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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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Does semen leak out straight after intercourse-or worse still the next day!?
Q. I'm ready to start having full sex with my boyfriend.We're both very sensible and have been talking about contraception before we start. It's a toss up between the pill or a condom. I fancy the pill because condoms might reduce sensation but does ...
A. 11 June 2008: Medical fact: you can get pregnant days after the actual intercourse took place.
I presume you know that it takes and egg and one sperm to get pregnant. So logically if you can get pregnant days after intercourse then at least some sperm remain i... (read in full...)
Sex Burgers - or people?
Q. Which of you out there feel the same as me. In an ideal world which would make me so happy it would be like this: Women would be celebrated for who they are in equal measure, whether it be because they were clever, great Mums, leaders, spo...
A. 11 June 2008: Which of you out there feel the same as me.
In an ideal world which would make me so happy it would be like this:
Men would be celebrated for who they are in equal measure, whether it be because they were clever, great Dads, leaders, sportsm... (read in full...)
Two ex'es have disappointed me, how do I assure that my third lover will not leave me too?
Q. hey i will start that i loved twice in my whole life i am 18 years and i get dumped by the 2 guys i loved in my life the first one left me cuz he dont want me to speak to anyone except him and he dosent want me to have friends ... the second one ...
A. 10 June 2008: You got to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince.
But your 3rd one might have a point. Don't push too hard. Love happens, you can't force it. In fact the harder you try the more impossible it becomes.
If this is the right person, so be it... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and my boyfriend is trying to cut me out of his life!
Q. (I NEED MENS ADVICE mostly) i am 3 months pregnant. abortion is not a option and my bf is at uni he hasnt spoken to me since i told him which was 2 weeks ago he has deleted me of myspace, facebook and wont talk to me he puts his phone voicemail wont ...
A. 10 June 2008: It is a tale as old as time and you would think that in this day and age of readily available birth control methods it would happen less, but no.
Did he really love you? Yup, so much that at the first sign of trouble he ran. You got some growing ... (read in full...)
What do 23 yr old guys want? Just sex or a relationship?
Q. At 23 years old do guys just want sex or are they ready for a relationship?...
A. 10 June 2008: Since you have to ask (Why do I get the feeling you got a particular 23 yr old guy in mind) I would say sex.
Go with your instincts.... (read in full...)
Men, what would you do if your partner came home with a sex toy?
Q. So I want to take a poll even if I only get a few answers its ok. The question. The senario. Just home from the local porn store. Just bought a new toy. One that is pleasurable for both individuals. This question is basically for men. Women you c...
A. 10 June 2008: Well... depends. If it is a 14 inch strap-on I would run like hell and not even bother to open the door.
But since you posted an update saying it is a cockring (not one with inwards facing spikes I presume (don't ask) I would pick A.
Althoug... (read in full...)
Do bachelor parties get really wild or is it all just a myth?
Q. Hi We had a fun talk with couple of friend (males,females) .. talking about Bachelore and bachelorette parties (since on of them is getting married soon) .... It came out, that bachelore parties are pretty disgusting, pathetic and disresp...
A. 7 June 2008: Some do, some don't. As the other poster said, it happens to both kind that they get crazy, it all depends on the people involved.
Also remember one thing, the best way to tell if a man is lying is to watch his mouth. If it is open, he is lying.
... (read in full...)
Is 5 years a big age gap?
Q. i am 19 years old and my boyfriend is 25 years of age..so do u think 5 years of age gap between us makes a difference..do u think he is too old for me????...
A. 6 June 2008: It depends on your mental age, not your physical age.
There are very mature 18 year olds and childish 37 year olds *hides his lego's*.
Most people probably wouldn't even think of 5 years as an age gap worth mentioning, so the question then be... (read in full...)
Do people who cheat change?
Q. hi, my question is basically this, do people ever change ? for example if they have cheated on you, what is the likelyhood of them doing it again ? and are they really genuine when they cry and cry, and tell you how sorry they are ? thanks :)...
A. 6 June 2008: Sorry they cheated or sorry they were caught cheating?
You always hear about convicts who found god. How come no criminal outside jail ever found god and confessed his/her crimes on their own. People do not regret their crimes/mistakes, they reg... (read in full...)
What's with his disappearing act?!?!?!
Q. So...long story short, I was dating this guy (Y) since end of Jan. We had been friends first for a couple years, but we met through my ex (they are friends). My ex started dating a girl that I thought was a friend of mine (note: I don't care they ...
A. 6 June 2008: Odd situation. Exactly what makes your ex think he has the right to tell someone else who they should or should not date?
Y certainly ain't showing much backbone. I think most of us would have told our friend where to shove it if they told us ... (read in full...)
Since about christmas every now and then I've got these strange hallucinations/dreams!!
Q. Hello this isnt a relationship question but i use this site so somebody may be able to help! not been able to find anything on the internet about it. Basicly since about christmas every now and then ive got these strange hallucinations/dreams, they ...
A. 6 June 2008: Go to a doctor.
There is a huge difference between a dream and hallucination. One is when are asleep and I wouldn't worry to much about what happens in your dreams then but hallucinations are when you are awake and what you describe then sounds e... (read in full...)
Tie him or down or am I a trip?
Q. I am a young woman, very independent, truly attractive, no children, no husband, 27 years old, college degree and makes a ton of money! Why wouldn't someone want this? I am getting to a point where I want to have a consistent relationship. So... I ...
A. 6 June 2008: Wait a minute.
"I am a young woman, very independent, truly attractive, no children, NO HUSBAND, 27 years old, college degree and makes a ton of money!"
Odd way to describe yourself. The "no husband" part I mean. Why didn't you just use "si... (read in full...)
My lie came to light and now my husband wants nothing to do with me.
Q. My husband left me last year because of a lie I told about my past. I have apologied for this over and over but he will have nothing more to do with me and is filing for divorce. I have tried calling, writing letters and everything but he will not ...
A. 6 June 2008: Bigamy is when you are married to two people at the same time. She was legally married in Thailand and then in England, England DOES recognize foreign marriages, most countries do or you would get some very odd situations. So basically she is a ... (read in full...)
Advice on anal sex, please.
Q. Please help!!! My partner and I have recently been talking about having anal sex, which is something we both want. We went and brought some anal beads and lube...all was going well until it was time to pull the beads out which were..how do i s...
A. 6 June 2008: With an enema you insert a nozzle (guess where) attached to a bag of water which is then allowed to flow in and 'wash' out your bowels. Wait a bit, then let if flow out. Ah yeah, anal sex, the height of a romantic evening.
An enema is essentia... (read in full...)
My lie came to light and now my husband wants nothing to do with me.
Q. My husband left me last year because of a lie I told about my past. I have apologied for this over and over but he will have nothing more to do with me and is filing for divorce. I have tried calling, writing letters and everything but he will not ...
A. 6 June 2008: Story this week in the newspaper, a marriage in france is being nullified (never happened) because the woman lied about being virgin.
It goes to show just how strong lying about something can be taken. Not just did the man go to court over it ... (read in full...)
Should I ask her out and hope for a yes?
Q. Im 16 finally got the guts to tell a girl (15) ive been in love with for a while how i felt and she didnt give a response, we've always been flirty with eachother since we became friends, should i ask her out and hope for a yes...
A. 3 June 2008: Do it of course. If she says no, well then at least you know where you are and if she says yes... well you can your first born after me ;)... (read in full...)
I would just like to know why no guys have asked me out?
Q. I don't get it alot of guys like me and i mean ALOT but yet no guy has asked me out and I'm thinking that it is me. My mom says that guys are affraid of me saying no if they ask me out. I feel really down about that. I don't know ehat to do about ...
A. 3 June 2008: Teenage boys, well most men are not all that sure how to go about asking women out. There is a reason so many women end up dating assholes and abusers, that is because they are the ones who got the most confidence to ask them out.
You got two opti... (read in full...)
Can you get an STD from sperm on skin?
Q. My best friend had sex with her boyfriend a recently. Not to sound gross but he took off his condom at the last second and his sperm went all over her back. Is there any risk of STD just by it being on bare skin? She freaked out but I told her she ...
A. 3 June 2008: Well, the medical facts are simple, you can catch an STD from any contact with bodily fluid.
Open wounds? You got them, all over your body, far to small for you to notice but big enough for viruses to enter.
The risk is not that great but s... (read in full...)
My bf is worrying me about giving him a child!
Q. hi, am in a relationship with my bf for about 3 years now but all my bf say is he want a child within the next year but i ask him to see my parents which he say he is not yet ready. so am confuse should give birth before he see my parents or is ...
A. 3 June 2008: You should be worried. Not ready to meet your parents but ready have a kid? Don't think so.
A: Having a kid is a status symbol.
B: He wants to tag you.
C: He wants to prove he is man enough to knock you with child.
But most certainly no... (read in full...)
My husband left me for another woman!!
Q. hello! my husband of 23 yrs left me for another woman, the day he left was mothers day and he was really out of control, so i went the next day and filed a restraining order on him, in return he went behind me and filed one on me, the day he brought ...
A. 1 June 2008: Contact a lawyer as soon as possible. He has responsibilities that he needs to meet.
If you filed a restraining order against him then isn't him leaving you a good thing? Out of control? As in abuse?
Why would you even want him back after all t... (read in full...)
I am scared to try BJ again!!
Q. I was recently told I was awful at giving a guy a blowjob. I mean, it was my first time and all, and he knew that. He just simply told me I was awful at it. I asked him what I could do to improve and he just said "get better" while shrugging. I know ...
A. 1 June 2008: Well if it was that awful why does he want it again?
He sounds like an asshole. There are somethings you do and somethings you just don't do and telling a girl who just gave you head that she was awful is as big a NO-NO as they come.
Anyway,... (read in full...)
Could this be the cause of his discomfort?
Q. My boyfriend says that sex can hurt his member. He is well endowed while I am rather petite. Could this be the cause of his discomfort?...
A. 1 June 2008: If being tight was a discomfort why would any man ever desire anal sex?
Yes obviously it can be too tight but I am fairly certain that you would notice this as well. Again the anal sex thing, long before the man starts complaining the female w... (read in full...)
Am I paranoid about becoming pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a "committed" relationship. We have talked about sex and he says he would never do anything to make me uncomfortable and wouldn't push me; I believe him. I have stepped up and decided to start taking the pill. I have told ...
A. 1 June 2008: How committed, pill doesn't protect against STD and it takes a while to be sure you are both clean.
It is your body, you decide what goes in it and if he doesn't like the feeling he can whack off without a condom 24/7.
Sorry, but I just can't... (read in full...)
I lied about my past and he doesn't like it!
Q. My bf doesn't trust me, because he dislikes my past and because I lied about it. He worries about every other crush I had before meeting him, or every other guy I kissed. I'm 19, he's almost 23. I lost my virginity to him, although my first sexual ...
A. 1 June 2008: A virgin slut. That is a new one.
Yes, men often have troubles with their partners having an extensive sexual past. You don't have one.
This type of question comes up a lot and it depends on the actual past in question how I answer it. For i... (read in full...)
Second-Life is ruining my real life!
Q. Hi, I've been seeing my fiancee for 9years, and known her for over 10. A couple of years ago we started having problems within out relationship because my fiancee was feeling too tired most nights to talk to me let alone anything else. So,I s...
A. 1 June 2008: Gee, you seem to go awfully quickly over the fact that she was a hostage with a knife against her throat?
She needs help with this and if you are correct in that she didn't use the therapy correctly then she is still having troubles with this.
... (read in full...)
The ultimate revenge. Should I go for it?
Q. Today i was told by a friend about a girl at my old school who now works an escort. This girl was the worst type of girl and once she made a complete fool of me and embrassed me in front of a lot of people and it took a while to get some ...
A. 31 May 2008: She is a hooker, isn't that revenge enough?
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If he has a crush, would he just stand and stare?
Q. one simple question if a guy has a crush on u..he would definitely make an effort to talk to u..what if he doesnt but just stares and looks at u..what is it???...
A. 31 May 2008: Talk to a girl you got a crush on? ARE YOU KIDDING!
You are lucky he even stands still because the most assured way of attracting a girl you got a crush on is to ignore her and avoid her presence.
No it hasn't actually worked yet but I am sur... (read in full...)
Am I painting him to be the bad guy or is he really thoughtless?
Q. After years living apart through work commitments and a huge amount of stress from moving we finally achieved our long awaited goal but now I'm having a hard time settling down. My husband is a lovely man, which is why I've turned my life upside ...
A. 31 May 2008: Does being thoughtless make him a bad guy?
It sounds a bit like the two of you are having a hard time getting used to your new life together. Moving, kids from a previous relationship, hard work etc etc, they are not helping.
The honeymoon... (read in full...)
Are us women suppose to put up with men unfaithfullness & childish behavior because they refuse to grow up?
Q. I need everyones advice. Ladies and guys too. I have a bf that is a typical guy. He has cheated before. I've seen other girls phone numbers on his phone and he denies it. But us girls have this instinct that never fails. I know for a fact ...
A. 31 May 2008: "But us girls have this instinct that never fails."
Ah right. Delusional much?
If your instinct never fails you why did you hook up with this guy?
Didn't your instincts tell you what he was like before you got involved? Or did your in... (read in full...)
Do you think there is something wrong if a guy asks for sex all the time even though you told him that you were only interested in friendship?
Q. Hey everyone, I know i prolly shouldnt of done this but I did it. Anyway I met this nice guy in school and we became friends. I told him I was not interested in a relationship right now cause I am so busy with school and work. He was fine with that ...
A. 31 May 2008: Well in his defense, he never lied to you, never pretended to want anything more. Surely that should count for something?
He wants sex, he asks for it. Doesn't cheat, doesn't lie, doesn't pressure. Just asks for it and you gave it.
All you... (read in full...)
How do I deal with the fact that everyone I know loves my abusive ex bf?
Q. How do i deal with the fact that everyone i know loves my abusive ex bf? They all think he is this great guy, caring, chamring, respectful and a good catholic guy. But hes not...it just really frustrats me. People would always say when we were ...
A. 31 May 2008: This is pretty common, partly because guys like your ex can afford to be charmers at work because they can let of steam at home. They see only his good side, you get the dark side.
Normal people, it is a mix of both you get to experience. Just yes... (read in full...)
Confused about money morals....
Q. Hello I dont know how to tell you my problem but here it comes, my new boyfriend of 6 weeks earns £30,000 more than me a year, as i earn alot less than him i cant afford to have beauty treatments or have my hair done when it needs to be done, my b...
A. 31 May 2008: Whose idea was it that you needed this 250 pound overhaul? It seems rather expensive, I presume that on your own you would never do this?
I don't think he is joking about you paying him back, no unless he got a very warped and dangerous sense of... (read in full...)
Will having sex with him make him mine again?
Q. i met my ex at aparty 2weeks ago and he came over to where i was and we hugged,he sat next to me and chatted for a while and later danced,i was confused cos this is the guy who dumped before and now giving me his attention,i was getting mixed ...
A. 31 May 2008: No.
He is just using you for sex nothing more. If you are fine with that then go for it but do NOT make the common mistake of thinking that it means anything more. Both men and women often seem to think that sex binds the other person to them. It... (read in full...)
Should I send him a "congratulations on your divorce" card to his parents to let him know that he has no power and control to stop the divorce, and to let him know that I am no longer his stupid little wife?
Q. my ex was a horrible nasty piece of work and loves to control and is a power freak but since december (just gone) i have stood up to him and given him abit of his own medicine!! see how he likes to be abused although i only gave him about 1% of the ...
A. 30 May 2008: Take a deep breath and try and be calm about this.
So you had an abusive husband, too bad but at least you got out. It is OVER.
Now is not the time for revenge or bitterness but happiness that you can get on with your life. So do so.
Lets y... (read in full...)
Is this rape or sexual assault?
Q. i have a problem with my boyfriend - he wants sex and every time he tries to put his penis inside of me it really hurts. Last time we tried to do this he would not stop trying and I ended up crying - he then became violent and covered my mouth up ...
A. 30 May 2008: The law sees several degrees of rape and your story is one of the reasons for it.
After all, your own original intention was to attempt intercourse. You wanted his penis inside BUT then after allowing it, because of the pain, said no.
He lost... (read in full...)
He doesn't make any sounds when we make love...
Q. i have a boyfriend.we have been together for a year and ahalf. When we make love he doesnt make any sound he so quiet that i wouldnt know if he is enjoying himself. Well i asked him why he's quiet? He told he he doesnt know and he said i also dont ...
A. 30 May 2008: This may be a fundemental difference between men and women. Men are silent, women are not. I am not talking about porn style screaming but on the whole it seems women moan and men don't.
Wether it is natural or just the way we are expected... (read in full...)
If a relationship shows signs of sexual abuse, and controlling tendencies as early as 2 months, will it only get worse?
Q. If a relationship shows signs of sexual abuse, and controlling tendencies, as early within the first 2 months, does that mean it will only get worst??? is it best to end the relationship now before it gets to bad? ...
A. 30 May 2008: Yes.... (read in full...)
Is it illegal for a 15 year old to go out with a 30 year old?
Q. i just wanted some advice really im 15 and going out with a 30year old is it illegal?? ...
A. 30 May 2008: Going out? No. Sex, yes.
Mind you, that is the west. The laws in Uganda might be very different indeed.... (read in full...)
What makes a guy try to pressure a girl into sex and think it's fine to not respect her boundaries??
Q. What makes a guy try to pressure a girl into sex? What makes a guy not listen to a girl when she says 'no'? What makes him think its ok to not respect her boundaires? And what makes a guy so controlling? I know those are all general questions, but ...
A. 30 May 2008: Animals can control their urges and humans are animals, but LJ001 probably puts it better.
For the guys that are like that, it WORKS! They want sex, they get it.
Why don't other guys do the same? Lots of reasons. Lower sexdrive, not wa... (read in full...)
Is getting really wet bad/nasty?
Q. i am wondering.. is getting really wet bad/nasty?? like i mean really. i haven't been horny lately but i guess i was and this boy fingered me and he was like my fingers are so wet while he was doing it.. so is that a bad thing?? im really ...
A. 30 May 2008: The wetness is lubrication for intercourse. Try this, when you are try, touch your clit directly with a dry finger. Now make it wet and try again, world of difference right?
It is just your body reacting to your sexual excitement and preparin... (read in full...)
My question is, is it intimidating to a guy to know that I am a virgin at 20? What would the first impression be?
Q. Alright heres the scoop: I am going to be a junior in college and I have never had a boyfriend nor have I kissed a guy. Honestly, there have been plenty of guys that have wanted to do stuff with me but I have not really liked any of them enough, ...
A. 30 May 2008: What would be intimidating about it?
What might be the case is that you are not an easy girl, you are waiting for Mr Right and apparenly not given in to any Mr Wrongs or Mr Maybes yet.
Mr Right won't be intimidated at all. Been on this site for... (read in full...)
What makes a guy try to pressure a girl into sex and think it's fine to not respect her boundaries??
Q. What makes a guy try to pressure a girl into sex? What makes a guy not listen to a girl when she says 'no'? What makes him think its ok to not respect her boundaires? And what makes a guy so controlling? I know those are all general questions, but ...
A. 30 May 2008: Because it works.
The simple fact is that if you are one of those losers who stops when the girls says no and respects her limits you end up not having a lot of sex, or indeed any.
Trust me on this, I am one of those losers.
But I got a que... (read in full...)
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