I'm afraid he's cheating
Q. Everything was fine 6 months ago he said he was.going somewhere and went off to where he said he was.going to see someone i asked him when he returned how it went but said they never turned up although he was missing few hours nw hes on phone ...
A. 23 September 2014: WAKE UP!!!!!..... STOP BEING "CONFUSED".... He doesn't give a crap about you... and YOU need to watch out, ONLY, for yourself. How egregious..... how outlandish, does this "relationship" have to become before you WAKE UP and see it for what it ... (read in full...)
Marriage and threesomes..need advice!
Q. I need your opinion. My wife and I have been married for almost 5 years. I have always wanted to try anal and never have with any woman. I have always had this fantasy and had played with her asshole before which she loved, but the last time we ...
A. 23 September 2014: You write: ".....I don't know if the actual act with affect our married life...."
My "reply": Yes, it will .... and not in a manner that will advance your marriage.... Think twice before you do this!!!!
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I'm really hurting after getting a break up text. I don't know how to deal with it!
Q. I was just broken up with over a text message from this guy who I was dating for close to 3 months and we had spent 24/7 together. Over the course of these three months we had gotten really close and he said he had never had a gf that was as carin...
A. 23 September 2014: He dumped you... so... now,... stay dumped and forget about this creep... WHAT do you "owe" him??????
Get on with your life, .... .and look for a decent guy to be your partner...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is always breaking his promises to me
Q. So my boyfriend and I are expecting our first child together at the end of next month. I've had a hard preganncy and am currently on early maternity leave my doctor ordered because I am at risk of going into labor preterm. It hasn't even been a week ...
A. 23 September 2014: WHAT IZZIT WITH YOU GIRLS??????? ..... THAT you seem to have no compunction about being impregnated by guys who have no concern for you??????
Do you EVER believe that you should; A. Be married, or, B. have some sort of "comittment" .... before y... (read in full...)
Do many people have one night stands?
Q. I am single 29 years old now. 3 years ago, i joined filipinocupid site because of curiosity. I uploaded my photo and i got many interest from different men so it excites me and started exchanging messages to those guys i got interest with. After 3 ...
A. 22 September 2014: You ask: "...My question is, in USA,does dating really involve having sex?"
The answer: Calling one-night stands "dating".... happens strictly in horny mens' minds....
As you have learned, there's no future for a woman who wants to believe... (read in full...)
Surely after 5 years he should be able to give me more than 'maybe one day'?
Q. I'm looking for some advice please. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years now, but the last few months have been a bit rocky in my opinion. I say in my opinion, because he disagrees and thinks I'm overreacting about the fact that he still can't ...
A. 22 September 2014: If you can afford it... you would be most-wise to invest in your own home.....
As for this guy.... you CAN'T AFFORD to remain in limbo with him forever.... You have NO IDEA when his "one day" is. It could be February 29, 2032, for all you know... (read in full...)
My best friend treats me differently now that he's in a serious relationship!
Q. Hi , I've been friends with this guy forever and now we're bestfriends.he always wanted a relationship with me but I refused cause I didn't want to ruin our friendship, now he hav found this girl who is serious about him, he starts treating me ...
A. 22 September 2014: He wanted - and made it clear to you - that he wanted, a deep(er) relationship with you, in the past....
You rejected that.
NOW, he has found some OTHER girl who hasn't rejected his advances.... AND - as a result - you are experiencing a d... (read in full...)
I'm afraid he's cheating
Q. Everything was fine 6 months ago he said he was.going somewhere and went off to where he said he was.going to see someone i asked him when he returned how it went but said they never turned up although he was missing few hours nw hes on phone ...
A. 22 September 2014: Why bother "waiting" for "proof".... when the real "question" is that this is no "relationship"... at all.... just YOU walking on eggshells.... and HIM doing whatever he darn well pleases..... regardless how much it tears you up, inside.....
Wake ... (read in full...)
I want what's best for my kids and I wonder if he isn't it
Q. Hi I have been with my partner 3 years I have 2 kids from previous relationship he is always nice to kids but we never do anything altogether I have asked many times can we take kids somewhere park ect.. I hadn't wanted 2 rush things so never asked ...
A. 22 September 2014: Here are the answers to these important questions that you posed:
"is he playing me should I get rid of him even tho I love him but I love my kids more and want what is best for them ?"
Yes, he's playing you......
Yes, you should get r... (read in full...)
My friend might be sending nudes
Q. So recently a new boy came to our school, the reason he came was because he got expelled from his old school for screenshotting a girls nudes and showing them to all his mates. The only problem is... He's quite good looking. My friend is a bit of a ...
A. 22 September 2014: The "issue" is THIS (which you wrote): "...The only problem is... He's quite good looking."
Now, WHY..... would you give this guy a "pass" for acting like an a$shole..... just because "he's quite good looking"?????????
Do yourself a favor... (read in full...)
We seem to butt heads on everything
Q. I'm having a hard time agreeing with my girlfriend. We always seem to butt heads on everything as if we're complete opposites. She tends to find me too "rebellious" and only disagrees with her just for the sake of disagreeing. In my mind I feel I'm ...
A. 22 September 2014: If the two of you can't get ALONG, then get APART!!! How simple is that?????
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Boyfriend never cares when people compliment our relationship
Q. I've noticed lately that my boyfriend doesn't like or care when people compliment us on our relationship. For instance, the other day some random lady asked us for directions and then joked about how cute I looked and then said that my boyfriend has ...
A. 19 September 2014: You write: "So, maybe it's his self-esteem issues?"
HIS self-esteem?????? "Sounds" like it's YOUR self-esteem that might be microscopic. The examples that you gave are routine goings-on in life.... and his behaviour - as you describe it - doe... (read in full...)
Which one of these places is more likely to be my g spot?
Q. I've been trying to find my g spot for years. I'm aware that the g spot is not a magical button and it takes practice but I'm willing to be patient! When I lie on my back and enter in my fingers i have found TWO areas which feel a bit different from ...
A. 19 September 2014: Count your Blessings! You can, at least, SEARCH for your G-spot any time you want...... Conversely....
.... I have been searching for womens' G-spots for several decades.... and, in order to GO on that search I have to incur (usually) an expensiv... (read in full...)
I'd like a bit more affirmation from her
Q. I have been dating a woman for about 7 months. We seem to mesh in most ways but I could use a little more affirmation from her. Not long after we started dating she made the statement about how "sexy" the lead singer of a band was. Just recent...
A. 18 September 2014: OP: Under some - maybe MOST - circumstances, I'd say that it's harmless for a woman to make a comment about a public figure.... such as you described.
HOWEVER, if that (comment) is about the only time she makes note of a man (any man)....... (read in full...)
If you've never had a girlfriend, does it get more hopeless the older you get?
Q. If a guy is past a certain age and never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, should he just accept and deal with the fact he will never get a girlfriend? Because the older a guy gets and is inexperienced, the more of a turn-off it becomes to women, ...
A. 16 September 2014: Does this questiona apply to you? If, "yes," then how are you alerting girls that you are an inexperienced virgin guy? Do you wear a button? .... or a custom-printed T-shirt?
Believe me, a little confidence - exuded in dealing with a lady - w... (read in full...)
Should height be a factor in not picking someone?
Q. Should height be a factor in not picking someone? There's a guy I went out with recently, cute, sweet, funny, and we got along fine it's just that he's so short. I mean I'm short too but he's like 2 inches taller than me and I'm 5'1 I love ...
A. 16 September 2014: My Brother, Steve, who taught me everything a guy could need to know about love, and romance and women..... once pointed out to me that - when two people are lying together in bed - they're both just about the same "height." Works for me.....
... (read in full...)
Yet another Christmas all alone. What do I do?
Q. It looks like I am spending Christmas on my own this year as I am single, childless still since my divorce - so its just me and my dog! In the past I had Christmas's ruined by my ex husband and his family so now I am divorced I don't have that drama ...
A. 16 September 2014: Further: The last two years, my G/f and I have had an "orphans'" dinner.... We invite all our counterparts.... singles and couples.... who are here in Florida, and have no family nearby (Neither of us does - have family nearby....) Remember, ... (read in full...)
I can't stand my boyfriend's lies!
Q. We've been together just over 2 years. We're both 20 and although young can see marriage etc in the future. He's great. He's sweet and supportive and I overall a great boyfriend. The only problem that we have is, his lying. He's not an unfaithfu...
A. 15 September 2014: There are times when a lie (a "fib") is appropriate.... Like when a woman asks her husband, "Does this dress make me look fat?"
THEN there are "genuine" lies... like when a guy tells you that he's going to get the oil changed.. and spends the day ... (read in full...)
Yet another Christmas all alone. What do I do?
Q. It looks like I am spending Christmas on my own this year as I am single, childless still since my divorce - so its just me and my dog! In the past I had Christmas's ruined by my ex husband and his family so now I am divorced I don't have that drama ...
A. 15 September 2014: How about volunteering to help prepare and serve the meal at a homeless shelter????? (Might help you to put things in perspective.....)
Good luck........ (read in full...)
Did I push this man too much or did he just get what he wanted?
Q. About four months ago a guy I knew from years ago became friends on facebook. We have mutual friends and I live abroad and he lives in my hometown. Immedtiately in becoming friends he told him he was separated from his wife and that he had a daught...
A. 13 September 2014: You write: ...Can you tell me if I pushed him too much or did he get what he wanted? We are still friends on facebook."
1. He got what he wanted ("a little on the side"...YOU!),
2. You pushed hard enuf for him to get what he wanted.... but n... (read in full...)
His ex paid for his college and housing, now she wants him to do the same!
Q. I’m almost 26 and my bf is 27, his ex is 29. A little background first; his ex helped him get through University as a full time student while she took care of the expenses of their house and his fees. When they split up after 6 years of relationship ...
A. 13 September 2014: I'm guessing that you've figured out that SHE (the "ex-") is really "Number one".... and you are an accessory for him......
That means, of course, that YOU have no recourse... and your only choice is to either: Go along with it, or, dump him........ (read in full...)
My B/f said he was 'glad' that I had found out about his cheating as it has really shaken us and allowed us to see what we were neglecting in our relationship. What did he mean by that?
Q. Hi everyone, I just want some opinions or insight into this. Me and my boyfriend have been together 5 years, everything was amazing until around may. We started arguing all the time, we couldn't even look at each other without it erupting into an...
A. 13 September 2014: Here's my take on your submittal:
Sometime before May, your B/F started having an affair with (whoever)..... What you describe going on between the two of you - in May - is classic "he's doing it with another girl" behaviour.
Affairs are t... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to want to feel important to someone?
Q. Many people around me work and outside it,are called, nice, beautiful and amazing people, witty, special etc etc, people smile when they enter a room. My younger sister is loved by most, people love her and her family. I get it they are, im ...
A. 12 September 2014: I don't recall ever seeing or reading that anybody claimed that Mother Teresa was beautiful or witty..... But, she was both......... (read in full...)
Do you think I should've had sex with him?
Q. Please help me!!! I had been going out with this guy for 2 years until he dumped me round 7-8 months ago. The reason for this was because he asked me if I'd have sex with him and I said no because we're waaayyy too young, (we're both 13) He sai...
A. 11 September 2014: I swear... that old "...if you love me, then you'll put out for me..." line is SO OLD that it predates the printing press... hieroglyphics.... and cave drawing....
I wouldn't be surprised to learn that when the first fishes left the primordial soup... (read in full...)
My husband loves me but I no longer feel the same for him
Q. Dear Cupid. I told my husband I'm no longer in love with him. We have been married for 11 years. I have lost total interest in him. He is so hurt by this that I am willing to work things out. I care for his well being tremendously. He is ...
A. 11 September 2014: IF you've really "fallen out of love" with him.... then it will be far more merciful for you to complete the break (up) than it will be for you to prolong the agony (for BOTH OF YOU) by staying on out of pity.....
You're both adults.... and will... (read in full...)
My step-son confessed to something I haven't encountered before
Q. So my step son is 11 going on 12. I have known him since he was 5 years old. He told me the other night that he couldn't sleep cause he did something and it was on his mind. He didn't want to tell me but I got it out of him. He told me it was ...
A. 10 September 2014: Kids do kooky things. What you have submitted is no more startling than a few other things that he will likely do whilest he is young and still in your household. The KEY to the whole thing is to LISTEN to him... understand "where he is coming ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and alone, an Army wife stressed by my mother-in-law's comments on Facebook!
Q. I dated my husband for 6 years and we just got married before he joined the Army. I'm 35 weeks so far and it's been very stressful and a lonely experience for me, I'm living alone in our old apartment and his parents are not far from me. The only ...
A. 9 September 2014: Lovely lady, there.... your hubby's Mother. I suggest - as did WOE - that you block her and have as little to do with her as is necessary....
ONCE he returns, you might ask hubby why his Mother is such a witch.... He may know (why)...... (read in full...)
Could random kisses during a casual sex encounter mean anything more?
Q. A guy I've been casually having sexual relations with for the past 2 weeks brought me over to his place for sex. Before his place, we stopped at the supermarket for dinner. We were chatting in the car as he parked, and I laughed about something ...
A. 9 September 2014: You're having "casual sex" with this guy.... and you're ruminating on "the meaning" of a kiss????
Please try to learn which comes first.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Is me sending my boyfriend pictures of me in my sports bra okay?
Q. Hi :) I'm 15 going to be 16 soon. I am not exactly sure but like I've sent a number of pics of me in my sports bra to my boyfriend.... It sounds kinda stupid of me... But it also got me questioning if it's okay to actually do that? ...
A. 9 September 2014: WUTizzit about sending provocative - and, maybe, not appropriate - pictures to guys that has you girls acting as if your brain has taken a vacation???????
NO....don't send provocative pictures to this guy... OR, anyone else!!!!!... (read in full...)
My girlfriend choked me in an argument and I'm extremely disturbed. What do I do?
Q. I got into a silly tussle/fight with my fiancé a few months ago. She had been moody and snappy with me and her parents all day. At the end of the night I got fed up with her horrible attitude and said I was leaving for the night. As I s...
A. 9 September 2014: You were ASSAULTED by this woman..... and you wonder if you should spend even another 5 minutes with her???????
Answer: No, you shouldn't....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
What Am I doing wrong?
Q. do you sometimes feel the entire world is against you? and nothing you do is good? Well yesterday i felt that way. First my on again off again boyfriend - we are in a long distance relationship for more than 11 years, YES long distance relationship ...
A. 8 September 2014: Perhaps if we address these three issues, the "solution" will become clear... To wit:
"...lately I'm being taken advantage of, what am I doing wrong? why am I not loveable...."
You are plenty of loveable. HOWEVER, in order for you to experienc... (read in full...)
Does she just want me for sex?
Q. Hey guys, I'll give you guys a brief background. I'm an emotionally needy person. I have been since my ex girlfriend of two years cheated on me. I became depressed, and still am really. I feel so emasculated. Anyways, I was on tinder and I...
A. 8 September 2014: I recommend that you count your Blessings...... There are OODLES of guys in this world who would like a woman to ".. want them just for sex....."
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Torn between doing whats right by my family and my lover.
Q. I've been having an affair for 5 months because my boyfriend has not fulfilled certain needs however I have stayed with him to try and hold my family together as he is the father my boys (17 and 15) has known for 7 years. There has been alot of ...
A. 8 September 2014: Sometimes, that itch that we experience between our legs saps all the logical thinking "Mojo" out of our craniums. THAT seems to be what you have described....
Go.. spend 40 days out in the desert, thinking about your plight..... and, I promise,... (read in full...)
Will he ever regret it?
Q. So I want to start off telling my story, starting 5 years ago. I met this man, and I instantly knew I was in love with him. crazy, but true. we started spending every day together, with friends, and by ourselves. time went on, and he started using ...
A. 8 September 2014: "....will be (he) ever regret hurting me?...."
No.... he doesn't understand "regret" and many other emotions that you would like to find in your man-partner. He is interested ONLY in his next drug fix.....
Save your sanity and dump him now....... (read in full...)
Should my uncle have a talk with my boyfriend?
Q. Dear agony aunts, I am posting my question and asking for your advice. I've been with this guy for almost a year now and although we had ups and downs I never felt like posting for advice. This time my instinct tells me things are different. ...
A. 8 September 2014: If you asked this Uncle.... I'd ask these questions, to clarify matters in my mind.
1. Is he a Muslim?
2. Are you (a Muslim)?
3. If 1. is "yes," and 2. is "no".... then my advice is: Why would you consider being this guy's chattel (That... (read in full...)
Should I Be Annoyed With My Boyfriends Mum?
Q. I am a bit annoyed with my boyfriends mum. My boyfriends brother had a kid some months ago and his mum has that kids photo on her phone as a wallpaper instead of mine. I had my baby but she has not changed the photo from being of that other kid. ...
A. 7 September 2014: I think you've encountered an ant-colony and believe that you've happened upon Mount Everest......... (read in full...)
I am shattered he didn't make an effort to keep his word to me!
Q. Hi everyone, I am one mad girlfriend this morning but I don't know if I can be bothered to fight. I just want some advice on the best way to handle this. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years and had arranged to spend this weeke...
A. 7 September 2014: You write: "...but not angry as I understood my boyfriend had no choice really...."
OF COURSE he "had a choice".... and he made a poor one. Let him go.... he doesn't give a darn about you.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
He said he'd post naked pics of me if he ever saw me with another guy
Q. Please help me i have the same problem and it is much worse because he just doesn't wanna see me happy.. he hasn't post my naked pictures yet but he would if he see me happy. I dunno what to do with it... I don't want my pictures to be posted all ...
A. 6 September 2014: Nice guy you chose to spend time with, there....
You need to swallow hard, and say (to yourself): "Do I want to live my life under the control of this creep? Or, do I want to get on with my life... with HIM in my rear-view mirror...?
You kno... (read in full...)
I appreciate my boyfriend's efforts at trying to prove that he's now faithful but this is not what I meant by 'prove yourself'!
Q. Hi everyone! Ive always got great advice from here so I thought I would ask again! Me and my boyfriend have been together for just under 5 years. Over the summer I found out he was having an affair of 5 weeks with another women. He had ended...
A. 5 September 2014: Your boy is doing a beautiful job of playing his "Woe is me" card.... He even has YOU questioning yourself!!!!!
Think back, now - long and hard..... Do you really want to continue in your life (with, or without, him).... with YOU walking on eggsh... (read in full...)
I don't like my best friends boyfriend at all but I don't know how to tell her I don't like him!
Q. Alright so I don't like my best friends boyfriend at all!! She started dating him about 8 months ago and all he can do is get on my nerves! So he is currently in the army and my friend is head over heels for him...she loves him. So to the reasons ...
A. 4 September 2014: It's really not your place to try to do anything to impose YOUR will on your "best friend." AND, this is a great case for keeping your thoughts to yourself.....
IF this guy is 1/2 as bad as you claim... and the "relationship" between him and your... (read in full...)
Should I walk away from the impending wedding or just give him another chance? My life is a total mess!
Q. My fiance and I been arguing a lot lately. We normally argue over the same things over and over again. Such as bills, wedding preps, punctuality and etc. Yesterday, he started to argue with me over my whatapp last seen and accuses me of ch...
A. 3 September 2014: Believe me, the embarassment of calling off the wedding will seem like child's play compared to the angst that you will endure for the duration of the marriage and the EVEN MORE excruciating pain and stress of FINISHING off that (doomed) ... (read in full...)
Should I cut all ties with my toxic abusive family?
Q. My family are toxic. My mother is mentally unstable who abused me when I was a young child. My father is cold and distant towards me and has never praised me or gone out of his way to do anything for me. I have 2 sisters. One is self obsessed and ...
A. 30 August 2014: If you should cut all ties - forever - with this interesting bunch of people who you describe... THEN,, you will have absented yourself from them in the strangely- common situation wherein wherein toxic people get an epiphany and become something ... (read in full...)
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