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writes: I started dating my boyfriend in 6th grade. (I know that's young). We dated for 2 years and then broke up for a year and neither of us dated anyone else. when I was in 8th and him in 9th. We got back together last year and have been together for about 10 months since then. I'm in 10 grade and him in 11th. I love him with all my heart but a part of me wants to try new things. We talk about being together forever and honestly I really do want to spend the rest of my life with him, but I am also curious to who is out there. I just am not sure if I am in love with him or I just love him. I don't want to be with him just because we are comfortable with each other because that's wrong. I just don't know how to tell what's right. Do I move on and try new people or do I stay with him? When is a good time to try new people without losing our relationship forever? He means the world to me and it would hurt so much to not be with him which is why I don't want to make the wrong decision. Plus have you ever heard the quote, "never leave the one you love for the one you like because they will leave you for the one they love." I love him but because I am young I wonder what it would be like to follow little crushes, ya know? what do I do? Please help =(
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reader, pink_fairy22 +, writes (1 September 2007):
Hey, im around the same age as you i thought exactly the same about a guy who i still care about so much now. But while i was with him i was constantly thinking about all the other guys out there i could meet. I told him that i wasnt ready for all of this serious relationship stuff as i really did owe it to him to tell him my feelings. If he really does care about you he will respect your feelings. At the end of the day im glad i decided to see who else was out there :) because we have the rest our lives to find the person for us :)
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reader, Basschick +, writes (30 August 2007):
You are too young to be in a serious relationship with anyone and if you are already wondering what it might be like to be with someone else, that's a sure sign that you're not ready to be tied down at this age. We always think we can chose a mate at this age, with whom we will be happy with forever, but the truth is, we change as we age, and our needs change, and our attractions change and until you know who you are as an adult, you will not make the best choice. I married at 19, thinking I knew what I was doing because I was an "adult", but I still had some growing up to do, and by the time I was 25, I knew I had made the wrong choice. Forever is a long time, chose wisely and don't settle down until you are much older. The best thing a woman can do is see what's out there. You can learn alot from dating around and figuring out what you do like, and what you don't like. You may even discover some wonderful surprises about yourself in the process. I wish you the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007): ok u dont need to try any more because he loves u so much too but how can u know that his love is pure u need to have some tests and also try 1 time that u may getthe wright person to love u more .mail me so i an help u more dear [email address blocked]
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