Crush admitted that he kissed me only because he was drunk!
Q. Ok I've been in love with this guy for like 2 years but he's never gown that kind of interest in me, we're just close friends - we can talk about whatever- and sometimes we flirt a little but he flirts with everyone really, anyway we got drunk at a ...
A. 26 September 2013: I'm sorry that happened to you. I know it's confusing. Here's what I know from much experience:
He was drunk and on the rebound. Lord, I can't count how many times I've said stuff like and done stuff like that because of my idiotic drunken ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's dad has terminal cancer and we're having trouble. Do I talk to him about things?
Q. I was wanting to have a serious relationship chat with my bf of 6 yrs, about whether he actually wanted to be with me because he never seems that happy and thus I am never that happy. However, we've just found out his dad has lung cancer which is ...
A. 26 September 2013: I agree. Absolutely do not abandon him now or have the talk now unless you do intend to remove him from your life for good. Because he will hate you for leaving him when he needs you most. right now, talking about relationship problems isn't in the ... (read in full...)
He didn't celebrate my birthday. Am I overreacting if I break things off?
Q. I have been dating this guy for about a month now. As far as I know, we have been seeing each other exclusively. Things have been going well this far until my birthday yesterday. I had a birthday dinner with friends scheduled for the day before my ...
A. 26 September 2013: Maybe there was a misunderstanding as to whether or not you wanted to see him that night. Or maybe he didn't remember you'd said you wanted to see him. You've only been dating a month, so if it were me, I'd probably give it another shot. you're ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says I don't have enough experience
Q. My boyfriend told me last night that he is concerned that I don't have enough sexual experience for him to get more serious about our relationship. He is concerned that since I have only been in one other serious relationship that I cant be ready ...
A. 26 September 2013: Ummmm .. what a strange boyfriend you have. No offense, but he's full of shit. ... (read in full...)
My ex and I broke up and he's moved on but I feel like I'm still at stage 1!
Q. My ex dumped me four months ago. He was my first and it was a serious relationship for both of us. We had no contact for 3 months until last month he called and said he missed me and needed me. I told him to move on because it was a bad breakup and ...
A. 26 September 2013: Ahh, under those circumstances I definitely change my opinion on reconciliation. If he's got a record of cheating, he's not worth the forgiveness again and again.
No wonder you were "controlling and clingy." He made you insecure.
As much... (read in full...)
My ex and I broke up and he's moved on but I feel like I'm still at stage 1!
Q. My ex dumped me four months ago. He was my first and it was a serious relationship for both of us. We had no contact for 3 months until last month he called and said he missed me and needed me. I told him to move on because it was a bad breakup and ...
A. 25 September 2013: You say you know he's moved on. But you mentioned that he tried calling and telling you he needs you. And persisted calling for a week after you told him to move on. It doesn't sound like either of you is over the relationship, to be honest.
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Should I move on or give him some time?
Q. I've been on a few dates with this guy and he has been a gentleman, very romantic etc. He tells me that he likes me over and over again and that he wants to get to know me. We have kissed and cuddled only. Now my problem/ confusion is tha...
A. 25 September 2013: I think it's good that he was completely honest with you and isn't just doing this behind your back. He's being respectful enough to give you the choice of what you wish to do, now having this knowledge.
Going out on a few dates with you doesn't ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's best friend is a girl who likes him and it really bothers me!
Q. Hey everyone so I'm not sure if I'm over reacting or what. But my boyfriend has a girl best friend I'm not used to dating guys who have girl best friends infact I absolutely hate it! But he's been friends with her way before we started dating. They ...
A. 25 September 2013: My feelings: who needs a relationship when you've already got a friendship like that. it's inappropriate and you shouldn't tolerate it. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says "don't get used to me doing things for you" and then does nice things. What am I supposed to do?
Q. Hey everyone, So I got into a tiff my boyfriend..earlier during the date he said 'don't get used to me doing things for you' and I don't know why he would say that when I don't make him do anything.. He never lets me pay when we go out infact w...
A. 23 September 2013: He's a really bad joker. He sees this as being humorous and funny. But really, it's annoying and awkward. He means well. He really does seem to. He just doesn't realize his words band behavior are a out off and upsetting. I feel kinda bad for him. I ... (read in full...)
But why won't the next man suffer for my last relationship?
Q. When most men that are approaching me seems to be using the same line the last one used to get me. I am a very successful young woman. A Christian, Community organizer, ambitious with awesome career since out of high school. My last relation...
A. 23 September 2013: I've met plenty of liars. My ex cheated on me the entire two years we lived together with multiple other partners. I never trusted or believed a soul after that. Not for a long time, at least. Until I realized that I can't keep going on assuming the ... (read in full...)
Wife improves behavior but I cannot love her again
Q. My wife was abusive to me and our kids for over 10 years. She did many horrendous things, including verbal abuse, lying, manipulation, and, in general, not expressing any love to me and our kids. We talked about these things over time, but she was ...
A. 23 September 2013: Yes, that's exactly it. once it's lost, it's often lost for good. In your case, she had ten years to change her behavior. she took away ten whole, happy years from your life. And at that point, it's just too late to start over like nothing happened. ... (read in full...)
Is it against the law to save photos from facebook?
Q. I have taken to saving pictures of girls in my class wearing bikinis from Facebook or Twitter. All I want to know is if it is first of all legal and secondly if its creepy to do so. I've never shown anyone this and nobody knows I do it. I am ...
A. 23 September 2013: It's completely creepy, dude. No, its not illegal. Which is exactly why you should be extremely weary of what you choose to post online. Don't be that creepy guy. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says "don't get used to me doing things for you" and then does nice things. What am I supposed to do?
Q. Hey everyone, So I got into a tiff my boyfriend..earlier during the date he said 'don't get used to me doing things for you' and I don't know why he would say that when I don't make him do anything.. He never lets me pay when we go out infact w...
A. 23 September 2013: I think your boyfriend has a really bad way of showing you he cares. Clearly he does, because he wants to pay for everything and take care of you - that's his way of showing affection and love - but he's going about it in the complete wrong way. ... (read in full...)
She asked him to cheat but I don't know what to think!
Q. Im going out with a boy who'd ex is also one of my friends. He dumped her after a huge arguement and she recently told me that she still has feelings for him. Just a week ago she wanted to break up with her current boyfriend. She didnt want to do it ...
A. 23 September 2013: What?? Lol. That's the strangest situation ever.
Why are you still friends again? Lol. ... (read in full...)
I'm seeing another side to my boyfriend after moving in together. Should I stay in this relationship?
Q. Hello, so I have been dating this guy since January and we really hit it off well, never fight, never argue, and always have a good time. We always say things like we'll spend the rest of our lives together as well, so I am extremely invested in ...
A. 23 September 2013: I think you're both in denial. You're both trying so hard to make it work, and living in a fairy tale rather than reality.
The truth is that living with someone is hard. You see all their quarks and annoyances and you find out once and for all ... (read in full...)
Normal or potential abusive boyfriend?
Q. Hello, Ive been dating my boyfriend lets call him ''bob'' for three years. During the time we've dated i've noticed he can be very possessive and controlling. He is this way about my best friends, what i eat, make up, decisions about our relati...
A. 23 September 2013: You're in an abusive relationship. he has a lot of growing up to do. There's never an excuse for saying things like that to someone, no matter how mad you are. that's ridiculous. And until he can actually recognize that his behavior is NOT ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating or just really busy?
Q. Hello ok I had met this guy who is younger than I am, he is 31, I am 40. He seems like a nice guy and we would talk on the phone pretty much every day. He also kept bugging me about when I would take the Greyhound to meet him. I kept putting it off ...
A. 23 September 2013: I don't think he could be classified as cheating, as you two aren't in a proper relationship. at least that's how it sounds to me.
Maybe he liked you but got tired of waiting to meet. Or perhaps he met someone else in the meantime who he is now s... (read in full...)
He would make plans with me, then disappear and turn off his cell.
Q. hello I have a guy friend.he met me once. he would always make plans with me. but he wouldnt turn up on the day we make plans. Its always he who makes the plans. but finally when i call him on the day he made the plan his cell is off. goes direct...
A. 22 September 2013: I wouldn't keep a person like that in my life. I can't stand when people do that crap. What's the point? Anyway, just ignore him and let it go. He's not worth it. ... (read in full...)
My experience with the first girl made me cold towards relationships.
Q. I have a pretty odd problem ATM lol I feel as though I'm incapable of getting 'feelings' for people. Maybe a fear of commitment if you will. Sooo, I've slept with 12 people in my life, I'd say 3 of them were people that I'd of been interest...
A. 22 September 2013: I've been through this, myself. I had a really bad break up when I was a bit younger, and for years after, I was completely emotionally void and shut off. I couldn't help it. I only casually dated for a few years until I finally met someone who ... (read in full...)
I ruined his birthday, but is it justified because his friendship with his ex was out of line.
Q. I'm talking to this guy and every now and then he goes and hangs out with his ex girlfriend. He knows that I don't like it at all because when hes with her I tell him not to speak to me. He tells me that hes sorry and hes trying to end things on a ...
A. 22 September 2013: You acted like an ass.... (read in full...)
Did I overreact, or is she too cold for me?
Q. I have been seeing this chick for 2 months now and the relationship so far has been very boring relationship. She really doesn't communicate. We had sex a week after we met up and it was great. Then we had sex 1 more time but it's always me ...
A. 20 September 2013: It's also possible she didn't really pick up a shift and just said that so she could leave. maybe she wants out of the relationship and isn't feeling it anymore. ... (read in full...)
Did I overreact, or is she too cold for me?
Q. I have been seeing this chick for 2 months now and the relationship so far has been very boring relationship. She really doesn't communicate. We had sex a week after we met up and it was great. Then we had sex 1 more time but it's always me ...
A. 20 September 2013: You do leave things a bit vague about what exactly you texted her and how you phrased it. However, I don't particularly blame you for breaking it off. I would need a good bit more out of a relationship than what you're getting from her, also, and I ... (read in full...)
Do I go on doing my job without justifying? Or do I try confronting her? What's the best strategy?
Q. Hi I started a new job and before we signed the contract, I asked my boss that I do not to wish to do particular tasks at work - which we have discussed at the interview but he forgot all about them once he handded out the tasks...I remind...
A. 18 September 2013: You stay quiet and just do your job. Don't create anymore drama and fuss than need be. Just go in, do your job, and leave. ... (read in full...)
New Bf almost seems to want me to be Jealous. Where should this line be drawn?
Q. I'm looking for opinions on where the line falls between being a jealous girlfriend and being a disrespectful boyfriend. I try really hard to be someone my new (about 2 months) boyfriend can stand to put up with. I give him space, I do nice thi...
A. 18 September 2013: Ummm yeah. Talking about how sexy another girl is is absolutely uncool and not acceptable. And then talking about some other girls body?? Really? You're being way too nice. I can't speculate his reasoning for acting like such a douchebag, but ... (read in full...)
His toxic ex won't respect our relationship!
Q. We've been together 3 yrs, we just got engaged recently and plan to be married soon. We both were married before for 18+ yrs. My ex is only I the picture due to our 4 kids, his ex is in the picture because she can't live without him in her life. ...
A. 18 September 2013: I agree with CMMP in that if I ever marry one day and we split, I would fully intend to keep them in my life as a friend because they had shared a lot with me. Doesn't mean I love them anymore. you can have amicable break ups with people and remain ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my teacher, told my friend who told her family. Help!
Q. I can't tell my friends about anything. I told one of my friends about a crush recently.....she told her entire family. My secrets have gone viral. The trouble is, her family know who I am crushing on....they could tell him ANY MINUTE now! I am so ...
A. 17 September 2013: Calm down. It's not the end of the world. So your friend told her parents. So what? What are they gonna do? Tell the whole world? I assure you they have better things to do than worry about who a teenage girl is crushing on this week/month. I'm sure ... (read in full...)
Everytime his parents come to visit, he goes MIA!
Q. Hey everyone, I am dating my boyfriend for about 5 months now! Everytime his parents come to visit or stay at his place he goes MIA(missing in action)..first off we are in a long distane relationship so the only thing that keeps us together is the p...
A. 17 September 2013: in normal circumstances i would absolutely say you're over-reacting and his going "mia" is him just being with his family. if my family came to visit, i would do the same. however, with you two being in a long distance relationship, something about ... (read in full...)
I told him to call me when he finds himself.
Q. Please help me. I'm on the verge of an extreme breakdown. I posted here a weekago, but things got even crazier. It started by my boyfriend sending a pic to his ex, and calling her beautiful, etc, I did the same after I got upset about it. I ...
A. 17 September 2013: I remember your post about this man from a little while ago. I think there's something off about this dude. My opinion of him then was to get away, and my opinion now is the same. He's not an honest guy. Sending pics to another girl and calling her ... (read in full...)
Am I worrying too much about this?
Q. I have been looking for a mew job for a while and my boyfriend new this. 18 months ago an aquaintance suggested I speak to her brother who wanted someone to join his small business. I met with him that same day and he offered me a job. When I called ...
A. 17 September 2013: He was being rude and cynical. He probably thinks that man hired you because he thinks you're hot and that maybe you have or will have a thing. basically, he let his insecurities get in the way of being happy for you. he is in the wrong and his ... (read in full...)
My mother thinks I should use birth control but I disagree
Q. Well my mom saw my bf just yesterday but she has frequently heard about him and i that we dating. Today on the radio they were talking about how parents should oversee how their children behave. she brought the issue of taking birth control pills. ...
A. 16 September 2013: You need to take them. Why wouldn't you? You're mom is absolutely right. You're lucky to have a mom who is wanting you to be safe and offering you the pills. A lot of parents flip out about these things. take them. You don't need an unexpected ... (read in full...)
Is there ever an instance when abuse and fear of your significant other is justified?
Q. I am wondering if there is ever an instance when abuse and fear of your significant other is justified. My boyfriend thinks I cheated on him even though he knows it's not true. He bases this on my ex still contacting me(my ex loves in another...
A. 16 September 2013: The answer to your question is HELL no. It's never ever ever ever justified to lay your hands on someone. Even if you did go out and f*ck your ex, that's NEVER an excuse to inflict harm on another person.
For him to say that it was justifie... (read in full...)
Help me read the signs here
Q. Hi guys, I'm rubbish at reading the signs! So any advice would be great! Met a boy on holiday about 10 weeks ago, he told me he really liked me, he lived in the same area as me, and wanted to meet up! I was in a complicated relationship at ...
A. 16 September 2013: maybe he's doing the same thing to you as you did to him, but intentionally. you ignoring him and not replying made him even more interested, didn't it? he constantly messaged you, etc. but now he's not replying to you and is keeping you waiting and ... (read in full...)
Why can't I bring myself to be more flirty?
Q. Dear all, I am posting here because I am very confused and do not know where to turn to for some advice. After a relatively long dry spell (after a tough break-up), I have come to a point where I meet plenty of ladies. However, nothing ever ha...
A. 16 September 2013: in my opinion, i just truly believe the right chemistry hasn't been there between you and these prospective women. if it were, it would play itself out naturally. these women would maintain interest in your personality and want to know more and more ... (read in full...)
Why is she so quiet and boring?
Q. I recently met a beautiful girl that's 10 years younger. Physically, she's perfect but she is extremely quiet on dates. It's very awkward as we never engage in conversations. We can go 2-3 hours without saying much to eachother. I try to sometimes ...
A. 16 September 2013: i have no idea how you've even considered actually dating this woman for real. a f*ck buddy situation, maybe. but actually dating? oh my god, i'd be bored to tears. looks are far from everything. if you can't talk to someone, how on earth can there ... (read in full...)
Our first anniversary is here and he has porn on his phone and a hidden facebook account, I feel disgusted!
Q. My husband has been good to me in the past 12 months of our marriage however, i have recently found him out to be having pornography (pictures) in his cell phone and he also keeps a facebook account he told me he lost some two years back. His sole ...
A. 12 September 2013: i've never been big on worrying about porn. but the hidden facebook account is definitely a huge red flag. is he actually still active on this facebook account? it's definitely unacceptable to have a facebook account you keep from your wife with all ... (read in full...)
Is this a form of verbal abuse or am I being overeactive?
Q. So, I was discussing with my boyfriend how a woman got rescued from being kidnapped. I then proceeded to make a comment that one always needs to be aware of ones surroundings. My boyfriend turned to me and said "No one would kidnap you." I ...
A. 6 September 2013: You're being over-sensitive. he was clearly just joking. I think you're taking your past experiences with your husband out on your current. which is somewhat understandable. but your bf is not your husband. What happened with your husband is in the ... (read in full...)
Is it right my boyfriend went out with 4 female friends from uni without me, to a swanky new restaurant?
Q. Is it right that my boyfriend goes to dinner in a swanky new restaurant in town with 4 other girls, who are single, without me? No reason for it, just because. Friends from uni that is. My heart sank when he rang me to tell me, and dropped in, ...
A. 6 September 2013: If you trust him, there's nothing to worry about. People are free to hang out with whom ever they desire, as long as those people aren't disrespectful to the relationship in any way. So from my perspective, I would say you've really got nothing to ... (read in full...)
Are my friends right and I'm in denial?
Q. Dear agony aunts, I'm usually giving advice on this site, but some of the posts here had me rethink my dating behavior and my good friends recently hint that I might be in denial of something, so here's my story. Throughout my youth, I felt li...
A. 6 September 2013: I know what you mean. I think my gf could relate to you on a lot of different levels. as I said, I'm the first woman she's ever been with and I think if we broke up, she would try to go back to men because it IS easier. I think she battles the ... (read in full...)
Are my friends right and I'm in denial?
Q. Dear agony aunts, I'm usually giving advice on this site, but some of the posts here had me rethink my dating behavior and my good friends recently hint that I might be in denial of something, so here's my story. Throughout my youth, I felt li...
A. 3 September 2013: As a gay woman myself, my advice to you would be this:
Stop analyzing your sexuality so much. people don't have to black or white. You don't have to limit your attraction and love to just one of the sexes. You can love sex with men for one reas... (read in full...)
Was my relationship abusive?
Q. A couple years ago, I had a boyfriend who I was really attached to. He was nice to me at first but everything went bad relatively fast. When we became "official", lots of people warned me about him and told me that he was not a good guy but I ...
A. 3 September 2013: You were in an emotionally abusive relationship. And the consequences of that linger, just like you are experiencing now.
I had an ex that constantly lied, cheated and manipulated me. The damage lasted for years. I couldn't trust anyone. I still ... (read in full...)
He told me I shouldn't try to wear a bikini again! Yet he looks at porn when I'm out of the house! Am I wrong to take this to heart?
Q. My stomach was severely covered in stretch marks after having our first baby. Its been 3 years and I've worked really hard to get back down to my college weight. So I said something to my husband about trying to get back into a bikini. He told me ...
A. 3 September 2013: Your husband is a douche.... (read in full...)
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