A guy told me the other day . If I really love him, I must reduce my weight ? Why would someone say like that ??
Q. A guy told me the other day . If i really love him, I must reduce my weight ? Why would someone say like that ??...
A. 5 July 2012: I weighed 203 lbs (I am 5'9")in high school. I am slender now. Being healthy can mean a lot of things. I once worked out 4-5 times a week for an hour a day and ate a very low-calorie diet. I was UNDER weight and was not healthy. When I look at ... (read in full...)
I'm worried I like him more than he likes me. What should I do?
Q. I met this guy about a month ago when I visited my friend out of town. They are roommates. My friend has told me that he is a very nice guy etc. We hit it off really well, hung out a lot, got physical but didn't have sex. Until I met him I had ...
A. 17 June 2012: I agree with eyespy and pinktopaz...you could always go visit once and see how it goes. If he is paying off bills, he may not really have any money. I would consider visiting, but perhaps stay in a hotel instead of with him. You don't want to ... (read in full...)
I saw my husband groping and touching his younger friend! Is my husband gay?
Q. Dear Cupid My hubby and I have been married for 30 years and together for 34 years. He likes to drink but not everyday. Just on weekends. Last Friday night when him and his friend who is young enough to be our son came home they were both dru...
A. 17 June 2012: I am sorry for the loss of your parents. That is a rought thing to go through besides seeing your husband in this position and not being able to trust him. I know the feeling of having no one to trust but your spouse...and then not even him. It ... (read in full...)
My partner and I are trying for a baby, but he hasn't stopped using steroids. How can I confront him?
Q. Please help.my partner and i have been trying for a baby and recently been told he has a low sperm count due to the amount of steroids he use to take. He promised me that he is staying off them do we can have ivf. I know i shouldn't have but i've ...
A. 17 June 2012: I would take him at his word but continue to monitor the test results from the doctor. I would also go to counseling and see if you can work this out. In the meantime, stop trying to conceive a baby. You need to get this situation worked out so ... (read in full...)
Should I move on? All he ever does is lie to me?
Q. well its a hard situation that i am in at the moment i am young and have had a gorgoues little son, myself and my partner are 18 years old so both stil very young, we have been going through a really bad stage the last fewmonths we split for a break ...
A. 17 June 2012: Believe me, I understand the hurt. I am still dealing with the hurt my ex caused me. You find someone you think you can trust and who genuinely cares and he ends up being a complete jerk after all. So frustrating and sad. I just couldn't live ... (read in full...)
Why out of the blue did he text me saying we needed a break? I need closure!
Q. Hello everyone, I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 years now. Like any other relationships we've had our ups and downs but always work stuff out in a matter of time. We love eachother a lot, my family loves him and his family loves me, etc. ...
A. 17 June 2012: So did he text you back? If so, what did he say? I know this is hard to believe, but when men like women...they find any way they can to be with that woman. I agree with the other response. If he has not explained anything to you, then you need ... (read in full...)
I'm worried I like him more than he likes me. What should I do?
Q. I met this guy about a month ago when I visited my friend out of town. They are roommates. My friend has told me that he is a very nice guy etc. We hit it off really well, hung out a lot, got physical but didn't have sex. Until I met him I had ...
A. 17 June 2012: Plus, I agree that if it's been a month and he hasn't found a way to make some money or get some money to visit you, he isn't that interested.... (read in full...)
I'm worried I like him more than he likes me. What should I do?
Q. I met this guy about a month ago when I visited my friend out of town. They are roommates. My friend has told me that he is a very nice guy etc. We hit it off really well, hung out a lot, got physical but didn't have sex. Until I met him I had ...
A. 17 June 2012: First, he told you to come visit, so apparently he likes you. He's also told you the reason he can't come visit you...he's broke. My concern would be why is he broke? Does he have a job and just struggling to make ends meet or is he unemployed? ... (read in full...)
I saw my husband groping and touching his younger friend! Is my husband gay?
Q. Dear Cupid My hubby and I have been married for 30 years and together for 34 years. He likes to drink but not everyday. Just on weekends. Last Friday night when him and his friend who is young enough to be our son came home they were both dru...
A. 17 June 2012: It doesn't matter whether he's gay or not, although I understand this as your initial reaction. What matters is that he is cheating, but I guess everyone else has already said this.... (read in full...)
My partner and I are trying for a baby, but he hasn't stopped using steroids. How can I confront him?
Q. Please help.my partner and i have been trying for a baby and recently been told he has a low sperm count due to the amount of steroids he use to take. He promised me that he is staying off them do we can have ivf. I know i shouldn't have but i've ...
A. 17 June 2012: With all due respect, why would you consider having a child with someone who takes steroids? Even if he quits taking them, they will remain in his system for a long time. Let's say he does quit taking them long enough for you to get pregnant with ... (read in full...)
I want my new boyfriend to be more adventurous in bed. Should I say something?
Q. I love it when guys are really animalistic in bed, but my new boyfriend is really tame and romantic, which is lovely but doesn't get me fired up at all. Should i say/do something? Thanks x...
A. 17 June 2012: I would be like "Honey, I really love it when you do that, but could we try......." and then fill in the blank with what you'd like him to do/say/try.... (read in full...)
Husband masturbates to porn so much that he can't have sex with me
Q. my husband prefers watching porn to watching me.he doesnt bath with me anymore and spends the whole day downloading porn videos and the whole night watching and masturbating.he cant keep his erection anymore and each time after sex(thats when he ...
A. 17 June 2012: Yes, for some people, this is what porn does to them. I would suggest leaving. You have tried to confront him and he places blame on you. That is wrong and abusive.... (read in full...)
My husband of one year shows me no love or affection is it time to leave?
Q. my husband have been married for almost a year, our anniversary is in 2 months, and i think we are on the verge of a divorce. He shows me no love or affection, but only tells me he loves me when i bring it up. i cant even remember the last time he ...
A. 17 June 2012: I cannot answer that question for you, but I know how hard it is when someone you love with all your heart does not return the affection. And, like most women, you have probably tried everything you know to try to get the response from him you once ... (read in full...)
I rarely feel like having sex. Is there anything I can do naturally to help this problem?
Q. I'm a 30 year old man. I very rarely feel like Sex. I know it's affecting my relationship. I always want to sleep as soon as I lie down. I fall asleep so easily, after sex, if we have it, I fall straight asleep. I dread the thought of sex. When we ...
A. 16 June 2012: Do you work, play sports, and keep yourself active? If you are so active you are too tired for sex, that could be a problem. On the other hand, if you have enough energy for other pursuits, but just can't get in the mood...you might want to see ... (read in full...)
Fallen in love with a fwb, now what?
Q. Hi everyone I know this is a common question but I really need help I have fallen completely in love with my fwb who said he didn't want a relationship which I thought I would be fine with he has just moved and I am absolutaly gutted have any of you ...
A. 16 June 2012: I would tell him and see what he says. Prepare yourself to be disappointed, though. This is why fwb is not really a benefit. Usually someone has stronger feelings and ends up hurt. Not to be disrespectful, but it is beyond me how people can have ... (read in full...)
My BF says he doesn't need to wear a condom because he smokes.... is this true?
Q. My boyfriend smokes so should he wear a condom when we start to have sex because I've heard it's more difficult for a girl to get pregnant from a boy who smokes cigarettes?...
A. 15 June 2012: Seriously? Well...he's lying to you. You may want to consider getting yourself a new boyfriend if he is either (1) That uninformed or (2) That intent on deceiving you. He's not only putting you at risk of getting pregnant, but also at risk of ... (read in full...)
How can I talk to my boyfriend about wanting to have a threesome?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for over 7 years now and things are great but i want to try new things,by new things i want to have a threesome or just something different, see ive only been with just him and he has been with a bunch of other girls. I ...
A. 15 June 2012: I would just ask him what he would think of a threesome. I am sure you will get an immediate reaction of what he thinks of this. If you are in a committed relationship you must be very careful with bringing others into your relationship. Some ... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time with this guy?
Q. Hi, Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months and we see one another every fornightly sometime weekly has he lives away with work. We get on great, I've met his family been invited on their holidays n...
A. 15 June 2012: I am sorry you are in a such a confusing situation. To be honest with you, it sounds like your guy is not sure what he wants. He is not sure he wants you, but when you confront him about it, then he does want you. I think he sounds insecure and ... (read in full...)
How can I unsay the hurtful words I said to my boyfriend during an argument?
Q. how can I undo, the hurt full words I said to my boyfriend, during a argument, It all started, when we went to cath a bus, to cash his check, and i woke him up from his little nap he was taking, and he got angrey about it. So while we were standing, ...
A. 14 June 2012: It sounds like he is an emotional abuser and lays blame on you for everything...even when there really isn't any blame to be had. Seriously consider leaving him because it won't get any better. He sounds very self-centered. Besides that, you have ... (read in full...)
Are these symptoms of falling out of love?
Q. Hey, does this sound like I'm falling out of love? I've been with my bf 21 months, see each other 3-4 times a week, and for the last few months, I've had this nagging feeling that things aren't right. When he calls me, he just talks at me about ...
A. 14 June 2012: I know exactly what you mean and don't know what it really indicates. Some will say that the man is feeling comfortable with the relationship because he doesn't have to impress you anymore. For me, it wasn't so much about impressing me or doing ... (read in full...)
Since she starte taking the depo shot my g/f is no longer interested in sex
Q. My girlfriend of 3years has just started taking the Depo shot for birth control a couple months ago, and ever since then app closeness and intamacy is gone, literally!.....every time I put my arm around her she shrugs it off, or when I just place my ...
A. 14 June 2012: I would talk with her about it. She may need to go on some other form of birth control as some of them can make you depressed and make you put on weight. When I was on the pill I gained 10 pounds eating what I normally ate and was always extremely ... (read in full...)
2 times tried to have sex, 2 times failed. Is it the condom?
Q. Hi, my boyfriend and I are both virgins and we've been together about 4 months. We've tried to have sex twice now, and had the following problems. We are using condoms by the way. 1. He can't stay hard. I've given him handjobs before without t...
A. 14 June 2012: I do not think it is the condom...he is just nervous. Plus, each time you "fail" at it, he probably gets more nervous. Have you ever tried talking dirty to him and telling him how much you want him? I mean, I could go into detail on what you ... (read in full...)
The feelings are coming back. Should I get back with my ex?
Q. A few weeks ago i broke up with my girlfriend cause i didn't think i felt the same way about her as i did when we starting seeing each other. I thought it was the right decision, but now we are talking again and the feelings for her are coming back ...
A. 14 June 2012: Sometimes people need a little time apart to figure out what they really want. If you still have feelings for her and her for you, you might want to give it another chance. If it doesn't work...you can always break up again if you like. There is ... (read in full...)
My mother needs psychiatric help but I don't want to abandon her. Has anyone else went through this?
Q. How do I deal with letting my mother go like this. Everyday she seems to be losing a bit of herself little by little. It's to the point where she's frequently screaming at the top of her lungs senseless gibberish. I love my mother and it tears me up ...
A. 14 June 2012: Has your mom been tested for dementia/Alzheimer's disease? I would go see a trusted doctor and tell him/her about your concerns. She might be able to reside in an assisted living or health care facility instead of a psychiatric hospital. It just ... (read in full...)
Is my fear that he might be considering cheating going to unsettle our relationship?
Q. My bf signed up to dating site and now i am questioning every thing he has done in the past. I have always been insecure but he has stuck with me and been together three years, now have a beautiful baby girl together. We have been through so m...
A. 13 June 2012: It all boils down to whether you want a man with these values. If you do, great. If you don't, you need to move on, but continue to let him see the child. No one can give you any advice if you've already made up your mind that you are the nag and ... (read in full...)
Should I move on? All he ever does is lie to me?
Q. well its a hard situation that i am in at the moment i am young and have had a gorgoues little son, myself and my partner are 18 years old so both stil very young, we have been going through a really bad stage the last fewmonths we split for a break ...
A. 13 June 2012: I know you would like to make this work, but why? You want a man who drinks and does drugs? What kind of life would you have? My sister had a man who did this and she's lucky she's alive today. To me, it makes no difference whether he does the ... (read in full...)
When we are apart, she experiences weird moods and depression and things become chaotic!
Q. need some advice from you cupid experts has anyone been through or experienced this? When im with my gf everything is fine but soon as we are apart it becomes choas/depression and just instability. Soon as we are apart she goes into these ...
A. 13 June 2012: She can't go a day or two without having you in her presence? Well...I am wavering back and forth on my answer because I'm half-way between saying she's insecure and saying she's normal. Although, I am very hesitant to say this is normal because ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for him but he's not ready for a relationship, just comes around for sex!
Q. Hi I was just wondering what I can do in this situation I met this man 16 months ago who wasn't really my type but I thought I would give it a go I said yes to a date he came round mine just for a drink as we lived very close we didn't sleep ...
A. 13 June 2012: Why are you having sex with someone who treats you this way? He's just coming around for sex! He doesn't want anything to do with you...he just wants to screw you. Now I am sorry to put it that way, but it is the truth and it is screaming for you ... (read in full...)
We've been dating on the phone, I'm already in love with him, do you think he changed his mind about me?
Q. hie,went to a party and met this guy he liked me n asked for my number,we exchanged numbers.we had been communicating on fone for abt a month,we hav been dating for abt 7 weeks nw ,he lives 2hs away from my place.we had agreed to meet and talk one ...
A. 13 June 2012: How could he change his mind when you haven't even met in person? If you have asked him to meet face to face and he is avoiding you, he isn't interested. Please pay attention to his cues so you don't become obsessed with him and have to endure ... (read in full...)
Is my fear that he might be considering cheating going to unsettle our relationship?
Q. My bf signed up to dating site and now i am questioning every thing he has done in the past. I have always been insecure but he has stuck with me and been together three years, now have a beautiful baby girl together. We have been through so m...
A. 13 June 2012: There is a lot of porn online that is free, so if he is signing up...he is either paying for the service or he is interacting or hoping to interact with someone online. If this is the case, he is cheating. People normally do not watch porn out of ... (read in full...)
Does my online love want me or not?
Q. I was in an online relationship for 2 years. They were truly blissful years. He understood me. Every moment was exciting. He was hilarious.. he got all my jokes and FINALLy there was someone who on my wavelength. After 2 years.. I feel like it has ...
A. 13 June 2012: Just to let you know...I have had this same experience. That is why we aunts come on here. We have experienced the same things and so we give our honest opinions based on what we know. That is what AuntyEm was saying. My guy also stopped ... (read in full...)
I am told I am pretty,charming,got a goreous smile yet can't seem to find love or friendship,what's wrong with me ?
Q. I am told I am pretty,charming,got a goreous smile yet can't seem to find love or friendship,what's wrong with me ? Why am I so unwanted ? It hurts.Can any one help me ? Thanks !...
A. 13 June 2012: There is nothing wrong with you, but perhaps you are so pretty and charming that men are intimidated by you? Reach out to others or join a group of some sort. Take a class that is fun and you will surely meet some new people. There is so much out ... (read in full...)
Does my ex want me back, or not?
Q. Dear cupid I'm trying to figure out if my ex boyfriend wants me back because I'm getting mixed signals.After we broke up he said that he would never stop trying to win me back and he checks up on me all the time by calling or texting to see how I'm ...
A. 13 June 2012: It sounds like immaturity talking to me. Or, he feels like he needs to save face to show how tough and resilient he is. Tell him that if he wants a serious relationship with you that he will have to be consistent in his feelings and what he tells ... (read in full...)
A guy told me the other day . If I really love him, I must reduce my weight ? Why would someone say like that ??
Q. A guy told me the other day . If i really love him, I must reduce my weight ? Why would someone say like that ??...
A. 13 June 2012: Someone would say that because he is superficial. If he really liked/loved you, he would like you as you are.... (read in full...)
Do I meet up with my old flame? My husband has cheated on me repeatedly but I've never cheated on him
Q. I have been married for 18 yrs now. My husband has cheated on me more than 10 times (3 times with a family member, but I only count her as 1).He has not cheated the past 6 years. As you can imagine I have very little self asteem left. A couple of ...
A. 13 June 2012: There are two issues here...first...if you do not love your husband anymore...get a divorce so you can date other men. Secondly, a lot of things change throughout the course of 20 years. Are you the same person you were in high school? I'd hope ... (read in full...)
Should I move on? All he ever does is lie to me?
Q. well its a hard situation that i am in at the moment i am young and have had a gorgoues little son, myself and my partner are 18 years old so both stil very young, we have been going through a really bad stage the last fewmonths we split for a break ...
A. 13 June 2012: Let's look at this from a common sense perspective. Should you move on? Yes, you should move on. Why? You just listed more than enough reasons why you should have left a long time ago. Drinking and drugs. Lying. Texting other women. Drama. ... (read in full...)
Will this guy tell everyone that I don't shave down there?
Q. Hi, I'm 18 years old. The guy is also 18, he is my friend's friends and we got introduced to each other a few weeks ago. He fingered me today in the morning, I enjoyed it but I wasn't expecting to do anything so I wasn't shaved down there. Th...
A. 13 June 2012: Seriously? I agree with some of your other aunts here...why don't you pick a guy you could trust not to talk about pubic hair in the first place. I don't shave everything because I'm a woman and I don't like the little girl look. I also don't ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling pretty hurt right now ---
Q. My boyfriend said something worrying to me tonight and I'm not sure how to get it out of my head. My boyfriend has really mild aspergers and that usually means he's brutally bluntly honest no matter what. So when he says things that are mean, it's ...
A. 13 June 2012: Much of having "great chemistry" is having great communication. The reality is that you are involved with someone with Aspergers, so does he have a pass everytime he says something stupid, rude, or disrespectful? Since you have such great ... (read in full...)
What can I do during sex so b/f isn't doing all the work?
Q. Hello all! I have a question about sex. I'm kinda new to it and though everything is good(we both enjoy it) I don't know what I Can do during sex so he's not doing all the work when he's on top. Is it just inevitable that I can't do much but move my ...
A. 12 June 2012: Yes, if it isn't painful for you (sometimes it is more pleasurable)and you are willing, I would get on top. You can control everything from there. Plus, your guy will love watching you. There are all kinds of positions you can try where the guy ... (read in full...)
Why am I never good enough?
Q. He left me and I'm feeling so heavy. I really do love him but he doesn't feel the same way and it hurts. The last time a guy left me he left me for my best friend of whom he's engaged to and now this guy left me. It makes me feel like I'm not good ...
A. 12 June 2012: If it makes you feel any better, I honestly think that many people go into relationships not knowing themselves or what they want. They date people to find out what they want and don't want. In the end, it sometimes causes a lot of heartbreak and ... (read in full...)
Why do I still feel as though I'm rebounding?
Q. I dated a guy for almost two years of my life, he was my first boyfriend and the first boy I ever really felt anything for, I gave him everything. However, in that relationship period he was abusive towards me, physically and mentally - I stayed ...
A. 12 June 2012: Personally, I think we all look for outside approval of our desirability. If we didn't, how would we know we are desirable? I guess I think you are just human. When you fall in love with someone, you become attached to that person. It's ... (read in full...)
What does it mean if a guy places his hand on your waist?
Q. What does it mean if a guy places his hand on your waist? I was talking and joking with a friend and this guy(i kinda like him) from my class who was standing next to me laughed too and placed his hand on my waist(or lower back). Also, what doe...
A. 12 June 2012: Usually if a guy touches you, it means he really likes you and wants to be close to you. Guys are pretty straightforward with their actions. The fact he is also fixing things for you means you have a serious admirer!... (read in full...)
I want to do these things but she's not keen... Is she holding me back and will this work?
Q. We live in a large town up North. My partner is a lecturer but is thinking about moving career over summer. We've been dating for 5 years and living together for almost 3. I'm in my early 30s and she's in her late 20s. I work from home and I'...
A. 12 June 2012: You are not unreasonable for wanting anything in life, but you can't always get everything you want. Sometimes you have to make choices. Do you stay with your partner and feel resentful because you did not get to do what you wanted? Or, do you go ... (read in full...)
How do I get my guy to change the motion he uses during sex?
Q. i have problem , i really don`t enjoy the in and out thrusting during sex ,it`s not pleasurable for me so i want to ask my boyfriend to go for slow circular mouvement but i don`t know if cicular mouvement inside the vagina feels good to me...
A. 12 June 2012: Telling a man what you need in bed isn't rude...and most men like to know what you like. I would tell him that what he does makes you feel good, but if he would do the circular movement, it would make you go out of this world. Be positive, have ... (read in full...)
How can I unsay the hurtful words I said to my boyfriend during an argument?
Q. how can I undo, the hurt full words I said to my boyfriend, during a argument, It all started, when we went to cath a bus, to cash his check, and i woke him up from his little nap he was taking, and he got angrey about it. So while we were standing, ...
A. 12 June 2012: This is all because you woke him up from a nap? Wow, maybe this isn't the guy for you. He could have just told you not to wake him up from naps anymore and that could have been the end of it. It sounds like a lot of verbal abuse in this ... (read in full...)
I'm totally confused why he won't change his facebook status to 'in a relationship'? He did before with a different girl!
Q. Im dating a guy for a couple of months now, i really love him but i don't know about him. My problem is he doesn't want to change his relationship status on facebook, i don't want to confront him to seem im nagging. i don't know if he's dating ...
A. 12 June 2012: Please get off Facebook and stop putting so much emphasis on it. It means absolutely nothing. If it is so important to you and your boyfriend, I would suggest stepping outside and getting a real life instead of living a virtual one on Facebook all ... (read in full...)
Does my online love want me or not?
Q. I was in an online relationship for 2 years. They were truly blissful years. He understood me. Every moment was exciting. He was hilarious.. he got all my jokes and FINALLy there was someone who on my wavelength. After 2 years.. I feel like it has ...
A. 12 June 2012: I just wanted to thank AuntyEm for her explanation of why we post. We post because we can share with others what we have experienced and wish everyone a happy healthy life!... (read in full...)
Does my online love want me or not?
Q. I was in an online relationship for 2 years. They were truly blissful years. He understood me. Every moment was exciting. He was hilarious.. he got all my jokes and FINALLy there was someone who on my wavelength. After 2 years.. I feel like it has ...
A. 12 June 2012: I think online relationships can be fine, but you have to be realistic about what they are. They are online. I even think you can have intense feelings for someone online, but once again...it is online. People generally want more than a virtual ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling pretty hurt right now ---
Q. My boyfriend said something worrying to me tonight and I'm not sure how to get it out of my head. My boyfriend has really mild aspergers and that usually means he's brutally bluntly honest no matter what. So when he says things that are mean, it's ...
A. 11 June 2012: Right, this is part of who he is and he will continue to say hurtful things. I suppose it's possible he could learn to better control his comments through therapy if he would be willing to go. You keep saying you are really smart and the ... (read in full...)
Does my online love want me or not?
Q. I was in an online relationship for 2 years. They were truly blissful years. He understood me. Every moment was exciting. He was hilarious.. he got all my jokes and FINALLy there was someone who on my wavelength. After 2 years.. I feel like it has ...
A. 11 June 2012: So, the relationship was completely online? Or, you met online and then started hanging out in person? If the relationship was all online, I am not sure how long you can carry on without someone wanting to see and be with a person in real life. ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling pretty hurt right now ---
Q. My boyfriend said something worrying to me tonight and I'm not sure how to get it out of my head. My boyfriend has really mild aspergers and that usually means he's brutally bluntly honest no matter what. So when he says things that are mean, it's ...
A. 10 June 2012: Whether he has a condition or not does not matter. Everyone always has an excuse for bad behavior. Don't make excuses...treat him as if he didn't have the Asberger's. I agree you need to be blunt back. Tell him he hurt you and you don't want to ... (read in full...)
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