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30 October 2010: I have tried to keep my relationship problems away from this site as I do not want my advice to be assosiated to my own questions. However I have now learned an important lesson that I want to share with the rest of you, in the hopes that you will ...
What I've learned from my family.
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How one person changed my life
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8 June 2010: I've been an aunt on this site now for quite a while, at first I started as an anonymous, until I finally took the step to make an account and dare to be identified somewhat. As I've gotten to know a few people on here, albeit still strangers ...
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Is ejaculating in a woman's mouth more degrading than on her face?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 6 years now, and really want to ejaculate in her mouth, she can't stand the taste. She wants me to ejaculate on her face, but I feel that's degrading....what do you guys suggest....?...
A. 28 November 2011: Ah, yes, the practical aspect: you do not want sperm in your hair! It's difficult to get away, which is why I don't want sperm in my face. I don't mind sperm in my face as such, but I worry about getting it in my hair. So I prefer to have it on my ... (read in full...)
Is ejaculating in a woman's mouth more degrading than on her face?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 6 years now, and really want to ejaculate in her mouth, she can't stand the taste. She wants me to ejaculate on her face, but I feel that's degrading....what do you guys suggest....?...
A. 28 November 2011: Ejaculating on the woman you love, no matter where, is not degrading. It's only degrading if you personally have added such a meaning to it. The act in itself, worldwide, is not considered to be degrading. However in certain porn movies certain acts ... (read in full...)
I've been a supportive husband to my EXTREMELY accident-prone wife-what are my options in this situation?
Q. In 15 years of marriage,( second marriage for both of us ), my wife has been sick or injured more times than I can count. Car wrecks, falling down stairs, back injuries, broken legs, hips, collar bones, arms, wrists, and even a concusion that res...
A. 27 November 2011: Have the doctors discussed a possible osteoporosis? How's her weight, is she underweight? How's her health aside from when she breaks a bone?
How's your insurance? Have you talked to social welfare, or looked into volunteer organisations that mig... (read in full...)
Ladies, have you had more sexual (intercourse) partners than oral sex partners or have you masturbated more partners?
Q. I was just wondering about female statistics, something me and my partner were talking about. Ladies, have you had more sexual (intercourse) partners than oral sex partners or have you masturbated more partners? For example, my partner (I've asked ...
A. 26 November 2011: What does "masturbated more partners" mean? Masturbation is an act you do on yourself, not others. Do you mean a handjob?
I've probably had more intercourse partners than I've had partners perform oral sex on me, I'm quite peculiar about who I le... (read in full...)
Question on genetic testing...
Q. I was wondering ,if anybody familiar with genetic testing? Does it really work? There is serious mental problems in my family, and I want to see , if there is anything shows up, as a genetic explanation. Does genetic testing shows any predisposition ...
A. 26 November 2011: Genetic testing haven't gotten that far yet. Genetic testing can in some cases test for certain chromosomes, some ilnesses are known, but the genetic codes aren't desiphered yet for the vast majority of supposed genetically inherited illnesses, in ... (read in full...)
He only likes me 'average'? What does that mean?
Q. So i really like this guy in my school and i dont know if he likes me but he knows i like him. i asked him if he likes me and he said he does but his liking is only average. what do you think that could mean? Also we fought like a week or so bac...
A. 26 November 2011: I think that by "average" he means he doesn't like you much, but he doesn't have anything against you either. In other words you matter very little to him. ... (read in full...)
Colourblind test
Q. Hi guys need help-not romantic stuff but please help me as your advice is really cool and appreciated. Hey guys sorry to disturb but i need help-very worried got an opportunity to apply for a highly paid job but need to do a colourblind test. I...
A. 26 November 2011: Then make yourself involved and don't take a no for an answer. You know you aren't colour blind. You have done several tests that proves it. You can refer them to your optician. You could have complained about the test taken 7 years ago once you had ... (read in full...)
Is sex outside the marriage infidelity when it's a 5 year plus sexless marriage?
Q. I have a very long term friendship with a woman. Her marriage has been dead for many years but stays because of her high school children and financial reasons. My marriage has been over for 10 years. During coffee last week , sex became a topic. She ...
A. 25 November 2011: Send her to reads this, it's another advice site, but about the same question, and a really in depth answer:
http:... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have sex four or five times in one night?
Q. I was having a lighthearted chat with my boyfriend this morning about first-time sex. I'm a virgin, he's not, and after almost a year together we're planning to go through with it soon. So we were talking about condoms etc. and to cut a long sto...
A. 25 November 2011: Stamina, nothing else. It's not to do with sex drive really, sex drive is how often, say during a month, you are interested in sex. If you are interested in sex once a month, but during that one time have sex 5 times, you still have a "low" sex ... (read in full...)
How to ask a girl for her number at the mall?
Q. Hey guys, i was walking at the mall with my buddies recently and i saw a really cute girl walking around. We made eye contact and i noticed she was gazing at me and smiling. I wanted to ask for her number but i didnt really know how to approach a ...
A. 25 November 2011: "Hey, my name is _____."
Unless of course you have an actual reason to talk to her. Most guys, at least in the USA as far as I've noticed, use a "conversation starter". That just means, comment on whatever first comes to mind. "You got fancy sh... (read in full...)
Is it ok to date a friend's daughter?
Q. I was having a conversation the other day about morals, and the person asked me if I thought it was ok to date a friend's daughter. We didn't go into depth in terms of which friend, how long you'd known them, etc. personally, I couldn't see a p...
A. 25 November 2011: To me that's more up the lines of ... well, people who are off limits. Such as your best friends ex-fiancée. She tends to be off limits. Or your friends wife, she's off limits. Or the girl whom your friend has been interested in for years, she tends ... (read in full...)
Should a girl ever truly trust a man 100 per cent?
Q. I was wondering should you ever trust a man 100% or give your love 100%. I am 25 good looking and have two degrees but recently I find it hard to be in a relationship or even wonder if a man is ever worth giving your all. I was in a five year rela...
A. 25 November 2011: Trust him 100 percent once you are married. ... (read in full...)
It's time to end this inconsistent lukewarm relationship, isn't it?
Q. My boyfriend of 1 year doesn't know I have a deadline in mind for him to really show me that he loves me. We HAVE talked, numerous times and I am always in control of myself and rational and non-accusing. He has had a "meh" attitude in the past and ...
A. 25 November 2011: If he's already made changes in just one year then I think that sounds promising. People usually do not change at all, or extremely slowly so. To see changes in just one year says that a lot is going on for him.
Maybe he is selfish, you know him... (read in full...)
Question for men: Why do guys tell all women they date the same lines?
Q. I have a question for any men that happen to read this. Why do some guys tell every single woman they are involved with the same exact lines, the same exact stories, and act the same way? I recently got in touch with three of my boyfriend's ex ...
A. 25 November 2011: You're not the exact same woman. Why do you have to twist it into a negative meaning? You're not the exact same woman, but maybe he does or says similar things (that sound similar to YOU, but you need to realize that not having been those other ... (read in full...)
He called it off, but now contacts me. What does he want??
Q. So ive been going out with my bf for almost two months and a couple of weeks ago he broke things off with me. He said that he thinks we are better off friends, but since then he has been texting me all day and will invite me over to his house. And ...
A. 24 November 2011: I don't think he knows what he wants and is just going with the flow. Figure out what you want instead and ask him to either step up to that level or get lost. ... (read in full...)
Should I not come first since I am his finace? He wants to see his relatives instead of me!
Q. My fiance is deployed at the moment. He got deployed in June and he leaves to go on his r and r in January. He is supposed to be coming to see me and my son for the 2 weeks, but now he is talking about going to Africa(where he is originally from) to ...
A. 24 November 2011: I agree with CaringGuy, and I must add you are making a big mistake if you leave him because of this alone. I understand that you are very disappointed because you've been waiting for so long to see him, and now he wants to see someone else too, and ... (read in full...)
His text left me confused! What do you think he meant by this?
Q. hi - it is official i hate texting !!! This guy and i went out a couple of times and we slept together. Always initiated by him. I texted him asking to go out for drinks and he replied something VERY confusing: "i have to go out with some colleg...
A. 24 November 2011: I think one should always go with the first assumption, or first guess, because that tends to be the correct guess.
He probably meant what you first though, and by default as a woman you are in hindsight reading too much into it. Guys are pret... (read in full...)
His new girlfriend is always telling me they are getting married, so why is my ex calling me from prison telling me he misses me?
Q. Okay so my ex and I broke up about 8 months ago since then he got a new girlfriend and they have been dating for 8 months now she 17 and he's 21. Everytime I see her all she does is brag about him infront of me and try's gives me attitude and ...
A. 24 November 2011: She's 17! Easily influenced, of course she sees him as a God, and with absolutely no adult experience she buys everything he says as well as owns no perspective. Which is why to HER, getting married after 8 months to a jail bird is super duper.
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Is my mind playing a trick on me or am I becoming bisexual?!
Q. I'm a 17 year old male and I'm very interested in women. I don't want to kiss, have sex, a romantic and sexual relationship with someone the same sex. Sometimes when I look at another male, something in my head is telling me that I'm attracted to ...
A. 24 November 2011: Women look at other women constantly and rank other women as attractive or not. If we can do it, why shouldn't men be able to do the same with other men.
Just because you can see if someone is attractive or not doesn't mean you want to have sex... (read in full...)
Who is in the wrong here?
Q. I have been with my husband for about 18 years. We have 2 children. i want to know if he is doing wrong or if i am doing wrong......we both live together in a small house, he always works(he works almost everyday but i only work once every 2 weeks ...
A. 24 November 2011: Unfortunately in your case, you belong to the previous generation. Modern women who get married today expect the man to help out more with domestic things, but even we can't quite get there. There's no realistic equal share of burdens in the modern ... (read in full...)
Bumped into a guy I used to date and he wanted me to go back to his flat, is he still interested and in what way?
Q. Ok, so yesterday, i bumped into this guy that i used to be seeing , and he wanted me to go back to his flat with him to reminisce, as he put it. I couldn't go, unfortunately, as i had already made other plans, but i'm hoping i'll bump into him again ...
A. 24 November 2011: Like k_c100 said. No man wants to "reminisce", what he meant was "do you want to be reminded of how I look naked and the sex we used to have"? He's not interested in you, he just wants to get laid and was hoping you would give it to him easily so he ... (read in full...)
Can you recommend how to forget this woman?
Q. I developed feeelings for a woman who is the mistress of a well to do millionaire. She has a child with him and he bought her a house, a car and a house at the beach and caters to her every need. She claims she has nothing to do with him anymore, ...
A. 24 November 2011: From what you described this woman isn't worth your time. How to get over her? Stop contact with her and take a good look at what else is out there and how much better other women really are. Shouldn't be hard to find someone who can up-do her ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my girlfriend the condom split when we were having sex?
Q. I really need help :/ I had sex with a condom with my girlfriend but I think the condom split! She dosent know it yet, I want to tell her but its only a matter of time before she finds out anyway, its just I think I should mention it first so it ...
A. 24 November 2011: Welcome to the adult world, where you are told when you make mistakes rather than just let off with a warning. Everyone else will be told the same when making serious mistakes, such as you did. This wasn't a mild misunderstanding, this is something ... (read in full...)
It's time to end this inconsistent lukewarm relationship, isn't it?
Q. My boyfriend of 1 year doesn't know I have a deadline in mind for him to really show me that he loves me. We HAVE talked, numerous times and I am always in control of myself and rational and non-accusing. He has had a "meh" attitude in the past and ...
A. 24 November 2011: It doesn't say anything about how he feels for you. All this is telling me is that you and him have vastly different expectations from a relationship. He expects little if nothing, and you expect the moon on a silver plate, because that is what you ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my girlfriend the condom split when we were having sex?
Q. I really need help :/ I had sex with a condom with my girlfriend but I think the condom split! She dosent know it yet, I want to tell her but its only a matter of time before she finds out anyway, its just I think I should mention it first so it ...
A. 24 November 2011: By heavens, why are you having sex when you have no clue what you are doing??? If the condom split then you SHOULD care, not only about her but about your self too, what, you think the baby will only be HER problem to deal with?
If the condom s... (read in full...)
My bf had a crazy fit and hurt me. Should I take him back?
Q. I have been. With my fiance for 3 years and we have had a lot of ups and Downs but here recently it has gotten. Horrible. And. As got in a bad fight. Last. Week and he called me a fucking. Whore and tried pinning me down on bed so I couldn't move. ...
A. 24 November 2011: This is domestic violence. Would you want to bring children into a situation like this? No? Then why would you want to bring yourself into a situation like this. Take care of yourself and your health, don't screw yourself over. You need to get away ... (read in full...)
Question for men: Why do guys tell all women they date the same lines?
Q. I have a question for any men that happen to read this. Why do some guys tell every single woman they are involved with the same exact lines, the same exact stories, and act the same way? I recently got in touch with three of my boyfriend's ex ...
A. 24 November 2011: PS. I thought of something additional. If you are dealing with one of these men that don't know themselves well, and use the word "love" without knowing the meaning, there will be other signs. Such as what Cindy said, love is shown in action, not in ... (read in full...)
Question for men: Why do guys tell all women they date the same lines?
Q. I have a question for any men that happen to read this. Why do some guys tell every single woman they are involved with the same exact lines, the same exact stories, and act the same way? I recently got in touch with three of my boyfriend's ex ...
A. 24 November 2011: Why is it so hard to understand that some people have big enough hearts to love again and again and again? Just because he also loved his exes doesn't mean he can't love you. Just because he loved them doesn't mean his love was fake, or that it is a ... (read in full...)
What is the main cause of juvenile delinquency and drug addiction?
Q. What is the most common cause,in families of juvenile delinquency and drug addiction? My sister kids are all dropped out of school, and into drugs and crime. It's a real frightening situation from the outside. I'm talking about serious drugs......
A. 24 November 2011: I haven't worked in this field, but to my understanding of it, from talking to people and from own life experience and witnessing things, it's a combination of many factors. First and foremost it's about bad luck. Being at the wrong place and at the ... (read in full...)
Why do women who cheat, cheat on someone they love,who gives them security,who they don't want to be without?
Q. Why do women who cheat,cheat on someone they love,who gives them security,who they dont want to be without? I have seen friends lose their soulmate by cheating with someone they knew would never offer a relationship,or anything more than sex. My ...
A. 24 November 2011: Because they don't have their heads screwed on right.
Let your friends make the mistakes they make, that is up to them to sort out. Just try to learn from their mistake and not throw away the things are that precious in your own life. ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my g/f I've cheated on her multiple times?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for just over a year now. Things were great. We even talked about and planned wedding stuff. I had no doubts the she was the one. It was truly amazing. Here's the first thing. I've cheated on her multiple...
A. 24 November 2011: Don't tell her. It'll serve no purpose other than breaking her heart, being cheated on is much much worse than breaking up. It's backstabbing and deceitful, cheating is betrayal. So do not tell her unless you want to inflict pain on her on purpose ... (read in full...)
I am ashamed of dating my ex
Q. Basically, I am ashamed of myself for dating someone as horrible as my ex was. He is now a heavy drug user and dropped out of college. He still tries to reach out to me and asks for friendship but I decline as I'm currently in a relationship. ...
A. 24 November 2011: Accept that you aren't perfect. You are a human. You have your moments of weakness too, and you make the wrong decisions for yourself, just like EVERYONE else also does. What you should be proud of is that you mustered up the courage to leave an ... (read in full...)
Marriage stereotypes....
Q. After having heard some comments last night, and searching the web a bit for answers, I have this question, and would like to hear different inputs. The topic is marriage, and it appears to me that there are certain stereotypes out there. A...
A. 24 November 2011: Many great points! Thank you! ... (read in full...)
Marriage stereotypes....
Q. After having heard some comments last night, and searching the web a bit for answers, I have this question, and would like to hear different inputs. The topic is marriage, and it appears to me that there are certain stereotypes out there. A...
A. 24 November 2011: I've read through a lot of this legal jargon now, and it is too much to write in here. But, the general ideas and laws seem to be around the same, in principle. I think the reason the laws are seemingly in favour of the women is not because they ... (read in full...)
Marriage stereotypes....
Q. After having heard some comments last night, and searching the web a bit for answers, I have this question, and would like to hear different inputs. The topic is marriage, and it appears to me that there are certain stereotypes out there. A...
A. 23 November 2011: I googled alimony as I haven't heard of that before. I don't think people who divorce gets alimonies in Norway, which might help explain why I am so confused at why men are opposed to marriage.
But, why is it always the woman who gets an alimony?... (read in full...)
I'm 27 and never had a girlfriend
Q. hi everyone. im a 27 year old guy, moved to a new area which is 200 miles away fron where i am orginally for a new job. and its really nice here. i like my job and the people i work with, its really good money and ive started playing rugby again so...
A. 23 November 2011: No one here would advice you to act like a jerk. Have you by chance written to us before? We often get questions from men aged 20-35 who have never had a girlfriend before, you aren't the first one to ask and you probably will not be the last. So ... (read in full...)
TMJ and blowjobs, is that even possible?
Q. Ok, so I was just sitting in my room, thinking about ways to please my boyfriend, when I realized that with TMJ (Temperal Mandibular Joint, pretty much the right side of my jaw is messed up and I cant open my mouth very wide), I'm pretty limited in ...
A. 23 November 2011: Lick, lick it like a popsicle.. You've probably heard that one before. How do you get down on a popsicle? You don't take the entire thing in your mouth. You nibble at the top, and you lick down the sides, and you hold it at the bottom with your ... (read in full...)
Marriage stereotypes....
Q. After having heard some comments last night, and searching the web a bit for answers, I have this question, and would like to hear different inputs. The topic is marriage, and it appears to me that there are certain stereotypes out there. A...
A. 23 November 2011: Thank you for the replies. But still, verifying that these stereotypes are out there don't help me sort out WHY they are out there. Why for example is it pointed out that marriage holds nothing in it for men? Does it really hold that much more for ... (read in full...)
How you can tell someone loves you
Q. So many times we see folks here saying "I know he loves me he tells me he does all the time" “But” I want to scream, “but how does he SHOW you he loves you” because I learned that WORDS without ACTIONS are meaningless. A partner that says “I lo...
A. 23 November 2011: Good points!!... (read in full...)
Career vs Love - what comes first?
Q. What's more important? • a career that pays $10k more than you currently earn... With greater responsibility and pressure. Or... • being in a loving relationship, building your own home and having a future with somebody that loves you? Your wag...
A. 23 November 2011: That depends on you and your values and preferences. People aren't always just as happy when given the exact same things, people are happy with different things in life. For some money and finer things in life, materialistic goods, are important. ... (read in full...)
Finally decided to take control over my health but people around me are not helping!
Q. Hi everyone, I was wondering if you could help with with an issue I have been having. I have finally decided to take control over my health, and wish to start eating much better, exercising, with the goal of getting fitter and losing weight. ...
A. 23 November 2011: Be firm. Be assertive. No means no. If you find that people around you impact your health then I think that is a sign you are too dependent and ingrained with people around you, allowing them to affect you to such a degree that it takes a toll on ... (read in full...)
Fiance broke up with me out of the blue, without any explanation, and has been ignoring me completely!
Q. Okay, so about 3 1/2 months ago my ex fiance broke up with me. It was very devastating for me because that same day we were talking about our wedding plans, laughing, and joking around when he just came out of nowhere and decided to end the ...
A. 23 November 2011: Send your sister or go get your things then, if he continues to ignore you. Or contact the police if you must to get your things back, as he is practically holding them hostage.
Could be he's not in the country, maybe he traveled abroad. Who know... (read in full...)
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