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writes:I have been. With my fiance for 3 years and we have had a lot of ups and Downs but here recently it has gotten. Horrible. And. As got in a bad fight. Last. Week and he called me a fucking. Whore and tried pinning me down on bed so I couldn't move. So I finally pushed him off me and he shoved my arms down so hard that my. Neck felt like it snapped for a moment.at that time I felt dizzy and sat down and begged him to leave.he finally did but as he was leaving he freaked out and hit his face several times like he was loosing it.then he takes his ba@g n throws it on my glass entertainment center n breaks side of it.so now I'm faced with the fact that he is crazy n our 3 year anniversary is coming in 2 weeks n Thanksgiving is here n I don't think I can ever see him again after that fight.is it worth. Salvaging a 3 year relationship or let it go m be done n start Thanksgiving off right? I felt bad BC he doesn't have family. To. celebrate holiday with but he hates holidays anyways.also he has not came by to check on me since hurting my. Neck and has only text me n now he says he loves me more than anything n wants to come spend Thanksgiving with me?should I decline and break up for good or let him come by.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (24 November 2011):
 Once physical abuse starts, it normally doesn't stop. Take it from someone who has lived through it. Oh yes, they are sorry, they didn't mean to hurt you and they won't do it again. WRONG! Yes, they WILL do it again. Get out NOW, and don't look back. Why would you take him back? Be frightened of what happened and realize it could and probably will happen again if you take him back. He needs help and you can't help him. Save yourself, please.
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (24 November 2011):
 I am going to follow suite with the other answers here and say this relationship is over. Sometimes when things go south, it takes a bit of courage to end them for good. Also, when things go bad, behavior like this tends to come out (the violence).
Guys who get this angry are not good in the long run. No one can say he won't do it again and if your relationship is this violent when things get bad, imagine what it might turn out to be when you have kids and are forced to live together (in marriage).
I hope that you enlist your friends in supporting you in ending this relationship. There is never a good time to end a relationship and you can always self-rationalize about it, but I wouldn't feel sorry for him about a lack of family for the holidays either -- believe me, he'll get by.
My condolences and good luck.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 November 2011):
 This is domestic violence. Would you want to bring children into a situation like this? No? Then why would you want to bring yourself into a situation like this. Take care of yourself and your health, don't screw yourself over. You need to get away from this violent man.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 November 2011):
 No, don't take him back, he is one sick puppy and what happened would just be the beginning, next time you may not be so lucky. You may not even be breathing.
If you feel so bad for him, find him a good therapist, he needs help.
Love can't fix him, neither can pity.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (24 November 2011):
Hell no! Don't have him back. Break up for good and never see him again. Next time your neck will be snapped. He's got problems and you can't solve them.
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