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writes:One day I was on FB and this girl had the same last name as me so I added her. We started talking and found out that we cousins but I didn't want to believe so I ignorant the fact that we was. So I starting talking about my brother and she said she had a brother to and she told me to add him. So I did and we started talking alot and Skypeing alot and I knew he liked me but we was cousins tho. So I always had a bf and he would still help me with the problems I had. So I one day I was at my dads house and me and my(cousin) wanted to date And we did. So I told my dad who I was dating and he was like who and I said he's name again and my dad was like that's ur cousin. So we argued about it and I didn't listen to him. So my dad told my my hole about it .. They said that we r 2 cousins by my grandpa brothers son son. So we broke up and he was still talkin to me. He's parnets don't wants us to be together so he wanted to keep it from them and he couldn't become his mom went throw his email and told me to not talk to him again bc if that fact and he will be in big trouble bc he kept it from her again. But I really love him. I don't know what to do? Please help me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's a good thing to know. I'm realize that everything is true. I will look back and say why did I do that :)! Thank u
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reader, llifton +, writes (12 August 2013):
 hell, if you believe in the bible, you believe we are all related! all descendents of good ol' adam and eve. sisters even slept with their fathers, etc. it was a free-for-all back then. sleeping with your third cousin is nothing compared to what went on then!
you're going to do a lot of changing in the next ten, twenty years of your life. well more accurately, you'll be doing a lot of changing until the day you die. that's what life is all about - learning and changing. life experiences mold your opinions and ideas about the world around you. what you think now, will NOT be what you think in ten years from now. and so on for the rest of your life. take me for example. i'm 29 and when i look back on when i was a lot younger, i'm amazed at how dumb i was, haha. no seriously. i was an idiot. no body could tell me anything because i already knew everything. especially my parents. my dad was always such a drag. he would always tell me what i should and shouldn't do for my own good. i always huffed and puffed because i knew best. but something crazy happened when i turned 25. i realized everything he ever told me was *gasp* right. and if i had just listened to him, my life would have been so much easier. but then again, that's what youth is all about. learning things the hard way and gaining your own knowledge. adults like to tell kids what to do because they've been through it and know better. they really do. but we aren't doing anybody any justice by not letting them learn from their own mistakes the hard way. the hard way sometimes means royally fucking up. but hey, at least you know never to do it again! so what i'm saying is to take this in stride. adults don't know everything. but we know a lot because we have more life experience. and that's what we speak from. so try not to get offended.
do what you want to do. you came on here for opinions, right? that's what everyone is giving. we don't have to agree with you. it sounds like you already know what you want to do. so don't worry about what anyone else says. no sense in wasting your time asking others what you should do when you don't care to hear a different perspective than what matches yours.
good luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo matter anybody say in this life time. People r going to do what in the hell they want in the mean wild! I'm not trying to mean but god said not to date ur siblings or first cousins. That how Adam Ana eve came in place. I hate that people don't think that us teenage don't know bout love. I think I have that feeling u know. It just hurts that older ppl think they know it all but we know to. I'm sorry if I'm being nasty about it..:\
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys I will deside what to do! U made me think alot but when I love someone I love them. It's like he's not my cousin. We will never let this one go away. It's very hard to forget bout it bc he's still going to try he's hards to get me back no matter what he's parents say..
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (11 August 2013):
 Its quite clear that regardless of what we say you're going to do as you please so go ahead, just know that as llifton has already said, it sure as hell won't sit right with your family. However if you don't mind all the drama dating your cousin will cause and if you think you can handle it, go ahead but don't cry when things turn sour one day.
Do what's best for you in the long run, not what you would like right now.
Goodluck
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reader, llifton +, writes (11 August 2013):
I think its illegal in a large handful of States. Not all. Hey, do what you want to do, sweetie. If it makes you happy, then no one has a right to judge. Just know it's never going to sit well worth your family. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe is my sceond cousin and didnt the blood run thin after that and he's on my grandpas side witch his brother than his brother had a son then he had a son and it wouldn't matter?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe is my sceond cousin tho
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reader, Dionee' +, writes (10 August 2013):
He's you cousin. Family is off limits. I say let it go as there are plenty boys out there to date besides a cousin
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reader, llifton +, writes (10 August 2013):
i can never really figure out or understand how all the first, second, third, or thrice removed cousin crap works. but a good rule of thumb is never to date your cousin. period. that's your family, girl. it's a no no. lol. you're young. just let this one go and you'll move on. not to forget to mention that it's gonna cause a lot of family drama. and make family reunions quite interesting! find a guy who's not related to you.
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