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writes:Okay, so about 3 1/2 months ago my ex fiance broke up with me. It was very devastating for me because that same day we were talking about our wedding plans, laughing, and joking around when he just came out of nowhere and decided to end the relationship. We have not seen each other nor have we spoken to each other since. But I recently wrote to him asking him when would be a good time to send my sister over to his place to get the rest of my things that are still at his place. However, he is still completely ignoring me and has not been answered when can my sister come over to get my things? Can anybody tell me why? I mean, he told me he doesn't love me anymore, didn't want to get married, etc etc. I am completely done crying over him and the situation, why is he still ignoring me? Please give an explanation. I just want to get the rest of my things.
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reader, mammaboo  +, writes (23 November 2011):
 I agree with everything said so far. It does sound like he has someone else and he likes the attention he got from you when you thought he was serious about you. Some women do this too.
without paying to much attention to this kind of behaviour, some people are looking for emotions they perhaps don,t get from the other person or they are addicted to the leading on that leads to no where because they really don,t want you!They want the feeling of someone wanting them to much!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 November 2011):
 Send your sister or go get your things then, if he continues to ignore you. Or contact the police if you must to get your things back, as he is practically holding them hostage.
Could be he's not in the country, maybe he traveled abroad. Who knows. Just be happy about one thing: that you didn't marry him!!!! What sort of man does this? Breaks up with no explanation and out of a sudden, faking planning a wedding only to dump you, and the ignores you?
I can't respect men like that. I have an ex who faked happiness up until minutes before he dumped me. He came to my place and we cooked dinner together, and I suggested we go on holiday together, and he was agreeing, things were looking good, we were supposed to bake a cake later on, but he actually only came to see me to DUMP ME. Then why the heck would he go through all the pretending and in effect leading me on? It's so low. Just be happy you got rid of him, imagine what else he'd be capable of if he could fake being happy in the relationship for so long, avoiding actually talking about things and solving conflicts. Just pretending things are ok... what a fake.
Go to his place, get your things, whether it's a "good time" for him or not. It's his problem that he ignores you, don't let his problem become your problem. Do what you need to do to get your things, or if your things are replaceable just buy new ones and forget about him.
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reader, 90'sbaby +, writes (23 November 2011):
I would just go and get your stuff. Maybe he's to scared to get married.he might have another girl over there or he could of sold your stuff if he did i would sue him. He seems like a jerk i would come with a new guy or something when you get your things just to see his reaction.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2011): I think your sister should pop by one day, out of the blue. He can't really avoid answering and returning your things then.The fact hes not answering means a range of things - he's still trying to come to terms with ending it, even if he had initiated this decision its still grief he will go through, or perhaps he knows once he returns your things, its final.You are entitled to your things though, so if you make one last contact with him (try phoning or contacting by another means in case he has just ran out of credit, or changed his number) and if no response then get sister to pop by unannounced and see if that works. He has to respond eventually and the sooner he does and you get your things, the sooner you can move on. I'm so sorry to hear he hurt you, it wouldve been devastating :-( But I'm glad you are trying to move on and making the right decisions about moving on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2011): No-one on here can tell you exactly why he is acting the way he is or what he is thinking. My guess he either just wants nothing to do with you, or he already got rid of your stuff and doesn't want to admit to it. Sorry you have gone through this. Have you tried to see if he will respond t your sister if she calls him to ask about your stuff. That's all I can think. Good Luck
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