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writes:Please help.my partner and i have been trying for a baby and recently been told he has a low sperm count due to the amount of steroids he use to take. He promised me that he is staying off them do we can have ivf. I know i shouldn't have but i've looked in the wardrobe and found a bag full of used steroids and bottles full and half empty so i know he is using them again even though he promised. How can i say i know without him being mad i looked i don't want him to put the blame on me and not answer my questions?? What can i do?
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (17 June 2012):
 I would take him at his word but continue to monitor the test results from the doctor. I would also go to counseling and see if you can work this out. In the meantime, stop trying to conceive a baby. You need to get this situation worked out so that you do not risk the health of a child.
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reader, kjbc +, writes (17 June 2012):
kjbc is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have asked if he is taking them and he said he would not do tnat to us. He knows how important it is for us to have a baby. He has fone everything ive asked of him. Its hard to catch him do it because he is in the army and works away through the week. Our fertility doctor noticed that from all the samples he has given the last one showed an improvement and ge was honest to tell her that he had taken them kn the past. She has referred us onto councelling to discuss this and he has agreed to go tp that aswell. So he is doing what he can. Im just so confused because he knows that if he is back on tbem the doctor will know when he gives his last sample and that will be it for us. Thank you all for your help. Xx
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reader, kjbc +, writes (17 June 2012):
kjbc is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your advice. I asked him is he was taking them because ge looks so big again but he said he wouldnt do that becuase we are trying for a baby and thats the most important thing. Its hard for me to see him do it because he works away in the week. He is in the army. Because we are under a fertility doctor she noticed in his blood and sperm sample that he was taking them at one point but because it the sperm had shot up she said she doesnt think he is taking thrm any more this was only a few weeks agi. But he admitted he o.ce did and is going to councelljng together next week to discuss this issues before we start our treatment. Is so confused? ? Xx
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (17 June 2012):
With all due respect, why would you consider having a child with someone who takes steroids? Even if he quits taking them, they will remain in his system for a long time. Let's say he does quit taking them long enough for you to get pregnant with a healthy baby, he'll probably start taking them again afterward. Do you want a child being brought up around someone who is clearly obsessed to these drugs?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (16 June 2012):
 I think you should rethink if this is someone you want to have a baby with. He is lying about his drug use to you, that should be a huge red flag. You should at least hold off until he has this totally under control.
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (16 June 2012):
 You may want to have second thoughts about having a baby with this man:
1) He is lying to you. He said that he would stay off of them and clearly he hasn't.
2) Steroids are serious drugs. They can lead to aggressive behavior, drastic mood swings, as well as premature death. They really screw up a man's sex drive, causing it to go into overdrive for a while and then making it non-existent. His testes will also shrivel to the size of raisins. It doesn't happen to all guys, but there are some very significant problems associated with steroid use and abuse.
3) If he is using syringes, there is a chance he could be sharing them. In which case, he may be exposing you to a whole host of blood borne diseases.
While this man be handsome (most muscle heads tend to be good looking and well built), I do hope you take a second look to determine if this man is really daddy material. From the sounds of it, you are going to be raising this child alone and you'll be stuck with this guy in the picture until your child is an adult.
In the long run, you may thank yourself for not getting pregnant by him.
Good luck.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (16 June 2012):
 If he is using steriod it either means he is not trying to have a baby or he is addicted and the withdrawal symptoms are bad. It will take months before his sperm count goes up to normal again. Is he using steroids as medcine or he is trying to grow muscle? if he is putting the blame on you then you know what kind of person he is and you shouldn't be having a baby with him anyway. He needs professional help on how to stop the steroids. Don't be afraid to confront him. You are mad too that he broke his promise.
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