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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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How do I stand with getting a divorce so early into our marriage? How do I manage financially when my husband is so awkward?
Q. My husband and I have been together 2.5 years, married for 8 months, have an 18 month old child and now expecting our next child, I am 11 weeks pregnant and very much planned/wanted. Our relationship, once the gloss disappeared has been somewha...
A. 30 March 2008: A lot of different issues here.
First off, finances. The UK has social programs to help people with no income and will provide for people in your situation. It won't be luxury, but countless other single mothers have succesfully raised their ki... (read in full...)
He said we can't be together or his family will disown him!!!
Q. I just want other people opinions on this really because I want to know if I have every right to be extremely hurt. I've been seeing this guy for a couple of months and we're 3 hours away and I'm willing to get trains every Friday night to spend t...
A. 30 March 2008: It seems like a lie, does he really come from a family that is rich enough to matter?
If it is the truth then he obviously cares more about money then you and if it ain't, he just used a rather bad lie on you.
Either way, you seen his colors.... (read in full...)
Is cuddling with another guy while watching a movie (minus the kissing or eye-gazing, more like just laying together) cheating if you're in a relationship?
Q. Is cuddling with another guy while watching a movie (minus the kissing or eye-gazing, more like just laying together) cheating if you're in a relationship?...
A. 30 March 2008: Yes.... (read in full...)
Should I ask him out again? I wouldn't want to seem desperate.
Q. hey there i just recently asked this guy in my class at my birhtday who had a girlfriend if anything would ever happen if he was single and he said yes probably and now he has broken up with his girlfriend and ever since then he's still been the...
A. 29 March 2008: Well, some guys just ain't to clever on the whole subtle hints thing. He might not have picked up on it at all or forgotten all about it.
Never underestimate a man's capacity to not notice the bloody obvious.
I agree with others, wait a b... (read in full...)
I don't reject the idea of a threesome, my only fear is losing my partner subsequently. What can you suggest?
Q. My partner and I are thinking of doing a threesome i dont mind at all connsidering i have never done one at all, the only worry i have is losing him through it ...
A. 29 March 2008: This question comes up a lot. Three-somes and swinging in general can really tear up a relationship. Only if a couple really is willing and able NOT just to share their partner but also themselves with another and accept that this new person might ... (read in full...)
Am I missing out on love because of pride?
Q. Hey. I just wanted other people's opinions please. There's this guy I used to go out with a while ago. He says he has always loved me ever since. Now he hears I am single again and immediately he phones up to see if I want to go travelling with him. ...
A. 29 March 2008: What is missing from your story? You dated this guy who apparently is perfect then ..... and now you are single again?
Why did you break up before, why do you need to develop trust for him again?
Is this a "when Harry met Sally" thing or ... (read in full...)
Text How do you tell an ex you don't want to try again a THIRD time in the nicest possible way?
Q. How do you tell an ex you dont want to try again a THIRD time in the nicest possible way? My ex lied a couple of times, we split, but tried again, it didnt work out again. That was begining of the yr. We are friends and thats fine, but recently...
A. 29 March 2008: What I fail to understand if he put you through so much why you still hang around him. Love him as a mate/brother? Then it can't have been too bad.
The secret to ending a relationship is to END IT. Walk away, don't look back and don't make con... (read in full...)
He now wants to have a relationship with another girl as well as me?
Q. i have been best friends with a guy for a year and for the past three months we have been in a relationship with each other as boyfriend and girlfriend.initially he told me that he loves me and i felt the same towards him.for the first 2 months we ...
A. 29 March 2008: Okay, perhaps some translation is in order: "I don't like you, but you are a decent fuck, so while I am out looking for a better girl lets continue to have sex, oh and you can't look at other men because that would upset my ego".
Clear enough? ... (read in full...)
Is it true my friend wont find peace with God after committing suicide?
Q. Good day to all, A girl I know commited suicide. To be honest I am not so upset about the suicide itself or even her death. She had a really really awful life and alot of bad things happen her entire life-from the day she was born. When I f...
A. 29 March 2008: Doesn't this really tell you all you need to know about these so-called christians?
That they think a person who suffered through life needs to be punished yet more? What kind of god do these people worship anyway?
Oh and what happens to peopl... (read in full...)
All he wants me to do is give him oral sex.
Q. I've only been with my boyfriend a month, and at first he couldn't wait to have sex. We had sex twice and it wasn't all that good. I was more than willing to give it another chance for his sake. Now all he wants me to do is give him oral sex. Now i'...
A. 29 March 2008: If he has a low sex-drive why would he want a blowjob?
Seems more like he is a lazy or even selfish lover.
It is one of the reasons it is best to wait with sex until you know a person. He is likely not that attentive in other areas as well.
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24 and still at home, is that normal?
Q. This may sound silly but here goes. Im 24 years old, 25 in June, and I still live at home with my parents. I am single but that's through choice as I havn't met anyone I like yet. I have a good job and earn good money. I have lots of friends and a ...
A. 29 March 2008: My own opinion is that there is something wrong with a person who never lived on their own. If you go straight from your parents to your husbands house you will in effect never have taken care of yourselve.
It is part of growing up to move out... (read in full...)
24 and still at home, is that normal?
Q. This may sound silly but here goes. Im 24 years old, 25 in June, and I still live at home with my parents. I am single but that's through choice as I havn't met anyone I like yet. I have a good job and earn good money. I have lots of friends and a ...
A. 29 March 2008: My own opinion is that there is something wrong with a person who never lived on their own. If you go straight from your parents to your husbands house you will in effect never have taken care of yourselve.
It is part of growing up to move out... (read in full...)
How can I prevent her getting hurt again?
Q. hi everyone, just recently one of my best friends found a boyfriend. She had been in a relationship a few months ago and the guy didnt treat her with any respect. I comforted her after this and became very emotionally attached to the girl. I ...
A. 28 March 2008: Not really, love is blind. If you are a friend, well be there for her when it goes bad, but stand aside until then. If people could be warned out of bad relations, we wouldn't need so many shelters for battered wives.
Oh and don't think you are ... (read in full...)
Are there any alternatives to shaving or waxing 'down there'?
Q. Personally, I think that it's more attractive to be totally hairless 'down there,' but I've got incredibly sensitive skin, and whenever I shave it gets red and bumpy, and ingrown hairs all the time, which is even more unattractive! Most unfortuna...
A. 28 March 2008: Pretty much all the same methods that exist for other body hair. Laser hair removal or electro-something.
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Is it normal that I still visit my friend's grave?
Q. is it normal that I still visit my best friends grave even though hes been gone for 8 years he died of leukemia and my friends say that its not healthy to think about the deacesed, but im happy and talk to him even though he cant hear me I like to ...
A. 28 March 2008: We all grief in our own way. There is no time limit nor "right" method.
What counts, if that is the right word, is that you do not let it consume your life. As tragic as your friends death may have been, you are still alive. If your method o... (read in full...)
Will my career drive a wedge between us? How can I prevent that?
Q. I'm about to leave college and start a career in journalism and I'm worried about the effect this will have on my relationship with my boyfriend. Due to severe depression in his teens my boyfriend was pulled out of school at 13, so has no ...
A. 27 March 2008: Plenty of jobs for which no qualifications are needed. Warehouse, hauling carbage, cleaning. All jobs that need doing and that can't be outsourced. He can flip burgers, he can sweep streets.
There should also be programs available for people w... (read in full...)
I'm dying and having religous/spiritual questions, any insight?
Q. Hello everyone, I am dying. At times I feel have made my peace and am ready to face it whenever it does eventually come, other times I feel sort of scared. You see I was brought up Catholic as a child but as an adult I lived my life being an at...
A. 27 March 2008: Common enough, so common in fact that people with a terminal illness are given access to a shrink as part of their treatment to help deal with all the emotions.
There are no atheists in foxholes.
It makes sense, with death so close, anything ... (read in full...)
Does having sex too soon sabotage a potential relationship?
Q. Is sleeping with guys 'too soon' sabotaging potential for a relationship? I've always thought of sex very casually, and don't have problems sleeping with guys after a few dates. Often times I'm the one that makes the first move. I enjoy sex, but...
A. 27 March 2008: Double standards are mentioned, too bad they exist, but exist they do. You can fight them if you want too. Good luck with that, if anything I think people are getting MORE conservative not less so. Sometimes I think the sexual revolution never ... (read in full...)
Why does his penis go limp when he's on top?
Q. Why does his penis go limp when he is on top of me, but stays hard when I am on top of him? ...
A. 27 March 2008: How is his heart? Perhaps the extra effort required makes it to much?... (read in full...)
I'm not deformed or ugly so....how come I've never had a girlfriend? I'm 33yrs old.
Q. I am 33 years old and have never had a girlfriend before, never had a meaningful conversation with a girl, never flirted before, havent really 'liked' anyone for 11 years, and I don't have ANY friends. It's not like I am deformed or ugly, I just h...
A. 27 March 2008: Well the girls so far are all very nice and gentle, and also NOT dating you. It is a woman thing, say a guy is fine/great/nice and then not date him. Never take advice on how to attract women from a woman.
So I am not going to go soft on you.
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Why do guys try to portray they are a certain way they think you want them to be, when deep down they're not???
Q. Split with someone a couple of months ago, nothing major, had been together just over a year but kept arguing. Anyway we remained friends. We still see each other quite regularly and he would like to try again slowly, but i have stated i dont want ...
A. 27 March 2008: Because they hope you fall for it quicly enough and give them sex.
It often works.
The real question should be, why are women so easily fooled?
“God made woman beautiful and foolish; beautiful, that man might love her; and foolish, that s... (read in full...)
He has major mood swings, will he come back?
Q. Hi everyone. I would love some advice ...particularly from a male point of view. I have had a fantastic and fun relationship with my boyfriend for three years. We laugh, we connect , we have a great sex life, we have so much in common and we have ...
A. 27 March 2008: Sounds like the classic warning signs of a future abusive partner to me.
Now he may have issues in his life, stress at work, worries about the future, but the way he takes it out on you just sends up a red flag to me.
I would cool of the rela... (read in full...)
Due to a long term illness I feel trapped and unsupported, how can I help myself feel better?
Q. I am currently suffering quite badly from a long term illness. Both my family and partner have a lot on at the moment personally, I am progressively getting worse and can't talk to any of them. I feel trapped, and alone and with absolutley no ...
A. 27 March 2008: Have you tried finding a support group for your illnes?
They exist not just for the person with the illness but also their family.
Sometimes just knowing you are not alone is enough.... (read in full...)
I have a tendency to give in to sex, what should I do?
Q. I know that it is wrong to have sex with someone that I just met so I am going to ask for anyones opinion on this. Ok I just met this dude at the club saturday and then we left to go chill in his car we didn't do anything. We've been talking for ...
A. 27 March 2008: Is it just sex or do have a problem saying no in general?
Lets be honest here, you say he sucked you nipples. Unless dress code has relaxed a bit this should mean he had to a fair amount of work to expose them especially if you weren't helping.... (read in full...)
I have an embarrassing vagina problem, someone help!
Q. Hi... For the past 5-6 years, (that being as far back as I can remember) I've had an... ugly vagina. Its abnormal. The labia, or the little lips on the inside arent exactly little. In fact, theyre kind of large and stick out. Theyre wrinkly, and ...
A. 27 March 2008: The discharge is a medical problem, you really should see a doctor about it. It could be a simple yeast infection. Women get these all the time.
Then there is the labia, well this is just how you are build. The shape of the vulva varies in all w... (read in full...)
I recently found out she had a threesome last week with her best friend and a local DJ.
Q. Hello Cupid, There's this girl I really like. We have a strong internet friendship and have never met. The last few months we've started flirting a lot more, things have become a lot more serious and we talked about being together. She te...
A. 26 March 2008: Odd thing to do after you just said to a 3rd person that you like him.
Proceed with caution, it seems this girl has some odd ideas of how courtships go (Hint: do not let your potential mate hear of you fucking two others, especially not at the s... (read in full...)
All of a sudden he avoids me!
Q. There's this boy I liked and he knows I like him. And like I actually thought he was starting to like me because he would look at me alot, he would talk about me to his friends, and he would talk to my friends about me. Anyways recently I was ...
A. 26 March 2008: Mixed signals eh. So you see the boy you like coming towards you and turn away from him to your friends. Because that is how you show your love.
Awh, they are so cute when they are young aren't they.
No real advice to give, I just think you t... (read in full...)
How can I stay strong?
Q. I just broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years he cheated over ten times! I finally kicked him out. I don't wanna be stupid anymore I see now that he will never change. I thought I could help him change and now I know he can only change his self! So ...
A. 26 March 2008: Write down why you shouldn't take him back. Why he is bad for you. Write it down and keep it with you, then when your hearts starts wondering READ IT.
Not sure if that works for anyone, but it worked for me. You just got to make sure that your MIN... (read in full...)
I'm falling apart! I need help with my family, my boyfriend, my independence
Q. My bf and I have been together for 5 years. We lived together at my parents house for 2 of those. My dad has a drinking problem and one night after coming home drunk, he got into it with my bf and told him he wasnt welcome in our house and if he ...
A. 26 March 2008: Alright, you moved out, that is an important first step to come out of the situation you are in.
It ain't however easy suddenly living alone and if you got no "enforced" social events like school then it can be all to tempting to become a hermit. ... (read in full...)
Does his sudden change of behaviour towards me mean he likes me?
Q. I have this friend that I've known fairly well for 4 years now, but over the past 2 we've gradually become closer. I had little crushes through the first 2 years, but my feelings would fade back into just wanting a friendship. For the past year or ...
A. 26 March 2008: Men are like elephants, we like to play with out trunks... oh wait, no we got good memories, at least when it comes to girls telling us we have a chance of sex with them... eh that they love us.
Hate to say it but I think he just mentione... (read in full...)
I got really really drunk and annoyed the heck out of the guy I'm really into! How can I make it up to him?
Q. Last night I went out with a guy that I'm really into right now. It was fun at first, but I got waaaaay too drunk, and he ended up having to "babysit" me till like 6 in the morning, cause I couldn't drive! I know he was really irritated with tha...
A. 26 March 2008: Depends on how he feels on people getting totally pissed.
Even if he thinks it is okay if he or other men do it, he might not accept it if a woman does it.
At least he cared enough to stick around and did not abuse the situation.
I... (read in full...)
He's doing everything to make my life hell! But I love him!
Q. ok.... so my and my boyfriend have been together 2 yrs. recently we ave been arguing a little about silly things like every couple does. a week friday... my boyfriend took me to the vets because my rabbits needed jabs. anyway... my boyfriend had to ...
A. 26 March 2008: I don't even know where to start with this one.
Look at what you wrote.
"he said becase of the way i spoke to him, i cant go 2 the rugby tha was on the satrday"
"he made me go home an i was in tears on the train"
It seems he thinks that... (read in full...)
Is my fiance gay??
Q. I recently got engaged to a guy I've been dating for 2 years. When we first started dating, a friend of mine mentioned she thought he was gay. I dismissed her, however started paying close attention to his movements (upward little finger, ...
A. 26 March 2008: I would worry more about him using such an idiotic excuse on you. What does he think your IQ is?
It is all the latest craze amoung burglars you know, break into peoples houses, leave everything as it is and watch porn.
You might want to re... (read in full...)
What goes on at Bachelore parties?
Q. Hallo I have a guestion for guys mainly. Is there any sex or kissing or stuff going on at a Bachelore parties?? I heard from one of my friends haveing BP and the strippers were going down on them for $200 .. I find it not only overpriced but d...
A. 26 March 2008: Careful, we men hear similar things about hen parties, and hen's don't have to pay $200 to get a guy for the bride.
Mostly this stuff is tall tales. Stuff we half-heard and add to our own stories to fit in with the guys.
If you guy is normally ... (read in full...)
How can I get her to cum before me?
Q. Hi, I would really need some real help, and I appreciate some feed backs from people. basically, I have this problem of reaching the orgasim real fast, I don't know how to stop cuming, before she comes first. I have come a cross some ideas like ...
A. 25 March 2008: Simple, stimulate her enough before you enter her so that she is ready to go.
Foreplay, you need more of it.
Condoms might help as well to reduce the stimulation. ... (read in full...)
Whenever I criticise his porn viewing he brings up my past and calls me a slut!
Q. I've been with this guy for about 4 years... at least that's how HE puts it. We hung out together for one year, have lived together for the past 3, but in my mind, have been officially a couple for maybe 1. I have always tried to make it perfectly ...
A. 25 March 2008: I got to wonder why the two of you are together.
You want to be a free person, your good right, but it seems he wants something else.
If you go out without him, what right does that give you to comment on what does at home alone?
It jus... (read in full...)
I keep testing, hoping to be 'prego', what should be my next step?
Q. OK well ! I still have no period or signs of a period. And I'm due on 3/28/2008, I had a blood preg. test on 3/23/2008 which may have been too soon but I thought I'd test anyways. I did a urine test on 3/24/2008. Both were neg. Does anyone have any ...
A. 25 March 2008: Have more sex?
It takes a healthy couple on average half a year to get pregnant.
You aren't the person who asked if you could get pregnant from swallowing earlier are you? That might hamper your attemps a bit.... (read in full...)
He no longer wants to please me sexually or orally after I had our baby, I feel insecure and need advice!
Q. My husband is 37 and im 27 and we just had a baby but about 6 months into my pregnancy he quit wanting to please me sexually or orally. I go down on him several times a week but he makes excuses on why he won't please me. The only time he does ...
A. 25 March 2008: Perhaps he has issues with your pregnancy? Some men develop hangups over it for all sort of reasons. Maybe he felt odd doing it with the baby in there.
His reasoning may seem stupid to you, but it is real to him.
Some guys for instance think t... (read in full...)
What's 'cowgirl' please?
Q. Hi, Just a quick question.....What's cowgirl position? Is it like "French carriage to Lyon" due to the bumpy road which lead from Paris to Lyon. Anyway......I dare say I've just realised that I've become old...........thank you all. ...
A. 25 March 2008: Okay now I got to ask. What is "French carriage to Lyon"? Because when I googled it the 3rd result was your question and the rest seems to be about travel not sex.
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Do you think he's gross to like me?
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl, well I'm almost 14. Recently since I've been on msn, someone added me on their list. I accepted them because I might know the person. I asked them who they were. He said his name and that he was 26. I told him I was 13. Don't ...
A. 25 March 2008: Unless you lied about your age and look REALLY old for your age, sorry but this guy is not just a perv, he is dangerous.
The way you desribe him and how fast he moves, it just sets of alarm bells.
Go to youtube and watch 'to catch a predator... (read in full...)
Do you "spit" or "swallow"? What do you do with the cum?
Q. when you give a guy a handjob or a blow job and he cums...what do you do with it??? do you spit it out or what?? sry,ive never done it before and i want to know so i know what to do...
A. 25 March 2008: Spit, swallow or, if you are japanese, tricks.
Remember that semen is a prime carrier of STD's so unless you are sure the guy is clean the real question should be "how do I deal with the taste of rubber".
As said, some women can't stand the ... (read in full...)
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