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writes:Hi i've been happily married to my wife for 7 yrs now, she works in a school(teacher) and has recently come back off this adventure holiday type thing that is arranged for 1 week in the summer holidays, there was her and about 6 more teachers went.She rang me 3 times when she was there as she normally does and seemed fine to me, she got back last friday and virtually squashed me to death hugging me as she wouldn't let go infact she didn't for the rest of the night, only for about 30 minutes whne she went for a shower. Anyway i'd missed her terribly as i do everytime she goes and she knows that, and she kept saying how much she missed me. Anyway she seemed abit emotional all night. Anyway i went to the chippy across the road as she said she wasn't all that hungary and she seemed tired, anyay we had dinner and went up for an early night, well a while later when we were having sex she seemed to get abit tearful, i aske what was wrong she said nothing and insisted we carry on anwyway we were and about 10minutes later we were still making love and she started crying but trying to hold it back and hide it. I asked what was wrong she said she doesn't know and said carry on but i stopped i couldn't keep going while she was like that.She eventually calmed down. I think she was just feeling abit emotional because she said it was really hard without me and that recently shes been feeling like she wants to cry and that she just wants to be near me. What do you think? and if she gets upset or anything again like this what can i do to make her feel better? Reply to this Question
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reader, Escalaya  +, writes (31 August 2007):
 In a worst case scenario (do NOT quote me on this, man.) there is the POSSIBILITY. Do not put too much faith into this.She could be cheating, or DID cheat once on the trip, and could be regretting it deeply. Maybe things got out of hand and she lost control, one way or the other. Either way, the best option is to get her to tell you, or be there, until she's ready to tell you.
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reader, penta +, writes (30 August 2007):
 Well, I'm going to take some flak for this, but I'm prepared. Where is she in her cycle? I personally am closer to tears the Thursday before I start, and sometimes stupid little things can set me off, especially if I'm a little down anyway.
(I know if a guy suggested it were PMS there would be a bunch of us, myself include, who would flame him to death. But since that happens to me sometimes I thought I'd put it out there... [cringe])
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reader, duce00 +, writes (30 August 2007):
 You are simply going to keep guessing and coming up with new theories until she can open up about whats going on. There obviously is somthing going on but you just dont know what it is yet. It could be alot of things. My gut instinct is that there was some trigger on her trip. I wouldnt assume she had an affair quite yet.
Sometimes it happens that a seemingly simple event stirs somthing inside and brings up emotions you didnt quite expect. I have had this happen. Its quite human. Are theyre any big events in her past? Deaths, traumas etc She could simply be processing some unfinished business.
Id make the time to sit her down for a good talk. Tell her what you have noticed and that you need to be able to understand her. The crying during sex incedent is a big indicator thats shes not quite right, be sure to bring that up. Tell her she cant hide whats going on like this because its not fair to do to the person you love. Tell her you want to help her above all, because obviously you do love her and why wouldnt you do everything you could for her?
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (30 August 2007):
 Could be hormones. Could be a mid-life thing. Or she may have had a fling and now realizes it was a big mistake, and loves you all the more. If her crying spells don't pass pretty soon, she should probably get counseling. She may be battling some kind of depression. I wish you the best.
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (30 August 2007):
 Did something happen to her while she was gone? I am not saying that something happend to her but has she ever acted like this befor when she went away with out you? When she gets back to being her self sit down with her and ask her why she was so upset, ask her if something has happend. Next time you guys have sex see how she acts look at her and see if there is a look in her face that she is upset or she is not enjoying it and if it looks like that just stop and talk to her about the way she looks and ask her again if something has happend to her and if she ask you why you keep asking her that then tell her that since she has came back from the trip she has not been herself and you are concerned about her. But next time she is upset dont keep having sex with her, just stop and talk to her and ask her if there is something yoou can do for her.
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reader, Katie-ann +, writes (30 August 2007):
 Hiya, I am a teacher myself and i know how stressful it can be. Why dont you ask her how her trip was and if anything happened with the kids or other teachers? There may be something bothering her whilst away and is now just relieved to be back and be close to you! Maybe take her out for a nice dinner and have a lovely evening where she can relax, just let her know your there for her and she will come round.Hope this helps,X
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