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writes:There is 10 years difference between myself and my girlfriend. She is 47 and I'm 37. She has been married and divorced but has no kids. I'm not sure if I still want kids. I do care for her and enjoy being with her, but don't know if 10 years is too big a difference. I don't notice the 10 years when I'm with her. Is 10 years too big a difference in a relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2007): Hunny,
Im 45 and my fiance is 23 and the age never comes into it, obviously at the beginning I thought oh! children I cant have another child and I dont want another anyway, Ive done my bit :) We talked about this and he has never had an interest in having a child, That was for me the most important step before making a decition as to get to involved.. He is my best friend as well, as a family we all get on great he has been there for me through very hard times and I him, I couldnt wish for a better father for my little girl and am as happy as Ive ever been relationship wise, My male friends ribbed me for awhile but 18months later they dont say anything as they see me happy and to love is a wonderfull thing but to be loved as I feel everyday is even more wonderfull... TAKE CARE OF BOTH OF YOU LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, Uncle Trev  +, writes (29 July 2007):
You've answered the question yourself - in saying that the age gap doesn't feel like that kind of gao when you are together. If it doesn't feel like a gap to you there is a good chance that it doesn't feel like a gap to her either.
Sounds like you have got the makings of a lovely relationship here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2007): Let me ask you, does she feel the same way about you as you do about her? If the answer is yes, then, if I were you I'd go for it. You are both consenting adults, and If she's comfortable with it, and you are too, then yes. The age difference shouldn't be a factor, as long as you both care about each other.
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reader, DIE-romantic. +, writes (27 July 2007):
 Of course its not. I, personally dont see the problem with any age gap, if the love is there it shouldnt matter. If you dont notice the problem while you are with her, then there shouldnt be a problem. At 47 though she is pushing it if she wants anymore children, find out if she wants children and also find out deep down if you do. I agree, its better to know sooner rather than later.Take care :) xxxx
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reader, Ask me anything  +, writes (27 July 2007):
Without a doubt ten years is not a big deal! YOu say that you dont even notice the age difference when your with her so i cant help but wonder if its something else putting doubts in your mind. Like the child factor!? I advice you talk to her about this and decided what you both want and take it from there. Ye may not want the same thing buts better to find out sooner rather than later.
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reader, Butterflyfly +, writes (26 July 2007):
 I don;t think age matters either, you've both have had a good share of experiences until now to know how to make this one work well xxx.
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reader, sexi  +, writes (26 July 2007):
 Hi, My bf is 30 and i am 19. Your are not the first nor the last couple to have an age difference between your'll.
I really love my bf and i seem to have a better relationship with him than with any of my other bf's that were close to my age. I think age is nothing but a number.
Good Luck.
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reader, *spangle* +, writes (26 July 2007):
go 4 it there is no problem with it if your both happy together who cares how old u both r good look for the future both of you xxx
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (25 July 2007):
 Like the first poster in this thread i too have been both sides of the scale. Been with a guy 17 yrs older and with a guy 10 years younger. Age is no issue! Especially, dare i say it, at your ages! I think when we are young, age gaps can be an issue. As we get older the same age gap is more irrelivant.You love her, she loves you, 30's onwards who cares!!! As long as you have both done your living and are happy together you go for it! Talk about the child issue. Something like that can be discussed.Best wishes.C xxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2007): I've been on both sides of the fence. I am 16 years older than my boy, and neither of us have or want children. There are some challenges with the age difference being 16 years, but I have dated men 10 years younger with no problems at all.My brother however, is with a woman 11 years older than him. They were going to get married, and now aren't. They aren't saying why, but it wasn't enough to break up over it. I do wonder if my brother is having second thoughts because his girl will not have kids and I think he is getting towards wanting them.The age difference is no problem, but if you have differing goals in life then that will cause big problems.This is what you should be considering, whether or not you will want kids, and will you resent her for not having them if you stay togther long enough.Good Luck.
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reader, kenny +, writes (25 July 2007):
 I don't think ten years is a big deal atal, you are both adults at the end of the day, so go for it.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2007): She is 47, so having children for her may not even be an option. You need to talk with her and discuss if she wants children. You also have to decide what you want. If you're in agreement on the children subject then 10 yrs. should be o.k. since you're both older. Mean you're not in your teens or 20's anymore.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (25 July 2007):
 You are both adults so there is only a problem if you think it is a problem.
What i would suggest though is you try to find out if she wants children because if you don't then she needs to know, so at least she has the opportunity to be with someone that can give her what she wants, if she does want children.
Take care.xx.
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