such stories is ... (read in full...)
Should I try to change career?
Q. I'm a 22 year old female, i have a son who is four years old. I have been in and out of jobs since he was born but i never stick to a job. I am now studying towards a law degree but i feel like giving up already, i thought it would be for me but i ...
A. 24 June 2014: The key to your whole submittal is this phrase: "...but i never stick to a job...."
Until and unless you can reconcile that - as many/most adults have learned to do - then you may well continue to founder and seek that elusive "perfect job" or ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend doesn't want my daughter around when she has her daughter around. How to work through this?
Q. My girlfriend and I, both in our 40's, have been together for over 2 years, and have 6 kids in total. Like any relationship we've had our ups and downs and I'm happy to say however that the good have definitely out weighed the bad. One of the stre...
A. 24 June 2014: "cowsattack" is correct. Your "G/F" is trying to arrange a "pecking order" that puts her girl at the top.... and Hell-be-damned where your's (daughter) falls in that order.
YOU, Sir, have to make an important decision..... are you willing ... (read in full...)
How to get over this fall out with my uncle?
Q. Hi I had a 'fall out' with my uncle back in September last year and since then he has just totally ignored/blanked me....when before he wuld have spoken to come and not walk past and totally ignore me. It all started when he said I need to 'earn ...
A. 24 June 2014: Your submittal could have been made by my oldest brother (there are 5 of us kids). He, also, "didn't want to work for nothing"..... so he eschewed the family business and went on his merry way.
Whilest he was modestly successful, he was neve... (read in full...)
I have become 'the other woman' to my ex and I don't like it!
Q. I'm in a situation where I'm the other woman I feel terrible and I never thought I would get into this situation. Basically my ex and I broke up about 5 months ago we have a child together. He came up to see our child and things ended up ha...
A. 22 June 2014: You ask: "...What can I do to stop this situation from getting messy (?)..."
Answer: Let him visit his/your son... and, once the visit is over, you go one way, and insist that he go another.... AND your "problem" will disappear.....
Good lu... (read in full...)
I am my ex boyfriend's booty call .....
Q. My boyfriend split up with me in February, because "he didn't love me anymore and the spark wasn't there".. He has been sleeping with ALOT of girls, and drinking ALOT! I have been sleeping with him still, but now I'm starting to get jealous and have ...
A. 22 June 2014: If you'd like to rescue a bit of your self-respect... listen to your friends. Who wants to be someone's "booty call"? It's de-humanizing and demeaning.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
If he's interested in me, why won't he act on it?
Q. Ok my question is for men. What are men really thinking when they stare at you like i mean not only even subtle to make it clear to you they are doing it, then flirt with you and steal looks at your chest. I thought this guy may have liked me but h...
A. 22 June 2014: May I offer you a bit of detail from the "Dictionary of Guys"????
"...may have liked me..." REALLY means that he liked your breasts... AND got the impression that you might put out for him, if he "played his cards right" .... Beyond that, th... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to act like a porn star and said I've ruined his life
Q. My husband told me I was a fat disgusting pig! And he watches porn because I'm boring in bed and I have no ambition. These are things he has never said before to me ,we got into a fight and told me he needed to get things off his chest. I have ...
A. 22 June 2014: It's best that you leave this boor... and get on with your life. Being by yourself will be FAR BETTER than enduring the vitriole of this creep.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I'm left feeling confused after a great night with an ex
Q. Well, I broke up my ex two years ago. We were together for seven years, but he wasn't happy in himself - he wasn't always nice to me in the last few years and quite negative. I felt he didn't love me and I started to emotionally distance myself ...
A. 22 June 2014: He "sounds' like an opportunist who is very astute at picking up signals of disdain from somebody he knows well (you!).....
About that night.... ("...We had a great night..") was there sex involved? If "yes," then the "answer" to your confusio... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't let me forget my mistakes
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up last year as I admit myself that I could be insecure and I was just unhappy with myself and he couldn't take it anymore. Cut a log story short, we continued sleeping with each other with mainly me doing the chasing as I ...
A. 22 June 2014: What you've described is a guy who is oh-so willing to "own" you.... but can't bring himself to be nice to you.
Bottom line: Do you wish to be his foot-wiping mat for now and in to the future? OR, do you think that you owe it to yourself... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got another woman pregnant but says I'm the one he loves
Q. Hi,I have a boyfriend and we've bn 2gether four yrs nw,our daughter is turning 2 in September,he impregnated another girl and he told me he doesn't luv her he jst wants to be there for the baby,lately he has been communicating with the grl almost ...
A. 22 June 2014: Your daughter will never be "without a father"..... but she seems to be stuck with a "...dog of a father...."
Sorry to hear that you've had to experience this creep. But that IS "what he is".... and the only "question" that you face is: Do you w... (read in full...)
I've just learned that my boyfriend's parents dislike me
Q. Why do boyfriends parents always hate me? I have had 3 serious boyfriends and the parents have always disliked me but I don't know why. An event that happened today has opened my eyes to this. My partner and I have been together 2 years, livi...
A. 22 June 2014: The REAL substance of your submittal is this: "I have had 3 serious boyfriends and the parents have always disliked me..."
Work on that... and the "answer" to "the problem" that you face, now, will become apparent....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Is it normal that I still miss my ex a year after we broke up?
Q. My ex and I broke up last year. I was miserable the first few months. I still cry if I think about how I spent those days. We were together for 3 years. Some people say that it takes half time of the relationship to heal. I'm putting the pieces of ...
A. 21 June 2014: Women seem to have the ability to "miss" an ex- for a year... or, even more.....
Guys, on the other hand, are only required to "miss" the girl they dumped (or, who dumped them) until that moment when they find their NEXT babe who will put out for ... (read in full...)
My sister has this ridiculous inferiority complex around me
Q. My older sister has this ongoing confidence problem since we were kids. She compares herself to me and seems to think she comes off worse. She thinks I am more exciting, popular and talented than she is. I have to constantly reassure her that she ...
A. 21 June 2014: Sounds to me like your sister is one HOT babe!!!... and you are the consummate loser!!!!!!
What is the question? ....... really?
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My partner's lifestyle has me completely turned off
Q. I've been with an individual for over 11 years. We have one amazing son together, but I feel like our son is what/who keeps us together(now).I was never physically attracted to my partner. I fell in love with how safe I felt with him,how gentle he ...
A. 21 June 2014: I measured the "length" of your submittal.... It is 6.25 column-inches... and the whole darn thing is YOU explaining why you are disgusted with this guy who you took up with 11 years ago.... and why you shouldn't continue to be his squeeze.
The o... (read in full...)
I'm obsessing over his new wife and I don't know how to stop.
Q. I know before a write this that people are going to think i'm pathetic but i feel like i have nobody i can talk to about how i'm feeling. Long story short, i was in a sort of FWB situation that ended about 2 years ago. I was the one to end it ev...
A. 21 June 2014: The key to your submittal is this phrase: "....i wasn't worth being anything more than somebody to sleep with."
As you go through life, you will learn that men have a peculiar way of assigning "worth" to women. Those who put out..... we think... (read in full...)
What are some easy pitfalls to fall into, how can I avoid them and what are some good ways to show I really do care?
Q. The other day I finally got to meet up with a girl I "met" online a few months ago who I've talked with every day, everything went great and I'm gonna see her again soon. I tried to meet up with her a few times before but it never worked out, she ...
A. 21 June 2014: P.S. I keep asking myself that "pitfall" question... even at my advanced age....
Fortunately, the women who get my attention have failing eyesight, and short attention spans... so I get away with a lot of stuff that you WON'T (get away with)!!!... (read in full...)
What are some easy pitfalls to fall into, how can I avoid them and what are some good ways to show I really do care?
Q. The other day I finally got to meet up with a girl I "met" online a few months ago who I've talked with every day, everything went great and I'm gonna see her again soon. I tried to meet up with her a few times before but it never worked out, she ...
A. 21 June 2014: You ask: "....what are some easy pitfalls to fall into, how can I avoid them(?)"
There's only ONE pitfall that you must worry about. THAT is NOT BEING YOURSELF, and having self-confidence.......
How do you GET self-confidence?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend makes fun of me, my family and my culture in front of others!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been officially together for about 2 years now, but it seems as if we have been for 4 years when we first met. I am muslim and he is not inclined towards any one religion. I finally met his family in FL. We stayed at his ...
A. 21 June 2014: MARRY HIM????? The guy has been ABUSING you for a long time..... and you are considering MARRYING him????? Then, what? .... are you going to sit around and be his whipping post for the NEXT 4 years???? ... and the 4 after that?... and after ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with a no ambition burger flipper?
Q. I'm 18 and well I'm going to college pretty soon I asked my boyfriend that we needed a break because he keeps lying he has no no career goals he works in a fast food restaurant if he wants a future with me he has to know that flipping burgers ...
A. 21 June 2014: So... take the break. After a while, you and he might (ever) meet up again, and your joint places in life might be more in keeping what you'd like to see in a mate.
In the meantime, study hard and see how YOUR life goes...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend to be less selfish in bed?
Q. Hello all, My girlfriend and I have a good relationship and have been dating for about a year and a half. However, things in the bedroom have taken a turn for the worse. Saying that things have fallen flat would be an understatement. ...
A. 20 June 2014: Print out this submittal... show it to her... and ask how she feels about it....
You may also include my reply..... which reply is that, if two people cannot figure out where/when/how they are (or can be) sexually compatible... then they are in a... (read in full...)
Why is he looking for sex so soon?
Q. Boyfriend needs a break to figure things out between us. Together nearly two years and plans to buy a house next year. Great sex, got along real well. Just one argument come up over the time we were together. Anyway had one massive row about this ...
A. 20 June 2014: You write: "Why is he looking for sex so soon?! Does it mean he's looking for someone else? How will this help him figure out what he wants with me?!"
1. He's "looking for sex" because that's what we guys are up to, ALWAYS.....
2. It ... (read in full...)
How do I integrate my fetishes into our sex life?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I having been dating this girl for quite a while now and mostly everything is going great. However, I am still afraid to talk to her about the sexual fetishes I would at the very least like to try, if not integrate into o...
A. 20 June 2014: You COULD say to her: "Say, Lovely Lady, let's each of us make a list of our Top 10 kniky things that we'd like to try with one-another.... then, as we compare them, start in on those that we have in-common."
Works for me, every time....... (read in full...)
Why was this embarrassing for him?
Q. Dear Cupid, I hung out with this new guy the other night and as the night was winding down he walked me out to my car to say goodbye. We started making out and he.. well.... got a huge erection... pulled away and joked that he was just going to "w...
A. 20 June 2014: Note to "older than dirt".... at 63 Y.O. I'm STILL waiting to "grow out of" getting a stiffy, those many times when the lady I'm with makes lustful thoughts come to my head.... and then, those thoughts manifest themselves "down there"!!!!!!
Just ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and best friend had a FWB relationship 3 years ago and never told me! Why not?
Q. It may be something or nothing but ever since I found out my boyfriend and my best friend had a very short relationship (purely sex) nearly 3 years ago, I can't work out why neither of them told me before, instead I found out from a mutual friend. ...
A. 20 June 2014: You've een with your (current) boyfriend for 18 months. The FWB thing took place 36 months ago. Sounds to me like that is none of your business....
Good luck....
P.S. Just a "guy pointer".... we don't go around bragging to our current lady... (read in full...)
Side with my boyfriend or his grandma?
Q. Hi, Currently my boyfriend is away visiting his mother's side of the family who has never treated him right to the point of severe psychological trauma and constant hospitalizations. His grandma on his father side basically raised him more t...
A. 20 June 2014: Your boyfriend "sounds" to me like someone who is sitting on the sidelines of life and waiting for good things to happen to him..... things UNLIKE all the "things" that have happened to him up 'til now.....
Isn't it time that he become - and act ... (read in full...)
We're not handling conflict well in this relationship
Q. Hello, How do I handle it when my boyfriend (of one year) gets mad at me for getting mad at him when HE does something wrong, hurtful, disrespectful. Then after I get mad about it (rightfully so, these are big things) he does something WORSE ...
A. 20 June 2014: What an interesting description of what goes on between the two of you. Your "side" of it is that he treats you like a "Queen".... EXCEPT when he treats you like something that he is trying to dispose of in the commode.
AND, not only that... ... (read in full...)
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