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writes:hi my names nikki and i have a problem with some boys in my school. i'm well known for being a slut at my school which im not proud of but i had sex two weeks ago with three boys from my school and another girl. i was told at the start of the week that it was recorded and the three boys are blackmailing me into having sex with them again just so they dont put the tape on the internet or show it to people at school. what should i do in this situation?
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reader, fellows  +, writes (29 March 2011):
Talk to someone who you trust like family, relatives or teachers because they will tell you the best thing to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): call the cops!!! u know who they r and nothin can stop u now
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): DO NOT let this thing hit the internet whatever you do. Don't even risk letting it onto the net during the process of dealing with this. Once it's out there, you will NEVER get it entirely off the net again. Never. Nobody, not even the guys who posted it in the first place, can stop something like that once it gets loose.
Tell the dudes that you're pissed off but you might go along with it and have sex with them again just once. But insist that you won't believe them unless somebody puts a copy of the tape in your hands first so you know it's real.
As soon as you get a copy of the tape, take it to the cops and get them arrested with it.
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reader, Wisdom  +, writes (10 April 2008):
 yes indeed get the law involved!!!!
My biggest concern is that you seem to be ok wiht the fact you are called a slut,l No no no honey thats not ok!!
You can have sexual partners but never ever let someone say things like that about you! Think about your actions and make sure you are doing them for the right reasons, never do them for someone else.
Don't let these little bastards get away with this....Stand up for yourself honey!
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (9 April 2008):
 get the law involved! if they came up with this to blackmail you then they might not have a tape at the moment but plan on making one next time if you fall for their bluff.
what a manipulative group of shits!
plus if everyone thinks your a slut then how will it change your reputation anyway, so who cares. either call the long arm of the law or laugh it off and refrain from falling into situations like these as these boys dont sound like nice people...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): Unlike you they are breaking the law. Think hard - could they really have filmed it, or might they just be trying to get you to have sex with them again. If you do have sex with them again where will it end? They'll just keep wanting more and more so you may as well end it now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): If that video ever gets out, you're like...Toast. :(
I would go to the police and report them. Tell the police you are afraid for your future, afraid for your high school career, tell them your scared. Tell them you want the tape destroyed. They will probably search thier computers and homes, and contact the other girl. Possibley, the boys will be arrested.
What they are doing is WRONG. VERY wrong indeed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): Guess what!? You have them by the balls and can have their asses placed in a jail cell with Bubba the Buttbasher and Booma the backthrasher.....videotaping you without your knowledge, consent and then threatening you is not only blackmail....but it is also conspiracy!
First...tell the local authorities about what you have been threatened with!
#2 Tell the guys that you say"HELL NO" nad you double sare them to post the video on the internet!
Guess what....if they DO POST the video....then you are the owner of that website, because they can't post anything without ALL parties permission.
plus guess what...the website will have to pay you a large sum of money and I do mean...a large sum (millions)!
Guess what girl....you' are in a postion to strike it rich, because of a dumb move on your part (having sex with assholes)and because of some even dumber assholes who are trying to blackmail you
All the big retail stores will adore you, you will have friends come out of the woodwork to be your friend and even Bubba and his pals will love you also. Good luck to you!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 Well, you got three options really.
Call their bluff, are they really willing to let this tape get out that includes themselves (offcourse they might obscure their own faces, but most teens ain't that smart as you should know). Risky, as they might just be stupid enough to release it, you know how stupid teens can be. Of course, there might not be a tape in the first place.
Inform the police, blackmail is illegal, if possible ask for proof of the tape, then turn it in, you are already known as a slut but that ain't a crime, blackmail is. Do it right and the boys in question might receive all the sex they want, from other inmates. Sure, your reputation will be shot to hell, but to late to worry about that.
Last option, simply give in. The blackmail will only get worse, but maybe they actually keep their word and not make the tape or any new material public. No I don't believe that for a second, but then I didn't do a gangbang in front of a camera.
Whatever you choose, kiss any chance of EVERY having a career outside the porn industry goodbye because for the rest of your life whatever reputation you build up as a proffesional can be destroyed in a second by the release of this tape. Better hope any guy you fall in love with is understanding, because on his stagnight somebody will think it funny to show him this vid.
Sorry if I don't sound very sympathetic but to be frank, you are screwed, although you should be used to that by now. Just hope that some other teen reads this and gets a clue BEFORE it is to late.
There is one final angle that might work depending on your real age and irish laws, that is that you might be too young to appear in porn and that by the mere fact of filming the sex they have broken the law. Small chance as most western countries have the age at 18, but if you were under age for porn then that would be a very real threath to them as the law takes a very dim view of child porn. Wouldn't get my hopes up though.
Whatever else you do, get some counseling, girls get the label slut far too easily when men are called studs, but being involved in a gangbang just ain't smart. You know you got a rep, don't like it and still engaged in this of your own free will? Most likely there are reasons for your behaviour but you need to get this sorted out because even if this incident goes away there will be others.
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reader, lotsofgiggles123  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 well i think you should tell what was what ever recordedinstead of having sex with some boys that you do not even do not wanna have sex with just admit what ever was recorded on that tape recorder than instead of them showing it to everyone you should admit it instead black mailed.
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reader, lotsofgiggles123 +, writes (7 April 2008):
well i think you should tell what was what ever recordedinstead of having sex with some boys that you do not even do not wanna have sex with just admit what ever was recorded on that tape recorder than instead of them showing it to everyone you should admit it instead black mailed.
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reader, citris +, writes (7 April 2008):
 IF you were recorded, and IF they do have a tape, and you were not aware of it until after the fact, you have the RIGHT to contact the authorities. If all parties do not agree to the release of a personal and private thing such as a pornographic tape, then that property is not to be released. IF they do release it in any way, you have the right to SUE them and take legal action! Let them know that you know your rights and you will NOT be intimidated by their actions or behaviors. Secondly, I would say that you need to take a look at yourself and your actions and what got you where you are today. Are you proud of who you are? Are you happy with your decisions and your sex life? If not, then you need to take the steps to change and become the person you want to be. I'm not trying to lecture you or place judgement, that's not my place, but it doesn't sound like this behaviour of sexual promiscuity is something you are happy with. Please, if nothing else I write here matters, if you take nothing else with you, know this...You DO NOT have to take your clothes off, or have sex with anyone you do not want to and certainly you DO NOT have to do any of those things to get someone to like you. Don't degrade yourself to please anyone else, be a strong and proud woman!Best of luck to you! I hope those boys don't have a tape, and if they do that you have the strength to stand up for yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): Blackmail is a crime - if they want to blackmail you - lay a charge against them with the police. If you give in to them you will never be free of this and they might still put the clip on the internet or show it around school.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): call the police, you know who they are, if they post the video its against the law...
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