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51-59,
*lskitten
writes:My ex boyfriend from 3 years ago has been dating a bi sexual girl for a year and a half. Hes 27, shes 36. He is completely smitten with her and admits he always wants to be like her. Anyway numerous times she has cheated on him with other guys, has picture messages on her phone of other guys, she cuts herself and sends him pictures of it, she drinks too much, is bullimic and snorts as many drugs as she can up her nose. Now when him and i were together years ago, he was very anti drugs! Recently hes done the drugs, taken an overdose and ended up in hospital, Tried making himself sick to lose weight and recently let her sweet talk her way back, yet again.Now i have tried being patient with him, but its wearing a bit thin because i cant see how someone can want to be kicked in the teeth so many times. I recently had a relationship end and i think once in all of his txt about him, has he asked how i am. And since hes got back with this woman, ive not heard a thing.Can anyone adise if it is just me being intollerant or is there really no helping some people and leave him to it? Is this really a mate?I hate the though of anyone being taken for a fool and we have remained good friends since we split. But i just feel like knocking some sense into him.What advice would you give him?ThanksC XXXXXXXXX
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (28 July 2007):
hlskitten is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks you two, i have left him to it. You're right, cant do anything more.
Brilliant thanks
C xxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, nailglitter18  +, writes (26 July 2007):
 Well, it depends on what you're willing to do. Frankly, as I am a bullying, strong-willed little witch, I'd probably go as close to kidnapping as legally possible, if I really thought she was no good, and if I thought he was putting his life in danger.But then, that may just drive him to her even more.Try to send him msgs of caring, pictures of pretty things, etc. Counter this woman in every positive way you can. Tell him you'll always be there for him, but that you can't make him realize that she's bad for him. Let him know that you're there to help if he needs it, and that you'll be by his side through whatever.if you truly feel that way.communication, communication, communication. That's the key.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (26 July 2007):
 Babe as caring as you are i think you are just going to have to leave him to get on with it, love is blind and probably a whole lot worse when drugs are involved.
You just concentrate on yourself and let him worry about himself.
Take care.x.
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