I feel like he isn't in to me as much as he says he is, and only keeps me around for convenience. Should I leave him?
Q. I found out that my boyfriend has given his ex's flowers (even when they were broken up) and he took one of his ex's to a fancy fine dining restaurant, 2 hours away. In the over 2 years that we've been dating, he's never done anything like that for ...
A. 19 June 2012: If he shows you his affection in other ways then you need to accept that. The things he does have genuine thought behind them, whereas anyone could call up and order flowers. Perhaps he thinks you are special compared to the other women and that ... (read in full...)
Is this her disorder or she wants out or she needs time to get well?
Q. hi my best frriend and i have known each other for eight months we are same sex females me black and her white we started a relationship and it has lasted for six weeks everything has been great no fusing no arguing we cuddle and enjoy each other w ...
A. 19 June 2012: If she won't return your texts or phone calls, I would probably leave her alone. She may be hurting as much as you, but she may also be completely confused about her life. I am sure the bipolar disorder does not help. If you have someone else you ... (read in full...)
Is this her disorder or she wants out or she needs time to get well?
Q. hi my best frriend and i have known each other for eight months we are same sex females me black and her white we started a relationship and it has lasted for six weeks everything has been great no fusing no arguing we cuddle and enjoy each other w ...
A. 19 June 2012: You have a great attitude despite being in a lot of pain from this. I do not know whether this is the right advice, but you could send her a "thinking of you" card just to say you are thinking of her and hoping she gets better. Nothing romantic as ... (read in full...)
I feel like she will always lie to me. Will I ever be able to trust her?
Q. I met a woman, fell in love with her and she became pregnant. in the very beggining i revealed to her that i had an active warrant out for my arrest and would eventually be doing some time...when she became pregnant i agreed once the baby was born i ...
A. 19 June 2012: Oh, I see. I am sorry for the situation. I am not sure why, but some people seem to have an addiction to lying. Some people just do not know what they want in life and/or don't know what is the best for them. Have you tried asking her why she ... (read in full...)
I feel like she will always lie to me. Will I ever be able to trust her?
Q. I met a woman, fell in love with her and she became pregnant. in the very beggining i revealed to her that i had an active warrant out for my arrest and would eventually be doing some time...when she became pregnant i agreed once the baby was born i ...
A. 19 June 2012: With all due respect, why does any of this matter when you are in prison? You get busted, but you expect her to be a complete saint through all of this? Don't get busted and get put away and expect a woman to stick around. If she had written in ... (read in full...)
Am I truly going off him, or prefer him as a friend?
Q. I have been in a relationship for just over a year now. Things are going well but recently I don't want to meet up with him as often as we used to and I have tightened up on the physical stuff, i.e. kissing him less often. On the other hand, I am ...
A. 19 June 2012: If he sees you as more than a friend, you are going to break his heart. If you do not feel the chemistry with him anymore, it is unfair to keep stringing him along with him thinking that you are a couple. He will be more hurt down the road if he ... (read in full...)
Is this her disorder or she wants out or she needs time to get well?
Q. hi my best frriend and i have known each other for eight months we are same sex females me black and her white we started a relationship and it has lasted for six weeks everything has been great no fusing no arguing we cuddle and enjoy each other w ...
A. 19 June 2012: I am sorry you are going through this as it must be very hard and confusing for you. It sounds like your friend is not only dealing with a mental disorder but is also struggling to come to terms with who she is and her religious affiliation. She ... (read in full...)
I have developed feelings of love for her, but she is dating my cousin!
Q. There is a girl who is 20 very beautiful working in the same factory with me since she was employed in the factory we havn't being in a communicatïng terms. Though she thus communicate with other guys and even flirt with them but no so romantic with ...
A. 19 June 2012: From reading your post, I think she really likes you and you should call her and ask her out. In fact, I would be so bold as to go ahead and tell her that you really like her. From all of the details you have given about her...the phone calls, the ... (read in full...)
I know he is wrong for me and I know I am wrong for him, but in our own messed up way, we care about each other a lot.
Q. Hi guys, I need your help as I've arrived at, what I have today been told, is a really f**ked up conclusion. To summarise, I was in a physically and emotionally relationship for 10 years. Two children, two years and an extremely bitter separation ...
A. 19 June 2012: He is selfish, dates other people, and sees you as a mother figure, but you are great for each other? This works for you as you want no committment? If this works for you then why are you posting your story? To me, this guy does not even sound ... (read in full...)
Will my inheritance and traveling and shopping bother him?
Q. I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 25. We dated for a year when I was 19 and now we're back together again. I've had a few boyfriends but I've always had a soft spot for him. I'm so happy we're together again. However the thing that worries me is money. ...
A. 19 June 2012: This is something you should probably ask him if you sense that he may have an issue with it. Just as you have said here, explain that you have inherited the money and you plan to travel with it. Explain you have spaced the trips so you are not ... (read in full...)
I feel ready to have children but don't have anyone in my life yet. I'm not sure I am happy with the timeline I see for myself having children!
Q. I am a 23 year teacher, single, own place to live, own car, good friends and supportive family. I am desperate to have a baby, and no it isn't to fill a void or anything like that. It's the one thing that I dream of most and my biggest goal in life ...
A. 19 June 2012: I don't not think you need to move past these thoughts and feelings, but you might want to give yourself a chance to actually meet someone and start a family. You are only 23 and I'm assuming you have just embarked on your career as a teacher, so ... (read in full...)
I make excuses even to myself about my boyfriend!
Q. Hi, I'm new here and don't really know how this works but I really wish to talk to somebody about a problem I have, I'm so sad about it and I hope that someone on here can help me! :) I am seeing this guy, he's 33 and I'm 21. He said that he as ...
A. 19 June 2012: You are not pathetic. You realize something isn't right, but it is always difficult to decide what to do when you care about someone and you have hopes that person will change. We are all like that to varying degrees. I understand that you don't ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend what I really think about her wedding dress?
Q. A good friend of mine is marrying my cousin...I have known her for 29 years and I am in the wedding party which is taking place in Cuba. I recently just returned from a destination wedding myself so I have a good idea as to what works and what d...
A. 18 June 2012: I was not trying to be nasty, but I distinctly remember you saying "should I tell her or bite my tongue?". I was just telling you you should bite your tongue. Now you do not like the answer that was given to your question, so why post it if you ... (read in full...)
I feel like he isn't in to me as much as he says he is, and only keeps me around for convenience. Should I leave him?
Q. I found out that my boyfriend has given his ex's flowers (even when they were broken up) and he took one of his ex's to a fancy fine dining restaurant, 2 hours away. In the over 2 years that we've been dating, he's never done anything like that for ...
A. 18 June 2012: If he isn't treating you with kindness and consideration in any matter, then yes, I would leave him. If he is in a relationship with YOU, his exes should not be getting gifts from him. If he does nice things for you, but just doesn't get flowers, ... (read in full...)
My crush thinks he's too old for me. What do I do?
Q. I'm 25 and went on a date with a 35 year old. We got along great and had things in common. But he seemed to think the gap was too big. I didn't think so. My friend got engaged and has the same age difference. Should I tell my crush this?...
A. 18 June 2012: I think we are all losing site of your original question. If your guy thinks the age difference is too much...ask him why he feels this way when you get along so well. There may be a good reason behind it and there may not. So, you may or may not ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend what I really think about her wedding dress?
Q. A good friend of mine is marrying my cousin...I have known her for 29 years and I am in the wedding party which is taking place in Cuba. I recently just returned from a destination wedding myself so I have a good idea as to what works and what d...
A. 18 June 2012: I do not see how you think this is any of your business whatsoever. You gave your opinion, she chose otherwise. Please respect her and her choices. I made the mistake of telling my best friend that I did not like the bridesmaid dresses. They ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend what I really think about her wedding dress?
Q. A good friend of mine is marrying my cousin...I have known her for 29 years and I am in the wedding party which is taking place in Cuba. I recently just returned from a destination wedding myself so I have a good idea as to what works and what d...
A. 18 June 2012: She will be beautiful and comfortable wearing what she wants to wear. If she isn't, that is her choice. This isn't your wedding, so it is best to support your friend in her choice and wish her well.... (read in full...)
He said he's into me 'just for the sex'...so why won't he get it on with me?
Q. I have a question concerning my ex. We broke up 15 yrs ago. He was always my 'one that got away'. We got back in contact accidentally in december. We emailed back and forth, and he began to turn it sexual. Only subtly, nothing heavy. We exchanged ...
A. 18 June 2012: I know. Unfortunately, I don't have any great answers for this one. I honestly think some of these guys do want a full relationship with both friendship and sex, but only when it is convenient for them. That is the way I always felt with my guy ... (read in full...)
I don't get it! He acts as though he is interested but says he just wants to be friends. Am I missing something?
Q. So I met this guy I work with. He's 21, I'm 29. We have hung out a couple times (like 4 times either by ourselves and with other people). And I kind of like him a bit. And I have gotten the feeling he likes me too. So I texted him the other day and ...
A. 18 June 2012: If he wants to see you, gives you hugs, acts interested, etc...why pressure him for an answer that means nothing anyway? Take your time, have fun, and if you're meant to be more than friends your relationship will develop that way.... (read in full...)
Should I make him happy and leave?
Q. hello again, need help. my hubby is to friendly w/girls on facebook he has them sending him pics and flirting plus hes friends w/ ALL his ex`s. he tells me that me and the kids are 1 of the reasons why he wants to start drinking. i ask him fif he ...
A. 18 June 2012: Is this the type of man you want to be with? One who cheats right in front of you and tells you you are the reason he wants to start drinking? I agree...leave because you want to and want a better life for you and your children.... (read in full...)
My wife drags her mother along with us on vacation.
Q. I am a 39 year old male. My wife of 20 years is 41. My problem is that my wife invites my mother-in-law along on almost every trip or vacation. Sometimes she is unable to go (thank the heavens for that!) but I'd like it if it could just be the two ...
A. 18 June 2012: Sounds like you are a very considerate and respectful husband even with the circumstances you have to deal with. I would talk with her and tell her you would enjoy just spending vacation time with her. If she wants a vacation with her mom, she ... (read in full...)
I make excuses even to myself about my boyfriend!
Q. Hi, I'm new here and don't really know how this works but I really wish to talk to somebody about a problem I have, I'm so sad about it and I hope that someone on here can help me! :) I am seeing this guy, he's 33 and I'm 21. He said that he as ...
A. 18 June 2012: I understand he is fun to hang out with and also that you want to hold onto to someone who makes you feel good. I'm just saying that sometimes, when someone starts making us feel sad, we have to re-evaluate the relationship. I wish people didn't ... (read in full...)
He said he's into me 'just for the sex'...so why won't he get it on with me?
Q. I have a question concerning my ex. We broke up 15 yrs ago. He was always my 'one that got away'. We got back in contact accidentally in december. We emailed back and forth, and he began to turn it sexual. Only subtly, nothing heavy. We exchanged ...
A. 18 June 2012: Had this exact same experience. I was away from my ex for about a year when he contacted me and said he would like to talk to me again. I got hundreds of emails, texts, phone calls, dates...then all of a sudden...everything stops again. I ... (read in full...)
I'm worried I like him more than he likes me. What should I do?
Q. I met this guy about a month ago when I visited my friend out of town. They are roommates. My friend has told me that he is a very nice guy etc. We hit it off really well, hung out a lot, got physical but didn't have sex. Until I met him I had ...
A. 17 June 2012: I agree with eyespy and pinktopaz...you could always go visit once and see how it goes. If he is paying off bills, he may not really have any money. I would consider visiting, but perhaps stay in a hotel instead of with him. You don't want to ... (read in full...)
I saw my husband groping and touching his younger friend! Is my husband gay?
Q. Dear Cupid My hubby and I have been married for 30 years and together for 34 years. He likes to drink but not everyday. Just on weekends. Last Friday night when him and his friend who is young enough to be our son came home they were both dru...
A. 17 June 2012: I am sorry for the loss of your parents. That is a rought thing to go through besides seeing your husband in this position and not being able to trust him. I know the feeling of having no one to trust but your spouse...and then not even him. It ... (read in full...)
Finally, I'd like to settle down with my LDR. But now he's being distant. Have others had a similar change of heart?
Q. I started dating this guy about a year ago. I liked him and was attracted to him but didn't think of him as being potentially "the one" as we were in vey different stages of our lives (me all settled with a good career, money etc and him basically ...
A. 17 June 2012: You are going to have to deal with the jealously issue and the possibility of a committed long-term relationship head-on. If you don't, you will never get answers to your questions. It sounds a bit like he does not know what he wants and you do ... (read in full...)
I am scared and don't believe men when they say "I won't hurt you"
Q. ok whats wrong with me ? this guy i have meet an i think we hit it off . but he keep wanting me to come over to his apartment i told him no i didn't think this was a good idea . then he says i am scared well yes i am . an now i am trying to keep ...
A. 17 June 2012: You are not doing anything wrong. If he is so interested in you, he should be asking to take you on a proper dates, not asking you to come to his apartment. When I was dating, I didn't even allow a man to visit/pick me up at my apartment until I ... (read in full...)
She avoids being alone with me. But does she have feelings for me?
Q. I've been pursuing her for 3 months now. During that period, we've been out couple of times, we often kissed, have great conversations on the phone but she won't tell me how she feels about me and she avoids being alone with me at my place....
A. 17 June 2012: Three months of dating is a little early for a girl/woman to decide that you are the man she wants. If she continues to want to see you and acts like she likes you (apparently she does if you have kissed), continue on that path and take your time. ... (read in full...)
He's separated from his wife. But now he's shutting me out. Should I give him space?
Q. My friend and his wife recently seperated, and now hes without a job, and might be relocating to Texas. I think he starts to feel depressed and shuts me out, I try to be inspirational and give him kind words but he doesnt really respond , as if he ...
A. 17 June 2012: If he's recently separated from his wife, just lost his job, and might be losing his home to relocate, it is unreasonable and insensitive that you want to see him happy right this minute. How would you feel if these things were happening to you? I ... (read in full...)
We're in different countries. How do I tell him online that I'm in love with him?
Q. Dear agony aunts, How do I tell this guy through facebook or twitter that I like him. In fact, I'm in love with him although we've only spoken a couple of times and it's been a while...we both left the town we met in..it's been like two years a...
A. 17 June 2012: Are you joking? I am trying to take you seriously, but how can you possibly be in love with the guy? First off, you don't exchange messages very often and you've only seen each other twice? Somehow he resurfaces in your life? No offense, but ... (read in full...)
I haven't had sex for 2 years and then I had sex with an ugly girl, why would I do this?
Q. So I'm in my 20s and I haven't had sex in 2 years. Then this girl I haven't talked to in awhile wants to have sex with me. She's fat, smelly and has an ugly face and yet I still had sex with her. I did not enjoy it, I just sat there letting her do ...
A. 17 June 2012: Ever heard of masturbation? Learn to do it if you haven't. How can you get over it? Learn to keep your pants on.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my wife that I cheated on her once?
Q. I need advice on an age old question. To tell or not to tell. I cheated on my wife one time. After 1 year of marriage. I felt horrible and vowed to never do it again. Promised myself I'd make up for it by being an amazing husband. And I have been....
A. 17 June 2012: Honestly, I have never done anything drunk that I did not want to do sober. Drinking just makes what you want to do easier. It may be a fact because you were more relaxed and decided to do what felt good. In other words, you were drinking and had ... (read in full...)
Past rejections killed my confidence
Q. Based on the amount of rejections I suffered in the past, I have developed fear and anxiety when I feel like approaching a woman I'm interested in. How do I get rid of these negative thoughts? ...
A. 17 June 2012: The only thing you can do is be realistic about it. Just fake the courage (if you have to fake it), have a positive attitude, and go for the girl you want. Seriously. I rejected a few guys in my time and it wasn't because of them...it was because ... (read in full...)
I'm struggling to stop looking at porn but its very difficult!
Q. Hello, I am attempting to stop looking at porn because it is hurting my girlfriend's feelings. She likens it to cheating or is afraid that it will lead to me cheating. I love her more than anything and that is reason enough to try to stop, and I ...
A. 17 June 2012: That is because you can get addictive to porn just like you can to chemicals. Because, simply put, when you watch porn, your brain produces its own chemicals/hormones that make you feel good...just like a drug. This is why so many women and ... (read in full...)
I make excuses even to myself about my boyfriend!
Q. Hi, I'm new here and don't really know how this works but I really wish to talk to somebody about a problem I have, I'm so sad about it and I hope that someone on here can help me! :) I am seeing this guy, he's 33 and I'm 21. He said that he as ...
A. 17 June 2012: Besides the first post, have you ever been bullied? If you haven't been, you are now. He is nothing but a big bully.... (read in full...)
I make excuses even to myself about my boyfriend!
Q. Hi, I'm new here and don't really know how this works but I really wish to talk to somebody about a problem I have, I'm so sad about it and I hope that someone on here can help me! :) I am seeing this guy, he's 33 and I'm 21. He said that he as ...
A. 17 June 2012: You really like him? For what reasons exactly? I see nothing likeable about this guy whatsoever. Does he ever compliment you? Does he ever do anything nice for you? He may be 33, but he is very immature. If he doesn't want you as a girlfriend ... (read in full...)
I want to focus on the girl I like, but I don't want to upset my friend. How should I do this?
Q. It's so frustrating and unfair. Every girl I like or hit on somehow dislikes me. But most of the girls I show no genuine interest in, seems to fall for me. For instance, I have a female friend that I frequently talk to. Let's call her A. I use to ...
A. 17 June 2012: Hurt is something we all face. If you don't like girl A as a girlfriend, you need to start limiting time with her and perhaps ask girl B out. You can't spend your time trying to get girls to notice you. Girls like someone a little more upfront. ... (read in full...)
My partner and I are trying for a baby, but he hasn't stopped using steroids. How can I confront him?
Q. Please help.my partner and i have been trying for a baby and recently been told he has a low sperm count due to the amount of steroids he use to take. He promised me that he is staying off them do we can have ivf. I know i shouldn't have but i've ...
A. 17 June 2012: I would take him at his word but continue to monitor the test results from the doctor. I would also go to counseling and see if you can work this out. In the meantime, stop trying to conceive a baby. You need to get this situation worked out so ... (read in full...)
My crush thinks he's too old for me. What do I do?
Q. I'm 25 and went on a date with a 35 year old. We got along great and had things in common. But he seemed to think the gap was too big. I didn't think so. My friend got engaged and has the same age difference. Should I tell my crush this?...
A. 17 June 2012: If he thinks he is too old for you, I would want to ask him why he went on a date with you in the first place. Age doesn't matter except in cases where one person is a minor and the other an adult. The second question I would ask is if he is just ... (read in full...)
Should I move on? All he ever does is lie to me?
Q. well its a hard situation that i am in at the moment i am young and have had a gorgoues little son, myself and my partner are 18 years old so both stil very young, we have been going through a really bad stage the last fewmonths we split for a break ...
A. 17 June 2012: Believe me, I understand the hurt. I am still dealing with the hurt my ex caused me. You find someone you think you can trust and who genuinely cares and he ends up being a complete jerk after all. So frustrating and sad. I just couldn't live ... (read in full...)
Is my friend being over protective?or does he fancy me?
Q. My friend "peter" who is 26, shy with women and me (22)got to know eachother through a social networking site, gradually i did have a small crush on him but he stated he was just flirting he did not feel the same way. In that time i use to speak...
A. 17 June 2012: Peter...is this shy guy #1? If so, I would say Peter does not really know his own mind or what he really wants. Or, he is too immature to take the risk to say what he really wants. You don't really flirt with people unless you like them or are ... (read in full...)
I'm worried my jealousy has made me controlling. How should I deal with this in the future?
Q. Hello, first time posting. Umm.. I do not know where to begin, but I'll try. About a month and a half ago, I met a girl, I knew she was interested in me, but was not sure if she was committed to a relationship. I went on multiple dates with her,...
A. 17 June 2012: First of all, why are you analyzing her past relationships? She is with you now, don't analyze. Like I read on someone else's post, we all have a history. Some of us have short histories, some long. Regardless, you should leave the past in the ... (read in full...)
Why did he disappear? I haven't heard from him in a week
Q. Dear friends, I hope you can help me out with my problem, I met a man 2 months ago at some friends house dinner and we started a beautiful friendship, he doesn't live in the same country but visits it quite often almost every month. He's 23 years ...
A. 17 June 2012: Seriously? You met a man TWO MONTHS ago and you are both in love? Honestly? His actions speak volumes and you have to be wise enough to listen to them. And just for the record, any man who curses at you should be shown the door..no matter what ... (read in full...)
Why out of the blue did he text me saying we needed a break? I need closure!
Q. Hello everyone, I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 years now. Like any other relationships we've had our ups and downs but always work stuff out in a matter of time. We love eachother a lot, my family loves him and his family loves me, etc. ...
A. 17 June 2012: So did he text you back? If so, what did he say? I know this is hard to believe, but when men like women...they find any way they can to be with that woman. I agree with the other response. If he has not explained anything to you, then you need ... (read in full...)
I'm worried I like him more than he likes me. What should I do?
Q. I met this guy about a month ago when I visited my friend out of town. They are roommates. My friend has told me that he is a very nice guy etc. We hit it off really well, hung out a lot, got physical but didn't have sex. Until I met him I had ...
A. 17 June 2012: Plus, I agree that if it's been a month and he hasn't found a way to make some money or get some money to visit you, he isn't that interested.... (read in full...)
I'm worried I like him more than he likes me. What should I do?
Q. I met this guy about a month ago when I visited my friend out of town. They are roommates. My friend has told me that he is a very nice guy etc. We hit it off really well, hung out a lot, got physical but didn't have sex. Until I met him I had ...
A. 17 June 2012: First, he told you to come visit, so apparently he likes you. He's also told you the reason he can't come visit you...he's broke. My concern would be why is he broke? Does he have a job and just struggling to make ends meet or is he unemployed? ... (read in full...)
I saw my husband groping and touching his younger friend! Is my husband gay?
Q. Dear Cupid My hubby and I have been married for 30 years and together for 34 years. He likes to drink but not everyday. Just on weekends. Last Friday night when him and his friend who is young enough to be our son came home they were both dru...
A. 17 June 2012: It doesn't matter whether he's gay or not, although I understand this as your initial reaction. What matters is that he is cheating, but I guess everyone else has already said this.... (read in full...)
My partner and I are trying for a baby, but he hasn't stopped using steroids. How can I confront him?
Q. Please help.my partner and i have been trying for a baby and recently been told he has a low sperm count due to the amount of steroids he use to take. He promised me that he is staying off them do we can have ivf. I know i shouldn't have but i've ...
A. 17 June 2012: With all due respect, why would you consider having a child with someone who takes steroids? Even if he quits taking them, they will remain in his system for a long time. Let's say he does quit taking them long enough for you to get pregnant with ... (read in full...)
Should I move on? All he ever does is lie to me?
Q. well its a hard situation that i am in at the moment i am young and have had a gorgoues little son, myself and my partner are 18 years old so both stil very young, we have been going through a really bad stage the last fewmonths we split for a break ...
A. 13 June 2012: I know you would like to make this work, but why? You want a man who drinks and does drugs? What kind of life would you have? My sister had a man who did this and she's lucky she's alive today. To me, it makes no difference whether he does the ... (read in full...)
Should I move on? All he ever does is lie to me?
Q. well its a hard situation that i am in at the moment i am young and have had a gorgoues little son, myself and my partner are 18 years old so both stil very young, we have been going through a really bad stage the last fewmonths we split for a break ...
A. 13 June 2012: Let's look at this from a common sense perspective. Should you move on? Yes, you should move on. Why? You just listed more than enough reasons why you should have left a long time ago. Drinking and drugs. Lying. Texting other women. Drama. ... (read in full...)
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