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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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Pregnant with my cheating boyfriend's baby! Should I have it?
Q. me and my boyfriend are having alot of issues right now.right after Valentines Day I found out that he cheated on me. he treated me like crap for awhile then we tried to work things out. Things arent the same, but we tried to work on them. I just ...
A. 22 March 2008: You are already raising one child? If this is not a problem, another shouldn't really make much difference should it?
If I read it correctly you are living on your own so already a single mother just with a deadbeat boyfriend?
Keep the baby... (read in full...)
What do you do when you are in love with your friend...
Q. What do you do when you are in love with your friend but don't know if they love you back?...
A. 22 March 2008: Well apparantly you seek advice on an internet forum...
Oh you mean what do you do about it.
Try and find out and finally make the decision what you rather risk, rejection or never knowing.... (read in full...)
Do men prefer bigger breasts?
Q. ok, silly question but do guys prefair big boobs?! my bf is happy with mine but i just wana know what the general outlook on boobs are?...
A. 22 March 2008: Same answer again really, do not even start on the subject of tan-lines. If there was one type of girl every man liked there wouldn't be so many different men's magazines all with their own formula.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend would tell people he was my uncle, why is he behaving like this?
Q. Hey Everyone :) iv posted a couple of time about this Guy i really like, i think so much of him. for sum who dont know iv bn seein him for 6 months, yet not in arelationship bcoz he's told me he aint ready for 1 or hasnt got the time bcause of w...
A. 22 March 2008: Don't some hospitals have rules for allowing ONLY family members to visit? Maybe he thought they wouldn't let him visit if he claimed to be your friend. I have seen my share of hospitals and never been escorted in by a nurse unless the ward had ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has discovered internet porn, and now he's very distant with me
Q. have a bit of a problem. i started teaching my boyfirend of one year computers 4 weeks ago. he started going on the net and ever since he has changed. i know that he is looking up sexy videos and it is really meaking me paranoid. he has become very ...
A. 22 March 2008: Well that was stupid wasn't it? You found the one male who hadn't found the internet and introduced him to it?
It happens, porn is easy and simple. Most men realize that a real woman is better, but well you are competing with the whole of the net,... (read in full...)
Do men prefer bigger breasts?
Q. ok, silly question but do guys prefair big boobs?! my bf is happy with mine but i just wana know what the general outlook on boobs are?...
A. 22 March 2008: Jamer70 pretty much got it right.
All men are different and we all got different tastes.
I lean more to the small side A-C with D becoming a bit, am I supposed to kiss her or milk her, to much time on the farm will do that to you :/
If you... (read in full...)
My date asked me if I told my friends or my mother about her, this puzzled me...
Q. Hi, i went on a first date with a girl who i met a few weeks earlier, now she lives a bit of a distance from me because of her job (police) she also transferring nearer where i live because her friends are up here. The date went great, to the point ...
A. 22 March 2008: She is really into you and wants to see if you feel the same way.
Normally if you really like someone new, you tend to tell those close to you, often till they are sick of it :)
She asked if you would like to kiss her and you didn't? HELLO?
... (read in full...)
To ladies, about sex: longer duration, better? To men: can you control when you climax?
Q. Does any of the ladies out there feel that when sex goes on for more than 2 hours it becomes boring and tedious and repetitive? I lose interest in having sex around an hour into the act, and I start to dry up and just want the guy to finish up. And ...
A. 22 March 2008: There is a certain thought among men that they gotta last. Women after all are slower then men and you don't wannabe Mr. 20 seconds.
So, the longer the better, the reasoning then goes.
Women feel differently, as you say, vaginal intercou... (read in full...)
He didn't contact me after the first date, am I expected to take the initiative and... have I given wrong signals until now?
Q. Hi, My friend introduced one guy to me, two days later he dated me out for dinner and movie. On the whole, I considered it was a pleasant date, he's nice and gentleman, despite that at times, we remained silence and I just looked at other directio...
A. 22 March 2008: Depends, how much did you like him?
It could simply be that he saw you, though "no" but kept the date going because, well he was hungry. To bad, it happens, get over it.
If he was intrested you may have very effictevly send him all the signals ... (read in full...)
Should I just try to forget about him as we're both married, or really open up before he goes to visit his wife?
Q. I have been happily married and with my husband for 12 years. I am in my late 40's, and my husband is in his late 50's. Lately, my sex drive is through the roof and my husband is not interested. In the past few months, I have become friends with ...
A. 22 March 2008: Lets see. Dear agony aunt, is it a good idea to cheat on my husband on who I am financially totally dependent with a younger married man who still wants his marriage to work.
Mmm, no?
If you want out, get a divorce first because if you a... (read in full...)
I feel so lonely after my wife has admitted her affair and need somebody to talk to...
Q. Hi there, Unfortunately, I never expected (or hoped) to have to ever write something like this.. However, I have found out today that after months of fearing the worst, my wife told me that she has been having an affair and I believe the only...
A. 22 March 2008: Seek out a lawyer first of all. Divorces are NEVER easy and this ones most certainly ain't going to be pretty.
You can let her walk all over you OR you can finally make a stand for yourselve and make sure the divorce is done in your favor. R... (read in full...)
Is it okay to make love on the third date?
Q. Hello, Just want to know if it is right to make love in the third day from the first date? Or do you think that might make him lose interest in me and he runs away? Was it too fast? We're around the same age. I wrote this question because I'm inte...
A. 22 March 2008: It depends, were you friends for a long time? How long has the sexual tension been building up.
Bit odd you say third day from first date? So only one date and then dateless sex? That sounds a bit too easy.
You got to hook him properly before ... (read in full...)
She cries out as if in pain when we make love... IS she in pain???
Q. 36 year old from India. Married with a kid. We have sex atleast 4 times in a week. During the climax, my wife cries and shouts a bit. I am afraid, whether she is in pain. When I enquired after some time, she is telling me that, she had ...
A. 22 March 2008: Le Petit Morte, suffering a small death, a way to refer to an orgasm.
Yes, she could be in pain, and yes she could be hiding it. Some women are raised to believe sex is only for the man and since you are from India she could still believe this.
... (read in full...)
Where do dads get their advice???
Q. Where do dads get their advice, I've been coming to this site for about a year, and I hardly hear anybody mention dads. Hope you can answer my question. Thank you Chloe...
A. 22 March 2008: We just wing it.
Men see things as "problem - solution". Doing something matters more then being right.
I presume you are talking about raising kids? Well in a two-parent household the wife will be doing most of the advice seeking, the man... (read in full...)
Should I try to make him feel better, or just let it go?
Q. I have this teacher who always seems to put himself down, but i'm not sure if I should try to make him feel better. At the beginning of the school year, my teacher was talking about how he coudldn't wait to get home and see his puppies because ...
A. 22 March 2008: Stay away. Student teacher relations shouldn't cross some line and one is a student getting involved with the teachers personal life.
He got low self-esteem, too bad but not something you can fix.
No matter how well intentioned, it ... (read in full...)
I'm being very hormonal right now.
Q. I'm being very hormonal right now. Everything is making me cry. Something made me laugh and because I was laughing, I started to cry. My boyfriend wants me to talk dirty to him and I just can't do it and he's sad over something and trying to distr...
A. 22 March 2008: Nothing really, if you enjoy the sex, you enjoy it. Some people are verbal some aren't.
What he would do well to remember is that if a girl has time to remember her lines, her lover can't be too good. Few people in the throes of orgasm can quot... (read in full...)
He thinks I'm uptight but I just don't see myself with a non-Christian...what do I do?
Q. I have a hard time asking yet another question on here, because in a way I feel that the more I seek advice, the more I am enabling myself to not trust myself. But, I guess in my journey of setting boundaries and becoming less codependent, I feel ...
A. 22 March 2008: No sex till marriage. Right... noble enough sentiment, but only works for virgins.
There is nothing charming or cute about an experienced woman trying to pretend she is pure. Not saying you are a slut, but since he knows you fuck outside marriage... (read in full...)
I'm so confused, does my husband still want me or not?
Q. My husband went down the path of leaving me Monday night because he has feelings for his co-worker who is married with 2 young children. We have been having a hard time since January with a fight that went too far and he then realized that it's been ...
A. 22 March 2008: No, you don't really have much choice, he has to work out his feelings on his own. All you can do is try and convince him his perception of the marriage is wrong and hope he realizes that grass on the other side isn't green at all.
It won't be... (read in full...)
Why would my boyfriend lie about a text message?
Q. The other night I texted my bf about some medicine that I am on and I also asked him some questions about his work. I never got a reply. The next day I sent a text asking if he got it, I wasnt angry, just curious if he got it or not cause I never ...
A. 22 March 2008: Short attention span? He read the medicine part and skipped the rest because he thought he got the "message" or just didn't remember it.
Don't over-analyze things. ... (read in full...)
He hurts my feelings but I love him so much. Help.
Q. I am 21 years old,I've been married for just over a year now, and I'm six months pregnant with our baby boy. I Love my husband very much, and I know he loves me too, but he hurts my feelings a lot. Yes, I may be a little over sensitive, but ...
A. 22 March 2008: You don't say he changed, so he was always like this and yet you still fell in love with him, married him and got pregnant by him.
How is your self-esteem, not just now but when you met him?
What was the relationship of your mother with your... (read in full...)
I think my daughters' masturbating is going to far.
Q. I am a older guy. My wife died at a really young age. I have 2 daughters. One is 12 and the other is 14 One year ago I caught them masturbating in the bathroom. I told them it was ok and that they have the right to do that to themselves but d...
A. 22 March 2008: Okay, loud noises, well, first off, they might simply not be aware of how thin the walls are.
But if they are really doing it on purpose then something really odd is going on.
Has the relationship broken down before? Because I can think of abs... (read in full...)
We ended up in bed together, now I haven't heard from him - Should I try to get in touch or is he playing me?
Q. i met an old friend who said he always liked me and i felt really connected to him but played it cool after a few drinks we ended up in bed he walked me to the bus next morning and got my number but he still has'nt rang me that was three days ago is ...
A. 22 March 2008: Sounds like it, offcourse he could simply have lost your number and not be able to contact you.
"played it cool after a few drinks we ended up in bed"
Must be a new definition of playing it cool.
Contact him, most likely he played you, bu... (read in full...)
What steps do I take now to be with him again later if his current relationship ends?
Q. have you ever rekindled a relationship with an ex boyfriend? He ended the relationship to be with someone else but I still love him and know that my feelings will be the same in the future. what steps i take now to be with him later if his current ...
A. 22 March 2008: BAD idea. Really really bad.
It ain't just the ex-factor. NEVER DATE AN EX.
It is as another poster said an open invitation to become a doormat. If you hook up again he will just dump you again when the next girl comes along.
Consid... (read in full...)
I am 14 and PREGNANT! What do I do?
Q. HELP! I had sex with my boyfriend about 2 weeks to a month ago and i have recently started feeling weird, so i took a pregnancy test prayed it wouldnt be positive and it was-i'm pregnant, you can probably tell from my age that i'm under aged, bu...
A. 22 March 2008: The third option is adoption. Very hard on you because you will have to carry the baby to full-term while going to school and then give it up.
But it avoids the trauma of an abortion and you can go on with your life in the knowledge you did ever... (read in full...)
Is my "internet guy" just after sex? Help!
Q. hiya i need help ppl... i met this boy through the internet and he seems reali nice and i know this might sound crazy but i think i might have feelings for him... but the only problem is that my mates are telling me that he is only after sex..but i...
A. 22 March 2008: Go to youtube and watch "to catch a predator".
Be really careful out there.
There is no such thing as being to paranoid on the web.... (read in full...)
I've changed my pubic/private area for my husband, what do you think? Advice anyone?
Q. My husband and I have had a lot of trouble with our marriage recently (he had an affair which dear cupid has helped me with and thanks again for that.) It has been hell but I still haven't come to a final decision because it's only 3 and a half ...
A. 21 March 2008: It sound like he wants things his way or the highway, did you get to make a list? Remember, he can shave too.
1. Depends on the guy. There is currently a trend of complete body waxes, that means ALL the hair, even down hair on your instance... (read in full...)
We bought a house and things went to HELL! help!
Q. BF is 16 years older than me. We bought a home together. We have been together 3 years. Since buying the house, He isn't interested in sex. He's always to stresses, sick, sleepy, ect. Then that once a mon or 2 we do have sex he last a minute or ...
A. 21 March 2008: Lot of different things going on.
First of his impotency, it can easily be caused by stress, you then quickly get into a downward spiral where he gets performance anxiety and it only gets worse and worse. Serious problem for men and their partners... (read in full...)
Why do girls show interest in me but not want to date me?
Q. Ok i dont understand this, and i am guessing someone can clear this up for me. Why can i not get a girlfriend. Ok i have had many girls show intrest and compliment me. But most of them are already with someone or im not attracted to them. There was ...
A. 21 March 2008: It seems simple enough, they like what they see but when they get to know you better something is wrong.
Since you say absolutly nothing about yourselve, I can't even begin to guess what it is.
From the way you talk, I do get the idea you are... (read in full...)
I have a mental block on sex with my partner...please help me as I want to work it out!
Q. I have been with my partner nearly 5 years and I love him dearly. We have 2 kids one is 3 and the other is 8 months. I find it really hard to have any sexual contact with him. I do try really hard but I feel like I just get a mental block. I had a ...
A. 21 March 2008: Talk to your doctor about this, lots of women go through this and there may be simple physical reasons for how you feel, your hormones may be completly out of whack.
No need to solve this on your own.... (read in full...)
Should I being going out with him, and if so, what should I get him for his birthday?
Q. i need help because i am seeing this sixteen yr old and he is 3 yrs older than me but i loove him and he loves me he is rele sweet and i am being asked out by him on mi birthday (how romantic or wat )lol but it was his birthday and i am seeing him ...
A. 21 March 2008: Well if you are 16 he would 19, nothing wrong with that, although take it slow, the relationship can only develop at YOUR pace as you are the youngest and still growing up. If he respects that then by all means, go out with him. Does he have a... (read in full...)
How do I break up without seeming selfish?
Q. Last summer i was dating my current boyfriend, Jay. We were together for about four months and then broke it off because i was very needy and he was more independent. we didn't communicate much from about september through december. during this time ...
A. 21 March 2008: Ego problems? Can't stand an ex thinking badly of you? Sorry, they will. Just tell him honestly what is happening. If he hates you, so be it. Wanting your ex to think good of you, now THAT is selfish. "Oh honey, I am dumping you and breaking you... (read in full...)
Is my happiness worth tearing our family apart?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for 5 years. We have a boy who is 18 months old. My fiance is the best dad ever; but not great as a partner. There is no passion, no spark. The sex is, in a word, terrible. He seems to be content with how things ...
A. 21 March 2008: Was there a spark once? Can it be re-kindled? Lets be brutally honest, single mothers are NOT the hottest item on the dating scene. No guarantee there is anything better out there. So why is the sex terrible? Not enough, not any good at it, ... (read in full...)
I think my daughters' masturbating is going to far.
Q. I am a older guy. My wife died at a really young age. I have 2 daughters. One is 12 and the other is 14 One year ago I caught them masturbating in the bathroom. I told them it was ok and that they have the right to do that to themselves but d...
A. 21 March 2008: Well, you should NEVER have caught them in the bathroom in the first place. How would you have liked it if your parents had invaded your privacy like that? Don't you think your mom knew?
Fathers do NOT walk in on their daughters.
As for your s... (read in full...)
What is going on in my marriage?
Q. I've been married for 22 yrs. to a very wonderful man that any woman would be lucky to have. January 1 we had a bad fight that caused him to withdraw from me for two months now. He says that he loves me and always will but since that day the love is ...
A. 21 March 2008: You say a lot, but what is missing from your post? You never make your feelings clear, he cries a lot, you don't? You say any woman would be luck to have him. Not that YOU are lucky to have him, anyway even that doesn't imply love.
How much hav... (read in full...)
What is a charity shag?
Q. Whats a charity shag? My boyfriend says he doubts anything will ever compare to his charity shag. He won't elaborate he just says its a rare case of female kindness. Guys out there can you help?...
A. 21 March 2008: I presume he means pity sex. Typically a friend who is otherwise not intrested offers sex to "help" out a friend.
This female friend is often way out of reach under normal circumstances, a beautiful woman who would never go for a guy like that, bu... (read in full...)
Is "Dry Sex" okay? I don't want to get pregnant!
Q. Im 12 years Old and me and my bf have been dating for 2 years and we want sex i dont want to get pregnant so if we did have sex we would have dry sex would that be ok ??...
A. 21 March 2008: A bit of confusion in the answers as to what dry sex is.
Well, there are two meanings, one I never heard of before and the other what she is probably refering to as it is a common enough concept especially around younger people.
First the new... (read in full...)
How can I find out about getting a brazilian wax in my local area?
Q. i really want a brazilian wax, but i have no idea how or where to get one. how can i find out about where i can get one in my local area, and will i be allowed because im only 15 years old. thanks...
A. 21 March 2008: Beauty clinics, you can easily find them in the yellow pages just by searching for brazilian wax.
Age limit would be specific to the place doing it, they might simply have their own rules. Some tattoo places simply won't do a tattoo for people t... (read in full...)
How can I get back my self esteem?
Q. Hi Ive been with my wife for 7 years its not all been roses she had an affair after the second year. We got back together and I forgave her, but things have never been the same. Most of the time i feel inadequate and she constantly critises the ...
A. 21 March 2008: People keep using the word "forgive" without understanding its full meaning.
It also seems to indicate that it means the incident should be over and done with.
Well, you are proof that isn't the case. You claim you forgave her, but haven't. You... (read in full...)
I know this triangle has to disappear, I know I have to MAKE A DECISION. But who do I choose???
Q. Imagine what it feels like to start googling for "how to choose between two great men"... Well, I did that and this is where it took me. Reading all the posts above, I`ve realized how similar human beings can be when it comes to emotions. ...
A. 21 March 2008: It is simple really. Neither.
X is just someone you feel you should be with. you are getting older, think the clock is thicking and you got to settle down in a steady relationship with someone with a future. It ain't what you want, but that is ... (read in full...)
I gave unprotected oral sex to a man and now I'm worried I have an STI!
Q. I know that STI's can be transmitted through oral sex. Ok here's the situation, about a month back i gave my male friend head, and at the time of this i had ulsars but it didnt really cross my mind at the time (spur of the moment thing). So now, the...
A. 21 March 2008: Natasia seems to be confused, EVERYONE got open wounds in their mouth, all the time. In fact you got wounds all over your body. Far to small for you to ever notice but more then big enough for the herpes virus. Use a condom, EVERYTIME, even a ... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and he's 35. Is a 18 year old difference too much?
Q. I am a 17 year old senior in high school. I have met a 35 year old man whom i am falling for. We have alot of things in common, and i fell really comfortable around him, but my question is...is this 18 year difference a problem..will people accept ...
A. 21 March 2008: 18 yrs is a lot, basically, he is old enough to be your father and I don't mean biological. He should by now have the maturity to be raising kids, you are still a kid.
If it was a 22 yr old and a 40yr old that would be different.
Society will ... (read in full...)
I feel so lonely after my wife has admitted her affair and need somebody to talk to...
Q. Hi there, Unfortunately, I never expected (or hoped) to have to ever write something like this.. However, I have found out today that after months of fearing the worst, my wife told me that she has been having an affair and I believe the only...
A. 20 March 2008: So what now. Well, what does she want? You tell us little of her attitude towards you or indeed your relationship. Low sex-drive? Could be, you could also be a lousy lover. Not trying to hurt you, just saying details are extremely important if you ... (read in full...)
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