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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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Do you "spit" or "swallow"? What do you do with the cum?
Q. when you give a guy a handjob or a blow job and he cums...what do you do with it??? do you spit it out or what?? sry,ive never done it before and i want to know so i know what to do...
A. 25 March 2008: Spit, swallow or, if you are japanese, tricks.
Remember that semen is a prime carrier of STD's so unless you are sure the guy is clean the real question should be "how do I deal with the taste of rubber".
As said, some women can't stand the ... (read in full...)
He said it was a drunken mistake while we were split up...what should I do?
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for 1 year n half and it went great we were so happy until last night i found out he was seeing this girl twice whilst we were split up (but we knew it wouldnt last long and got back together within a week.) I am so ...
A. 25 March 2008: It ain't the 'cheating' so much as the speed. What was the point of the seperation, to think the relationship over or to have as much sex as possible?
What did you do during that week? vs What did he do. I think it is clear from his action h... (read in full...)
How do I know if the baby his exgirlfriend is having is his?
Q. Hiya .. Well I have been seeing this boy for over 3 months now and I am crazy about him !! Its just that his ex-girlfriend is pregant? And shes almost 6 months pregant and they both finished the end of july start of august. I just want to know is ...
A. 25 March 2008: Seems like a dream catch to me.
DNA test. Doubt she will get one to calm your nerves but he could requist one if she is making any claims on him.... (read in full...)
He told me I had bad breath and I am sooo embarassed!
Q. I got told the other night when I kissed someone that I had bad breath but then he was fine after, he was just like joking about and making it funny, but it so wasnt! I want to speak to him again but am so imbarressed as it was the 1st time we had ...
A. 25 March 2008: I had to smile, sorry, but that just happens. You will kiss with a big chunk of food stuck between your teeth, burp while tongueing, you will let out a fart when he is eating out and as for what happens during sex, well you are a bit to young for ... (read in full...)
Can someone explain why guys like dating and sex sites if they are in a relationship?
Q. i recently posted a question about my boyfriend lieing to me about being on dating sites/sex sites. I know its wrong for me to check in his email but ever since I first found out about his lieing of this I guess I've lost trust in him. He has asked ...
A. 25 March 2008: Why do you lump dating/sex sites together? One makes me think of sites like matchmaker and the other of porn? Or do you mean something like adultfriendfinder (often spammed site for hooking up purely for sex).
Porn, well men are horny toads. S... (read in full...)
He hasn't responded to my petition for divorce...any ideas why?
Q. I am at the moment going through the stage of divorcing my enotionally and sometimes physically abusive ex. The last time I saw him was the beginning of dec when he caused criminal damage to my car. For the first time ever I stood up to him and got ...
A. 25 March 2008: Because he doesn't want to accept that you truly would leave him. By dragging it out, he can keep on denying that the marriage is over. No wife of him would dare do this and you will come to your "senses".
Consult with your lawyer as to the next... (read in full...)
Do flings for sex and fun and friendship work? I have no experience in them.
Q. Hi my long term partner walked out on me in a temper a couple of months ago - we have seen each other on-off since then and although i love him dearly i don't hold out much hopes of a proper sustainable reconciliation ad he is having some sort of ...
A. 25 March 2008: Not all of us can do the no-strings attached sex thing. It maybe because it doesn't fit our self-image or goes against our upbrinding.
It may be hormons. Oxytocin is released during orgasm and this hormone has powerfull influences on our action. ... (read in full...)
My parents are getting divorced and my bf has asked me to move in...I'm not sure what to do!
Q. My boyfriend has asked me to move into his house with him. This is not the first time in the last few weeks, this time he said that he felt our relationship had got past just being a relationship and he wanted to take it further. We havent always ...
A. 25 March 2008: I personally think it is best if people live on their own for a bit. If you moved in with him you would go from daughter to wife in one smooth move. Since he takes you in, this makes him the dominant figure, again making you submisive to someone ... (read in full...)
He said it was a drunken mistake while we were split up...what should I do?
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for 1 year n half and it went great we were so happy until last night i found out he was seeing this girl twice whilst we were split up (but we knew it wouldnt last long and got back together within a week.) I am so ...
A. 25 March 2008: So he got drunk twice and made the same mistake twice?
Gullible much?
And offcourse he was apologetic, he was caught.
If he truly wishes to claim drunkeness as an excuse get him into rehad now, he was to drunk to be accountable for his acti... (read in full...)
Friends... or more?
Q. Hi, lately me and one of my best friends have been getting a lot closer. Whenever one of us is drunk we end up spending the night together. It has happened a few times now, but every time it comes to the next morning we have to pretend like it didnt ...
A. 25 March 2008: Try doing it when you ain't drunk.
Sounds like you two at least care for each other. It may not be love... yet, but why not give it a try. You two are both single, probably enjoy the sex and share common intrests.
Couples have started from wor... (read in full...)
I love him so much so why am I always having a go at him?
Q. I'm engaged to a wonderful man whom i love and who i am IN love with. I'm just not happy. I love him with every inch of my heart, we have a gorgeous home and a fantastic relationship. We are best friends as well as partners. I love my job and have ...
A. 25 March 2008: What would make you happy? If you could press a magic button, what would you change.
Are you telling yourselve that you should be happy with what you got because that is what everyone tells you? You make it sound like you got it all, but is that ... (read in full...)
Do you think the guy I met is ready to take me and my baby on in a relationship?
Q. hi, i was texting this lad that i really like for about 3 weeks he lives about 20 mins away! and on friday i stayed at his and we slept together, and hes not ignored me hes rung me everyday and we have spoke for about and hour a time. im a sing...
A. 25 March 2008: Whoa, slow down girl.
You are 16, have a kid. Text a guy a couple of times, jump in the sack with him and are now wondering if he is up for a long term relationship?
How old is he? Wanting to be a diskjockey suggests he doesn't even have a stea... (read in full...)
My 13 yr old daughter had a disturbing dream about her teacher. How do I deal with this?
Q. My daughter (13 years) told me something that was very embarrassing for her. what happens if your child has a dream about teacher she doesn't even like as a teacher or fancy. she told me that is was kind of creepy and she doesn't think that she c...
A. 25 March 2008: Dreams allow us to deal with things we can't during our waking hours. Just as the body heals from the load put on it when you are awake, the brain has to 'heal'.
Your daughter is growing up sexually and this involves thinking what it will all be l... (read in full...)
How can you tell if a person is gay ? How do you know it's just not a crush?
Q. So I'm about close to 17, but I feel so young, like on 14 or so. 17 seems like you're supposed to act all mature, but I'm still in high school! Anyways, I think I'm gay either b/c I've been looking at porn and then mostly gay porn for a long time ...
A. 25 March 2008: Homo/hetero sexuality is a lot more complex then just (hetero - bi-sexual - homo-sexual) There are all kinds of grey in between.
What for instance would you call a man who is attracted to women with a strong boyish feel to them? Or a woman is... (read in full...)
When you get your "cherry popped" is there a lot of blood?
Q. i am 13 and i didnt get my first period yet, but i want to have sex so when my cherry pops will alot of blood come out because i didnt have my first period yet?...
A. 25 March 2008: What does you period have to do with it?
*** Not safe for work although they are medical drawings, not porn... well not for most people anyway.
http://healthystrokes.com/hymengallery.html
Shows you drawings of what a hymen looks like. It is ju... (read in full...)
How do I convince my boyfriend I still want to be with him if he has "Erectile Dysfunction"?
Q. My bf suffers from Erectile Dysfunction although we have never actually seen a doctor about this,we are unable to properly have sex. Now,however,he has decided that we should just be friends as he can never be in love with me the way he wants. In ...
A. 25 March 2008: Sit down and openly discuss this. It is silly to let a good thing slip over something that can often be cured.
Just honestly talk to him and open your heart to him. Yes it makes you extremely vulnerable because he might still reject you, but talk... (read in full...)
Cheating on my boyfriend with my married coworker! Why don't I feel bad about this?
Q. In order not to make this too long, here is the situation. Basically: My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. He ended up cheating on my emotionally (flirting, texting, talking with this girl quite a bit younger). We got back together...
A. 25 March 2008: Ask yourselve what your feelings for your boyfriend really are. If he finds this out, do you even care how he feels, or do you think he would just forgive you? What if he breaks of the relationship.
It might be that you just don't care for him ... (read in full...)
My ex says "I'm gonna get you pregnant"! What does he want?
Q. ok i broke up with my ex 6 months 4 months ago, after few months we began talking because we work in the same area. but after some months, we would find our selves flirting with each other, mixing up old talks about our feelings to our discussion ...
A. 25 March 2008: It is his way of making you his and not in a nice way.
He reasons that if he gets you pregnant that shows the rest of the world he still controls/owns you, in a way branding you like you would a cow.
He is probably rather possesive and ca... (read in full...)
Is it shallow to think physical attraction is important?
Q. How much weight do you put on physical attraction? I hear a lot of people say its shallow to think this is important, but is it really shallow? Don't we have to feel physical attraction for a relationship to be successful? Is it even fair to the one ...
A. 25 March 2008: The reason that is shallow is because people who go for looks often tend to ignore personality and then complain that their hunk makes them unhappy.
You say it yourselve, as person he is the best, you like him a lot, but ugh.
What makes yo... (read in full...)
How can I leave my husband with out hurting my kids?
Q. To explain my question I have to give some back ground. I grew up with extreamly over protective parents and was never allowed to date. Two months after I graduated high school I moved out. Two days after I moved out I went on my first date and was ...
A. 24 March 2008: This is not so much advice as a curiousity. Just what the hell kind of upbringing did you have that made you fall for this piece of trash?
What kind of role model did your parents set, or did you fall for this guy to spite your parents?
Lets fa... (read in full...)
I want to contact my ex but his bail conditions are not to contact me, can I contact him?
Q. A week ago, my now ex and I had a row which ended up in mild assault against me and serious damage to my car and other possessions. He was arrested and his bail conditions are to not contact me. I don't want him back. But I want to have my say...
A. 24 March 2008: I wouldn't. The guy has already proven he can loose control, what if what you send makes him angry again?
Sometimes the smartest thing is just to walk away.... (read in full...)
He doesn't talk to me very much in person, prefers texting - is he shy, does he like me too?
Q. hii i have quite a common question but here goes. i'm 15 and really really really like this boy, and i have since i was 12!! but anyway, we're friends and i've had his number for about a year and recently he's started to text me like every ni...
A. 24 March 2008: He is shy. He likes you.
Well unless he texts you for the football results or something.
Face it, texting is a lot easier then talking to a girl. You can take your time, don't have to worry about stammering, blushing and bodily reactions... (read in full...)
I'm not interested in being a mother. Do all men wish to have kids nowadays?
Q. I'm in my early thirties and never been married and happy about that. Anyways, I might get married someday but I'm still not very interested in having kids. I'm afraid of pregnancy and I think kids are annoying. I've had health issues in the pa...
A. 24 March 2008: Probably not a question you should answer after watching "to catch a predator".
Sorry, bad taste.
No, not all men do but I would think that the group that seeks a long term relationship would also include a lot of the group that wants kids.... (read in full...)
Am I right, or are my parents?
Q. Im scared of my parents, they always freek out because i have a job that doesnt give me much hours and they keep presuring me to look for another job, but they shout at me and oncce my dad nearly turned voilent agains me, i was so scared i ran out ...
A. 24 March 2008: It seems odd for parents to think a job at your age to be more important then grades and an education, diploma's are getting more and more important.
What are you studying? I am not to certain about the british education system but wouldn't... (read in full...)
I hear rumours that he is dating me for the sake of experience, what am I to believe?
Q. Hello Guys, Girl of 15/16, I'm not a virgin but hey we all make mistakes. I've been seeing this lad, same age. lets say he's called Craig, well i really like him, but there are rumours going round that he only wants me to have the experience of ...
A. 24 March 2008: People your age do a lot of stupid things that really hurt people. This includes such lovely things as dating on a bet and using people to get some XP.
It is only a rumour but is there anything in his behaviour to make you believe it?
Do you ... (read in full...)
Do you think he could be gay?
Q. I have been seeing a great guy for a year now and absoloutely love him to death, however, sex has never gotten off the ground, we have obviously tried it a lot but either it is over and one with before its begun or it just doesnt happen. We get on ...
A. 24 March 2008: Offcourse we can have genuine female friends.
Sometimes you just don't see a woman that way.
If he is gay there would be other signs.
But I would really look into him having some sort of sexual problem like impotency first. After a... (read in full...)
If anyone could give me some insight to the inner workings of guys' minds, it'd be helpful!
Q. Ever since I was in highschool, I've always been in longterm, monogomous relationships. But after my last relationship ended a few months ago, I decided that I didn't want to deal with all of the drama and heartache that boyfriends come with for a ...
A. 24 March 2008: Exactly how can a teen have been in multiple long term relationships? Must be a new definition of the concept "long term".
Oh well, on to the question at hand.
You wanted to play the field, so did he. He is in it for the sex and little else.... (read in full...)
My partner calls me bad names like "Loser" and "Bitch", how do I deal with it?
Q. Hello Aunts and Uncles, I have been with my partner for 6 yrs now - we do not live together - i live with my children (18 and 22) and he lives with his son (age 19). We have talked about living together at some point, once he has recovered...
A. 24 March 2008: Okay, you have succesfully paid of most of the debt left by your ex, raised two kids on your with limited means, kept the family fed and sheltered and together, educated yourself, got a job that is going well.
Good for you, pat yourself on your ... (read in full...)
He wants to use me until he gets tired of my body and get's mad if I don't let him!
Q. I have a friend with benefits for over four years. One day he told me that he will soon get tired of my body. i have been waiting for him to get tired of my body for the last three years but he just keeps coming back for more. I am tired of him but ...
A. 24 March 2008: Take it one step at a time and hang in there.
... (read in full...)
Am I being to particular...this guy is perfect but he smokes.
Q. I've met the most fantastic fella: handsome, kind, intelligent and funny. I'd love to nave sex with him-but he smokes. Am I being too particular?...
A. 24 March 2008: A bit yeah, but smoking is a disgusting habbit. Lets face, tongueing an ash-tray ain't everybodies cup of tea.
But if that is his only flaw, yeah, you are being to picky. Buy him a pack of mints and ban him from smoking in the house. Smokers ... (read in full...)
Do you think that one day he will ask me to be his girl??
Q. I've been seein this guy for a long time since November. He's been stayin with me almost since the first night of November. We now live together. He doesnt consider me his girlfriend even though we live together and have sex like boyfriend and ...
A. 24 March 2008: I got to agree with LJ001
Just what are these moral differences?
He basically seems to claim he has the moral high road and therefor he can accept you as his gf but he can live in your house, have sex with you and do all the things a couple ... (read in full...)
He begs me for blowjobs but never returns the pleasure...what should I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 months, our sex is always the same, it just consists of me giving him head then he fingers me then we have sex. The problem is im not ever having an orgasm and its getting me down, i know i orgasm when i a ...
A. 24 March 2008: He sounds like a self-centered asshole who thinks what he does should be good enough or just doesn't care.
He most likely is the same in general, he wants thing his way a lot?
There really isn't much more you can do, you expressed your f... (read in full...)
Why can't I get over that my girlfriend has had sex with other guys?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating off and on for the last 2 years, I'm 23 and shes 22. When I first met her she said she wouldn't do "anything" unless she was in a relationship, which kind of got us dating really fast. I had only had sex 2 t...
A. 24 March 2008: Does the word hypocrisy ring a bell? Because you certainly suffer from it.
You had 2 girls, both one night stands since you slept with them only once.
Then since you started dating this girl you had 5 other girls (cheat much?)
That i... (read in full...)
My pregnant girlfriend has cheated on me, and I am in love with her mate. Who do I choose...?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 3years now but have fallen in love with her best mate. My girlfriend has always had a bad reputation but i gave her a chance. I have been seeing her mate behind her back for about 9 months now and really like her. ...
A. 24 March 2008: Right you say your girlfriend has a bad reputation (rumor) then say she cheats on your based on a rumor spread by the girl you are cheating on your girlfriend with.
You have no evidence of her cheating other then that of her "friend" who slept wi... (read in full...)
I feel asexual, is there something wrong with me? There was this incident with my step-dad....
Q. I'm 18 and have no sex drive. Is there something wrong with me?? When i was 9 I was molested by my step-dad, and i remember his finger penetrated me and it hurt sooooo much!!! I still remember it like nothing. But it caused me no psychological ...
A. 24 March 2008: You are right "asexual" means that you are not sexually attracted to either sex. One of the causes, past sexual abuse.
What the male reader is referring to is "asexual reproduction". This is biology and has nothing to do with the subject at hand ... (read in full...)
Recomposed Families...I have some questions about both my dad and mum!
Q. 6 or 7 years ago my parents divorced.It wasn't difficult at the start coz' i was too young to understand these things,i was a child.When i was 12,it started to be hard for me.Now i'm 15 and i understand a lot of things about love and family ...
A. 24 March 2008: You can't really do anything about either. Just try to accept that parents too can make mistakes. If you really want to continue to see your step-brother then let the neglect just slide of you like water of a duck.
Accept that just because ... (read in full...)
Do you think he could be gay?
Q. I have been seeing a great guy for a year now and absoloutely love him to death, however, sex has never gotten off the ground, we have obviously tried it a lot but either it is over and one with before its begun or it just doesnt happen. We get on ...
A. 24 March 2008: Why certain, the world is filled with gays. Practically every woman I meet is a lesbian because she refuses to sleep with me.
Crude, but just because a man does not want a certain woman does not make him gay.
He might just not have any experie... (read in full...)
Does 'I'm not ready to be in a relationship' really mean 'I want to have sex with as many girls as I can?'
Q. My bf of 2 months just broke up with me. I am confused as to why. After a week of acting very weird, he sent me a message to my phone saying he doesnt want to be in a relationship at the moment, hes not ready and that hes sorry and hopes we can ...
A. 24 March 2008: Yup.
You can't change people and shouldn't want to because it never works.
Even if you changed him, he will resent you for it and go on to a different girl.
If you don't want to be played, don't go out with players.
Basically co... (read in full...)
The effect of some over the counter herbal male sexual enhancers on mild ED
Q. I know that this board is mostly made up of women and mostly younger people. Hey, I think everybody here is younger than me (almost 63). However, there have been some questions on ED (erectile dysfunction) like symptoms from time to time and it can ...
A. 24 March 2008: Please remember that this experimenting is missing an essential element. The double blind test.
He KNOWS he is taking drugs and will sub-counciously let his expectations influence the results. Real medical tests always include a control group wh... (read in full...)
My husband wants a divorce and for us to go back to dating each other....
Q. This is long...I have been married to my second husband for 3 years. Together a total of 5 years. He has never been married before. I have two teenagers from my previous marriage, they were 7 and 9 when we got together. About 4 months ago, I mo...
A. 24 March 2008: Simple, he wants the sex, not the responsibility.
The discipline thing, I don't know, you don't give enough details. A lot of moms do spoil their kids to much, but then a lot of men abuse their kids. Hard to give advice without knowing more.
... (read in full...)
How do I say "no more!" to rough sex with my married boss?
Q. Me and my boss playd around alot yesterday for the first time. i went down to his house for a coffee which was totally normal because we have always been close and i always come and talk to him about alot of things. we started 2 talk and the topics ...
A. 24 March 2008: It sounds like rape, especially since you said no and he forced you. I suggest speaking with the police about this. Don't be afraid, if nothing else they can give you advice.
Remember, this guy is dangerous. If you do nothing, he controls you and ... (read in full...)
He wants to use me until he gets tired of my body and get's mad if I don't let him!
Q. I have a friend with benefits for over four years. One day he told me that he will soon get tired of my body. i have been waiting for him to get tired of my body for the last three years but he just keeps coming back for more. I am tired of him but ...
A. 24 March 2008: Don't you just hate being right sometimes. Read the post, thought, "mmm, likely somekind of problem growing up giving her a distorted view of male/female relations" and voila, there is the update.
Father who was abusive towards mother.
Monkey ... (read in full...)
I feel asexual, is there something wrong with me? There was this incident with my step-dad....
Q. I'm 18 and have no sex drive. Is there something wrong with me?? When i was 9 I was molested by my step-dad, and i remember his finger penetrated me and it hurt sooooo much!!! I still remember it like nothing. But it caused me no psychological ...
A. 24 March 2008: Yes it is common sadly, what you are displaying is typical signs of sexual abuse.
Sorry, but you have suffered a trauma, no you can't just get over it. Your body/mind has learned that sex/penetration is painful and so will try to prevent it from ... (read in full...)
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