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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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30 yr age difference?!! What do you think?
Q. I fell in love with an older man. Considerably older- about 30 years older than me. Legalities are not an issue, but I'm having problems with the age difference. I've been in love with him for years, but I'm just now coming to the point that I can ...
A. 9 April 2008: Lets be honest, how many 'good' years does he have left?
On the other hand, you could die tomorrow, age is really just a number.
What isn't a number is that you are still very young, almost a child. Do you really want to spend the next years w... (read in full...)
I can't get over my druggy ex boyfriend, NEED HELP ASAP!!!
Q. woww reading wHAT othEr girls said really helped me a lot!...cuz i went through the Exact same thing... well its a long story And i very badly need some help!...my boyfriend is insanely addicted to weed so no wonder dat he'll choose weed over me ...
A. 9 April 2008: Sounds like heartache to me, it only been two weeks.
Time heals all wounds, trite but true. The best thing you can do is concentrate on other things, like school or hobbies. Leave the dating for a bit, as said, it only makes you go for similar ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do I don't have a man in my life and my job is shit.
Q. I don't know what to do I don't have a man in my life and my job is shit. Everytime I try and change my life for the better- it ends up being the worst decisons Ive made i.e trying to get a new job or finding a new man. I don't know what to do ...
A. 8 April 2008: Concentrate on one thing at a time, finding the right person is often a question of luck, but finding the right job is a lot easier.
Try and find out what it is you want to do, you are still young enough to re-educate yourselve if needed, but don'... (read in full...)
Has anyone had any success with threesoms or group sex. Does the outcome always seem to be negative?
Q. Has anyone recently been involved in threesome activity or group sex? Does the outcome always seem to be negative or do some of these situations work out ok with little or no consequences? I am contemplating investigating how to meet up with ...
A. 8 April 2008: No, but the people involved need real maturity, if your age is right that should probably be okay.
Sex is more then just the act, we use it to be close with our partners, to then invite a third person into this intimacy breaks some fundemen... (read in full...)
Why does she keep cheating and lying to me? I love her so much!
Q. Me and my g/f have been on and off for about 4 years we cant seem to be apart. We had some really rough times when we weren't together. She had two relationships with two guys at her work. Then about three months ago i told her how i felt about her, ...
A. 8 April 2008: Sorry to say it, but I think you need to walk away, yes cheaters can reform themselves, but usually not with the person they cheated on.
The temptation will still be there, temptation they were unable to resist before and if you forgive them all... (read in full...)
I'm scared of showing my naked body to my soon to be husband, what do I do?
Q. I'm getting married in a few months and im a virgin and so is the man im going to marry but i heard so may people say that the best thing to wear on your weading night is nothing at all. but im so shy and super scared. i dont know how to just spring ...
A. 8 April 2008: Well you don't have to fully naked right off, surely I don't have to inform you about lingerie?
Just make sure it is comfortable and easy to discard but with the proper stuff you can be almost fully clothed at the start.
Dim the lights and..... (read in full...)
What is a high maintenance woman?
Q. What really describes a high maintenance woman? I have heard this a lot lately and was wondering, is it just about spending money? ...
A. 8 April 2008: Simple, an Italian car is high maintenance, a Japanese car isn't.
A high maintenance woman needs constant attention, not just financially but emotionally.
Now some bitter men might say this includes all women, and they would be right.... (read in full...)
I feel that my vagina hole is small. Only one finger fits up and if you try two it hurts!
Q. I feel that my vagina hole is small. Only one finger fits up and if you try two it hurts! Also a dildo can't go up inside because it's so small. What's wrong ?...
A. 8 April 2008: It is simple, the vagina can stretch wide enough to allow the passage of a baby, although women claim this hurts a bit, crybaby's.
But it can also contract, thight enough to allow no entry whatsoever, this ain't odd, the muscles are the same as ... (read in full...)
I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years and he's been abusive for 2 years.
Q. We started off happy, but then he became homeless so I was there for him, I slept outside with him some nights even in his car. I didn't want to leave him alone, we stayed at my parents a lot which is when they started disliking him. For 2 years ...
A. 8 April 2008: You say it yourselve he is abusive. What you are experiencing is called domestic abuse. There really ain't anything you can do but get out.
Everytime you forgive him what you are doing is saying that it is okay for him to abuse you because ... (read in full...)
Is he trying to get a reaction out of me to see where we stand?
Q. ok do guys sometimes say things just to get a reaction from a girl? I am 26 and have been seeing this guy - also 26 - for 2 months. We started as friends 2 yrs ago. we have lots in common and understand trust and respect each other. We talk on the ...
A. 8 April 2008: "ok do guys sometimes say things just to get a reaction from a girl?"
No, mind games are a female thing. He meant what he said.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend denies being Bullimic but I'm sure he is !
Q. My boyfriend and I are 17. My boyfriend if over a year has been bothering me about his eating sice day one. He has always binged and then starved himself, then for the past 3 months he has started being sick after eating when he thinks nobody can ...
A. 8 April 2008: Well, if you are studying psy you would be well advised to ask for advice from a teacher on the subject.
Dealing with this is always difficult because you can't just tell them to cut it out. No intervention type stuff. But your psy books will hav... (read in full...)
I encouraged him to be open about his porn use.....so, why does he lie?
Q. When me and my bf first met the issue of porn had come up jokingly and we both confessed that we had watched it and he told me that he had absolutly no desire to watch it at all anymore because he was over the teen phase. this had shocked me ...
A. 8 April 2008: The question is simple, do you want to end the relationship over this? You can't change his fantasy, you know that, so far, he doesn't act upon this fantasy so perhaps the porn is enough of an outlet of whatever makes him want to watch this stuff.
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My wife is losing interest in sex and I have to beg her for foreplay! Any suggestions?
Q. My wife of 17 years is slowly losing interest in sex. Foreplay now consists of a week or two of begging. When we have sex its great and she seems to enjoy it. It is just so darn infrequent. Please help! Cold Shower Man...
A. 7 April 2008: Seems to? With so little detail, I am just going to take one possible reason, she ain't enjoying it.
It wouldn't be the first marriage were a woman doesn't reach orgasm/has to fake it. If she ain't getting anything out of it, why should she both... (read in full...)
If my boyfriend pulls out, could I still become pregnant?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have unprotected sex everyday yet he pulls out. what are the chances of me falling pregnant? ive heard there high but yet for four months ...nothing. could something be wrong?...
A. 7 April 2008: If I understand your followup correctly you are trying to get pregnant?
It takes a healthy couple on average half a year to conceive. Although pre-cum can contain sperm I wouldn't rely on it (pre-cum's role is to clear the penis of urine because ... (read in full...)
How long should I hold out for the love of my life?
Q. things with my ex weren't good, even though we both really loved each other. after breaking up in october and taking several months apart (no contact except for a few weeks in december) he called and wanted to see if i'd be interested in trying ...
A. 7 April 2008: You had roughly half a year and still couldn't figure out what went wrong?
The reasons could be anything from a domestic abuse to a spat over the toilet seat. As the moderator said, include some details.
As you said, you are getting older, y... (read in full...)
I encouraged him to be open about his porn use.....so, why does he lie?
Q. When me and my bf first met the issue of porn had come up jokingly and we both confessed that we had watched it and he told me that he had absolutly no desire to watch it at all anymore because he was over the teen phase. this had shocked me ...
A. 7 April 2008: It could be a way in which he vents his feelings towards women (yes, this is a bit scary).
What really matters is how he acts in normal life towards you and other women.
But as tolerant as I want to be towards porn, I would have to say, be ... (read in full...)
Masturbation problem...?
Q. When I watch porn my penis gets hard and stays hard while I'm stroking it. But once I stop and let go of it, it stays hard for like 5 more seconds and then it starts to soften up. When I look at the porno stars their penises stay hard without ...
A. 7 April 2008: Do a bit of studying on the following subjects. "Fluffer", "Viagra" and "Movie editing".
That explains why porn stars appear perfect.
Find a torrent site and locate some porn bloopers, that should show you that even the best fail at times. ... (read in full...)
Caught between two cultures - other than break up with my intolerant BF, is there anything I can do?
Q. Hi, I'm not quite sure what to do. My boyfriend (for want of a better word at this point) constantly bashes Muslims to the point where it's ridiculous. He justifies his hatred by saying that all monotheism is "bull" because he chooses to follo...
A. 7 April 2008: Well you mention Holland, and intrestingly forget to mention France OR indeed Turkey.
Why these two countries? Well France has had the riots in Paris and has laws against headscarfes. Turkey is constantly struggling to keep itself secular (enforce... (read in full...)
I'm being blackmailed by the boys I had sex with...
Q. hi my names nikki and i have a problem with some boys in my school. i'm well known for being a slut at my school which im not proud of but i had sex two weeks ago with three boys from my school and another girl. i was told at the start of the week ...
A. 7 April 2008: Well, you got three options really.
Call their bluff, are they really willing to let this tape get out that includes themselves (offcourse they might obscure their own faces, but most teens ain't that smart as you should know). Risky, as they mig... (read in full...)
My fiancee who is in college 300 miles away has a "boyfriend"
Q. My fiancee who is in college 300 miles away has a "boyfriend" Everyone knows me, about our engagement (ring and all) and about her "boyfriend". Even though she has told me they have no sex, she does spend nights with him in his bed (kissing bare ...
A. 7 April 2008: So let me get this straight, you are okay with your fiancee sleeping half-naked with an other man for extensive "kissing" sessions as long as they don't have intercourse?
Bill Clinton got a LOT to answer for. What your fiancee is having, is SEX w... (read in full...)
Should I know how I feel after 5mths of dating?
Q. Is 5 months enough time to know how you feel for someone you're dating?...
A. 6 April 2008: Depends on who you believe, 1.5 years if often heard as the period needed for the first hormonal rush to die down and for you to find out if you really want to be with this person for the rest of your life and it ain't just lust talking.
If 5 ... (read in full...)
What are some other fun ways to masturbate?
Q. i really like to masturbate. i have read about it and i dont do it the way that i have read. its just the first thing that i do when i get overly horny and no one is around. i also sometimes take a water bottle that squirts and lay on my back with ...
A. 6 April 2008: http://www.letsmasturbate.com/women/
This has some intresting ways for women to do it.
Your own method sounds a tad risky, it sounds close to douching. This is largely an american thing where the vagina is washed out. The debate is still ... (read in full...)
I encouraged him to be open about his porn use.....so, why does he lie?
Q. When me and my bf first met the issue of porn had come up jokingly and we both confessed that we had watched it and he told me that he had absolutly no desire to watch it at all anymore because he was over the teen phase. this had shocked me ...
A. 6 April 2008: That is one of the issues with porn, it includes everything from sports illustrated swimsuit edition to "two girls and a cup" (do NOT google for this) and that ain't even the worsed of it.
There is a whole line of "destroy that [insert orifice ... (read in full...)
He loves me and I love him but his temper causes him to hit me and I'm pregnant!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have just turned two years and I'm five months pregnant with a beautiful little girl. There is one problem though, he has a really bad temper. Sometimes he throws me around or slaps the back of my head hard and I atleast cry once ...
A. 5 April 2008: Domestic abuse, just what kind of advice can you give anyway?
I have no doubts that after he throws you around he apologizes and for a while everything seems perfect, it is a classic part of how abuse works.
You know he loves you, despite the... (read in full...)
Why this feeling of urination in the middle of the sexual act, even while fingering?? May it be female ejaculation?
Q. Hey this is a really embarrassing question! Ive recently started having sex with my boyfriend and everything is great only for one thing. Everytime we have sex when he goes into me deep i fell the urge to pee. It will not go away and i always have ...
A. 5 April 2008: There are three possible explenations.
Simplest is, you got to pee. Men can't pee and ejaculate at the same time. The bladder actually closes off to prevent urine from coming into contact with sperm. Pre-cum has the role to clean the tract of... (read in full...)
Why aren't you men wooing us any more?
Q. Hi Me and my friend (female, both around 30) were talking about courtship. We both are a little old-fashioned und we both agreed that it should be the man pursusing the woman of his heart. But why are men so passive? We came to the coclusion th...
A. 5 April 2008: Why? Because you two are now so old that the men in the age range you are dating have finally picked up on the fact it don't work.
Now be brutally honest with yourselve, don't you give the answer in your own question? Describe the men you had sex ... (read in full...)
Is he hiding something from me?
Q. Hello all... I will try to keep this short... :) I have been seeing this man from NZ for over a year now, and things have been great, we spent 9 days together and everything was amazing.. Anyways I recently got an invitation to a website calle...
A. 31 March 2008: Well, he is obviously lying and being really bad at it too.
The site itself seems to be a social site, not a dating site, more a myspace wannabe.
So that raises the question, why? And why did he delete his page?
Don't know, but his a... (read in full...)
I'd like to know if there's any other way of pleasuring myself without using toys.
Q. hi. I need help. I masterbate quite a lot, but I'm getting bored of using my fingers. I recently rubbed myself against a teddy and it felt really good but I'd like to know if there's any other way of pleasuring myself without using toys. tha...
A. 31 March 2008: http://www.letsmasturbate.com/women/index.shtml
Tada!
As for natasia, this song says it all, the penis you don't have to blow.
http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=7561891079024207771... (read in full...)
Should I sleep with him?
Q. Ok, so my problem is with my mate, who is a boy. We've known each other for around 18 months and we really do get on well. Recently we've been flirting, texting each other loads, now we've got on to discussing sex. He wants us sleep together even ...
A. 31 March 2008: Right, the "I respect you" line. Ah, an old classic, amazed it still works. Served me well that has, gotten me no amount of free drinks as long as I remembered to keep my mouth open after saying it.
The guy just wants sex, now baleex suggests... (read in full...)
I am female and I have really hairy arms and have 3 tatoos... specifically male opinions please.
Q. Hey all, I would like to know the opinions of the males out there if I could please? My question is on the appearance side of things. I have really hairy arms (black hair), what do you guys think of this? I have just waxed them because I am sooo ...
A. 31 March 2008: To be honest, no body hair of that sort is not exactly a turn-on. Soft downy blonde hairs can be cute, but long black hairs on the arm, no. On the whole I would suggest you keep up the waxing.
... (read in full...)
I offered him oral on our third date, after that he did not utter a word to me! Your opinions about his change in behaviour?
Q. Hi...I've met a guy..we've been out three times... I gave him oral(my first)...and after he came he was all weird. he didn't say a word to me. He just took me home without kissing me godbye. This happened three days ago and I haven't heard from him ...
A. 31 March 2008: Where did he cum? If in or on your mouth, some guys, especially young ones have hangups about their own sperm, they don't want to taste it.
Could also be what the others said, that he thinks girls shouldn't do this.
I don't think he just us... (read in full...)
Here's a question for the men... can you ever see yourselves settling down with just ONE woman???
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about 8 months, and it's become a bit serious in the past 2 or 3. We see each other every night and make love all the time. We have said "I love you" and he's even starting talking about me being "the one"- like the one ...
A. 30 March 2008: Well my nick explains it, who has the energy!
But no I never cheated, because I don't want to hurt or be hurt myself.
His line is complete and utter bullshit. Ask yourselve this, if he can't control his instincts, what happens if the girl says... (read in full...)
Vibrators how often is too much?
Q. Hi Guys, just a question about vibrators? Is it bad for you to use them a lot??? I use mine almost everyday I cant help it!!!! help!!!...
A. 30 March 2008: As long as it doesn't intefere with your life, then there is no harm. But if stop going to school, or hang out with friends etc etc because of it, then it is a problem.
This goes for almost anything btw, not just masturbation.
One thing to ... (read in full...)
Complicated situation with me, a friend I have feelings for and her ex.
Q. I really could do with some advice on how to handle a very complicated situation. Its a long story so please bare with me. About 18 months ago I met a girl who works in my local pub. Out of the blue she told me she liked me, I liked her too an...
A. 30 March 2008: It sounds like she is in a bad relationship, possibly even an abusive one. It also sounds like she has trouble ending it, or maybe even doesn't want to end it.
Maybe with time that will change, maybe she is just one of those women who needs re... (read in full...)
Is red pubic hair a turn on?
Q. Since I'm a natural redhead my hair down there is also red. I was wondering if having red pubic hair turns on guys. I've heard it does, although I'm not sure why. My partners before my current boyfriend wanted me to shave (which I've never done, ...
A. 30 March 2008: Well you answer your own question partially.
"Since I'm a natural redhead my hair down there is also red."
This leads to the logical conclusion that if the hair down there is red, the girl is a natural redhead.
As for why redhead itself i... (read in full...)
Pregnant on a period?? help!!??!!??
Q. My boyfriend and I have been having unprotected sex and he has been "letting it go" in me and we really want a family... so we have been trying to get pregnant but on the day that I think we concieved my period came down the very next day.... Plus I ...
A. 30 March 2008: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-15-and-pregnant-but-im-afraid-that.html
Related?... (read in full...)
Do you feel she's a keeper? Someone who can mother my kids and raise a family?
Q. hi ! I met this sweet christian girl on the internet from a different country last May and by Sept we realized that we were madly into each other, though we never have never met till date ! . It was decided that she would come over to my city and w...
A. 30 March 2008: mmm, what happened to her is called rape, so why didn't the police get involved?
You would also need to consume a great amount of wine to become intoxicated to become unable to defend yourselve OR make enough noise to be heard throughout the hous... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to have sex with me but I'm scared the condom is going to break and I will become pregnant.
Q. My boyfriend wants to have sex with me but I'm scared the condom is going to break and I will become pregnant. What should I do?...
A. 30 March 2008: Get on the pill or another female birth control method?
You can also use the extra strong kind meant for anal sex. They are thicker and therefor less prone to tearing. If a condom is put on correctly it doesn't tear, practice and make sure you... (read in full...)
I can't quite orgasm! How can I 'finish up'?
Q. I masturbate, but I can't seem to orgasm! I've come close, but I can't seem to get there. My boyfriend fingered me, and I couldn't come then, either. Is fingering just not my thing?...
A. 30 March 2008: Could be, depends what you mean by it. Clitoral stimulation is more important it seems then vaginal penitration.
If you only insert a finger, then it might simply not be enough. Explore around some more, also remember that for women the mental s... (read in full...)
I need to know if this is cheating. I have been sex camming with this guy, and he has a spouse. She does not know about us...
Q. I need to know if this is cheating. I have been sex camming with this guy, and he has a spouse. She does not know about us. Now he wants to meet in person and he wants me to perform oral sex on him. To me this is cheating on his partner. He tel...
A. 30 March 2008: Is his name Bill Clinton?
Sorry but getting sexual with someone else regardless of the form is cheating. Don't matter if it is dry sex, a blow-job or whatever, it is cheating.
As for phone-sex and various variants, yeah it is. Cheating ain't t... (read in full...)
How do I stand with getting a divorce so early into our marriage? How do I manage financially when my husband is so awkward?
Q. My husband and I have been together 2.5 years, married for 8 months, have an 18 month old child and now expecting our next child, I am 11 weeks pregnant and very much planned/wanted. Our relationship, once the gloss disappeared has been somewha...
A. 30 March 2008: A lot of different issues here.
First off, finances. The UK has social programs to help people with no income and will provide for people in your situation. It won't be luxury, but countless other single mothers have succesfully raised their ki... (read in full...)
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