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writes:Im 18 years old (female), and have been with my girlfriend on and off for 15 months.She cheated on me over xmas/january time, and after alot of agro i took her back. Her mum is a reformed jehovah's witness and contacting her is so hard as her mum is so upset about it and she lives at home, so i cant ring her when her mum is in the house, and she always has to think of excuses to tell her mum so she can see me.We see each other enough, but its always on her terms, and she makes me feel like i should be so grateful to see her when i do, which after 15 months of commitment to her when she couldnt do the same, i dont think i should feel like that anymore.one day i think im certain im going to break up with her,other times im certain i want to be with her forever. am i just scared of being alone? when i break up with her, she turns up outside my house and waits there crying until i speak to her.this is my first proper relationship even though shes amazing and i love her to pieces, and she does do nice things for me. She often makes me feel rubbish, is really arrogant, its so hard to see her with her family, im always doubting, and i cant trust her because she cheated on me. Please help im just so confused!
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (29 July 2007):
 Oh for sure. Compatibility is important. Obviously we wont ever meet someone 100% perfect. None of us are that & we all need to 'bend' a little when accepting a partners ways but if the physical side is very important to you & you cant compromise on it, then i think you're more likely to regret that myself.
Dont give up til you are sure you have spoken about it with her as much as you can. You will know then that you definately did try your best.
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reader, helphelp77 +, writes (29 July 2007):
helphelp77 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, it makes alot of sense. In your personal opinion, (or anyone that would be willing to help), do you think that although i love her, if she cant physically give me what i need out the relationship, than i should/could move on and try to fall in love with someone else that can? or would giving up on her always be a big regret of mine?
thank you for responding so quickly im so confused its been really helpful.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (28 July 2007):
First off you need trust to see this lasting the distance and secondly you dont need to worry about being single. Its not all bad and as long as you have the friends and ability to keep busy, you would meet someone new in no time.Sounds like a lot o baggage. And only you can decide what to do there.If you're not getting what you want out a relationship you have every right to end it. Dont allow someone to badger you into giving it another go, i let that happen in the past and it just drives you further apart eventually anyway.Good luckc xxxxxxxx
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