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writes:The other day I finally got to meet up with a girl I "met" online a few months ago who I've talked with every day, everything went great and I'm gonna see her again soon. I tried to meet up with her a few times before but it never worked out, she cancelled each time with legitimate(ish) reasons which weren't helped by her being really worried. Anyway having met her I like her even more than I ever have. She's really open about things which is partly why I'm so into her but the problem is I'm not. I know she likes me a lot (because she says so) and as I said, I like her too but the fact is that I'm clueless and struggle to believe she could like me! I have practically zero experience with women, which I managed to get the courage up and tell her when we met - she took it well but was really surprised. I'm excited but more than anything I'm just worried about doing something stupid (or not doing something) that will push her away. I generally don't put a lot of effort into things and we've both got pretty busy summers but I'm willing to really try and put my all in to make this work.I guess my general question is, what are some easy pitfalls to fall into, how can I avoid them and what are some good ways to show I really do care? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (23 June 2014):
 The best thing you can do is be yourself. Being someone else never works.
#1 do not play games
games are stupid.
you continue to have your life... go to class, go to work, play your games...see your OTHER friends... exercise etc.
you call her midweek at the latest to see if she wants to go out on the weekend...
you do not smother her
do not give up your life for her
do not expect her to give up her life for you
if she was a guy you met and liked and wanted to hang out with what would you do? You'd call him and say "hey buddy wanna go to blah blah blah" and you'd go.
do it with her.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (21 June 2014):
 P.S. I keep asking myself that "pitfall" question... even at my advanced age....
Fortunately, the women who get my attention have failing eyesight, and short attention spans... so I get away with a lot of stuff that you WON'T (get away with)!!!!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (21 June 2014):
You ask: "....what are some easy pitfalls to fall into, how can I avoid them(?)"
There's only ONE pitfall that you must worry about. THAT is NOT BEING YOURSELF, and having self-confidence.......
How do you GET self-confidence? You go to a mirror, look directly in to it, and say (silently, if you wish).... "Damn, I'm a hot guy... and any girl would be lucky to get my attentions."
That, Sir, is the "key" to what you need to hear, and do, to get along with this - or, any other - girl...
Good luck....
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