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writes:I have been with my girlfriend for 6 years now, and really want to ejaculate in her mouth, she can't stand the taste. She wants me to ejaculate on her face, but I feel that's degrading....what do you guys suggest....?
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reader, appliance +, writes (28 October 2014):
It is NOT degrading and part of a healthy sex life. It's actually quite disrespectful for a woman to refuse this to her partner. I would never date a woman who wouldn't want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2011): I may be in the minority here but when I give a guy oral sex and he cums in my mouth then I know I did it well and pleasured him to full climax. When a guy cums in my mouth I sorta consider it him rewarding me for doing a good job.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2011):
As a guy whose girlfriend won't do either (she feels they are both degrading) I suggest you do what she desires and get over your feelings. At least you are cumming on her. Sounds simple and that's because it is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmay i add she has tasted it accidentlly and unknowingly a few occasions and hadn't bothered her. I was her first and only and she is my first and only. I am not really interested in cumming anywhere on her, my only bet is to probablly just leave it alone and maybe she will do it by herself one day.
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reader, Hugh.J  +, writes (28 November 2011):
 Yes, anon, I HAVE sampled my own sperm and because my partner of the time said exactly what you did - "you wouldn't expect me to swallow it if you knew how it tasted" - so I came in my hand and licked it up.
Actually, it didn't taste of much at all; very bland and no problem.
BTW, "chigirl"; spot on, as usual.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2011): yeah mouth is more 'degrading' / it is more preferable to get it on your face so you don't have to taste it.
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reader, ratedrko26  +, writes (28 November 2011):
Well it cant really be degrading because some women actually like if shes up for it then i say go for it
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reader, auntyR +, writes (28 November 2011):
personally the thought of either of those options is just a big NO NO to me. But then some girls love it. You can't force her into changing her mind about the cumming in her mouth. It's not nice at all and there is no pleasure in it. Unless you like that sort of thing. Try and find a middle ground, like maybe suggest that you ejactulate on her breasts rather then her face and mouth.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (28 November 2011):
 *sigh*.. shivers...
Try to fulfil her needs, and fulfil your own, and you two will be all right. This is not worth a fight.
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (28 November 2011):
 Some girls do, some girls don't. If she doesn't like it then you must respect that. I don't either. I prefer just below my knees on my shins. If she prefers face then that's her choice.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (28 November 2011):
 Interesting
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2011): You know what I have found. If I am so in love and trust the man I am with 100% and I know and feel loved and cherished by that man - I am 100% willing to fulfill sexual fantasies, requests- so long as they stay in the monogamous (no other people) realm, no animals. We ALL SHOULD have boundaries.
I get turned on and excited and feel like a Goddess if I can fulfill my mans needs. *sighs*
So if she doesn't think its degrading and she's okay with it- why not?
I once had to drink some radioactive iodine and had to keep away from my BF at the time. He missed me so much and wanted to fool around so, he being it was gross to ejaculate onto a woman period, that one day, on my face. I had no complaints. We started to do it more.
Sexual intimacy with someone should be fun, exciting, and about learning and growing together.
Talk to her about it. Ask her what she thinks and feels because after all; she's the one whose opinion matters most and hopefully shes not so staid like others. ;)
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 November 2011):
 Ah, yes, the practical aspect: you do not want sperm in your hair! It's difficult to get away, which is why I don't want sperm in my face. I don't mind sperm in my face as such, but I worry about getting it in my hair. So I prefer to have it on my body, breasts and belly. It's quite sexy, but thats just my personal opinion. I also prefer to do it in the shower, less of a mess (sperm can some times shoot in directions you didn't predict).
So do this form of play in the shower, just to avoid the mess if there is any, and practice your aiming. If you get good at aiming you can move to aim at her face and avoid her hair. Being in the shower makes it much easier to clean up afterwards, and the session can easily be included into the showering together routine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2011): You have gotten lots of differing views here from the ladies all worth considering if not just for the fact you'll see there are lots of different tastes when it comes to this (pardon the pun).
But the only ladies opinion that really matters here is your girlfriends, she's pleasuring you and giving you head, therefore you should let her do it in a way she feels the most comfortable with.
OP I know the girls here would love for you to do neither that you should wholly concede to not doing anything even in a tiny way she may not like, but then what's the point in being a person who won't give to you? You see it's not a matter of respect or appreciation it works both ways. The very act of giving head for most women is not exactly a pleasant experience but they're doing it to pleasure their boyfriends and that makes it worth it for them. The same as it is for a lot of us guys to give head. We all do unpleasant things to please our partners like taking out garbage or cleaning the toilet bowl, or go visit their annoying friend, or family member.
My girlfriend is a big fan of oral ass play, I can tell you that idea is not exactly what I consider sexy but I will do it regardless because oral is about her pleasure. That's a sacrifice I'm willing to make for her and it's not degrading because it's her and she's doesn't want it done for purposes of degradation.
OP sexual things are only degrading if that's your objective and state of mind. Your girlfriend simply does not like the taste and instead of gagging she wants you to do it on her face instead. But if this is something you're uncomfortable with then just have a cup beside you and it's time to blow your load have her direct it into that. I say try it once OP, but be a gentleman and have a towel nearby on standby to clean her up. Who knows you may even like it and she may find it more fun. My gut feeling though is when it gets in her hair or bounces off her face and lands on the wall or ground and the complete mess that it can make she'll probably go with the cup idea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2011): i am very open minded....i rather get it in my face it has protein and is good for the skin gross as it may sound its true.research on this and you will see. TO SWALLOW...U HAVE TO REALLY LOVE THAT PERSON!
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reader, Miamine +, writes (28 November 2011):
Sigh.. I know that some women don't like the taste.. but the strong views that have been given, really make me wonder, how women would feel if men said "I HATE TO EAT PUSSY, IT TASTES SO DISGUSTING, IT'S NASTY....."
Anyway... you want her to swallow, her compromise is on her face. If she's willing to try it, she doesn't feel it's degrading. You feel that coming in her face is degrading, and that's all right too. Everyone has their own opinions, it's a matter of what you like and what your willing to do as a compromise.
For men, it's about feeling accepted, every single bit of you, and that includes your sperm. It can feel like your rejected, as if your body is dirty or something. I get that too, and so does your girlfriend, she's willing to compromise, it's just that sperm does taste like oysters, it's not for everyone.
The solution I like best, is to use sperm to anoint the body. Not her face if that is uncomfortable to you. (probably makes you think of the dead eyed girls in porn) But how about her breasts, her arse, or anywhere else. It's actually quite nice on the body, lovely and warm. You can rub it in, which is a form of caressing, and then off you both go to the bathroom, and wash everything off with soap.
See, doesn't need to be a problem. No she wont swallow, just like I don't like oysters or snails, but the French do. See how much sperm you can make, and cover her in it, and then you two go play. How does that sound, go and talk to her and see if she might like that suggestion better.
PS: I have heard, sperm is very good for the skin, because it contains proteins, and is reputed to keep you looking younger.. but it's probably an urban myth.
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reader, LustyLisa +, writes (28 November 2011):
I don't allow either so she must really hate the taste of your ejaculate!!!. Since it's her suggestion that you ejaculate on her face, give it a try and see how she feels afterwards. If it's not what she expects or feels degraded by the experience then you both know it's off the menu from now on.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 November 2011):
 NEVER ON MY FACE... always in my mouth so much easier to clean up... a swallow and it's GONE!
IF HE HAS to cum ON me, it better be ON my back and he has to clean it up...
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reader, chigirl +, writes (28 November 2011):
Ejaculating on the woman you love, no matter where, is not degrading. It's only degrading if you personally have added such a meaning to it. The act in itself, worldwide, is not considered to be degrading. However in certain porn movies certain acts are portrayed to be "humiliating" or the women act to not like it because in some cultures women aren't supposed to enjoy sex.
Separate porn from reality. Start thinking about how YOU really feel about an act, how it makes you feel and what pleasure you and your partner can get from it. Sex isn't about you doing something unto your partner. Sex is about you and her doing something intimate together. As long as you remember that you are two equals in bed, and are doing things together that you both enjoy, then there will never be anything degrading about it.
Try to watch less porn so it doesn't stick to your brain and makes you think certain acts, or any sexual acts, should be degrading. You're just ruining your own sex life if you let porn influence you this way.
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reader, mervy  +, writes (28 November 2011):
 I disagree - I like it when my boyfriend comes on me. If she wants to try it, let her try it. She mightn't be doing it just to accomodate for you. But yeah, if she doesn't want to swallow then I guess that's off limits.
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reader, Ciar +, writes (28 November 2011):
 Both are VERY unpleasant for most women. Your girlfriend has made it very clear she does not want to swallow your ejaculate. It's a pretty safe bet she dosn't want it on her face either, but has suggested it to accomodate you.
Show her how much you respect and appreciate her by not asking her to do either (and not hinting or complaining about it later).
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