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reader, BigSis  +, writes (8 April 2008):
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reader, Smiffy  +, writes (8 April 2008):
 Still confused about the real question here....do you want to have a child or not.....
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 If I understand your followup correctly you are trying to get pregnant?
It takes a healthy couple on average half a year to conceive. Although pre-cum can contain sperm I wouldn't rely on it (pre-cum's role is to clear the penis of urine because that kills sperm).
If you want to get pregnant, the guy has to come inside, preferabbly in a position where the sperm doesn't leak out. Missionary or doggy style are typical positons considered good for conceiving.
If you spend a year trying, with full ejaculation inside and allowing time for the sperm to work its way in (don't stand up immidiatly) and are otherwise healthy then it might be time to seek medical aid to find out if anything is wrong.
But four months with him pulling out and ejaculating outside I wouldn't be suprised if you didn't conceive. Just because pulling out is a lousy firm of birth control doesn't mean you will get pregnant when doing it.
Now what I wonder is why he pulls out? Obsessed with porn or doesn't he want a child?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe are not looking to get pregnant but also wouldnt hate the idea.
Im just asking about fertility here, are the chances of me getting pregnant so high i should be worried about not getting pregnant in the last few months of unprotected sex?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkai my question wasnt that of the title, im more worried about there being somehting wrong as we havent used protection and i havent become pregnant. some people it happens like first time so could there be something wrong if we havent been caught out?
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reader, BigSis +, writes (7 April 2008):
Oh...Hello, ooops.....It looks like my last comment crossed in the post with yours, but i'm still not so sure what you are asking. Do you want to get pregnant?
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reader, BigSis +, writes (7 April 2008):
Will the question asker please step forward. There's a mixture of replies here.
We need a clearer picture of what you are trying to tell us.
Thanks.
: ^)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkai my question wasnt that of the title, im more worried about there being somehting wrong as we havent used protection and i havent become pregnant. some people it happens like first time so could there be something wrong if we havent been caught out?
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reader, lilmisse2424  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 If you haven't gotten your period within the past 4 months, then it may be likely so. I would get yourself a pregnancy test to test if you are. Also, If I were you, next time, use protection like a condom. With that, I would go to the doctor and get checked.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 Precums can contain 300,000 sperms and you only need one sperm to fertilize the egg..
A normal ejaculation can consist of 200 to 300 million sperms.
If any sperm is deposited on your vulva or outside or near
your vagina, you can still get pregnant because , those sperms
are good swimmers like torpedoes.
That is your risk if you use the pull out method.
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reader, Smiffy +, writes (7 April 2008):
Thanks phiatiger n BigSis....thought I was going crazy...
Looks like another session for the "birds and the bees"
This post cant be serious...
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reader, raima  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 better you use proctection it is safe and also without tension ..........u can enjoy if one day or may be without knowing or knowing something happen that you will be problem for the women it is dengerous to do abortion not good for good women rest up to u..............
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reader, sarah_s +, writes (7 April 2008):
 You should be wise enough at your age to know the consequences. Even though he hasn't ejaculated you still run the risk of falling pregnant since, sperm can still leak through.
What do you mean 4 months of nothing? Have you had a missed period? Taken a hpt?
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reader, BigSis +, writes (7 April 2008):
Thanks for that Phiatiger, I thought it was just me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): I read this the same as BigSiS. Surely he is pulling out to avoid pregnancy, so why would it be a worry that you are not pregnant? Are you secretly hoping to fall pregnant? If you are trying to get pregnant then tell him not to pull out. If you are then I suggest you continue that method or find a less worrying, more practical option, like a condom? Very confusing.
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reader, I care  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 If you haven't gotten your regular period in the last four months then is is very possible that you are pregnant and you herd right there is a high risk of getting pregnant cus even though he pulls out he did probbable pull out before the pre ejaculation that happens shortly just before he actually gets off. If I were you I would go see my doctor and get a pregnancy test done.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (7 April 2008):
The pull out method is not 100% safe and there is a risk of pregnancy.
If you did not get pregnant, it could be possible , you are
unlucky or lucky depending on whether you wanted to be pregnant or not.
Not being pregnant could also be due to other factors.
You would need to go to the doctor to check who is at fault.
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reader, BigSis +, writes (7 April 2008):
I'm a little confused here. You have unprotected sex, and your boyfriend pulls out because..I take it..you don't want to get pregnant, right?
So then why are you assuming something could be wrong? If you're not pregnant, then that's good, yeah? Or have I misunderstood the question?
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