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I offered him oral on our third date, after that he did not utter a word to me! Your opinions about his change in behaviour?

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Question - (31 March 2008) 5 Answers - (Newest, 2 April 2008)
A female Slovenia age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Hi...I've met a guy..we've been out three times... I gave him oral(my first)...and after he came he was all weird. he didn't say a word to me. He just took me home without kissing me godbye. This happened three days ago and I haven't heard from him since then.

He f_____ me up, right?

Your opinion?

Thanx

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008):

I'm sorry but that is really strange behavior of someone with emotional problems. If he had hang up about girls doing that, he wouldn't have accepted and cum.

There is a possibility that he thought he came too fast or mistook something you said or did as not really into him and got embarrassed? That is the only thing I can think of. If a girl offered me oral on the 3rd date, I'd quickly set up a 4th date. :) But there are some guys who just have weird thing where they get a bj or sex and the conquest is over so they just disappear. Why don't you just ask him if there was a problem why he suddenly acted like that?

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A male reader, LazyGuy Netherlands +, writes (31 March 2008):

LazyGuy agony auntWhere did he cum? If in or on your mouth, some guys, especially young ones have hangups about their own sperm, they don't want to taste it.

Could also be what the others said, that he thinks girls shouldn't do this.

I don't think he just used you, if he was just after sex, he would want more.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008):

Can be two things

1. He saw you as a possible serious g/f, when you gave it up too easily, he lost intrest and respect for you.

2. He just wanted some form of sex, he got it and thats that.

Either way, asshole! haha

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A male reader, Yos Netherlands +, writes (31 March 2008):

Yos agony auntSome guys have a tweak where a girl has to be very 'pure' to be desirable. So when they have sex they quickly go off her. Given how immediate his reaction was this could be what happened. It's like they have to think of you as virginal to want to date you, so if you do anything to break that image (ie anything sexual) then they can't reconcile. The only way to end up in a relationship with someone like this is to date for ages before doing anything, and even then it comes with complications.

It's also possible he just wanted sex, but I'm not so sure this is what happened since a guy like that would probably try one more date and have full intercourse, and then stop returning calls!

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A female reader, happytochat Australia +, writes (31 March 2008):

Did he ask you to give him oral? Or was it your idea?

Sounds to me like he is only interested in girls to fulfil his sexual desires, once thats done, he throws you away like you mean nothing. So sorry to say that but thats what it seems. Try calling him or contacting him somehow and see what he has to say for himself, so you can get some closure.

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