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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for over 7 years now and things are great but i want to try new things,by new things i want to have a threesome or just something different, see ive only been with just him and he has been with a bunch of other girls. I think i just want to see what it would be like with someone else. how can i talk to him about this we talked before about a threesome but i dont know how serious it was though. could someone relate or tell me how to talk with my bf about this. thanks everyone
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2012): I think your desire for a threesome is probably less about wanting a threesome, and more about you just wanting to try sleeping with other people. Are you sure you want to be in a committed relationship right now?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2012): as a man, I can say its a turn on, and might possibly be interested. Why? hard to say, I'm completely straight. I guess my biggest fear would be, if my girlfriend actually fell in love with another guy. That would be pretty devastating. I also know that women generally seem to feel emotionally attached to someone after making love, so actually doing it with another guy can possibly create a lot of confusion in you, which can be painful. But if you can turn off the emotional aspect, then maybe he'd agree to it. Not sure its that easy though.
One possibility is that your too young to be in a long term relationship and you need to be with other people before you settle down to something more serious. thats what it sounds like to me.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 June 2012):
 Don’t do it. Trust me on this… I was in an open marriage. It destroyed the marriage. I am now with a man and we both agree that even though I am bisexual we will be monogamous… because I don’t want to share.
He won’t want you to have another man he will be jealous (as he should)
Do you really want to watch him have sex with another woman?
Are you ok with him having sex with the guy if you bring another guy in?
Trust me I’ve BTDT an there is nothing all that magical about two mouths on you or two penis in you at once… or any of the other options… it’s NOT worth wrecking a good relationship for an hour or two of fu that might not be fun… it’s a huge risk. I’ve had two men at once. I’ve had a man and a woman… I’ve had foursomes and even more… I was a swinger in my last marriage… I’m very open sexually.
NOT any more!
Keep it to fantasy.. talk about it in bed… tell him what you would do in a threesome while you are having sex.. it’s very hot that way…. And much hotter than the real thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2012): Tread lightly on this one...once you go this route, there is no turning back. If you are in a manogomous relationship, then you need to keep it that way...bringing another person into your private sex life is often a disaster and ruins relationships. There are often insecurities that surface from one or both partners during or after...some things are better left as a fantasy and not brought into your real life.My sexual fantasy is to have two men at the same time... I would love to know what that would be like...however, I would NEVER act on it or ask my partner to consider it. Oh hell no... not only would it likely ruin us, it might open up a can of worms I do not wish to get involved with like, "well, if you want to men, then I want to women"....I could not deal with it, that would crush me.If you really want to do this, then all I can really say is talk to your partner about it. You know the guy the best...just because he has had more partners then you in the past does not mean he would like another partner to share in your sex life together...
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (15 June 2012):
 I would just ask him what he would think of a threesome. I am sure you will get an immediate reaction of what he thinks of this. If you are in a committed relationship you must be very careful with bringing others into your relationship. Some people are able to have open relationships, but those I know who have tried this ended up with many relationship problems. Sometimes you cannot go back and "un-do" something like this once you have tried it. People develop negative feelings, jealousy, trust issues, etc. I think today's culture leads people to believe that you can have group sex, you can bring others into your relationship, etc and it has no effect on the couple. That is a lie. I am not a prude by any means and enjoy sex as much as anyone, but I can see problems when bringing others into your relationship. Even if you think it is just for "fun" and "sex" sometimes it doesn't turn out that way. I would also question your desire to want to have sex with someone else. I am very sexual, but I have never wanted to have sex with others...just my bf. Of course I fantasize about this, but my desire is for him. Best of luck to you and I hope you get the answers you are looking for.
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