My boyfriend keeps registering on dating sites and tells me it's just "for a laugh"
Q. Could some one advise me what to do please? I have found my boyfriend to be registering on different date sites. This is the fourth time I found out about it now. He says its just for a laugh and unregisters from them, but then secretly registers on ...
A. 26 May 2014: You ask: "Is he to be believed (?)" NO.
Case closed. Next.... (read in full...)
No strings attached sex with coworker - could this progress into more?
Q. Dear agony aunts, I need to understand how men's mind work... There's this guy at work I go out with sometimes. We both made it clear that we don't want to be in a relationship and that "it's just sex, no strings attached". I know mys...
A. 26 May 2014: Here's "how a guy's mind works":
A small portion of it is used for survival functions, such as breathing, heart pumping blood, and telling us when we are hungry or thirsty. This portion is about 2%.
The other portion of our mind is focused ... (read in full...)
I am planning on having sex outside my marriage
Q. Hello. I have been trying to ask this question for a few times because i am facing a situation in which i am undecided. I will talk honestly. Well i am married since 10 years. I have always loved to appreciate beautiful women. I particularly ...
A. 26 May 2014: I note this phrase in your submittal: "I have always loved to appreciate beautiful women."
I take it that this (phrase) constitutes your justification for an extra-marital dalliance? It doesn't.
Good luck....
P.S. I appreciate a beautiful... (read in full...)
What kind of man lies like that?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for the last couple of years. The connection seemed to be undeniable. He committed to me giving me an expensive piece of jewelry. We connected on FB. After little time, I realized that the immense majority of his friends ...
A. 26 May 2014: Lourdes: You ask, "..just what is the profile of a man like that?"
Answer: It's not the profile of a man; it's the profile of a DOG. Is that the (kind of) creature that you'd want to date????
Sorry that he's behaved like this...
Good ... (read in full...)
Can you change your mind about attractiveness?
Q. My friend (mr A) recently started dating this girl who previously dated his best friend (Mr B). She was very into his friend and when he lost interest in her she was very upset and cried to my friend (Mr A) about it. When her and Mr B started dating ...
A. 25 May 2014: What you're REALLY talking about here, is ONE "man" taking advantage of a woman who has been dumped by another "man".... and nothing more.....
Remove your "....never found attractive..." proviso, and this will all become crystal clear.
Is t... (read in full...)
We had a great relationship, but there's his ex, the porn, the depression -- did I do something wrong?
Q. I have never used a site like this before but I really need clear level headed advice on this, I feel so blocked up I cannot tell what I feel anymore.. I am going to try to make this very short.. basically in 2011 I got with my boyfriend, I tho...
A. 23 May 2014: Regardless, the length of your submittal..... its contents clearly delineate a "relationship" which doesn't, really, exist.
You have fallen for a guy who cares not a whit about you... and who gives clear evidence, thereof..... Sooooo, ... (read in full...)
A one night stand is still causing a problem a year later. I don't know what to do with my boyfriend
Q. I'm in my early twenties and about a year ago I started a relationship with a man who is 20 years older than me. He came into my life very quickly and it was quite overwhelming and I regrettably ended up having a one night stand. Me and my boyfriend ...
A. 23 May 2014: I vote for the reply you got from the WiseOwlE....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My husband's father insists of making dinner for us every week! How do we deal with the problems with that?
Q. So here goes... My husband's father is a very large man whose in poor health. My mother in law and husband treat the time with him as precious. He could go at any time from a heart attack. We can see his health declining every week. He can ...
A. 23 May 2014: This "question" should really be directed to your hubby..... who holds the key to all your questions. Print out a copy of this submittal.... place it in front of him, and say: "Hunchy Bunchy, I wrote this.... and expect YOU to work with your Daddy ... (read in full...)
How do I get my parents to understand this job is making me ill?
Q. Literally the day I arrived home for the summer from university, I had a job an hour later. My dad pushed me into this job because he is friends with the manager and I'm grateful for the help, but I'm miserable! I understand that every job has it...
A. 22 May 2014: I find this phrase to be telling: "...I understand that every job has it's flaws, I'm 19 and I've had several jobs, each one has been flawed."
Pardon me.... but THAT is flat-out "not so!!!!!"
As an old guy who is far closer to the end of my... (read in full...)
Is he pushing too soon to have a relationship with me?
Q. Dear Cupid Member I have a question? Do you think a guy is pushing a relationship with you too soon if after exchanging emails and just talking once on the Phone he already told me that He wants to be my Boyfriend? I met him online in one of...
A. 19 May 2014: Makes no difference WHERE he lives. I guy who pushes too hard and too fast should set off "RED LIGHT" signals for a woman.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
He doesn't care for intimacy
Q. I am 52 years old, married my high school sweet heart a year ago - my first marriage and his second. He has been single for 20 years. We have not had sex in 7 months. There is no intimacy either - no kissing, no cuddling. He says he doesn't know why ...
A. 17 May 2014: When there is a sexual/intimacy mis-match between two people.... as much-so as you described between you and hubby... then there is no hope for the "relationship" to survive.
Reconcile that to yourself.... sit hubby down and say, "Hunchy ... (read in full...)
Does this mean it's over?
Q. My boyfriend (of 2 years) and I had an argument last week. The argument was mainly because i started noticing that my boyfriend has been ignoring me lately, reading my texts and not responding, he even ignored me for a whole day. Throughout our ...
A. 17 May 2014: You ask: "Does this means it's over?"
Yes, it does. NOW, go out and get a real, mature and considerate boyfriend. YOU'll be much happier....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
No way will my husband approve of this job
Q. I married young, and I regret not waiting. I'm 24 now, and while I love my husband very much, but I feel suffocated. Recently he has be pressuring me into getting a job in a field I hate. I suffered 2 years of hell in the same field already, t...
A. 17 May 2014: I can't get past this (that you wrote): "... I love him so much but...."
You just finished telling us that your hubby cares not a whit about YOUR feelings (and reactions) about and to your job..... AND that you've surrupticiously found a far bett... (read in full...)
I don't know how to cope with these feelings of being too small!
Q. I need to know who feels the same and how to get rid of these feelings. I feel below women who are more attractive than me (pornstars, glamour models) I feel like they have more power over men, it hurts me. I feel small. I want a boob job. I'm ...
A. 17 May 2014: It's unfortunate that you think that those immature "boyfriends" you had took to looking at porn, AND that you learned of it....
Fact is, that MANY guys (I'm one of them) LOVE women with modestly-endowed breasts. YOU have fallen for the public f... (read in full...)
Is it normal to fall in love with someone else while you're in a relationship?
Q. This is going to sound depressing but... Is it normal to fall in love with someone else when you're in a relationship? I see it happen ALL the time...Where one partner stops loving their partner and falls in love with another person. In fact,...
A. 17 May 2014: For us guys, it happens all the time.
You see, no matter how green and lush our (own) lawn is, we always keep our eyes peeled in case there is some "greener grass" elsewhere.... and we are ready to turn in our lawn mower, and edger, and trimmers... (read in full...)
I've become very uncomfortable with this "friendship"
Q. So I have this guy friend... I don't even know whether to call him a friend because we don't really interact outside when we bump into each other at a mutual friend's house or something. One random night, about 1.5-2 years ago, we talked late into...
A. 17 May 2014: You write: "...I hate that I don't know to say no to him,"
Well, when you want to stop hating (yourself, for your lack of self-control), then you can - and will - learn to say "no" to him.
Until then, you have to live in the stew that you've... (read in full...)
Why does he choose to not invite me to functions where the Gfs and wives are invited? I am feeling excluded.
Q. Hi all, I'm feeling a little left out and rejected. My boyfriend and I have been together for just over four years. We got together at 17 and have been together since. We have a really good relationship together and normally I find we can t...
A. 12 May 2014: I think you have to face reality: HE is still the "swinging single" (guy).... and YOU are surplus.
Do you want to continue to live your life in HIS paranthesis???? OR, do you want a man who will JOIN YOU in sharing life (together)? THAT is ... (read in full...)
Unrequited love! I don't know how to deal with it.
Q. im in love with my best friend, who doesn't love me back. i have to spend all day every day with him and it's so painful. what do i do?...
A. 12 May 2014: Been there; done that.
If you are in love with someone who does not feel the same way about you.... then, you are wasting your time. Ultimately, you can - and will - make a fool of yourself trying to convince yourself - and him - that there is... (read in full...)
I am struggling to see a future with my boyfriend
Q. I love my boyfriend more than anything but am struggling to see a future for us because of how useless he is with money. We earn roughly the same - take home about £1500 a month. I own a small house and manage to pay all my bills on my own and st...
A. 12 May 2014: The two key phrases in your submittal are these:
1. " I cannot fathom how it would possibly work...", and,
2. "...He is fantastic in every way except this...."
The first is fatal to any prospective "relationship".... and the second is you, d... (read in full...)
I feel disgusted he saved an inappropriate picture of his daughter's friend!
Q. Hi There, Agh, I am actually a embarrassed to write about this. I couldn't even bring myself to talk to any of my friend about it in the last 3 days. I have this habit of going through my boyfriend's email, phone, etc. It's a bad habit, I ...
A. 12 May 2014: Since you're a snoop... AND you know what your "B/F" is thinking ("... and (I) knew exactly why it was there and what he was using it for..... ") I think it would be appropriate for you to break things off with this guy, and let him get a real G/F ... (read in full...)
How can I be so romantic it leaves her breathless?
Q. I have a few different questions one is for all the girls on here. My gf said that none of her exs have ever been romantic and honestly I have never really given a rats ass alit a girl before. I'm ashamed to say that at 29 this is the first ti...
A. 11 May 2014: Wilomo: I've spent my life making girls breathless simply by stripping and allowing them to see my smokin' body. It works EVERY TIME....
As for dating the boss's daughter... THAT, Sir, is HIGH-RISK.... and I wouldn't consider it UNLESS I knew, as... (read in full...)
He threatens to break up because we haven't seen each other for a few days
Q. My boyfriend is mad because we haven't seen each other for a few days, what should I do ?. I last saw him on Wednesday. It was his fault that we didn't see each other on Thursday,and I was busy on Friday and Saturday. He sent me a text today, sa...
A. 11 May 2014: What you OUGHT to do is TAKE HIM UP on his ".....I will never see him again, and he said that's a promise..."
What kind of childish game is he playing???? .... and are you dumb enough to go along with it?????
Dump him and get an ADULT boyfrie... (read in full...)
He stares at me, does he fancy me?
Q. I am in my 40's and I have started noticing this guy around a lot more recently and seems to look at me. He bought himself a more 'stand out' car recently so I know when he is in the car park. I know that he likes to get his morning coffee from the ...
A. 11 May 2014: You'll know, for certain, that he fancies you the day he sidles up to you and says, "Say, lovely Lady, I think you look uber-hot, and that dress you're wearing would be just fine, in a clump, on the floor, next to my bed...."
All - and anything... (read in full...)
What does proposing mean for a man?
Q. Hi agony uncles What does a proposal mean to you? What is it like to propose to your longtime girlfriend, if she was waiting for it for a long time and sent A LOT of hints? Do you want to surprise her with the question even she is really expe...
A. 11 May 2014: I'll never forget the incident I witnessed at Harbor Park, in Norfolk, VA...... when I was an usher there...
During the "seventh inning stretch" a guy had planned to propose to his G/F... and the "fan-cam" was on-hand to record the whole thing, A... (read in full...)
Will I be limiting my chances of having a Boyfriend considering that I don't like giving blow jobs?
Q. Will I have limited boyfriend chances unless I give blow jobs?? I don't mind hand jobs, but I'm not a person who feels comfortable with the idea of a penis in my mouth. I also don't particularly like the idea of a guy ejaculating on me, but I don't ...
A. 10 May 2014: Yes.... you'll be removing from consideration those guys who are so smitten with themselves - and their weeny - that they can't imagine a woman not DYING to give them a blow job....
The squillion other guys who are available to you should provide ... (read in full...)
How important is the look of "it"?
Q. Help .... I'm about to enter into a physical relationship with a new man after a long marriage and I need to know . How important is the appearance of a woman's vagina to a man Most of the ones I've seen in porn look very similar and much tidier t...
A. 10 May 2014: Once it is uncovered and revealed to him, a guy doesn't care if a woman's vagina looks like a "fire-ant" nest!!!! We know ONLY ONE THING.... that we are going to "get a little." Isn't that simple?????
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants to settle and have kids. I'm going to lose her if I don't act on it within the year?
Q. So sorry for venting out but I have no one else to talk to about this. You see, I'm with this very wonderful woman for almost 5 years now. For me, I think she's the girl of my dreams and she's God's gift to me. Lately, questions about getting hitc...
A. 5 May 2014: Welcome to the world of being a man, and not having the gumption to plunge in to a lasting, serious relationship and/or marriage....
I note that you didn't have the same trepidation when it came to launching a business.
Did you consider tha... (read in full...)
How to find love in your mid 50s.
Q. Hello aunts and uncles I am 54 and broke up with my husband 7 years ago and we have been divorced for 5 years. I have 4 very close girlfriends who I have known since I was married. They are all in their 40s, so slightly younger than me. We w...
A. 5 May 2014: P.S. Here in Florida, a woman in her 50s is considered a "young thing"!!!!!... (read in full...)
How to find love in your mid 50s.
Q. Hello aunts and uncles I am 54 and broke up with my husband 7 years ago and we have been divorced for 5 years. I have 4 very close girlfriends who I have known since I was married. They are all in their 40s, so slightly younger than me. We w...
A. 5 May 2014: It's one of those cruel ironies of life that one often "finds" love when they're least looking for it.....
My advice? Keep living your life. Do the things that YOU want to do. Stay in touch with your gal-pals.... Someday, someplace... you are ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid he'll hurt me when he hears I'm not coming back
Q. Dear Cupid Im with my bf for almost 3 years, had our ups and downs. Few days back we had a major fight, he was talking to a girl way more than he is supposed to and texting her often. He used to do like this before too, he likes girls getting al...
A. 4 May 2014: You write: "he never cheated though....."
SURE..... keep saying that, and I'm SURE it will come true!!!
Good luck........ (read in full...)
My fiancee didn't tell me that he's frequenting these so called massage places where prostitution is involved!
Q. I need help. My fiancee didn't tell me that he is frequenting these so called massage places where prostitution is going on. I am devastated. He says that he went there for relaxation but i can't see how going to prostitutes is a form of relaxation. ...
A. 4 May 2014: Sometimes, we guys tell you girls some real WHOPPERS (lies).... and many of you (girls) hear them and don't have the foggiest idea what they "mean."
WAKE UP!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has cut me out from his life, he seems to be having a great time and here I am with severe trust issues
Q. My boyfriend (have been together for just two months) is on a business trip. We were chatting yesterday, and the conversation began as something like "hi! how are you?" and then we proceeded to talk about his new hotel room and his new job, which I ...
A. 4 May 2014: How quickly can you extricate yourself from this misguided/futile attempt to start a "relationship????" "Yesterday" would be a good answer.
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Guys ... Have you ever seen a woman and been so turned on that you felt the need to go and relieve yourself?
Q. A question for the guys ... Have you ever seen a woman and been so turned on that you felt the need to go and relieve yourself .... I ask because my bf said he did this before we were together . He saw a very sexy woman one day out and said he went ...
A. 4 May 2014: Do mean, "how many times PER DAY??????..."... (read in full...)
My B/f doesn't want to get married because he doesn't want to support me with medical bills and marrying me will have a bad effect on his retirement fee
Q. My boyfriend of 4 years told me that he doesn't want to get married anymore.. And his reasons are very selfish in my opinion. He said he doesn't want to support me with medical bills, or that marrying me will have a bad effect on his retirement fee. ...
A. 2 May 2014: 1. "... married, anymore.." is the key phrase that "tells" you that he never, really, had any intention of marrying you in the first place....
2. "...he doesn't want to...." tells you that he sees marriage largely as a largely-financial scheme w... (read in full...)
I had sex with a friend in a troubled relationship. How do I tell her that it was not to take advantage of her?
Q. I have been friends with a classmate for a long time. She is in a relationship for three years now. I tried befriending her boyfriend, but he seemed arrogant and did not respond warmly. So I chose to remain distant from him, but did not tell the ...
A. 2 May 2014: I love this: "...I wish I could tell her it was unintentional..." or, in other submittals (to paraphrase): ".. the sex "just happened"....
I'm still trying figure out how sex "just happens" and/or is "unintentional."
Meanwhile, ke... (read in full...)
Do women think the key to attracting men is to dress like sluts?
Q. Hi this question is not specific to one specific relationship but more on a general level, in my effort to meet someone. I'm curious about why when going out on say a Friday or Saturday night, young (and not so young) women feel the need to dress ...
A. 2 May 2014: You ask: "Do they think that the key to attracting a man is to look like a slut...?"
Well, if they ever encounter me - or other guys like me (not like you?) - they will learn that "the packaging" is what it's all about. I get all sticky and swea... (read in full...)
I had a threesome before I got married. Do I tell my husband?
Q. I was involved in a once only threesome with my ex bf and another girl. Deeply regretted. Should I tell the man I married later? He has had premarital sex but not of this kind....
A. 2 May 2014: Don't tell him.... EVEN IF HE ASKS ABOUT YOUR "SINGLE" $EX-LIFE. It's past, (YOUR past), let it remain past..... Don't divulge details.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My husband never touches or kisses me during sex
Q. I love my husband very much. We get along great. Sex is my only complaint. I'm very sexual and enjoy sex. My husband doesn't kiss or touch me at all when we have sex. Even when I go down on him, nothing...he says he likes it but never touches me or ...
A. 1 May 2014: How long have you been married to this creature? ... How long did you and he "court?"
Questions like you've posed should come up early-on in a "relationship".... not much later whence two people are married....
Just for the record.... the b... (read in full...)
I quit my job after 5 days because of the way I was treated! Should I say something?
Q. Hey! I've been having a bad day at my new job today. I started my new job last Tuesday at a Clinic and got to meet 4 girls who I'm going to be working with in the front desk and with the doctors. My first day was good. My second day was really bad. ...
A. 1 May 2014: I don't think I'll ever figure out how to evaluate, or measure, anyone's "attitude"......... (read in full...)
I'm too afraid to ask him for help financially!
Q. I'm 23years plus i'm dating a guy of 29years plus getting to three years now, l love him so much but despite my love for him i'm shy to ask him when i need help financially because of my two reasons my first reason is that i'm thinking its too ...
A. 1 May 2014: P.S. I've never gotten over the girl I had dated for about two years... and she "needed $5000, just to tide her over until next month" (She actually had a high-paying job, so the request wasn't so outlandish, in context).
I'm STILL waiting ... (read in full...)
I'm too afraid to ask him for help financially!
Q. I'm 23years plus i'm dating a guy of 29years plus getting to three years now, l love him so much but despite my love for him i'm shy to ask him when i need help financially because of my two reasons my first reason is that i'm thinking its too ...
A. 1 May 2014: My curiosity question is this: How has it happened that you and this guy have been dating for 3 years, and it has never occurred that he has become (or been made) aware of your financial situation/goings-on?
IF your "relationship" is so dista... (read in full...)
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