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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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I feel so lonely after my wife has admitted her affair and need somebody to talk to...
Q. Hi there, Unfortunately, I never expected (or hoped) to have to ever write something like this.. However, I have found out today that after months of fearing the worst, my wife told me that she has been having an affair and I believe the only...
A. 22 March 2008: Seek out a lawyer first of all. Divorces are NEVER easy and this ones most certainly ain't going to be pretty.
You can let her walk all over you OR you can finally make a stand for yourselve and make sure the divorce is done in your favor. R... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and he's 35. Is a 18 year old difference too much?
Q. I am a 17 year old senior in high school. I have met a 35 year old man whom i am falling for. We have alot of things in common, and i fell really comfortable around him, but my question is...is this 18 year difference a problem..will people accept ...
A. 21 March 2008: 18 yrs is a lot, basically, he is old enough to be your father and I don't mean biological. He should by now have the maturity to be raising kids, you are still a kid.
If it was a 22 yr old and a 40yr old that would be different.
Society will ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend prefers masturbation/porn to sex???
Q. My boyfriend and I live together and have what others consider a perfect relationship. This is going to be a bit long winded, but I feel I need to start at the beginning so that it is all properly understood. When I first moved in, I quickly re...
A. 20 March 2008: Well I did research it, a lot and what I found was find that everyone who claimed it was an adiction was also selling a cure.
This INSTANTLY sets up a red flag, the independent scientist are ALL still undecided on the issue (porn/in... (read in full...)
Why would a guy say he wasn't wearing a condom when he was?
Q. why would a guy say he wasn't wearing a condom and ask if he could let go when he was in fact wearing one? He said it was just to heighten the heat of the moment but it freaked me out and I didn't understand that....
A. 20 March 2008: Bucking bronco?
Just remembered an old joke, do not follow the link if you still have hopes that some men are human deep down.
*** Text but NSFW
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=bucking+bronco
He might just have thought it w... (read in full...)
I would not have married her, had I known of her wild sexual past! What now?
Q. What do you do when you find out your wife has had a wild sexual past and you didnt know about it and if you had known about it, you would not have even asked her to marry you?...
A. 20 March 2008: Details, they matter. Why? Because I have no idea what you are upset about. Wild sexual past? By whose standards? It could be anything from having kissed another person to a death-sex orgy with assorted life-stock open to all ages.
What is a wil... (read in full...)
What's the deal???
Q. I’ve been friends with this guy for over a year. We’ve been spending more time together over the last 5 months and it's basically been developing into something more over time. He used to do all these really great things for me all the time. He ...
A. 20 March 2008: Brutally honest? He sounds like a kid who doesn't know what the hell he wants, if he ain't a player he sure would like to be one, or maybe not. He doesn't know and seems to be changing his mind constantly.
As for you, I get the feeling that you... (read in full...)
Virtual flirt... too much?
Q. I've been married for 15 years and am very happy with our life. Sex life not so much. Recently I found one of my first boyfriends online and started talking... really only wanted to see how he was doing. It turned into memory sharing and was very ...
A. 20 March 2008: Read between the lines.
"He lives completly on the other side of the country and THAT MEANS there is no way we would ever see each other in real life."
But you want to? Two little words sure as hell change that sentence?
There is tempta... (read in full...)
Can I stop myself becoming bisexual?
Q. I have an amazing bf and I love him to bits but i always watch lesbian porn coz its much more of a turn on and also sometimes i see girls and i dont think id mind having sex with them! i dont like the thought of being bisexual, can i stop myself or ...
A. 20 March 2008: Stricly speaking you are bi-curious.
The famous kinsey reports had a scale/ranking from 1-7or8 going from purely heterosexual to purely homosexual and a seperate one a-sexual (never sure if that one was included in the ranking or not)
Another... (read in full...)
His dreams are causing problems in our marriage
Q. My Husband of 6 years has been having sexual dreams almost every night,Of course he has a full errection.Several times I have heard him say sexual things out loud while in his sex dream.What really upset me is that he has even called out a females ...
A. 20 March 2008: You can't control your dreams. Some researchers claim that dreaming is a way to cope with events that happened during the day. The reason why we dream is not yet fully understood.
What is understood is the nightmare (bad pun) of thought crimes. ... (read in full...)
Sex, the messy details
Q. I plan on staying a virgin until my wedding night and I hope to marry a virgin. I'm concerned about what our wedding night might be like. This might sound naive but just how messy is sex without a condom. Is there semen everywhere? What about ...
A. 20 March 2008: Is sex messy? Only if you are doing it right.
Annalisa pretty much got the gist of it although she forgot about the sweat, basically both of you will be clammy.
As for the virgin thing, well good luck to you, compared to people who feel ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend prefers masturbation/porn to sex???
Q. My boyfriend and I live together and have what others consider a perfect relationship. This is going to be a bit long winded, but I feel I need to start at the beginning so that it is all properly understood. When I first moved in, I quickly re...
A. 20 March 2008: First things first, yes he has a problem but be wary of those saying porn is bad. One of DrPhil links leads to Jehova witnesses. A religion that will refuse blood transfusion even if it means death. Are these the people you want to take advice from? ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wrote me a threatening email! How do I respond?
Q. Boyfriend and I are arguing.He did somethign that hurt me and all day I waited for flowers and an apology or both. When I finally received an e-mail from him it was nasty and threatening. I don't know how to respond to that. I feel I should sh...
A. 20 March 2008: Well, read the e-mail. At best, the guy is a control freak with an out of control ego. He really seems to think he can lay down the law on how you should approach him doesn't he?
At least he doesn't physically threathen you, yet. Archive this e-m... (read in full...)
It really turns my boyfriend on to think of me having sex with other men - he even wants me to tape it!!!
Q. Well I really need some advice I've been dating this guy for 2 years. I fell in love with him everything amazing he was my first the sex amazing the bond pretty much everything I ever wanted but all of a sudden we started opening up and it really ...
A. 20 March 2008: ***Site might contain nude ads.
http://btjunkie.org/search?q=homemade
Now not all the links you see on that site are genuine, but a lot are. Willing to guess how many of them don't show the guys face?
Do NOT create any media unless you abs... (read in full...)
I feel so lonely after my wife has admitted her affair and need somebody to talk to...
Q. Hi there, Unfortunately, I never expected (or hoped) to have to ever write something like this.. However, I have found out today that after months of fearing the worst, my wife told me that she has been having an affair and I believe the only...
A. 20 March 2008: So what now. Well, what does she want? You tell us little of her attitude towards you or indeed your relationship. Low sex-drive? Could be, you could also be a lousy lover. Not trying to hurt you, just saying details are extremely important if you ... (read in full...)
He's not the faithful type, should I go after him anyway?
Q. i have known *Guy* for about a year now, i've got on with him well since we first started talking. we've always flirted and joked around like that but over the last month or so hes got more serious about it, telling me he cant stop thinking of me ec...
A. 20 March 2008: "i will have to get a bf at some point"
Yeah the clock is ticking, a woman of 17, why just a few more months and all hopes of ever marrying are gone.
Geez, even in Japan they only claim a woman is an old maid at 27.
Did some crazy relati... (read in full...)
I doubt anyone has ever been in such a situation with his girlfriend
Q. Before everyone begins with the "nah bro, dump her dump her" stuff, read it completely, and put yourself in my situation, and atleast TRY to understand how I feel. I'm with a girl right now, and quite frankly, she is amazing. Whether we're talking ...
A. 20 March 2008: I ended my previous comment suggesting she might be out of control. Some people just can't control themselves, as I said, they just do whatever seems like a good idea at the time and never ever learn. Jmo is a poster who said she is similar to this ... (read in full...)
She thinks my parents are evil! Do I deserve someone better?
Q. My girlfriend and I recently broke off our engagement because my parents and her could not get along. Both my parents and my now ex-girlfriend are strong headed and would not try to find a common ground. She felt my parents were evil and every time ...
A. 20 March 2008: Well you certainly added a lot of details and I am getting a picture here, correct me if I am wrong, not of your parents or her but of you.
Do you still live at your parents house? I am getting the feeling that you are not the most assertiv... (read in full...)
I was molested by my stepdad, now with kids of my own how do I tell my mom I don't want them in their house!?
Q. Since I was about 6 years old till I was about 16 years old my step father molested and raped me, it was an every day thing. It finally got to the point were I wouldn't even fight him anymore, I would just let it happen. I finaly got the courage to ...
A. 20 March 2008: Reading your follow-up I can recommend only one thing. Go to the police and report BOTH your parents. Kill herself? She doesn't have what it takes or she would have stopped the abuse. Suicide would ruin her perfect image.
She is evil. Not nazi evi... (read in full...)
It burns when we have sex. We don't use condoms. Could that be the problem?
Q. when my parnter and i have sex at first its fine but after a while it starts to burn her inside and we have to stop. we dont use comdoms as she has a coile could that be the problem ...
A. 19 March 2008: Sounds like either an infection or not enough lubrication.
For the first she should definitly see a doctor, the second can be caused by a lot of things. Quickest way to test is to try it with a lube, some condoms come with it and you can also buy... (read in full...)
I'm sure she has probably out on the pull as she seems to be out in clubs several nights a week like she used to be before we got together. What do I do please??
Q. Still love my ex and she confuses me. Try to get all the details in but be brief here. Girl i worked with years ago who was also one of my friends exes and another friends sister, Started showing interest in me and i had always liked her so went out ...
A. 19 March 2008: Why do you think she is out on the pull? Has she been seeing other guys? She might just really enjoy dancing. Doesn't mean she is romantically or sexually involved with anyone else.
It basically sounds like you two despite an attraction to each ... (read in full...)
My partner who is 10 years older treats me like a child! It ruins my day!
Q. My boyfriend and I have lived together for a year. Everything is usually fine because my bf is very caring and we love each other. But, one thing really bothers me and it often makes me upset. He is 10 years older than me and it is true that he is ...
A. 19 March 2008: You should be able to make your own mistakes? Is he your dad?
That is a line of a child to a parent, not between lovers.
I am really confused by this one.
Let me give an example from my own experience years ago. Girlfriend of friend end... (read in full...)
A teenage girl touched me was it molestation?
Q. Okay I'm pretty new to this but something is really bugging me. There's this girl in my class she's a co op student. She looks at this girl in my. I got really moodie one day than I walked out of the class room. I call her by her nickname witch is ...
A. 19 March 2008: Yes it was. No that you felt something does not matter. What you have to remember here is that it was your mind saying,"no I am not ready". Not your body, it was just reacting to touches that years from now you might want to experience with the ... (read in full...)
I can't bear to think of him looking at porn when I am a willing bed partner, it makes me feel so angry and rejected and worthless any ideas what to do?
Q. Hi I can relate to everything some of you say I met my partner 8 years ago at first although not frequent, sex was really good then four years ago he announced that he no longer wanted sex with me or any other woman I was a bit shocked but took ...
A. 19 March 2008: A lot of issues going on by the sounds of it.
Lets get the porn out of the way first, because it really is not important. Just accept that some men look at porn and that the looks of their partner have nothing to do with it.
Second, don't... (read in full...)
I was molested by my stepdad, now with kids of my own how do I tell my mom I don't want them in their house!?
Q. Since I was about 6 years old till I was about 16 years old my step father molested and raped me, it was an every day thing. It finally got to the point were I wouldn't even fight him anymore, I would just let it happen. I finaly got the courage to ...
A. 19 March 2008: You are absolutly 100% right not to allow this creature anywhere near your kids. Not in anyway shape or form, ever, under any circumstance.
The following is going to be very harsh, so don't read on if you are not prepared to hear it. But there is... (read in full...)
Want to have sex, but worried about how I'll look with no clothes on!
Q. hiya, well i'm 14 and i have this most amazing boyfriend, i love him to bits. The thing is we muck about talking about sex and stuff and i no he actually does want to have sex with me as he has told me and he keeps hinting it. I also think i want t...
A. 19 March 2008: You don't want to be reminded of your age, well that is normal, no teen wants to be told they are a kid. So I won't.
Instead I ask you to look at your own words. In your original post you say "I also think i want to and i think i am ready." ... (read in full...)
I'm a bit disturbed about some clips I've seen in my boyfriend's computer...
Q. I'm a bit disturbed about some clips I've seen in my boyfriend's computer. The setting is in the shower after a seven a side tag rugby match between men and adolescent boys and women, they're all taking a shower together but wearing underpants and ...
A. 19 March 2008: What exactly is it that you have a problem with?
Is the camera focussing on body parts or is it just a vid of people horsing around?
Topless? Pretty normal on beaches, yes men will react to that, but if the video ain't focussing on the... (read in full...)
Anything wrong with fancying your ex's best friend?
Q. Hi! I'd like to know if there is anything wrong with liking your ex's best friend. Of course, nothing will ever happen between us considering i dated his best friend, and I'm sure he'd find it awkward. But was I really that wrong in believing ...
A. 19 March 2008: Why would you want to get over him? Is he wrong for you?
If you and your ex are completly seperated, what is the problem?
Yes, their maybe akward moments, but is that a reason to give up a chance at love?... (read in full...)
How do I get my mum to stop acting like my man, who has been with me for 8 months, and loves me a lot, is not like the men that she has been with?
Q. Hi, I asked a question on here earlier about my bf not seeing me for a week, and his car needing to be fixed. Well, now I have another problem. I've had this problem for some time now. How can I get my mom to stop acting like he ain't shit, just bec...
A. 19 March 2008: A classic guitar doesn't cost that much, but then again, you are not exactly rich are you? If he has problems making payments and still buys expensive gifts, then your mother is right, he has some growing up to do. Although I am saying this as a... (read in full...)
She thinks my parents are evil! Do I deserve someone better?
Q. My girlfriend and I recently broke off our engagement because my parents and her could not get along. Both my parents and my now ex-girlfriend are strong headed and would not try to find a common ground. She felt my parents were evil and every time ...
A. 19 March 2008: She deserves someone better. A man should stick up for his woman. A woman should stick up for her man. Your parents attacked your woman and you didn't defend her? No wonder she was mean, your parents hurt her feelings and you let her down. ... (read in full...)
My wife and mother of my two children has been unfaithful, but has changed for me. How do I learn to ignore the past?
Q. please tell me what to do? i am married having 2 kids after marriage i have come to know that she was phisically involved with someone but now she has changed herself a lot for me but its hard to ignore her past. please advice me how to ignore her ...
A. 19 March 2008: You can't. The only way to "deal" with it is to accept it. This won't be easy and it will never go away. Years from now, something will bring the memory back to the surface. Try to concentrate on the now and work towards the future, that yo... (read in full...)
My partner who is 10 years older treats me like a child! It ruins my day!
Q. My boyfriend and I have lived together for a year. Everything is usually fine because my bf is very caring and we love each other. But, one thing really bothers me and it often makes me upset. He is 10 years older than me and it is true that he is ...
A. 19 March 2008: He is telling you what to eat, you mean like practically every wife who tries to get her husband to watch his diet? Treating her husband like a kid OR caring? Are peanuts bad for you? A caring relationship with a person means you take care of thi... (read in full...)
My ex intended to keep me for sex as he wanted his own family and couldn't deal with the time I dedicate to my kids, what should I have done?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 and a half years broke up with me 3 weeks ago and moved to Europe. He called me after three days and within 6 days he came back. I am divorced with kids and he says that although I am the greatest love of my life, he just cannot ...
A. 19 March 2008: Cute guy, lets see, he doesn't want to share you with your kids. He wants his partner all for himself. So his plan, get another partner, have kids with her AND keep you on the side? So he won't mind if this new partner has to be shared between h... (read in full...)
Worried about sizes... and the future.
Q. okay, im overweight, and i have a 4 and half or 5 inch penis(its hard to measure...), i'm 17 and i get made fun of by these other kids i know for being a virgin, but i have to know am i too small? will there really be someone out there who except...
A. 19 March 2008: Penisses come in all sizes, but yours is about average. One thing to consider is that the size depends a bit on your level of excitement. Messing around with a measuring tape will probably not give you as big an erection as being with a girl, unless ... (read in full...)
Is it true one can fall pregnant from a man's pre-ejaculatory fluid?
Q. My boyfriend and I had sex 14 days after my period we started out unprotected but then he put a condom on meaning he did not ejaculate inside of me but I've been having some cramping,lower back pains and i've noticed a change in my appetite.. I read ...
A. 19 March 2008: Yes, pre-cum can contain tiny amounts of sperm and just one is enough. You basically did coitus interruptus, not the most reliable birth control method out there. You are fertile two weeks after you period starts. So all the ingredients were... (read in full...)
I doubt anyone has ever been in such a situation with his girlfriend
Q. Before everyone begins with the "nah bro, dump her dump her" stuff, read it completely, and put yourself in my situation, and atleast TRY to understand how I feel. I'm with a girl right now, and quite frankly, she is amazing. Whether we're talking ...
A. 18 March 2008: Well you seem to count each individual sexual act as a seperate cheating incident. So HOW many times did she cheat with you on her old boyfriend? That's right as long as she hadn't broke up with him, everything she did with you was cheating.
... (read in full...)
I get erect when with my girlfriend...how do I keep her from noticing?
Q. how can i stop getting aroused and avoid hard on??? whenever i'm with my girlfriend, and i hug and love her ....i get a hard on..but i dislike it...i want to hold her and love her ....as a dick erect in my pants embarresses me a lot... is it po...
A. 18 March 2008: Reminds me of an old joke. Young guy goes to the doctor, "please can't you do something, every time I dance with my sweetheart I get this erection and I have to twist myself to keep her from finding out, please help me". The doctor replies,"... (read in full...)
Should I have a threesome with my gay best friend, and his new bi boyfriend? I'm bisexual
Q. My best friend is a gay man. We're really close to eachother and I feel as if I can to him about anything. I don't tend to get on with other girls that well as I find that girls tend to get quite bitchy towards me and so my relationship with my ...
A. 18 March 2008: Say these two men are serious with each other and remain in love. What are you then? A sex-toy? To be called upon when they want an extra-kink? What about what you want? What is your benefit? You have no hang-ups about threesomes you sa... (read in full...)
Keep the baby for me or abortion to make him happy?
Q. I'm a 23 year old female and I am pregnant. Doesn't seem like a big deal but the guy that I'm pregnant by doesn't want me to have to baby because he says we should wait and because he's not ready. He has tried EVERYTHING to make me have a abortion: ...
A. 18 March 2008: YOU should have an abortion because HE is not ready. Right, he was ready for the sex wasn't he?
Your answer is pretty clear, you have no problem having this baby and have the support of your family. There is no easy answer that will make everythi... (read in full...)
Is it best to wait forever to lose my virginity with someone important to me or just go for it within the next 6 months...?
Q. I'm 16 I'd like detailed answers to this question please: Is it best to wait forever to lose my virginity with someone important to me and therefore probably never lose it as I am so unattractive, OR just go for it within the next 6 months even...
A. 18 March 2008: Is there one woman on this site who, now that she has found someone she loves and wants to grow old with, did NOT wish she had saved it for this guy and not some random guy at a party? If a guy asks wether he should go pay for sex to loose his vir... (read in full...)
I know I am fat, but why cant I get a boyfriend?
Q. fat girl needing a man to date but why none have asked me ? i am a 24 year old fat woman who has had two problems most of her life not having guys ask me out and my weight by trying to loose it even though i gain more . it is bugging me . i tried ...
A. 18 March 2008: http://www.okcupid.com/virgin
Try this one and spot the virgin. Hint, if you see a thin pretty woman and a fat okay woman, pick the thin pretty one. She is the virgin.
Fat girls have all the fun. What may be your problem is that you worry a... (read in full...)
Are people required to change because their married now?
Q. My husband and I dated for 4 years before marriage and we have been married 1.5 yrs, are in counseling already. There is no emotional, physical or spiritual connection anymore and I don't want to live like this. I have a habit that is not ...
A. 18 March 2008: Marriage is two single people trying to share their lifes. If you do NOT adjust this will be impossible. Lets try some basic stuff.
You can no longer watch tv in bed whenever you want, because your spouse might be trying to sleep. You got to pick ... (read in full...)
More than one way to get up the Duff!!
Q. Some us ‘Aunts’ have been entertaining ourselves with fundamental questions about various ways pregnancy occurs…. I remembered that there were strange stories surrounding the births of some of the gods and goddesses of ancient myth, and I had a ...
A. 18 March 2008: Bah, who needs women, Ra (egyptian god) did not, he just masturbated two kids into existence. Then there is Isis, her husband (Osiris) gets cut up (by set because sets wife seduced a drunken Osiris, you still following?) but that doesn't stop her... (read in full...)
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