We're not handling conflict well in this relationship
Q. Hello, How do I handle it when my boyfriend (of one year) gets mad at me for getting mad at him when HE does something wrong, hurtful, disrespectful. Then after I get mad about it (rightfully so, these are big things) he does something WORSE ...
A. 20 June 2014: What an interesting description of what goes on between the two of you. Your "side" of it is that he treats you like a "Queen".... EXCEPT when he treats you like something that he is trying to dispose of in the commode.
AND, not only that... ... (read in full...)
Relationship between son and stepfather at breaking point.
Q. My son, who is 16 spends most of his time playing on the computer with his friends, when he is not at school. At the moment this is way too much as he has finished his exams. To be honest, it has always been too much. He is very clever, a bit of a ...
A. 20 June 2014: The issue is clearly your husband's (and to a lesser degree, your's).
As others have said, your son sounds typical and not at all out-of-line.
You have hinted at the "other" issues that both you and hubby face.... .and I believe that you... (read in full...)
I'm married and in love with a third person!
Q. Hi folks, i'm in trouble. Long story short, i'm married to a man and now i'm in love with another girl. I haven't done anything stupid called cheating yet but i guess you guys might find this mentally cheating. Things just happened that we sometimes ...
A. 19 June 2014: I suggest you print out a copy of this submittal, have it nearby, and sit down with your hubby and say to him:
"Hunchy-bunchy, I am living in a peculiar struggle at the moment, and I think it's critical that I share it with you.
Please ta... (read in full...)
Will he regret breaking up with me?
Q. I've been with a guy for over 5 years now - 3 years being a long term relationship and living together for 2 years. About a week ago, he went out with work colleagues and out of the blue he said he didn't want to be with me. He told me that he ...
A. 19 June 2014: You write: "Will there ever be a time while we have broken up where he will regret what he has done, know what a mistake he has made and feel guilty for what he has put me through? Has anyone ever been in this situation? Have you ever gotten back ... (read in full...)
LDR boyfriend called me names and hasn't called in a week. Is it over?
Q. Dear Cupid I am with my current bf for 4 years, for past 3 months we are in LDR as he has to work overseas. We had our ups and downs, nowadays we have more downs than ups. He is always calling me names or belittling me whenever possible,...
A. 18 June 2014: It's over. Don't waste any more time or mental energy thinking about this guy....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is hurtful and neglectful and I'm feeling really down about the relationship
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years. He just doesn't care about me anymore. He just told me 2 nights ago he loves me, and I believe in some weird way he does but he doesn't show it anymore. He hardly texts, hardly calls and hardly wants to spend ...
A. 18 June 2014: I wonder if this phrase is the key to your submittal:
"....When we do spend time together it's amazing. "
Does that mean, "we have sex"???
'Cuz, if it does, then the answer to your question is this:
YOU are having (or, hoping to have) ... (read in full...)
I feel like I need to move on, but I'm not sure how! Help?
Q. I've got a question and I don't want to be judged I just want some light shed on the situation Basically I was with my ex partner for 5 years we had a son together had a relatively happy relationship. He did after our first year together cheat o...
A. 18 June 2014: So let me understand the situation that you described (as I understand it):
1. You and he fell in love... enjoyed sex and spawned a child.
2. He revealed himself as the DOG that he is... and took to cheating on you.
3. You couldn't stan... (read in full...)
Girls, what qualities do you want boys to have?
Q. Girls, do you like a confident guy, or someone who can't help in front of you???....Or are good looks all that matter?...
A. 18 June 2014: Take it from a guy who's got 'em.... girls just want us handsome dudes!!!... (read in full...)
Is there any way to convince my ex to give me a second chance?
Q. Is there any way to convince my ex to give me a second chance? My gf and I met 18 months ago and we ended up in a relationship literally over night. Our relationship moved extremely fast with me moving in within the first month. She is 7 yrs you...
A. 17 June 2014: "Convincing" her will be a Herculanean test of your REAL intents.... BECAUSE, if she sticks to her guns, then YOU are going to have to be an Angel for a long time, in order to be convincing... Think about it....
IF you stay nearby to her.... ... (read in full...)
Wondering about the "swinging" lifestyle
Q. My wife told me one of her friends recently confided in her that she and her husband have been visiting swingers clubs over the past few months. It started off with her fantasies to have two men at once, but since then has escalated and both of them ...
A. 17 June 2014: Is there anything in your's and wifey's dating/courtship/ marriage that leads you to believe that this is a necessary - or desireable - undertaking?
The risks of this are well-known. What starts out as an innocent dalliance turns in to a bas... (read in full...)
How do you know when men just want a break and when they want to end things
Q. How can you tell if a guy wants to "take a break" in a relationship because he's not sure you can make each other happy? Or if he's just trying to let you down easily and not feel so guilty? Me and the boyfriend of two years have been arguing a l...
A. 17 June 2014: You ask: "How can you tell if a guy wants to "take a break" in a relationship because he's not sure you can make each other happy? Or if he's just trying to let you down easily and not feel so guilty?"
Here's a few hints about guys:
1. The... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex is vindictive and wants him to sign over the rights to his child.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. Right after we got together he told me that his ex fling told him he had a son. They had a horrible relationship and before ending she told him she had already been with other people. Needless to ...
A. 17 June 2014: You ask: "what should we do??"
YOU shouldn't do a darn thing. This is HIS issue. He's a big boy.... let him handle it.... (All you can "do" is muddy the waters.)
Good luck....... (read in full...)
His entire demeanor has changed. Is he withdrawing from me?
Q. I have been dating this guy for 3 months. He lives in NJ and I live in NY- we are about an hour and a half away from one another. Some background on us- we met 7 years ago on vacation and really hit it off. He had a girlfriend so nothing ever ...
A. 17 June 2014: Let him complete the "withdrawal" and get on with your life....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Gambler lies about gambling, what else is he lying about?
Q. My husband travels and has a gambling issue. I've already took out a 70000 second mortgage to pay off his credit cars before we were married. After we were married he continued to gamble several thousands dollars of our money. He said he was ...
A. 16 June 2014: I'd go with the divorce lawyer....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
How should I tell my mother that I want to track down my father?
Q. Im 13 and want to find my dad but i feel uncomfortable telling my mum. All i know is his last name,how do i find him?...
A. 15 June 2014: Rather than "go in" believing that you want to find your Father..... how about making an opening with your Mother... and ASK HER about him..... See where that leads you.....
If - and only if - she says, "He's the gravest rat in the world, s... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time or can we fix this?
Q. My boyfriend and I had a huge fight last night and I'd like some help working out where to go from here please. We have been together for almost 5 years now, and at the moment we don't live together. He asked me to move in about a year ago, but I ...
A. 15 June 2014: Maybe that "fight" was the Good Lord's way of getting you to step back and assess the situation.... BECAUSE....
.... this guy has given you CLEAR EVIDENCE that he doesn't plan to spend his future/life with you... as long as you will tolerate... (read in full...)
Is it inappropriate for your boyfriend to hang out with other females one on one?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about 10 months now. He is 30 and I am 21. We are currently trialling living together (I have not officially moved all my stuff in). We have a bit of an issue about friends of the opposite sex. I don't really have ...
A. 15 June 2014: It really depends upon whether or not they are wearing clothes.....
HOWEVER, please not that "whether or not they are wearing clothes" is a fleeting status, and can change at the drop of a hat.
If you were my Sister, I'd tell you not to move ... (read in full...)
Are things repairable?
Q. My fiancé and I have been through a lot. We got together and it was great. We were both single and worked together and formed a relationship quickly. We had sex every day... Sometimes twice a day. I used to call him from work and tell him I was ...
A. 15 June 2014: AS I read your submittal my mind wandered to a 1954 Chevrolet sedan. Its engine burns oil and sputters. The muffler is rusted through, so the car sounds like a tank going down the street. The brakes barely bring the car to a halt.... and ... (read in full...)
Men: What do you think of breast implants?
Q. I just got silicone breast implants and I think they are going to be great. A great improvement over my asymmetrical southbound breasts. Quite large on my rather small frame, but nothing that would draw stares or look like a porn star. Just a ...
A. 15 June 2014: Some men are "leg" men... others are "breast" men.... (some may well be both!). Psychologists tell us that this may stem from whether or not our Mothers picked us up (hence, those lads became "breast" men), or didn't pick us up (and we touched her ... (read in full...)
Do you think leaving my boyfriend is the best thing for me and my kid?
Q. I been together with my boyfriend for 6 years, we have had a very rocky relationship over the years, we always argue and we don't trust each other at all (we have never cheated on each other or so i think. We have a son, he is four years old. Over ...
A. 15 June 2014: Better late, than never. Get movin'!!!!!
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Am I not floating his boat?
Q. Curiosity got the better of me......I met a guy on a dating website and we have been meeting regularly for approx 6 weeks .....I deleted my account as I can only concentrate on one person at a time but today I re-registered to see if he was still on ...
A. 13 June 2014: You sit down with him and tell him that you've learned that he remains on that dating site.... and ask him - point blank - "What is the story behind your being on that site? Do you not think that we are - or will be - an "item"? Because if'n we're ... (read in full...)
Why am I putting up with bad treatment from my ex?
Q. Hi and thanks, I've known my ex for about 8 yrs. We were on and off about 4 years. I had broken up the first time around because he was cheating with several women and was on a dating site, plus admitted to having feelings for an ex. We managed t...
A. 13 June 2014: YOu "sound" like a magnet for jerks. Two-for-two, as I read it....
Any chance you can be convinced to put these guys in your rear-view-mirror-of-life? .... and get on with a more-normal life????
Good luck........ (read in full...)
A cautionary tale for me?
Q. I am even further disillusioned by this thing called love. My back story is: I am 53, divorced for 4.5 years. No kids. Was married for 12 years, together for 16. My ex cheated on me and left me for another woman. He never showed any remor...
A. 13 June 2014: Please remind yourself of this.... every day:
You CAN'T do a darn thing to change the past..... You can ONLY make sure that you make your future great.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My last relationship was an open relationship but my reputation in my small town is ruining my chances in my current relationship with an amazing girl
Q. My last relationship was an open relationship, we had one night a week that was open to other, we tried swinging, and had more then one threesome, it started out fun and exciting but quickly turned bad. Living in a small town people know your bus...
A. 13 June 2014: You're learning that lesson, that it takes but a moment to screw up one's reputation.... then a life-time of trying to shake off that reputation....
About the only thing you can do - under your circumstances - is abide this girl's Father and fami... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and my best friend live at each others' houses in my absence! What's going on?
Q. So, I have been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years and she is the love of my life, I can't picture my life without her. but recently she has been hanging around with my best friend alot, I recently found out that (after we had a huge argument) ...
A. 13 June 2014: You're NOT "being paranoid"..... What your ARE is the "fifth wheel".....
Give up on both the girl AND this guy who you claim is "your friend"... Some friend... screwing your G/F when you are not around!!!!!
Good luck...... (read in full...)
The new guy that I can't trust, or the old guy who hit me?
Q. i had a bf whose name was Rahul of 4.5 years with whom i was sexually involved.he used to love me a lot but we broke up because he had hit me physically four times and used to abuse a lot.then i found a new guy whose name is Ajay,he is very caring ...
A. 13 June 2014: Dump 'em both.. and hold out for a reasonable, smart and sensible "boyfriend". WHY should you have to choose between two ASSHOLES???? .... when there are MANY guys who are NOT ASSHOLES who would love to spend time with you????
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is on exchange and has become close to a male friend. Am I being oversensitive?
Q. Hi guys, just a question about a girlfriend on exchange. My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for 3 years, and while we've had rocky moments, we've been fairly stable all along. Recently though, she went on exchange for 6 months wi...
A. 13 June 2014: Sooooo, what you're saying is: "She's pretty much given up on me and her.... and has a new "boyfriend"...." No?
Listen!!!!!..... to what she is NOT saying... and I believe that you will find your "answer" there....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
He told me he likes my cousin! How do I get over him?
Q. I worked with this guy and we talked quite a bit, we became friends and then things started going quicker. He had/still has a girlfriend and two kids and one on the way. But He would ask me to send him pictures(nude ones) and I did because well i ...
A. 13 June 2014: Question: "My question is how do I get over this pain/sadness I am feeling,.... "
Answer: You GROW UP!!!!! and tell this creep that you never want to see him, or have anything to do with him, for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!!!! Is that perfectl... (read in full...)
Does she feel undervalued?
Q. My wife spent many years in Africa married to a european landowner. They appeared rich and she didn't need to work, everything was carried out by domestic servants. More importantly she was the queen bee of her very large social circle. Then the ...
A. 13 June 2014: "What do I do ??? Help !!!"
Answer: You go your way.... she goes her way.... and never the twain shall meet (again)....
Figure it out.... you need to learn how to make the remainder of your life WITHOUT this freeloading woman...
Good... (read in full...)
My vagina doesn't look so nice
Q. Hey guys I don't want him to see my vagina when i was younger i shaved it and i got shaving pimples and i got dark pimple spot and it doesn't look so nice ... what can i do ????...
A. 13 June 2014: I assure you.... men do not spend even one IOTA of time LOOKING at your vagina. Their TOTAL focus is upon getting it uncovered, and getting to put their dickey in to it!!!!!
Not to worry. Good luck....... (read in full...)
Do I give him another chance or move on?
Q. Two weeks ago, I broke up with my now ex-boyfriend. He just didn't seem as interested in the relationship as I was, except for sex. Since breaking up with him, he has finally began to seem more eager to communicate and show affection. I was...
A. 12 June 2014: "....should I give it another chance?" YOU ALREADY HAVE!!
Try to remember that guys are driven largely (almost exclusively) by our craving to get sex from women. YOU have already tried a "relationship" with this guy... it faltered.... and NOW,... (read in full...)
I feel he is not really interested in me but surely he would bother wasting his time like that!
Q. Hi been dating a guy for 5 weeks now we've kissed and been intimate but i don't really think hes that interested in me.....we met on a dating website but he lives locally to me sand id rather he just said if he doesn't think it will go ...
A. 11 June 2014: I love these two phrases:
"...we both agreed from the start we wanted to be more than fuck buddies...." and,
"...how long should i give it before we are officially a couple??"
You know WHY he's "vague"??.... because of Number 2!!!!! You s... (read in full...)
My wife is worried I'm going to act like our vacation is spring break
Q. Me, my wife and step-daughter have a trip planned to Cancun next month. I am 61, very young at heart, and my wife is 51, much more reserved than I. I am extremely concerned about this vacation due to the fact my wife seems to think that I want to ...
A. 11 June 2014: If'n your wife has jealousy obsessions... then you and she have to sit down and decide if they are (will be) fatal to your continuing "relationship' (and marriage).
If she expects you to act like an a$s.... and you are going to do so... then, yo... (read in full...)
I went into my boyfriend's mail and closed down all of his online dating accounts!
Q. So my boyfriend of one year has always had dating profiles since he was 13. (He is 21 now). He likes to talk to people though he's never met up with anyone from online since he just simply doesn't believe that something like love could come from ...
A. 11 June 2014: I think your "woman's intuition" is sending you a clear message.... and, though it's not crystal-clear now... it will be, in the future, when he dumps you for someone from one of those dating sites, from which "...he just simply doesn't believe that ... (read in full...)
Was my boyfriend's behavior with this other woman suspicious?
Q. My bf and I have been in a long term relationship. Family and friends consider us an old married couple. We attended his friend's daughter's graduation party on a Saturday afternoon. When it was time to leave, we got up to say goodbyes. One wo...
A. 11 June 2014: It was terribly rude of him to have such a conversation (however brief) with HER whilest YOU were nearby, AND he failed to introduce the two of you.
My guess? There's more, between the two of them, than he wants you to see or know about...... (read in full...)
Do I throw away all the good things I have with him for some facebook/google searches?
Q. I love my boyfriend very much. I've been with him near two years with plenty of commitment on his part. But my heart is breaking because he can't let go of his ex girlfriend from four years ago. I know that everyone says - don't be second choice...
A. 9 June 2014: Some guys "get angry" when they've been found out. I think you got all the information you need(ed) from that conversation and his reaction to it.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
How the HELL do I talk dirty? Please guide me. lol
Q. For the love of God - I can NOT talk dirty to save my life. Actually, I'm 32 and never talked dirty to anyone. Now, here's the weird thing. I can "sext" my boyfriend (of 4 years) some of the nastiest shit ever was but I can't say anything when we're ...
A. 9 June 2014: There's a phenomenon that you don't seem to be aware of.
Just before, during and for a short while after intercourse, mens' brains (the ones in their heads), cease working, and all consciousness-equivalents are transferred to their lower brains..... (read in full...)
Do I throw away all the good things I have with him for some facebook/google searches?
Q. I love my boyfriend very much. I've been with him near two years with plenty of commitment on his part. But my heart is breaking because he can't let go of his ex girlfriend from four years ago. I know that everyone says - don't be second choice...
A. 9 June 2014: From my "guy" point of view.... my opinion is that your "boyfriend" has not (yet?) disengaged from his past girlfriend.... and probably continues to hold out hope that - some time - he will be able to re-kindle things with her.
THAT leaves y... (read in full...)
I cheated, feel guilty, feel remorse and don't know what to do!
Q. I've been married for 5+yrs to Mr.Right.For some reasons though we were very compatible in every way, we were not happy in sex.3 years passed with busy life,sex was not very important between us.Later for no reason i started getting attracted to a ...
A. 9 June 2014: I think you've described that you have a very cavlier, and immature approach to such an important subject as love/life/sex/and relationships. You write as if your marriage is sort of a "ho-hum" arrangement.... and not something that is sufficiently ... (read in full...)
I'm sick of my mother being rude to my spouse!
Q. I'm sick of my mother being rude to my spouse. I've confronted her about this before but nothing has changed. My mom came to stay with my husband and I this last week. Everything was fine until the last night there. My mother wanted some take...
A. 9 June 2014: Do you have any reason to understand why your Mother has a gripe about Hubby? Is she like this with other people, also? (i.e. Is it "just the way she is?").
From the info you've given, it sounds like this is one of those festering sores-of... (read in full...)
How do you know if it's going to be just FWBs or lead to something else? I want to avoid being used!
Q. This is a general question which I'm sure will have varied opinions but I'm asking because of situations I've been in which I just don't know how I could have prevented. I'm going to use the classic girl / boy situation because it seems the most ...
A. 5 June 2014: Here's the "key" to it all.... right here in your submittal: "... in this day and age rarely happens. I would assume that dating or sleeping with someone is leading to a relationship unless you have both agreed it's only sex but it seems that it's ... (read in full...)
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