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writes:so.. here I go again about it...i know that to many of you it will sound stupid...but it's just smth i have to do or I'll always wonder what if..So..4 yrs ago i met him, he was my teacher for 3 yrs, he was hot charming and inteligent and he knew it. He is 37 and divorced. I didn't rly fancy him at first because he seemd sooo full of himself around all those girls crushing on him...and when they'd go talk to him about stuff ..he'd always sense that they like him and soon get bored and botherd by it...so i just kept to my own business. One day one of my exbf told me that my teacher was looking kinky at me..that's when it all started, i paid him more atention and noticed that even tho he was a flirt...around me he was being more obvious about it. the first couple of years it was only looong intense looks and smiles that ...well let's just say a teacher should not be able to smile like that. In my third year with him he toutored me for an exam, that's when he realised that i was lasy but brilliant at his subject and took more interest in me. he would talk to me on different subjects as if we were friends, he'd almost always sit by my side and accidental touches would happen, like a brushing hand over mine, or a foot that would by accident sit on mine and would retract at first but then after looking into my eyes at the next 'acident' would't move, he just kept his feet on mine or near mine ocasionally. I should probably mention by now that since me and my friends noticed his flirtin i started flirting back..but in a reserved manner..i wouldn't go looking for him ..i'd just wait for him to come to me. after a series of such eveniments i tok my exam and made him sooo proud that he would praise me everywehere.Then summer came and he asked me to introduce him to some people participating in a project i was coordinating. so one day we met, he took us with his car back to his place( asked me to sit in the front sit) we all talked and drank (he offered me booze, but i just couldn't in front of a teacher) and then he gave us a ride back in town...thats when i realised i left my jacket back at his place ( now in a porn movie i would ask him to take me back so i can find it and he would ...well..you know...on our ride back :))) ) but no..i just stayed silent and told him the next time we talked on the phone. he kept it for about 6 months in his closet near his biker clothes(yes he rides) and had a nostalgic look when he had to give it up to someone i sent to grab it for me. In my last year of highschool he didn't teach my class..and it was terible..but i still went to his place from time to time to get help on a project of mine...and we'd just talk and joke around while the kids he was tutoring in the next room wondered why was he treating me so differently. One of them told me that he was defs flirting and acting as if we had a connection..and i thought so too. things went on..flirts , smiles, looks, small talks on the hallways..but that was prty much it..untill a few weeks ago just before i graduated. he came to our graduating event and at first gave me the looks and smiles..we would make fun during the festivities, of others just by looks, and then he came to me ...out of all those people in that room, teachers and students, he came to me, we drank shampane talked about stuff, took pictures..and whenever people would interupt he'd find his way back to me...then more looks on the hallways..the at prom..well..i made sure i was looking my best..and some of my friends we shocked with how friendly he was to me, how he stared at me (when i didn't look) and of the intensity of our looks. i remember that while dancing with a mate i looked at him and bit my lip ..he just held his look and smiled...oh that smile...i knew that night that he resists it..but that he likes me..perhaps even wants me. then i had my first exam. when i came out he was there talking to a grup of students, when he saw me walking away he said his goodbyes and came to me, walked by me, and asked all sorts of questions about how my life is and stuff...phen our ways parted..again the look...the smile...oh dear :)) it sounds stupid..but if only you saw it..DAMN! The thing is that now i have to call him and set a date for when we'll meet so that i can introduce him to some other people in the project i'm organising...once we're there i need to let him know..that if he wants something more(which i'm prty sure he does) he can go for it...i know he won't go to the next level untill he's sure i would react the right way...but i can't say it to his face..i'm the kind of girl who never makes the first move..so how do i let him know that i' ok with it ...without saying it...and btw..it's not a relationship i want with him..and i believe that nore does him..it's just the adventure that i'm after..any advice on how to make him make a move on me next time i see him?....whooa..that was long...
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reader, Mark1978  +, writes (24 June 2014):
 This guy is grooming you! Said it before, saying it again. Stay well away!
Op you say you will "Always wonder what if..." NO YOU WONT! because a few months and years from now you will have matured further, grown up more and see this guy for what he really is. You have a crush. It will pass. You might think you will spend all eternity wishing you had got together with this guy (who is a real creep by the way) but you will grow out of it.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (24 June 2014):
 Your submittal is a "textbook" case of a young, inexperienced girl believing that she has a chance to lasso a much-older, much-more-experienced man (who, incidentally, is behaving inappropriately) in to being HER man. The ending of such stories is usually a painful awakening for that girl....
Do you want that? If "yes," then barge on in. If "no," then let him go his way; you go your's and let life go on.....
Good luck.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2014): He seems to be grooming his students; NO flirting is okay between teachers and students, even when they are over 18. Nor is he supposed to have called them, offered them booze, taken them to his house, allowed them in his car, or any of the things he's done! If you were still there, I'd suggest telling him he's being inappropriate and report him.
Stay away from him; he's not a decent guy and will just move on to whoever allows him once he's finished using you - if you do anything, that is.
If you want adventure and casual sex, that's fine (if you're safe about it), but this guy has proven he's a creep! Stay away and cut all contact, please.
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