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*aj 21
writes:i have problem , i really don`t enjoy the in and out thrusting during sex ,it`s not pleasurable for me so i want to ask my boyfriend to go for slow circular mouvement but i don`t know if cicular mouvement inside the vagina feels good to men because my friends keep telling me that men like the in and out thing i don`t want to be selfish in bed so guys i need some advice
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reader, doublejack +, writes (12 June 2012):
To add a different bit of advice, why not take control? Get on top of your boyfriend and take charge for a while. It's nice to change things up like that to keep it fresh and interesting, plus it is another way to communicate to your boyfriend the different types of things you like in bed.
Best of luck!
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reader, missmatador  +, writes (12 June 2012):
 Dear Haj 21,Lets not beat around the bush: sex is all a matter of exploration. What works for one girl might not work for another. It in important, however, that you are enjoying yourself and, as a girl, I can say that it's difficult not to focus on the orgasm if you're rarely having them.Sex is mutual, so the pleasure should be too. It's not against the rules to take the reigns. Let out that inner frustration and "get on top" (if not physically, then mentally) and focus on what you want. Communicate with your body and voice and lead him in the direction that you want to go.It can sound ridiculous out of context but simply saying "I love when you do that," when he hits the right spot or wrapping your legs around him and grinding, will not only give him a bit of guidance but also the confidence boost that comes from pleasing his girl.Remember that there is a queen to this jungle, and you're it!Purr loud, Roar proud!You're a lioness! Pippaxxx
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reader, person12345 +, writes (12 June 2012):
 Tell him what you need, though from experience that circular motion can hurt some guys and is pretty tiring to many/most. The vast majority of women can't orgasm from penetration, so perhaps you should work on other things he can do, like fingers, oral, etc...
What you need to do is not focus so much on the vaginal sensations and increasing them since it probably won't happen. Even women who orgasm from penetration are having clitoral orgasms. What you do have is a place where you have lots of sensations and you should focus on getting more sensation to that (your clitoris). You can do this by you being on top and touching yourself, or doggy or spooning. You can use your own fingers, his fingers, add in a vibrator, otherwise stimulate that area.
It is not selfish to ask for what you want, who is having orgasms here? From the sound of it sex is all about him. So how can it be selfish to ask for even half of what he gets every time you have sex?
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (12 June 2012):
 Telling a man what you need in bed isn't rude...and most men like to know what you like. I would tell him that what he does makes you feel good, but if he would do the circular movement, it would make you go out of this world. Be positive, have fun, and most men will want to please you.
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