My issue is that I am confused on what might be considered "cheating." I have never physically done anything with anyone else but when I see a guy I find gorgeous I start to lust for him.

A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years and have a very open relationship when it comes to communication. We love each other very much and plan to get married someday when we are both ready. This is my first relationship and he is my first everything. My issue is that I am confused on what might be considered "cheating." I have never physically done anything with anyone else but when I see a guy I find gorgeous I start to lust for him. I never discuss this with them and have never stepped over the lines because I love my boyfriend very much. But is this wrong? Does this mean that I am not ready to be married or in a committed relationship? I would never dream of acting upon these emotions but sometimes I feel it is wrong that I get such strong feelings for someone that is amazing looking. Could someone please clarify for me if this is normal behavior?

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