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writes:My boyfriend suggested I masturbate since I never had, so I could find out for my self what I like so when it comes to sex, I can tell him what I like. So I decided to give it a try. And I DEFINITELY found out what I like. The problem is now I don't want to tell him because of the way my body reacts to it... my legs get all shaky, and then when I do orgasm I guess I cum strongly. And the sheets are wet. So I am scared to tell him cause really it is not like we can clean the sheets every time I go over. His mom would get pretty suspicious. What should I do? Do I tell him about my worries and what happened? (I am considering it we are VERY opened but how do I explain it without him getting weirded out?) Should i just tell him the things that make me feel good but just don't have that reaction? Any advise please. Women does this happen to you? Men how would you react?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2011): I'm fairly dry with guys if they keep me going long enough but I'm also a very wet player if they take me there too fast. I would recommend dragging out the secession for a little while so you get a good climax and a hopefully not so volcanic eruption at the end. I don't know if it's normal but always just make myself cum first thing when I'm all alone but my x boy could keep me on the edge for what seemed like an eternity before he would just take me over the edge.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (14 May 2011):
Hi there. Just be honest with him - it's the only way. Honest I mean, about what pleases you and what hurts you, or does nothing for you.
There is no need to tell him about your masturbating, it's not his business. Just don't talk about it at all.
When you are making love, just guide his hand in showing him how you like him to touch you - i.e. light or firmer - and where you like him to touch you. Just guide his hand and gently say - "Like this, I like it this way."
Also, let him know if something is uncomfortable - like too much pressure for instance. Don't let yourself be uncomfortable or in any pain. It will definitely interfere with your being able to orgasm. Any discomfort will short-circuit it altogether, so you do not want that.
Don't worry about wet sheets, that's quite normal. Some orgasms of yours will be wet ones, others not quite so wet. Others yet again, will have hardly any liquid come out of the vagina at all. It's nothing to be embarassed about. All perfectly normal and healthy.
Just have a small towel with you - like a hand towel - and squeeze the sheet between the towel, which will absorb most of it instantly. Keep turning the towel over to use a part that's dry and squeeze the sheet between it again.
By the time you do this a couple of times, the sheet will be almost dry.
For this purpose, you could purchase one or two hand towels, which you could take with you in your handbag, then wash them when you get home, with detergent.
Chill out, don't worry and just enjoy the experience.
It's one of the wonderful things in life. It's also meant to be fun.
Best wishes and take care.
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