My parents don't like my boyfriend and I feel bad going against their wishes
Q. I have been dating this boy for about 5 months now. I am 22 and while I've gone out with a few guys, I've never been in a serious relationship before as my parents are mega strict on these matters. The boy I am dating lives in Manchester (I am in ...
A. 9 November 2014: Some parents really struggle when "their little girl" grows up and becomes an adult.... and commences to making adult decisions on her own behalf.....
I think that's what you have described.... and the only thing that YOU can do is remind them tha... (read in full...)
I found my wife cheated for 10 years, but I'm staying for the kids. Any advice?
Q. My wife and I dated 4 years and were married 10 years and 2 months when I found out she was having an affair with the same man the entire time. We have two daughters, now 4 and 7. Turns out the other guy was married and his wife found out. Tur...
A. 8 November 2014: Are your kids both your's????? You might want to arrange to have that confirmed......
Meanwhile, the only task that you face is how to dump this cheating, lying woman and get on with your life WITHOUT HER.....
Good luck....
... (read in full...)
Wishing and waiting but he never comes home.
Q. I am going absolutely crazy. My husband and I have 2 kids (1yr old and 3yr old), They have alot of emotional issues and are really hard to keep under control so I need his help more then the average mother and woman. My husband is ALWAYS gone out ...
A. 8 November 2014: So...... your "husband," approximately, carries on his life with not a whit of concern for you......????
How long do you suppose that you will - or will want to - put up with this neglect???????
The answer to my question will give you the ans... (read in full...)
Why and when do men not orgasm?
Q. I've been seeing someone over the course of five months. Well I never labaled it with seeing him, that's just how he puts it in his own words. Anyhow, things have been 'rocky' from the get go, from what's. been said, to my behavior towards...
A. 6 November 2014: I don't have orgasms when I think of my Mother-in-law.....
It happens if I fail to turn flat the photograph of her, which my wife keeps on her bedside table....
P.S. Don't remind me that I could turn off the lights... because, I swear, the ima... (read in full...)
Is it normal to still miss your ex after 6 months?
Q. I was with my ex for nearly 2 1/2 years and we broke about up 6 months ago. I was feeling ok until a few weeks ago and now i think about him all the time and miss him so much. When breaking up with ex's before i had always jumped into another rel...
A. 6 November 2014: If it's any consolation.... I have "carried a torch" for my high-school sweetheart for about 50 years now....
It's OK to miss someone.... but don't let it determine how you live (the rest of) your life...
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I want love and affection but I also don't want to get hurt!
Q. Simple question how can i tell if a guy is interested and want to get to know me or just wants to hit and run i understand that i have a hard time letting other people in because of a previous relationship which has caused me to put up a wall but ...
A. 6 November 2014: Unfortuately, there is "risk" in much of what we do in life. After all, you could be struck by lightning, OR, you could win a Lottery... this afternoon!
What we all need to consider is the RELATIVE risk versus the RELATIVE reward for and of w... (read in full...)
The clock is ticking and I feel like I am running out of time!
Q. I am in my last year of my 20s and I have not met "the one" yet also I am still in the process of finishing my masters degree. Sometimes I feel like I did not get all the stuff I wanted to get done by the time I turned 30. When I was a teenager I ...
A. 6 November 2014: Remember when Abby Hoffman said, "never trust anyone over 30 (y.o.)..." (Maybe your parents remember...) He was a rebellious teenager at the time (the "60's)... and 30 sounded 'way off in the future, to him....
Good news...... "30" is not the ... (read in full...)
Actions Are Louder Than Words?
Q. My latest "best friend in life" and I have been in a committed relationship going on 19 months. We addressed the "wondering eye" syndrome and his "friends on facebook", and I finally had told him that since he said, "I will never hurt you", I told ...
A. 5 November 2014:
You write: "I think it is time to say "goodbye"! "
I agree....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
What does it mean when he says I am his "guilty pleasure"?
Q. What does it mean if a man tells you your his guilty pleasure? What would it mean to you if you were to say this to someone or someone was to say this to you? How would you translate this in your inner world? Personally, humorous, passing c...
A. 5 November 2014: It means he's trying his darndest to compliment you.... but you ARE - after all - his "bit on the side".... hence the "guilty." (Translaton: He's married, or has some other girlfriend out there....)....
Ask HIM to interpret this for you.... ... (read in full...)
Advice on what a break means.
Q. So my girlfriend and I have been dating for two years. However, out of the blue, she sent a text message asking for a break. She said she didn't want things to end, just a short break. It was not stemmed from a fight and she made it clear she still ...
A. 5 November 2014: Chigirl nailed it. Whilest it's usually us guys who do the "break" routine .... so we can try out some little hottie who's caught our eye.... it's not unheard of that the lady try the same thing....
Tread lightly, and don't let your heart ov... (read in full...)
Is it out of line for me to try and initiate spontaneous sex ? I keep getting rejected by my wife
Q. hey there, I have been in a relationship for seven years now and my wife continues to reject my spontaneous advances. I understand things could be approached the wrong way, but I try and be fun or cute and at times alpha to initiate somethin...
A. 5 November 2014: Been there; done that.... EXCEPT without the planned-out intimacy, as well.....
You simply have to reconcile if you and wifey can find ANY (other) means of intimacy that will "go to" your desire to have intimacy (sex) in some manner other th... (read in full...)
Does he truly love me or am I being taken for a mug?
Q. I have been with my partner for two years he moved into my place about 2 months of us being together, I told him it wasn't a good idea because it was too soon. He pretty much begged me and told me that everything would be perfect such as sharing ...
A. 1 November 2014: The entire substance of your submittal is this:
"...I have supported him for pretty much the entire time he has been living with me. I am a student and a mother to a teenager, the money I receive for my course has been supporting everythi... (read in full...)
He's never said he loves me -- does he?
Q. My boyfriend is married and said to me that i am more than just fun to him and that if he was not married that we would be a couple and has told me that he would not know what to do if i was not in his life, my sister told me to get rid of him as ...
A. 1 November 2014:
When your sister told you "...she thinks that its just lies and its just sex for him..." she was absolutely correct. WHY would you think anything else? (Did you notice that he is MARRIED???)
Good luck..... (read in full...)
We both like her -- do we negotiate?
Q. I'm in a love triangle. I like a girl and so does another guy. Should I speak to him about it? Do I ask if he likes her? Or does that show me as insecure. If he knows I like her then maybe he will back off or fight for her? is it worth fighting over ...
A. 1 November 2014: There are two things a guy should never fight over....
1. A girl,
2. A skunk....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Can steroids and ice be reason for cheating?
Q. Hi I'm going through a tough experience. My partner and I were in an amazing rship for almost 2 years everything was perfect we were best friends and lovers n I couldn't fault him and then things changed n he was snorting ice and taking steroids.. ...
A. 30 October 2014: "Relationships" with people who ingest kooky substances are, necessarily, high-risk.... and topsy-turvy. Is THAT the kind of "relationship" you want? If "yes," then carry on as you have been. If "no," then you need to get away from this guy and ... (read in full...)
We got back together but the spark just isn't there
Q. We've been together for 5 years and we lose that spark we had before. We almost argue and fight all the time and we broke up 3 months before and now getting back together again. But things have changed and so do our feelings. He said he doe...
A. 30 October 2014: We can cut to the quick with this: "I feel so helpless and depressed.I wish I can be more like a better person for him? I don't know why he loves me while I don't have any good quality in myself.".....
There's only ONE question.... do you and ... (read in full...)
He wants to live with us and I don't want him to think it's a free ride
Q. Hello Aunts and Uncles. I guess I need some advice from strangers purely because everyone who knows me or my boyfriend seem to be giving their opinion based on how things were between us before. We have a four year old son, and he wasn't plan...
A. 30 October 2014: Just think of the obvious benefits.... IF you let him move in with you.... you will have TWO children to tend to...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Send BF a naughty video but he has not responded to it yet.
Q. Hi everyone. My boyfriend is on vacation with his family in China. He will be back in a few days. Yesterday I sent him a naughty video of myself talking dirty and looking very sexy. I was fully clothed but I really stepped it up. Like a real fant...
A. 30 October 2014: I'm surprised that a woman of your age (36-40) did something so "giggly-teenage-girl" like...... BUT, it's done.... (Now, please let me step down off my "Holier-than-thou" soapbox with this:)
.... regarding your angst at not receivin... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a woman to be completely addicted to her man?
Q. Hey everyone, I have been lately observing 2 of my friends and how they behave in their relationships, and I have been wondering a lot about whether this is the right way for a couple to be. The 2 examples (especially the 2nd one) are rat...
A. 29 October 2014: I EXPECT my lady-friends to be addicted to me... since I am such a HOT guy... and they (those lucky ladies!) can bank their lives and happiness on me!!!!!... (read in full...)
My Boyfriend and his ex-sister in law! I am incandesant with anger over this. What could or should I do?
Q. My boyfriend slept with his ex sister in-law, so that now has a baby by his brother. I can't get over the past and I don't think I ever will. I hate that "BITCH" and she's part of their family which I can't stand!!!What should I do about this s...
A. 29 October 2014: Based on what you've written.... I can't figure out who impregnated WHOM...... and WHO should be the object of your vitriole. Would you please re-submit this question and confirm just who is doing what to whom??????
Awaiting your response... (read in full...)
How can I tell him I'd rather have a piece of jewellery than chocolates as a present, and not sound ungrateful?
Q. So, on my birthday my boyfriend (of about 9 months) bought me chocolates, along with taking me out for dinner and dessert. I enjoyed it, afterwards we spent some time together on the beach and I acknowledge he did spend a fair amount of money on...
A. 29 October 2014: You "sound" 'way too interested in the GIFT instead of the THOUGHT behind it.......
Good luck....
P.S. There's NO WAY to "criticize" a gift without sounding ungrateful........ (read in full...)
My Dad has told me he's disowning me for spending the night with my Bf. Feel incredibly hurt. What can I do?
Q. I'm sorry if this post is lengthy and/or complicated. I'm 19 years old, and ever since I turned 18, I've been having more and more issues with my dad. My parents are divorced, and are very different from each other. My dad is very overprotecti...
A. 28 October 2014: The BIG picture is, that your Father wants you to remain a 5-year-old - forever - who he controls in every way....
YOU are beginning to realize that you are actually becoming an adult, and need to behave like an adult.... with that meaning ... (read in full...)
I resent her, and feel bad about not forgiving her, this time. Is it time to break up with her?
Q. On Wednesday night I found out my girlfriend had been actively looking for someone on a dating site, after logging into the account I seen she was flirting/dirty talking with this other person, I confronted her the second I found it. We've been...
A. 28 October 2014: Soooooo, what's to stop you from snipping the cord, dumping her, and getting on with your life???
Surely, you don't expect that you'll run in to ANOTHER such insincere, unfaithful and conniving woman during just ONE lifetime!!!!!
Good lu... (read in full...)
Trying to process my 60 year old mother's cavallier attitude to taking a married lover. How do I deal with this?
Q. I'm having some issues with my mother right now. She called me tonight to get my opinion on if I would be okay with her sleeping with a man a few years older than me. I told her I didn't care about the age factor. Then I commented that a...
A. 27 October 2014: I have two suggestions:
1. You write: "....Sometimes you need someone to turn to for moral guidance." Your Mother is, clearly, not that person.... and,
2. If the roles were reversed, would you expect your Mother to sound the alarm, and c... (read in full...)
I think my friend is trying to get pregnant by another friend of mine without him knowing -- do I tell him?
Q. Hi people, Im in a very very awkward situation and any help would be greatly greatly appreciated!! (everyone is 22 Y/O) A little background: My friend who I will call Jane and I hav been friends for a little over 6 years. She and her Boyfrie...
A. 23 October 2014: My advice: You say to your "friend": "For you to try to get pregnant is a FRAUD..... and I am going to tell John that THAT is what he faces in the near future. Armed with THAT information, he can make his OWN decision as to whether or not he's ... (read in full...)
He's amazing but he does drugs. Am I being too fussy by finding it a deal breaker?
Q. I recently met a 30-year-old guy whom I hit it off really well with - he flirts with me heavily all the time and he is clearly a very kind person (he stopped to give an old lady change for the bus the other day because she couldn't find her purse - ...
A. 14 October 2014: You ask: "Drugs are a deal breaker for me, even if it's just a small amount. Am I being too fussy here?"
Answer: Nope, you're not. Stay away from him....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How do I break up with this liar I love?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've met this guy ten months ago. He seemed like a decent individual. We took our time to get to know one another. We've been intimate approximately 6 times throughout the 10 months of dating. I've always been skeptical about ...
A. 14 October 2014: You commence to IGNORING him...in every way.....
.... and, if/when he asks: "Do I detect that you are ignoring me?" YOU say: "I'm sorry, are you talking to me?"
He should get the "picture."
Good luck..... ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting about my boyfriend's comment?
Q. My boyfriend said something last night that has left me feeling insecure this morning so I would like other opinions on whether I'm overreacting and just take it as him being honest. We were talking last night about opposite sexes/physical ...
A. 14 October 2014: Yes.... you're overthinking and overreacting. It's OK to discuss things/ideas/concepts that you don't have.... as long as that is the nature of discussion.....
Many of us discuss such things as sexual/sensual fantasies with our partners... (read in full...)
I've lost my sex drive and I'm starting to resent him
Q. My sex drive has completely disappeared but my boyfriend still initiates sex every time I see him. I usually end up having sex (or at least using my mouth or hands) because I feel so awful for not wanting to, but I'm really starting to resent it. I ...
A. 13 October 2014: Think of sex as a yo-yo. It only succeeds when TWO things happen.... the yo-yo goes DOWN, and the yo-yo goes UP. IF the yo-yo only goes in one direction (typically DOWN, since gravity helps with that), then the yo-yoer shakes his/her head and ... (read in full...)
Torn between my ex husband and the other guy. What should I do?
Q. I am torn between my ex husband and my new guy. Here is the story, My life overal was not too bad but I have been unhappy from some issues which my ex wouldn't do anything about it. The main issue was him being over passive and his family over ...
A. 13 October 2014: Honeypie has given you the truth about yourself and your submittal. LISTEN to what she's told you.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
What can I do? She is my very loyal LDR Gf. If I tell her how often I cheated she may breakup with me.
Q. Hi, in 2009 i was visiting my friend in another town so i met and she is a neigbour of my friend ,she gave me her numbers when i went home the same day i called her we talked suddenly the following day her phone was not working,so i thought like she ...
A. 13 October 2014: You know, of course, that your beaviour - as revealed herein - is despicable... and is a terrible disservice to this woman who - silently or otherwise - dedicated herself to you?????
You CANNOT BREAK OFF WITH HER SOON ENOUGH!!!!! ... such tha... (read in full...)
Does sex always result in soreness for the next day or two?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles, I've been with my BF for about a year, and things are going pretty well :) I do have one issue though…if we have sex for a long time (say, 30 minutes or even an hour), I will be VERY sore the next day, and sometimes it l...
A. 12 October 2014: THIS, Dear Girl.... is why your local pharmacy offers such products as K-Y Jelly and Astroglide....... We guys aren't terribly concerned about whether or not you GIRLS are enjoying what's going on... WE are quite content to assure that "Mr Happy" ... (read in full...)
Have I overstepped the mark with my FWB ?
Q. Ok so yesterday I had sex with one of my friends (we have a kind of FWB thing going on). Afterwards we were chatting and I happened to mention that I had told my mum that I was revising at his house and that it was looking kind of suspicio...
A. 12 October 2014: Cindy: I'm with you. I couldn't BEGIN to understand what is "FWB" as well as "hooking up".... The back seat of my '56 Pontiac NEVER saw the likes of what we are learning/hearing about on this site!!!!... (read in full...)
Is it over or will he be back? Has he been telling me lies and have his family assisted him to get away from me?
Q. My. boyfriend lived with me for 9 months..told me I was the best thing that ever hhappened to him. He said he wanted to marry me. The appartment people were not going to renew my lease, one reason was because he was there. I wanted to start ...
A. 12 October 2014: So much drama described... but down at the "bottom line" it's clear that you have fallen for a philanderer who's not worth a whit of your time or attention....
Put time and space between the two of you... and be happy that this "thing" never we... (read in full...)
I have a lot of anger towards him. We both shout at each other a lot. How can this be resolved?
Q. My husband has been shouting at me and sometimes hitting me and calling me lots of names. I have put up with it, now I feel like a very angry person and I shout back at him a lot and I can not speak to him nicely and even when he tries to be nice ...
A. 12 October 2014: You write: ".....My husband has been shouting at me and sometimes hitting me..."
ALL the rest of your submittal makes no difference.... you get away from him and STAY away from him..... You can't actually speak to them... but there are OOODLES ... (read in full...)
Why does my husband continue to destroy me like this? What do I do?
Q. Please please help me, im so hurt, demoralised and depressed, i really am breaking down. Ok, so, we've hardly spoken for 4 weeks now. I only speak in reply to him when i am spoken to, that way, he cant accuse me of prying or accusing him!! After 20...
A. 11 October 2014: Your marriage is over, no doubt. WHAT is this "hobby" to which you refer???????... (read in full...)
He only lasts 3 minutes in bed so what did he do for 30 minutes with the prostitutes?
Q. I'm still suffering emotionally and mentally in finding out about my husband going to prostitutes across 2 years , he was visiting a brothel , he says he was going about 1 month and says we had problems , then he says that it's because he was ...
A. 9 October 2014: Forget the "3-minutes-versus-30 minutes" thing and focus on THIS.... which is the crux of your submittal: "....he says he would never go there again as he doesn't want to loose his family !!"
What's happened is, that he got caught with his pant... (read in full...)
Am I too shy? Am I not forward enough? What am I doing wrong?
Q. I feel a bit pathetic writing to an agony aunt site but i feel like nobody understands how i'm feeling. I've been single for 5 years now and i feel like i'll never have another relationship. The last guy i was involved with ended in disaster. I f...
A. 9 October 2014: Q: "One guy at work said i come across as someone who wouldn't be very easy to get into bed. Is that a good thing?"
A: Yes.... it's a good thing to NOT put out for any Tom, Dick or Harry who shows you a little interest....
Hold on to yo... (read in full...)
Are my doubts unfounded? He wanted to fly to Australia to visit a female friend!
Q. A few months ago my bf and I argued over him wanting to travel to Australia to visit a female friend. I felt extremely uncomfortable because 1) he refused to tell me what they would be doing there 2) I have never met this girl before 3) he wa...
A. 9 October 2014: Q: "Are my doubts even unfounded? "
A: Nope. He's playing you and you'll be wise to dump his sorry bottom....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
He completely refuses to call me pet names!
Q. My boyfriend refuses to call me pet names. I feel so unloved. Especially after sex. Does it mean he does not love me? I only asked him to do that after we make love. Not all the time but he refused. I feel put off having sex with him. Being ...
A. 9 October 2014: Cindy was just right. Refocus and convince yourself to dump this worthless creep......
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Why would he hide this friendship with this 21 year old?
Q. My boyfriend of 45 unbeknown to me has befriended his neighbours granddaughter of 21 as she has been helping out there with the grand parents who have been unwell. He works from home and she is next door helping every day as she is unemployed. ...
A. 9 October 2014: Rare, indeed, is the 45-year-old guy who doesn't DREAM of having a hot, 21-year-old "on the side".......
You have a choice to make....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
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