Does my online love want me or not?
Q. I was in an online relationship for 2 years. They were truly blissful years. He understood me. Every moment was exciting. He was hilarious.. he got all my jokes and FINALLy there was someone who on my wavelength. After 2 years.. I feel like it has ...
A. 13 June 2012: Just to let you know...I have had this same experience. That is why we aunts come on here. We have experienced the same things and so we give our honest opinions based on what we know. That is what AuntyEm was saying. My guy also stopped ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling pretty hurt right now ---
Q. My boyfriend said something worrying to me tonight and I'm not sure how to get it out of my head. My boyfriend has really mild aspergers and that usually means he's brutally bluntly honest no matter what. So when he says things that are mean, it's ...
A. 13 June 2012: Much of having "great chemistry" is having great communication. The reality is that you are involved with someone with Aspergers, so does he have a pass everytime he says something stupid, rude, or disrespectful? Since you have such great ... (read in full...)
I'm totally confused why he won't change his facebook status to 'in a relationship'? He did before with a different girl!
Q. Im dating a guy for a couple of months now, i really love him but i don't know about him. My problem is he doesn't want to change his relationship status on facebook, i don't want to confront him to seem im nagging. i don't know if he's dating ...
A. 12 June 2012: Please get off Facebook and stop putting so much emphasis on it. It means absolutely nothing. If it is so important to you and your boyfriend, I would suggest stepping outside and getting a real life instead of living a virtual one on Facebook all ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling lost and tired and I don't know what to do now
Q. I am feeling lost and tired. I started the relationship with my sons dad nearly 3 years ago. I was living in Spain at the time my life was pretty boring and sad, but steady. I had a job, a car,my own house... I had an easy life that I did not value. ...
A. 12 June 2012: The guy may have a lot of "potential", but you do not state as facts what that potential is. Exactly what IS his potential? If you consider him your "project" to get him back on course and make him achieve his potential then best of luck to you. ... (read in full...)
Does my online love want me or not?
Q. I was in an online relationship for 2 years. They were truly blissful years. He understood me. Every moment was exciting. He was hilarious.. he got all my jokes and FINALLy there was someone who on my wavelength. After 2 years.. I feel like it has ...
A. 12 June 2012: I just wanted to thank AuntyEm for her explanation of why we post. We post because we can share with others what we have experienced and wish everyone a happy healthy life!... (read in full...)
Does my online love want me or not?
Q. I was in an online relationship for 2 years. They were truly blissful years. He understood me. Every moment was exciting. He was hilarious.. he got all my jokes and FINALLy there was someone who on my wavelength. After 2 years.. I feel like it has ...
A. 12 June 2012: I think online relationships can be fine, but you have to be realistic about what they are. They are online. I even think you can have intense feelings for someone online, but once again...it is online. People generally want more than a virtual ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling lost and tired and I don't know what to do now
Q. I am feeling lost and tired. I started the relationship with my sons dad nearly 3 years ago. I was living in Spain at the time my life was pretty boring and sad, but steady. I had a job, a car,my own house... I had an easy life that I did not value. ...
A. 12 June 2012: Ok, first off...you leave everything you have worked for in your life to be with a man who has 5 kids and one on the way? In what way does a life with him look at all appealing? I am not trying to be mean, just realistic. Living with his mom too? ... (read in full...)
Are my anxious fears about my future ability, to satisfy her, valid or invalid?
Q. I'm 19 years old, and my girlfriend and I have been together for almost two years. She and I are both virgins, and we both want to wait until we are married to each other to make love together. My penis is 6 inches long when completely erect. S...
A. 12 June 2012: I am really impressed by your post and think your girlfriend is very lucky to find a boyfriend who is so sensitive to her needs. Your penis is very much normal and will definitely be able to satisfy her. I guarantee that will be about perfect for ... (read in full...)
Is there any way to correct the emotional damage I've caused her? I prefer plus size women, usually.
Q. I have met the most wonderful girl on the planet. Smart, funny, intellectual, but most of all she has a wonderful personality. She is even beautiful, which is where my dilemma begins. I am attracted to larger women and, regrettably, have confessed ...
A. 12 June 2012: I just want to add, if you don't want a thin woman, then dont' date thin women. You are being unfair by dating them then telling them you have a "fetish" for larger women. It's unreasonable.... (read in full...)
Is there any way to correct the emotional damage I've caused her? I prefer plus size women, usually.
Q. I have met the most wonderful girl on the planet. Smart, funny, intellectual, but most of all she has a wonderful personality. She is even beautiful, which is where my dilemma begins. I am attracted to larger women and, regrettably, have confessed ...
A. 12 June 2012: This is kind of like saying I'm attracted to x men, but I've met this wonderful y man, so I'll tell him I really like x men. Are you kidding me? You might be attracted to larger sized women, but you've met a wonderful girl who isn't big...wh... (read in full...)
Why does she not care how I feel? She is disrespectful. What to do?
Q. I am almost 26 years, and she's 25 We have been in this relationship for more than 3 years now. But there's this behaviour that she has which keep discouraging me from continuing the relationship, which is respect. She hardly respects me again, I ...
A. 12 June 2012: I know. Many of us have been there and we understand the difficulty and pain. It is difficult turning away from the the one you love or care about because you are always hoping he/she will change. It rarely happens though. You don't want to live ... (read in full...)
He's let me down many times. So how do I handle his continuing efforts to call and text me?
Q. Why is he doing this? What should I do? So there's this guy I used to like a lot. We'd chat on the phone and text a lot. We went on a date once and we really hit it off. He knew how I felt about him and always thought he felt the same. Cau...
A. 12 June 2012: He does have two jobs, so he probably is tired. If he wants a relationship with you, he should make some time for you. Does he have any days off? Maybe you should ask when his next day off is and see if he would like to do something fun and ... (read in full...)
How to write a letter to your ex without pushing him away- Help! My brain hurts!
Q. I have had an ongoing saga with my ex for almost a year now. He broke up with me and was with someone else, all the while calling me to tell me he cared about me, missed me and was confused. They broke and he came into town and wanted to see me and ...
A. 11 June 2012: I also agree with SaraB. Everytime you try to make him yours, it will kill a little part of you. You sink lower everytime you do it. We know it is hard, but it is just a part of life. ... (read in full...)
How to write a letter to your ex without pushing him away- Help! My brain hurts!
Q. I have had an ongoing saga with my ex for almost a year now. He broke up with me and was with someone else, all the while calling me to tell me he cared about me, missed me and was confused. They broke and he came into town and wanted to see me and ...
A. 11 June 2012: When people like each other they come together. They do not play hard to get, go out partying all the time, stop calling, play hot and cold, etc. If someone likes you, he will make moves and say things that communicate he wants to see you, talk to ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling pretty hurt right now ---
Q. My boyfriend said something worrying to me tonight and I'm not sure how to get it out of my head. My boyfriend has really mild aspergers and that usually means he's brutally bluntly honest no matter what. So when he says things that are mean, it's ...
A. 11 June 2012: Right, this is part of who he is and he will continue to say hurtful things. I suppose it's possible he could learn to better control his comments through therapy if he would be willing to go. You keep saying you are really smart and the ... (read in full...)
Is it bad to stop wanting to be friends with people where our values and outlooks are different?
Q. Hi Aunties, I have an issue that is bothering me because I feel like my character is becoming flawed and I am changing into someone that I am not sure I want to become. It might be a long one, so I apologise in advance. I am 34 years old. I hav...
A. 11 June 2012: I don't think you are being judgemental, but you are involving yourself way too much in drama that isn't yours. That isn't your job. It isn't your job to be a therapist either. With that being said, I understand that you want to be a good friend ... (read in full...)
How can I kick her out?
Q. I broke up with my partner about 3 weeks ago as her behaviour has been awful and disrespectful in the last few months getting worst up to the day we broke up. I then discovered she was cheating on me. I caught her once before and forgave her 2 years ...
A. 11 June 2012: Talking to the landlady about your situation might help. If you can't get your partner out, you might have to get the assistance of your landlady to help you find a similar place to live. I know you like your home, but this sounds like a terrible ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of 5 years suddenly said she didn't love me anymore!
Q. My girlfriend of 5 years suddenly said she didn't love me anymore (things changed in a matter of days from perfect to this, though she refused to have sex with me for quite a while, even when I offered her oral unconditionally) that she had no idea ...
A. 11 June 2012: I am sorry you are going through this, but it happens. You must realize that whatever stories you have, the fact is that she has fallen out of love with you. Accept what she has told you, as hard as it may be, and try to move on. If she has ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he want to laugh with me?
Q. my boyfriend does not laugh :| okay i am already a damaged individual when it comes to guys and i have realized that and I've managed to remain a HAPPY single life . I decided to give this one a chance to a guy I've known for a good 6 years. He...
A. 11 June 2012: If you are a fun person and he isn't...you need to find someone else. Don't sit around too long and analyze why he won't do this or do that. It is just wasted time because he will not change his personality to be with you...that is just who he is. ... (read in full...)
Is this more than a sex buddy?
Q. I have a sex buddy , im always understanding torwards him i dont want him to think im so demanding or clingy so i play it off there are times when i get jeleous and show it like last week we were in the pools and my friend slashed water at him so i ...
A. 11 June 2012: You like the guy and you're having sex so what about that is not official? Don't be insulting to yourself or your guy. I think it is insulting to say he's your "sex buddy" when he is clearly more. What's so wrong with liking someone and showing ... (read in full...)
Does my online love want me or not?
Q. I was in an online relationship for 2 years. They were truly blissful years. He understood me. Every moment was exciting. He was hilarious.. he got all my jokes and FINALLy there was someone who on my wavelength. After 2 years.. I feel like it has ...
A. 11 June 2012: So, the relationship was completely online? Or, you met online and then started hanging out in person? If the relationship was all online, I am not sure how long you can carry on without someone wanting to see and be with a person in real life. ... (read in full...)
Is it bad to stop wanting to be friends with people where our values and outlooks are different?
Q. Hi Aunties, I have an issue that is bothering me because I feel like my character is becoming flawed and I am changing into someone that I am not sure I want to become. It might be a long one, so I apologise in advance. I am 34 years old. I hav...
A. 11 June 2012: I think people and circumstances change throughout life. If you find these two "friends" are dragging you down...by all means start distancing yourself from them. Some people are emotional vampires. You need people in your life to lift you up not ... (read in full...)
Does he find me attractive? Does he want me? I'm confused.
Q. before i start, i would like to say that i trust this guy 200%"or i wouldn't have done it. okay. there was this guy i met a couple months ago. the sexual chemistry between us was obvious. well we stared msging each other on fb, flirting and stuf...
A. 11 June 2012: Why are you sending around pictures of yourself topless or in your bra and undies? Do you know how dangerous that is? Do you understand that other people can use these for their own purposes? Do you know these can come back to haunt you if you ... (read in full...)
My marriage is on the rocks. Why didn't my Bf say we are seeing each other or dating?
Q. Dear cupid i am separated from my husband ( he is ^^^^ and i hate him). I am seeing one of my office colleague, we were friends and then got attached. Me getting separated from my husband have nothing to do with my bf. my husband is impote...
A. 11 June 2012: When two people are dating in the same office there can be a lot of gossip that can make for a toxic work environment. Trust me, I know. Don't carry on your relationship (or talk of it) in the workplace. I think your bf is correct that he should ... (read in full...)
It's only on nights out when we drink we confess we love each other. Do drunken thoughts speak sober minds?
Q. I think I may be falling for my best friend (P) I have never felt like this about anyone. I'm scared of how I feel even P has said he is. I recently broke up with my boyfriend. P let me know about my ex cheating on me twice. But my ex denied...
A. 11 June 2012: If you are scared and confused, then P isn't the guy for you. When someone is "THE GUY"...you know it. There isn't a question about it. Confusion means that your instincts are telling you something...usually to back away and figure out what is ... (read in full...)
I'm truly smitten but he wants to keep it a casual relationship. What do I do?
Q. Hi, I'm 41 and just came out of a 20+ year marriage. Met a guy online, met in real life, 'clicked' physically and (for me at least) emotionally. But he hasn't. THe sex is incredible - first person I have orgasmed with ever - and I am utterly smit...
A. 11 June 2012: If you have talked with him about your feelings and he wants to keep things "casual", I would tell him you are going to have to say goodbye. You sound like you are looking for a stable relationship. If that is true, you are never going to be happy ... (read in full...)
She wants to be friends but I can't just care about her as a friend!
Q. Well, for two months me and this girl have talked and Ive been taing things really slow. eery moment with her has been amazing and i can tell she feels the same connection. She has admitted that she has aa crush on me, and lately she has grown into ...
A. 11 June 2012: I agree...there is no way you can remain friends after that. From my own experience and seeing how the relationships of others pan out, I do not believe men and women can just be "friends" anyway. Someone always has stronger feelings/sex gets ... (read in full...)
In love with two men...and my boyfriend doesn't know!!
Q. Hello I need help or advice with a problem I created for about 6 years. Im in love with two people and my boyfriend doesnt know about the other man. I met my boyfriend now father of my two year son about 6 years old. We were both young and we had m...
A. 11 June 2012: Well...you might love them both, but you are not being fair to either of them. Imagine if the shoe was on the other foot and your boyfriend had you and another woman he was in love with...how would you feel? I know it doesn't make it any easier to ... (read in full...)
Why does she not care how I feel? She is disrespectful. What to do?
Q. I am almost 26 years, and she's 25 We have been in this relationship for more than 3 years now. But there's this behaviour that she has which keep discouraging me from continuing the relationship, which is respect. She hardly respects me again, I ...
A. 11 June 2012: What should you do? You should tell her that you deserve better than someone who thinks you're an idiot and you should move on. People like this do not change because they do not think they are doing anything wrong. Please do yourself a favor and ... (read in full...)
Trust issues! What help do I need to overcome my paranoia and fear of of being used by women?
Q. I'm at a very distressing time in my life and its because I'm so paranoid of Women. It started as I was little and in kindergarten. I always noticed how the girls in class would act towards guys. After each grade I would notice random things but i...
A. 10 June 2012: I think you need to talk with someone (a therapist) who can help you with this issue. It sounds as if you are not even giving the girls you go out with a chance. You just automatically consider them liars. Why? I have news for you also. In ... (read in full...)
Every little thing with my family turns into a huge argument and I can't move out!
Q. Hey guys I really need some help. So - over the years I've never easily got on with my family. We always end up arguing about everything and what starts as a very small thing soon gets blown into a huge issue. EG: being told off for Attitude...
A. 10 June 2012: Do you have a job or activity you enjoy where you would not have to spend much time at home? Sometimes when people live in close proximity to one another, it is easy to get into arguments. Maybe when you can feel an argument about to happen, you ... (read in full...)
How can I kick her out?
Q. I broke up with my partner about 3 weeks ago as her behaviour has been awful and disrespectful in the last few months getting worst up to the day we broke up. I then discovered she was cheating on me. I caught her once before and forgave her 2 years ...
A. 10 June 2012: Does she have part ownership of the house? If she does, it will be harder to kick her out, but I do not think you would have to have video as proof. Just call the authorities when she shows up drunk. If you cannot remove her yourself, you are ... (read in full...)
How to write a letter to your ex without pushing him away- Help! My brain hurts!
Q. I have had an ongoing saga with my ex for almost a year now. He broke up with me and was with someone else, all the while calling me to tell me he cared about me, missed me and was confused. They broke and he came into town and wanted to see me and ...
A. 10 June 2012: His hot and cold nature borders on emotional abuse. If a man really likes you and wants to be with you, he wouldn't be playing games with you like this. Sounds like he is definitely confused, but he needs to work out his confusion elsewhere. I ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling pretty hurt right now ---
Q. My boyfriend said something worrying to me tonight and I'm not sure how to get it out of my head. My boyfriend has really mild aspergers and that usually means he's brutally bluntly honest no matter what. So when he says things that are mean, it's ...
A. 10 June 2012: Whether he has a condition or not does not matter. Everyone always has an excuse for bad behavior. Don't make excuses...treat him as if he didn't have the Asberger's. I agree you need to be blunt back. Tell him he hurt you and you don't want to ... (read in full...)
I don't know whether to wait 'til he is ready, or just let it go.
Q. I'm confused and in pain right now.I have loved a guy who happens to be my bestfriend. He just broke up with his girlfriend last january. His experience with his past relationship was not that good either. He was supposed to propose to the girl ...
A. 10 June 2012: Your friend just lived through a relationship that went bad. Please give him time to heal. It sounds by the conversation you have that he respects you, but he realizes that he is probably still hurting and uncertain from the last relationship. He ... (read in full...)
How can I kick her out?
Q. I broke up with my partner about 3 weeks ago as her behaviour has been awful and disrespectful in the last few months getting worst up to the day we broke up. I then discovered she was cheating on me. I caught her once before and forgave her 2 years ...
A. 10 June 2012: What do you mean..."sleep with our child"? Do you mean she just sleeps in the same bed or is she sexually abusing your child? If it is the latter...you need to call the police. I do no know how your law enforcement works, but if someone will not ... (read in full...)
If it's so great there how come I can't go too?
Q. I'm 31, my wife's 30, and we're from Seminole, Florida. However, she's recently been doing a disappearing act, going off to Duluth, Minnesota, and I cannot for the life of me work out why... and even worse, she's used my favourite car for this (my...
A. 10 June 2012: I agree this is unacceptable. If she did not want to be married, she should not have gotten married. You don't take off and leave your husband and marriage without explanation. Even with an explanation, that is strange. It does sound like she is ... (read in full...)
How can I get my boyfriend to leave?
Q. Hey, thanks in advance for any answers. I live with my boyfriend, with a joint tenency but recently we've not been getting on well and we want to split up. He doesn't like living here and can't afford it on his own anyway. I, however, really ...
A. 9 June 2012: Tell him he has three days (or whatever length of time you prefer) to get his things packed up or you will be calling law enforcement to remove him. That's what we do here in the states.... (read in full...)
I've only slept with one person - Did he ever like me?
Q. Does telling a guy you've only slept with one other guy put him off you? Basically, I really liked this guy but I think that after telling him my inexperience, as he might see it, I don't think he's interested anymore. Do I see if it's potentially...
A. 9 June 2012: So he asked YOU if you've ever slept with anyone before? Hm...well...I am like you and not sure what to make of it either. Has he contacted you since? I think if you like him...call him up, ask him out, and have fun. Don't worry about this one ... (read in full...)
How can I feel comfortable and do well at my new job?
Q. I just started my new job and I've been scared because I'm afraid of what people think of me. I always panic and stress because I'm afraid I wont make the food right and people might think Im slow and restarted because I take so long and sometimes i ...
A. 9 June 2012: I agree with everyone here...give yourself some time. Everyone feels that way when they start a new job. Have confidence in yourself that you're a good worker, take your time learning, and you will do just fine! You have to give yourself a little ... (read in full...)
I believe I am God's match for her
Q. I am in love wih my best friend (female) and I'm pretty sure she hasn't thought of me in a romantic way. I honestly love everything about her. I'm nothing special but I do feel that I am God's match for her. What do I do? How do I go about it? Any ...
A. 9 June 2012: There are a lot of subtle things you can do to start dropping hints that you care more about her than just being her friend. For example, call her up and tell her you were thinking about her and wanted to know if she would like to go to dinner. ... (read in full...)
We love each other..but I hate myself
Q. Hey all, bare with me, this may be long. Okay, there's this amazing guy..we have been a thing for over two years. he has asked me to be his girlfriend, but I say no because I'm not good enough. He says he loves me, I know I love him too, but I h...
A. 9 June 2012: Why are you putting yourself down so much? You have a wonderful man who cares about you...that should make you feel beautiful. Plus, if you feel that badly about yourself...there are things you can do to work on yourself. Go to the dermatologist, ... (read in full...)
My six yr old son doesn't want to meet my new partner
Q. split with my ex 2 years ago and we have a lil lad of 6. When we split we agreed if we got with any one else we would meet the person b4 letting lad get involved. Ive met a lovely woman and have been with her 8mths. The ex and lad know bout her. ...
A. 9 June 2012: Even though he is 6, he knows this is someone he has to share with his dad. I would plan a fun day with you, your partner, and your son without telling him and that will ease him into meeting her. Maybe go to a park, zoo, sporting event, or ... (read in full...)
I've only slept with one person - Did he ever like me?
Q. Does telling a guy you've only slept with one other guy put him off you? Basically, I really liked this guy but I think that after telling him my inexperience, as he might see it, I don't think he's interested anymore. Do I see if it's potentially...
A. 9 June 2012: In all honesty, you probably scared him off by talking about your other sexual experiences. No one, male or female that I know of wants to hear about someone else's experiences. They want to have a unique experience with you. I mean, if he would ... (read in full...)
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