He told me I shouldn't try to wear a bikini again! Yet he looks at porn when I'm out of the house! Am I wrong to take this to heart?
Q. My stomach was severely covered in stretch marks after having our first baby. Its been 3 years and I've worked really hard to get back down to my college weight. So I said something to my husband about trying to get back into a bikini. He told me ...
A. 3 September 2013: Your husband is a douche.... (read in full...)
He's moved back in with an ex and says he needs to spend days or weeks without me so he can miss me. Huh?
Q. A man and woman have been living together on and off for four years; the man moved out a year ago, however they have maintained contact and have stated they both want to work on the relationship and renew it.. the man had no place to go (he has no ...
A. 3 September 2013: You've become the "getting his physical needs met" woman in his life. She is his emotional needs. Move on. ... (read in full...)
I tried so hard to protect her but she left me because she was scared of me.
Q. My ex was diagnosed with PTSD. I did everything in my power to try to be her protector. I knew logically that I couldn't save her from all she was dealing with, but I always, always was there for her. If she called in the middle of the night, I'd ...
A. 26 August 2013: It's good to know I'm not alone. This whole thing has me so overwhelmed. Thank you for you input.
It's hard to cope with the guilt of feeling like the fight we had made her stop loving me. Can someone really stop loving you because of a fight li... (read in full...)
I tried so hard to protect her but she left me because she was scared of me.
Q. My ex was diagnosed with PTSD. I did everything in my power to try to be her protector. I knew logically that I couldn't save her from all she was dealing with, but I always, always was there for her. If she called in the middle of the night, I'd ...
A. 26 August 2013: Sincerely, thank you so much for your responses. They actually really touched my heart. I gave so much of myself - everything - to her. And she was my absolute best friend. This has left my heart ripped out. I feel like a walking open wound. I feel ... (read in full...)
My ex said can't give me false hope??
Q. my ex bf and i have hung out quite few times since the break up and yes we have "hooked up" but told me he cant give me false hope that we are getting back together..what does that mean? will he change his mind?...
A. 23 August 2013: it means that he's not looking to get back together with you and he's hoping not to lead you on. he's sleeping with you because it's easy and convenient and because he's comfortable with you. but he doesn't want any of the emotions and obligations ... (read in full...)
My friend doesn't approve of one night stands and now she won't speak to me because I told her that I had one!
Q. So a few months ago I went home with one of my friend's roommates after a party (I was a freshman in college) and we ended up sleeping together. I don't regret a thing, but my best friend from high school doesn't really like how college has changed ...
A. 23 August 2013: first of all, you have no obligation to tell her your personal life or any of the private things you do. your personal life is YOURS. you have the right to tell or keep whatever you choose to yourself. so don't feel bad about not telling her.
... (read in full...)
Is he trying to make me jealous using facebook? Why?
Q. Ok this is really really Weird. This guy I have a major crush on tagged me in a picture on Facebook. The picture was of him, his friend and two girls! None of these people were tagged in the picture,he only said "just having fun right now" and ...
A. 23 August 2013: It means he's an immature idiot who intentionally tagged you in an obvious and horrible pathetic attempt to make you jealous. I can't believe he tried to play it off by saying he didn't know how you wound up tagged. So lame. Just ignore him. He's a ... (read in full...)
I once let a guy film us having sex, which he then showed to his friends. I'm dating someone new and I'm not sure whether I should tell him about this incident.
Q. Once in my past, I let a guy that I trusted briefly film us having sex. He then showed it to a few of his friends, and for some reason I didn't stop him. I told him no, that I didn't want him to, but he did anyways and I just didn't know what to do ...
A. 23 August 2013: Why would you tell him? It's completely irrelevant. ... (read in full...)
Would it be alright to date a former teacher that I now work with?
Q. I have just recently become a teacher and one of my ex teachers is working at the same school I am and he is older then me and taught me for a year. However we have become friends and are getting to know each other but I was thinking would it be ...
A. 23 August 2013: There's no reason why not. You're both adults and you're no longer his student. Go for it.... (read in full...)
She doesn't want to be friends but won't block/delete my number. Why?
Q. Question for the group here thanks for any reply: A girl blocked my number previously twice and unblocked it... shes telling me to leave her alone for a few weeks, doesnt want to be friends, yet refuses to delete my number or block it again. W...
A. 22 August 2013: If she keeps blocking your number, don't call or text her. Don't worry about why.
On the other hand, she could just be being a dramatic female seeking your attention and trying to upset you.
Either way, I'd leave her alone. ... (read in full...)
I feel a bit badly for dumping my FWB for a new boyfriend!
Q. Hey, Ok so I would love some guys points of views here as I have NO idea what to think. Ive been in a friends with benefits relationship with a guy for about 2 years now, its been great really, we are great friends and its not all just physical, I...
A. 22 August 2013: you're not a bitch at all. i'm sure this guy is fine. you said yourself that you had feelings for him at first but those feelings weren't returned, so you let it go. not your fault. you did nothing wrong. i'm sure everything will be alright. he ... (read in full...)
Someone needs to tell him he's hurting people!
Q. So... Two and a half months ago my ex dumped me out of the blue no clear warning signs no nothing, just the explaination of I don't see it lasting! We'd been together btw prior to this ten months and he'd promised me basically the world telling me ...
A. 22 August 2013: you can say your peace if you would like, but if it were me, i'd just leave it be. it's just not worth it and i think you should just turn and walk away from this guy and not look back.
good luck.... (read in full...)
This man just really nice, or a big creep?
Q. So people of DearCupid, please help! Is this guy grnuinely nice, or just creepy?! I work at Walmart. My manager is just a year older than me. When I met him 2 1/2 months ago, all we did was jokingly insulteach other. "ugly", "scrawny", etc, jus...
A. 20 August 2013: Get away from this dude... (read in full...)
This man just really nice, or a big creep?
Q. So people of DearCupid, please help! Is this guy grnuinely nice, or just creepy?! I work at Walmart. My manager is just a year older than me. When I met him 2 1/2 months ago, all we did was jokingly insulteach other. "ugly", "scrawny", etc, jus...
A. 20 August 2013: If he's negative, there's nothing to tell. If he's positive then holy shit. ... (read in full...)
I'm freaked out by my boyfriend telling me he loves me after one week together. Should I take a break from him?
Q. ok I have recently acquired a new boyfriend, he's really sweet and nerdy like me but we have only been going out a week and have only actually met up about five times. and then today he told me he loved me! I didn't respond I just said "see you ...
A. 15 August 2013: you should prob break up with him if you're not into him and after one week, already don't want to be with him.
he has no clue what love is if he's saying it after one week. ... (read in full...)
How do I let my boyfriend know that I don't want a ring?
Q. This may be a bit of an odd question, but it's a subject I'd rather not bring up with women I know personally because so many of them are so materialistic. My boyfriend and I are not engaged, but we are getting serious and from comments he has ...
A. 15 August 2013: my point of view is that if he doesn't even know enough about you to know that you don't want an engagement ring, then you have no business getting engaged or making a commitment like that in the first place.
you can just tell him in basic co... (read in full...)
I'm being left out and cannot escape it
Q. I will get straight into my issue. I am a self confessed introvert with social anxiety. Recently my cousins, who are my age have been going out and meeting up without inviting me. They're all pretty loud and extroverts and enjoy clubbing, which im ...
A. 15 August 2013: Why not just ask them through a text or phone call. Let them know you miss them and would love to hang out more. Or go out of your way to invite them yo lunch, etc. You don't have to wait for them. ... (read in full...)
He treats me like he dislikes me!
Q. I am 36 and am in a 7year long relationship with my man. Recently he has been snapping at me when I talk or ask him to do me a favour or pass on a message to his sister or other relatives and when I suggest things he sort of acts as though he ...
A. 15 August 2013: Yeah that's really disrespectful. Sounds like you two need a break from each other. When one person gets to where they're constantly snapping, maybe too much time around each other has been occurring. I'm sure you two live together. Could you stay ... (read in full...)
If someone has regretted starting smoking at some point, will they ever quit?
Q. As much as I hate that you can't make someone quit smoking I understand that it has to be their choice. I just wondered though, although I am possibly living in hope. If someone has regretted starting smoking at some point, will they ever quit? At ...
A. 14 August 2013: Okay I've seen so many of your posts about this same question. You've GOT to stop fixating on this. If he wants to quit, he will quit. Period. That's all there is to it. End of story. ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend jealous or is she mad at me for not being jealous at her?
Q. I have trust issues because of my past, I'm in a ldr with a wonderful girl and I try to do things all right this time. my councellor suggested me to stop asking about her whereabouts and whit whom is she hanging out with. she also suggested to have ...
A. 13 August 2013: Well it sounds like she should have been sufficiently filled in as to what you are working through and towards. I guess she's just upset because she's not used to you going out and not contacting her like usual? Like I said though, that's pretty ... (read in full...)
This man just really nice, or a big creep?
Q. So people of DearCupid, please help! Is this guy grnuinely nice, or just creepy?! I work at Walmart. My manager is just a year older than me. When I met him 2 1/2 months ago, all we did was jokingly insulteach other. "ugly", "scrawny", etc, jus...
A. 13 August 2013: He's psycho. Run for the hills. ... (read in full...)
While visiting my LDR boyfriend he talked on the phone to a girl friend and left me in a store alone. Do I have a right to be upset?
Q. I am in long distance relationship with my boyfriend.. This time when we were at a store picking things up for the house,he got a call even before we entered the store from a friend who is a girl who happens to be in the same place and she wanted t...
A. 13 August 2013: shady!! i'm sorry, but my shady alarm is going off. maybe he's got another ldr? or two? who knows. but why would he need to walk away from you to talk to her? couldn't talk to her in front of you? only reason for that is if he's got something to ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is careless and thoughtless when it comes to our relationship!
Q. I feel as though my boyfriend is thoughtless, conceited, forgetful, and more importantly careless when it comes to our relationship. To make a long story short, he forgot about me last Christmas and my birthday this year. He promised me several ...
A. 13 August 2013: what do you mean exactly by he forgot about you?... (read in full...)
How can I learn to be more caring and trusting of my boyfriend?
Q. My inability to trust my boyfriend and my own insecurity is beginning to cause relationship problems. I love him, I really do so very much. He has been there for me whenever he can through the rough year I've just had. But for some reason I still ...
A. 13 August 2013: i understand trust issues. i struggled with them for years, and still to this day, struggle some. my experiences in my past had left me assuming the absolute worst in everyone. it's a miserable feeling. the only thing you can do is make an ultimate ... (read in full...)
How do I let her know I like her and can't wait for the next date but not come across as an annoying idiot?
Q. Hi I just met this girl, she is much younger than me, but this isn't the first time I've hung out with a younger girl so I am aware of any potential pitfalls. She was very nervous about meeting me and backed out once, but the second attempt it ...
A. 13 August 2013: She's initiated contact already by texting you that first night right after. She clearly is into you, otherwise she would not have contacted you after you dropped her off. She wants to see you again. She's prob just waiting on you to initiate first ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend jealous or is she mad at me for not being jealous at her?
Q. I have trust issues because of my past, I'm in a ldr with a wonderful girl and I try to do things all right this time. my councellor suggested me to stop asking about her whereabouts and whit whom is she hanging out with. she also suggested to have ...
A. 13 August 2013: Have you discussed any of the things you've talked about in therapy with her? Have you shared these things with her?... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend jealous or is she mad at me for not being jealous at her?
Q. I have trust issues because of my past, I'm in a ldr with a wonderful girl and I try to do things all right this time. my councellor suggested me to stop asking about her whereabouts and whit whom is she hanging out with. she also suggested to have ...
A. 13 August 2013: So she wants you to trust her and not ask questions, but you're not allowed to expect the same in return? You seem like you're doing great and making a lot of progress. It takes a lot of effort and hard work to work on bettering yourself like that ... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend's much older brother. Does that make me a bad person?
Q. I have a wonderful boyfriend. Who's loving, caring, funny and perfect! He makes my life complete and without him I'm nothing. Just since we have had a few large problems.. He finds away of escaping from reality. What has lead me to socialize with ...
A. 13 August 2013: I love how you start by saying how much you love your boyfriend and how perfect, wonderful, and amazing he is and how without him, you're nothing. But then go on to talk about how badly you want his bro. It doesn't go both ways. Either you love your ... (read in full...)
This man just really nice, or a big creep?
Q. So people of DearCupid, please help! Is this guy grnuinely nice, or just creepy?! I work at Walmart. My manager is just a year older than me. When I met him 2 1/2 months ago, all we did was jokingly insulteach other. "ugly", "scrawny", etc, jus...
A. 13 August 2013: He's creepy.... (read in full...)
Was it wrong of me to ask my b/f if he and a female friend had hooked up in the past?
Q. My bf and I are in somewhat of a LDR as we only see each other on weekends. We've been doing this for 2 years. He recently relocated to another area for school but he's still as far away as before, just in another direction. Last week he told me he ...
A. 13 August 2013: That's not a bad question at all, as you're just feeling out the situation. That's normal. Your boyfriend sounds like he has something to hide. Otherwise, why get so mad and defensive? ... (read in full...)
Was he right to compare my body to a woman in a porn movie
Q. I've been dieting and lost 12 lbs thus far. I was doing this mainly to lose some tummy fat that settled as I have grown a little older. This seems to be the hardest area for me to lose it. My boyfriend, we are talking about marriage, and ha...
A. 13 August 2013: lol his comment completely lacked tact and was really stupid on his behalf. i swear, what would possess someone to say something so dumb? you have every right to be pissed. i would drop it, though, as i don't think he meant it to hurt you. i just ... (read in full...)
I need to break up with my boyfriend but I love him so much. How do I do this?
Q. Hi all. I REALLY need advice how to break up with someone, me and my LDR boyfriend have a great relationship and we have lots of laughs and fun, but right now I am going through problems in my life right now and cannot hold a relationship. ...
A. 12 August 2013: when you truly love someone, you find a way to make it work. ... (read in full...)
How do I deal when my boyfriend stares at women in front of me and his boss and his wife
Q. My boyfriend is a high ranking executive with a juvenile behavior towards women I am finding out. We have dated for a couple of years. A couple times a year he has to go to a conference with the director of the board and his wife. They are ...
A. 12 August 2013: it's rude, obnoxious, and extremely disrespectful. who wants to be the girlfriend of the dude who is blatantly staring and checking out every other woman in the room? when you see men do this with their wives or girlfriends sitting right next to ... (read in full...)
I've decided to break it off -- what's the best way to tell him?
Q. well here I am two years later with the same guy that I orginally had "the talk" with, not once but twice! First time it didn't phase our momentum of hooking up, but second time we didn't speak for 4 months and didn't see one another for like ...
A. 12 August 2013: for closure's sake, send him a text and end it. or formally call him and speak over the phone, to ensure he gets it.
... (read in full...)
Some of my friends have turned on me. Do I confront them?
Q. I am 17 and still at school (at the moment it is the summer holidays). At the end of July i went on holiday, whilst i was away my friendship group met up, which is fine, but while they did this one member of the group starting bitching about me, and ...
A. 12 August 2013: girls. god, i swear. i sure wish i could understand why girls feel the need to be so back stabbing and bitchy to one another. i say girls like i'm not one. but i don't do that shit. never have. anyway, you confront the girls and tell them it's not ... (read in full...)
He stares at my lips while speaking. Does this mean anything?
Q. So there is an older man.. about 10 years older, I am 21... He is my superior at work. He's really smart and I find myself really attracted to him. Every time he is explaining something to me he looks at my lips while he speaks. And when he is t...
A. 12 August 2013: maybe it means he's really good at eye contact?
no one can really speculate what it means without being a fly on the wall to watch you two interact. does he go out of his way to touch you at all in the slightest? does he find ways of bumping ... (read in full...)
He dates me and then ignores me! He's done this twice and I want it to stop
Q. So I met a guy that's 2 years younger than me last year in November, we really got along well and were going on dates till he completely stopped speaking to me at a stage, then eventually he said he couldn't be in a relationship at that time. So my ...
A. 12 August 2013: yep, you get him out of your life. he's just using you for his own fun and enjoyment when he feels like getting attention and having a good time. he's flaky and he'll always be like that towards you. remove him from your life.... (read in full...)
Nearly two years after breaking up and I'm still not over her
Q. Why do I still cry now and again over a break up that happened 20 months ago? We were together 5 years then she ended it saying she wanted to be on her own. Within a month she had someone else. Only after the break up did I discover she had...
A. 12 August 2013: you will. this one is just taking a bit longer because it hurt so much and it all came as such a shock. you said for a whole year, you struggled with getting yourself back to normal. but here you are now, and you're better than you were then. you're ... (read in full...)
Fight with a drunk boyfriend and he didn't even try to contact me after fight
Q. So yesterday I went with my boyfriend and some friends to a mini concert of a band, the thing is that It was 21 or older (we didn't know) and i was the only one with 21 in the group, so I said: "Stay here, I know people that work here, ok". I got in ...
A. 12 August 2013: first and foremost, your boyfriend is a huge wuss if he gets drunk off of just that. what a light weight.
second, you're not as innocent as you may think. that was very passive aggressive what you texted him. it's like nagging. he was out with fri... (read in full...)
The people I work with are so horrible they won't even talk to me!
Q. Why are the people I work with so horrible? I got a new job a few months ago and the people there are just horrible. I've tried to get to know them but none of them have taken interest in getting to know me. I've given up starting small one...
A. 12 August 2013: just stop trying to get to know them and keep it all professional. go in, do your job, and leave. don't try to speak to them. that's their loss if they are so snobbish.... (read in full...)
I'm falling in love with my second cousin but our families are forbidding it!
Q. One day I was on FB and this girl had the same last name as me so I added her. We started talking and found out that we cousins but I didn't want to believe so I ignorant the fact that we was . So I starting talking about my brother and she said she...
A. 12 August 2013: hell, if you believe in the bible, you believe we are all related! all descendents of good ol' adam and eve. sisters even slept with their fathers, etc. it was a free-for-all back then. sleeping with your third cousin is nothing compared to what ... (read in full...)
I'm falling in love with my second cousin but our families are forbidding it!
Q. One day I was on FB and this girl had the same last name as me so I added her. We started talking and found out that we cousins but I didn't want to believe so I ignorant the fact that we was . So I starting talking about my brother and she said she...
A. 11 August 2013: I think its illegal in a large handful of States. Not all. Hey, do what you want to do, sweetie. If it makes you happy, then no one has a right to judge. Just know it's never going to sit well worth your family. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
I'm falling in love with my second cousin but our families are forbidding it!
Q. One day I was on FB and this girl had the same last name as me so I added her. We started talking and found out that we cousins but I didn't want to believe so I ignorant the fact that we was . So I starting talking about my brother and she said she...
A. 10 August 2013: i can never really figure out or understand how all the first, second, third, or thrice removed cousin crap works. but a good rule of thumb is never to date your cousin. period. that's your family, girl. it's a no no. lol. you're young. just let ... (read in full...)
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