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writes:Has anyone recently been involved in threesome activity or group sex? Does the outcome always seem to be negative or do some of these situations work out ok with little or no consequences? I am contemplating investigating how to meet up with mutually conscenting couples in my area.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2010): My partner was involved in a threesom, years ago, with his wife and her female friend. There has been no negative outcome for the three of them but from the moment he told me there has been nothing but grief. I feel his ex wife has shared with him something I am unable to give him. I cannot understand and he cannot explain how he could get naked and do that, how they would watch each other, in turns. It is alien to me and I wish somebody would explain it to me, my partner cannot. He becomes defensive of threesoms and that makes me think he wants one. I am struggling with this today, I hurt because we are so alike in so many other things. Good luck to you, you just may need it.
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (17 July 2009):
it all depends on the situation. If there are emotions involved and it's a relationship, it's a TON of work, complex and IMO only good for a few months to a year.
If all you're looking for is a hook up for sex, then the question is what are you desiring. If you want to be the 3rd for a couple, do you want to screw the wife while he watches? You might be able to find a couple that's into that. Or, do you want to jump in bed and have the two of them play equally with you - if you're in a big city you might be able to find this.
At over 50, you might have it easyer than you would at 30- time will tell... good luck
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (8 April 2008):
 No, but the people involved need real maturity, if your age is right that should probably be okay.
Sex is more then just the act, we use it to be close with our partners, to then invite a third person into this intimacy breaks some fundemental rules.
The only way I seen it work if all three care for each other in some way but not too different AND the sex don't change these feelings OR if it is just sex all the way.
Imagine you are a couple and invite another man, are you really that comfortable with your own penis to risk seeign a man with a larger one, to suddenly see your wife for the first time in 4 decades have an orgasm because he is so much better?
Will a woman be able to cope with seeing another woman get more attention? What is she wants to snuggle after an orgasm and the partner moves on to the next person? The problems are endless.
Yes there are advantages too, but as said, unless a threesome already cares about each other and the sex isn't going to change these feelings OR it is just sex, it often just leads to problems.
Mind you, at your age, couples should be mature enough to be sensible about it.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 April 2008):
 Are you looking to be the third guy or are you married looking for another female? If married, is your wife as gung ho on the idea as yourself? Personally I respect my wedding vows but it's a free country. Just make sure you think this through and be very, very, careful. A done bun can't be undone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): This can only lead to grief. I just wouldnt be able to stand my bloke with another women no matter what. It has to be with two consenting adults and i really dont know what kind of people let themselves into doing this. I personally can see tears after bedtime. If you do go ahead then make sure you wear a condom and dont get dragged in emotionally.
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