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writes:I wanna make it clear right now--i DO NOT want to steal someones boyfriend. There's just been a lot of things happening recently and i was curious. So, would you or wouldn't you? Why or why not? And have you ever stolen someone else's boyfriend or had your boyfriend been stolen from you? Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, GG96 +, writes (29 May 2011):
GG96 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone :)
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (28 May 2011):
 A boyfriend is not an inanimate object that can be stolen- it's not a suitcase that has no opinion about being brought away. With people, you can only steal those who WANT to be stolen.
If a boyfriend gets " stolen " it means he actively cooperated in his theft.
If you ( generic you, not you GG96 ) start hitting on a friend's BF, and he leaves her for you.. it means he did not care that much about your friend to begin with. Who wants to stay faithful stays faithful, plus, often is actually annoyed by any " predatory " attempt !
As for how condonable or acceptable is to hit on someone who is already in a relationship , personally I think it's not. But it's a matter of opinions, other people would say that all is fair in war and in love.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (28 May 2011):
Hi there. When people do this, it's more about wanting something they can't have.
The people who do this, might somehow see it as a challenge, and nothing more really.
Then when (and if) they actually succeed, they are no longer interested because there is no challenge for them anymore, so they are bored and go and do the same thing again to someone else.
It seems like a game to them and nothing more.
It's not a great way to live, and people end up getting hurt. It's just not worth it. It would be a situation that had no substance to it and very little meaning.
Anyone who does this is hurting 2 people - the lady whose boyfriend was stolen, and then the guy who was stolen from his girlfriend - and then dumped once the challenge was over. What a waste of time! No-one really wins, do they?
Occasionally, the new relationship might go on for a short time, but soon boredom sets in for the boyfriend stealer. It's virtually inevitable, as there's no excitement and no thrill of the pursuit. It becomes very ordinary for them.
I wouldn't really recommend it. Although I never did that or ever had it happen to me in my earlier dating days years ago, I've seen instances of this and most of those relationships very rarely worked out well. So everybody lost, plus much unhappiness by all concerned.
Just don't go there, it's simply not worth it.
If you don't want it to happen to you, then don't do it yourself.
Best wishes and take care.
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