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*attty215
writes:hi everyone. im a 27 year old guy, moved to a new area which is 200 miles away fron where i am orginally for a new job. and its really nice here.i like my job and the people i work with, its really good money and ive started playing rugby again so starting to meet new people. so a lot is going right in my life at the moment.my problem is im 27 years old and ive never had a girlfriend ever. im really bad with girls, i can talk to them etc fine but i suppose i fall under the catergory of the typical nice guy. i know many peoples advice will be to act like a jerk etc, but thats not who i am and if i have to act like that to get a girl is she really worth having?im just getting to that stage in my life where ive ticked all the boxes, got a good body, got good money have loads of friends but i just have never had a girlfriend. i dont mind being by myself as its all i know but i just feel like im missing out on something, and dont want this life to pass me by. i not good looking, but there isnt much i can do about that so will have to play with the cards i was delt. tried internet dating, and met some nice people but in the end nothing happened.my question is how do i sort out this weak area in my life and would it put girls off going out with someone who has never had a girlfriend?cheers thanks for your time
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reader, pinktaxi  +, writes (23 November 2011):
I've never had a boyfriend and I'm 27. So I'm not alone lol
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reader, mammaboo +, writes (23 November 2011):
 There are women out there who have never had a boyfriend and its because they choose not to.You are giving off the vibe that you are not really bothered at the moment, you are just testing the water. Girls will respond if you look interested.Keep going out with your mates keep havin a few dates . some one who you get on with will turn up soon!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 November 2011):
 No one here would advice you to act like a jerk. Have you by chance written to us before? We often get questions from men aged 20-35 who have never had a girlfriend before, you aren't the first one to ask and you probably will not be the last. So before I end up repeating myself I would like you to search our archives for men who are in similar positions as you, and read the advice they got, as well as read the articles and questions concerning what women want in men and what makes for a "nice guy". I'll try to find some of them here for you to begin with, but you will find much much more by searching our archives.
Girls would go out with you even if you haven't had a girlfriend before. And the key-word is to flirt. Another tip I will add to you, as I suggest all singles and people in relationships should think about, is what do you WANT from a relationship? What are you looking for? What is your ideal form of relationship, how would is practically work, would you hang out 100 percent of the time, or only meet on weekends, are you looking to be married, would a long distance relationship be okay, does it matter if you have similar interests or does it matter more that you have a great communication while opposing interests? What values are important to you, what values would you need a girlfriend to share with you (such as no drugs, wants kids, not religious etc). Figure out what you want, that will narrow your search so you have something more specific in mind to look for. You're allowed to have vague ideas, but try to be honest with yourself and narrow it down to at least an age group and certain must-haves and a few deal-breakers.
NEVER HAD A GIRLFRIEND:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/in-my-mid-20-and-never-had-a.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/ive-never-had-a-girlfriend-is-there-something.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/27-never-had-a-girlfriend-now-cant-even.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-25-never-had-a-girlfriend-and-still.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-it-a-stigma-to-be-a-31.html
WHAT WOMEN WANT:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what--women-want-most-from-a-guy.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-be-attractive-a-beginners-guide-for.html
THE NICE GUY MYTH:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/nice-guys-finish-last.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-does-being-a-nice-guy-get-me.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/should-i-become-a-total-jerk-for-my.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2011): Hey
Don't feel bad about yourself, just keep looking. Please don't think you have to change into a jerk in order to get a girlfriend. There are a lot of girls out there who actually like guys like you and remember in the end girls always marry the nice guys;)
But honestly it does not necessarily help if you are pretty. People always tell me that I am hot, but I have not had a boyfriend yet and I am 20. Even my friends do not get why..
I guess we just have to be patient, but I am also worried that I am missing out and scared I might end up as a frustrated, old virgin^^
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reader, Bobbyjo +, writes (23 November 2011):
 Hey
Dont turn into a jerk just cos some women like men that way. The world is full of them as it is. Dont change for anyone. You sound like youre happy with your life so just keep doing what you are doing. Love will come to you when you least expect it. And no its not weird that you are 27 and never had a gf. Im 28 and havnt had a serious boyfriend for 7 years. But in this day and age we are relatively young. Lots of people dont settle now til theyre in their 30s.
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