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writes:So ive been going out with my bf for almost two months and a couple of weeks ago he broke things off with me. He said that he thinks we are better off friends, but since then he has been texting me all day and will invite me over to his house. And one night we got intimate.I still want him as a bf but idk what he wants. Idk if he is just using me or not. Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2011): I hate to say it but I think he wants you just for sex until he meets someone else. Guys will do anything to be with the one they want to be with, so if he really wants to date you again he would have already talked to you about it. My advice is move on and find someone who deserves you and would do anything to be with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2011): I agree with all of these answers. He doesn't know what he wants but he doesn't want to be your bf anymore, he wants to control you and stop you from having time to meet other men so he can still have you available to him when he wants that, he wants to use you for sex and attention now but he wants to be free to find someone else. He knows that you are still open to him as a bf so he feels he can get away with all of this. You need to put a stop to it.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (25 November 2011):
 he wants you for sex and fill in till he finds someone else....
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (25 November 2011):
Hi there. Perhaps he is making sure you are still available to him, should he change his mind.
It's like he's checking up on you. Because you have said here, that he texts you all day long.
He can't make up his mind.
He's not sure he wants to be your boyfriend, but he also wants to make sure no-one else muscles in on him either.
So he's taking up your time, so you have no other spare time to talk to other men. It's rather self centred of him, don't you think?
Probably what needs to happen now, is for you to not open his text messages, and instead just delete them all - without even reading them.
After all, it was HE who broke it off, remember?
Let him sweat it out a little bit.
You are not being nasty to him, you are showing some self respect by letting him know you won't take any crap from people - no exceptions.
Maybe you could do this for a few days to a week or two, and see what he does.
The longer he does this - constantly texting you - the longer it takes for you to move on without him.
Don't let him control you like this.
And that's exactly what he is doing - CONTROLLING you.
Be your own person and take back the control you already have inside of you. It's to your benefit.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 November 2011):
 I don't think he knows what he wants and is just going with the flow. Figure out what you want instead and ask him to either step up to that level or get lost.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 November 2011):
Ever get the feeling that he's just out to use you until he can find someone else?
I'm afraid I do, so I'd recommend cutting contact with and moving on. A guy who treats you this badly isn't worth your time.
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