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writes:I met a girl who I posted about here:http://dearcupid.org/question/i-met-this-girl-about-4-months-ago.htmland now she's even more f**ked up then I thought. On top of being bulemic, anorexic, suicidal, self-harming, she's also apparently still completely obsessed with her ex boyfriend, who's every emo stereotype in the book......thank God she said no (even though after I found all that ^^ out, I'm glad kinda)I'm still friends with her, but secretly I've been plotting sweet sweet revenge. She drives me insane and at the same time i cant get her out of my head. She's everything I hate; emo, depressed, (depressing), but goddammit every time i see her i cant get those thoughts to take control. she's so beautiful on the outside i can't remember anything. i become this giant hypocrite. i want her to just get out of my head and i can't do it. i've tried everything. hell i'm seeing a therapist and nothing works i'm so f**ked.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (28 July 2007):
 So young and so bitter! By focusing on this girl and all her problems you are doing a great job at hiding from the real issue here which is you, and how you feel about you right now. You shouldn't think of revenge or contempt about this girl - if she really has all those mental health problems then you have to feel sorry for her as her own life must be truely horrible. Plotting revenge on someone that vulnerable is like pulling legs off spiders. I am glad you are seeing a therapist but it shouldn't be about her - it should be about you and why you are so angry about everything and feeling sufficiently bad about yourself that one rejection from a girl you now realise has all those problems has left you feeling so bad.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (28 July 2007):
 You have just described my mates current girlfriend to a tee, only shes 36! she actually sent him pics of her self harming herself when they split once. But he says like you, shes screwed up but he fancies her so much. Hes 25. He is now in a trap of going back to her after she has cheated a couple of times. Atlest once a month she sticks the knife i a little bit more with something equally screwy. And he keeps going back.
I guess what im trying to say is, dont dont dont get with this girl even if she wants to in the end because you will be letting yourself into a whole load of trouble, believe me. You really need to try getting that into your head.
At your age there are so many nice well balanced girls out there, that are your type AND you will fancy.
Imagine that a bit more, someone you fancy like mad, and a great person to be with with, no gut wrenching issues to put you through.
I know what i would be holding out for, especially at your young age!
Stay strong!
This is an unreasonable infatuation based on looks alone.
C xxxxxxxxxx
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