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writes:Ok, so yesterday, i bumped into this guy that i used to be seeing , and he wanted me to go back to his flat with him to reminisce, as he put it. I couldn't go, unfortunately, as i had already made other plans, but i'm hoping i'll bump into him again somewhere. Do you think he is still interested in me , and in what way ?. I'll post more about this soon . Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2011): Sounds to me like he wants to use you for sex.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 November 2011):
 Like k_c100 said. No man wants to "reminisce", what he meant was "do you want to be reminded of how I look naked and the sex we used to have"? He's not interested in you, he just wants to get laid and was hoping you would give it to him easily so he didn't have to track down someone else.
If I were you I'd be sort of offended that an ex would be such a sleazeball and take me for being so easy.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (24 November 2011):
 he is interested in sex with you nothing more...
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (24 November 2011):
 He wants sex. No man wants to sit and 'reminisce', he wants to get you in his flat so he can have sex with you. Classic 'sex with the ex' type thing.
If he really was interested in getting back together properly he would have asked you out for dinner or for a drink, so you can 'reminisce' in a more romantic setting. Whereas when a guy invites you to his house it means he cant be bothered to woo you or try and be romantic, he thinks a glass of wine and his company in his flat will be enough to get you into bed.
If a guy asks you out to a public place - he is interested in you as a person and views you as a serious relationship prospect. If he only ever wants to see you in private (i.e. your house, his house, hotel room etc) he just wants sex. If you use that rule in your day to day life genrally you should avoid getting used by men.
I hope that helps and good luck!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 November 2011):
Please, please look at this situation for what it is, and not what you're hoping it will be.
Here is a man who you used to see. After some time where you haven't seen him, what does he do? He asks you to come back to his flat to 'reminisce'. Basically, what he wanted was for you to come back to his so you'd wind up in bed. Then you' suddenly find that he'd disappear again.
If he had been interested in any other way, he'd have offered to meet up for a coffee or something, and would have actually dated you.
As it is, this guy was just after sex, and I don't think you'll hear from him again. Also, you can't really be sure he's single. He might be seeing someone and was just trying his luck.
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