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writes:Hi,I'm 18 years old.The guy is also 18, he is my friend's friends and we got introduced to each other a few weeks ago.He fingered me today in the morning, I enjoyed it but I wasn't expecting to do anything so I wasn't shaved down there.The thing is that I never shaved there, I wax my bikini but never did it all.I'm now scared he might be thinking that it was gross, I'm scared he's gonna regret it and he might tell his friends I wasn't shaved.What do you think about it? Do guys hate it?Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2012): If he turns around and asks you to shave it all suddenly, tell him to do the same.
The way I see it, no-one should force their partners to try something without trying it themselves.
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reader, Discovery  +, writes (13 June 2012):
Beyond what others said, one more thing to remember: Everyone! has hair down there and many people don't shave. There is nothing new or wrong about it. So even if others find out it's nothing to worry about.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (13 June 2012):
 If you're so worried about this extremely minor possibility, I honestly have to question whether you're emotionally mature enough to be ready for sex yet. Bear with me, it's not a bad thing to be emotionally immature, especially at your age. But if you're completely unable to talk to him openly about sexual matters, you certainly are not ready to be sexual with him.Safe sex, and enjoyable sex, comes not from magically reading each other's minds and "just knowing" what to do. Safe and enjoyable sex comes from talking about everything sexual without feeling embarrassed or scared. And if you can't do that, imagine how difficult a conversation about birth control or a pregnancy scare would be!You should probably wait until you're ready to talk about sex before you start getting involved intimately.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (13 June 2012):
 There's no reason that a guy should discuss ANY of what goes on between you and him with ANYBODY ELSE!!!!
IF he does, THEN you know that you have revealed yourself to a CREEP who isn't worth your time of day.......
Good luck....
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (13 June 2012):
 Seriously? I agree with some of your other aunts here...why don't you pick a guy you could trust not to talk about pubic hair in the first place. I don't shave everything because I'm a woman and I don't like the little girl look. I also don't like the itchiness of hair growing back in. Once you shave, you will have to continue to shave. Also, if you get razor burn easily, you will not look or feel attractive down there. With all that being said...if a guy doesn't like you based on whether you shave or not and/or tells his friends about it...that's pretty lame. Get rid of him.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (12 June 2012):
 Personally I don't like it when it is left natural but I also keep myself well groomed so things are always far. That doesn't mean all guys don't and if he likes you at all he won't mention a thing and it will not matter to him. If he is just using you then I am sorry to say that yeah there is a good chance he will joke with friends about it but it's not like it would be a big deal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2012): I personally shave myself in the shower every morning. I feel cleaner and don't like hair down there. Try to make a habit of doing that just incase you are in this situation again. ;) From what I am told is that guys don't like hair down there. I guess it's a matter of opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2012): Do not worry. Be confident about what you are ..how you want to be.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (12 June 2012):
I am 99.999999% sure that his mind will have been well and truly on other things. I don't think you need to worry at all.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (12 June 2012):
 If he makes a comment ask him when the last time he ripped out all of his pubic hair by the roots was. Or ask him when he decided he was attracted to children rather than grown women. Seriously, if he cares tell him he's been watching WAY too much porn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2012): No we don't hate it. Otherwise the human race would have died out a long time ago seeing as shaving has only recently become popular.
I prefer hair down there, I'm not a fan of prepubescent vaginas. Neatly trimmed is my preference, not an enchanted forest that gets in the way.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (12 June 2012):
 Not everyone shaves or waxes or whatever...
you do what makes you comfortable.
if he talks he's not much of a gentleman
and if he doesn't like it or thinks it's gross or regrets it then he's not worth it...
some men like hair
some men like shaved
some men liked trim
you find what you like and then find a man that likes that too.
for example however, I don't much care about mine shaved or waxed. I would leave it for me, but my partner prefers it all gone so it's no big deal to me to have it waxed every few weeks.
I prefer a man with hair. he prefers shaved. we compromised and he trims very very short...
so you do what you like and figure it out from there.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 June 2012):
 Look there really is nothing to be worried about here. If you feel he is going to go and talk about you to his friends then maybe you should not have let him do that because you obviously do not trust him a lot.
Look at the end of the day every girl is different. Some girls shave all there pubic hair, others just some and then there are girls that have it all shaved off. But just because you never doesn't make you different. As I said not all girls shave down there it really is a personal preference and you should not be embarrassed about it what so ever.
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